not surprised, things are changing everyday (enbironment, technology...n others). Dont be surprised to even see a kid more active than yours.

After testing for ADHD, he might just be a hyperactive young man. Your description fits my son to a T. I remember when one househelp was leaving and she said I had to take my son for deliverance, as na evil spirit something.

I used to be so frustrated, I think I even brought his issue to Nairaland in the early years. What I did to tame him a bit was to look for his interests and engage him so as to burn off energy. He likes computer games and stuff. I also put him on a routine and stuck to it.

I engaged him in a lot of outside play. Now, he runs outside, has a trampoline and a place to tumble to his hearts content so no jumping inside the house. I usually take them for fun activities twice a month. I use it as a bargaining chip. So, if you maintain good manners, you get to go. As he grew older, I started giving him responsibilities and ensured he followed through.

He is 7 now and still very hyper but maturity is beginning to set in a bit. He still gets worked up if he hasn't had the opportunity to burn off that excess energy. His immediate is a saint compared to him but the third is his replica. Since I now have experience, I am not so frustrated and I know how to channel his energy to productive things.

Beating hardly works, it just makes them more determined. At the end of the day, don't forget to only confess positively over your kids. Don't let frustration make you say something bad. As he grows older, call him aside and talk to him. Not to reprimand him but to tell him what standards you expect of him and other such "grown up" discussions. When he does good things, hype it and shower him with attention. When he is naughty, try not to "reward" him with attention because that's what he is seeking.

I have so much to write but i'm tired. I wish you the best.

adaksbullet:
Brought him too mine sch on Abeokuta ita oshin


He we used just 3 day on mine sch and his live we never be dsame again


U we be glad u are diddid


We are special on stubborned hyperten childrenses

Walahi, you no well

sleek82:
God bless you for this piece. PLEASE! PLEASE!! PLEASE!!! Your boy doesn't suffer from anything until a certified psychiatrist or a specialist checks him out and even at that, with all you said about him, he is just displaying a typical hyperactivity of a toddler....if he keeps quiet to watch his favorite cartoon, trust me, he is fine! He doesn't have ADHD! At 4 yrs, it is too early to say he has any mental disorder abeg! If you still want him checked out, it's fine but you are just being a paranoid parent. Your boy is fine!!!

Point of correction,at the age 4 is not too early for mental disorder diagnosis as mental disorders within that age bracket is known as Neuro-developmental disorders where Autism, ADHD, FAS etc falls within

I hope he is not watching fast-paced cartoons because that over stimulates the child's brain, which is not for the interest of the child.

It wouldn't hurt to get a clinical psychologist to run an assessment.

That was more like a version of My brother and I when we were younger; Tho I'm right-handed but He uses both his left and right hands proficiently....... Very soon, you'll enjoy their company more BUT, they both needs proper monitoring and mentoring NOT beating or shouting at - believe me, sir; it will only worsen the situation. Try engage them with a skill or talent development that would later be helpful to later in life - fine arts, musical instruments etc

digitalman2811:
After so many years of visiting this forum,this thread is the only one that is very educative and without insult.at least I have learned something tonight. Attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder)ADHD.

You are correct. The issue here is too elevated and complicated for those ethnic jingoist and clannish neanderthals to comment.

They can't find where to sneak in Afonja,Ipob,NCAN and Arewa invectives.

If you want to silence a Hare-brained and garrulous lot, raise the cerebral value of a discussion. They will be scratching their bum and nodding in acquiescence to everything you say.

For the few that commented, I commend you all.

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

Ur don is most likely suffering from ADHD

ADHD is not just a disorder to joke with cos it's effect are lifelong and all round, pls don't treat this with kid gloves

I know this cos my bro has it

1. Let him sleep on time
2. He should take omega3 fish oil
3. He'd listen to brain wave entertainment
4. Be strict with him with regards to being calm and meditation(this may sound complex 4 his age but realizable)
5. Take more fruits, no sugar, less carbohydrates, no sweetened drinks with aspartame


or....


he could take Aderall from a doctors prescription(lifelong)

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After testing for ADHD, he might just be a hyperactive young man. Your description fits my son to a T. I remember when one househelp was leaving and she said I had to take my son for deliverance, as na evil spirit something.

I used to be so frustrated, I think I even brought his issue to Nairaland in the early years. What I did to tame him a bit was to look for his interests and engage him so as to burn off energy. He likes computer games and stuff. I also put him on a routine and stuck to it.

I engaged him in a lot of outside play. Now, he runs outside, has a trampoline and a place to tumble to his hearts content so no jumping inside the house. I usually take them for fun activities twice a month. I use it as a bargaining chip. So, if you maintain good manners, you get to go. As he grew older, I started giving him responsibilities and ensured he followed through.

He is 7 now and still very hyper but maturity is beginning to set in a bit. He still gets worked up if he hasn't had the opportunity to burn off that excess energy. His immediate is a saint compared to him but the third is his replica. Since I now have experience, I am not so frustrated and I know how to channel his energy to productive things.

Beating hardly works, it just makes them more determined. At the end of the day, don't forget to only confess positively over your kids. Don't let frustration make you say something bad. As he grows older, call him aside and talk to him. Not to reprimand him but to tell him what standards you expect of him and other such "grown up" discussions. When he does good things, hype it and shower him with attention. When he is naughty, try not to "reward" him with attention because that's what he is seeking.

I have so much to write but i'm tired. I wish you the best.

I am getting some intellectual orgasms reading these beautiful commentaries.

It seems all the weirdos are fast asleep that's why we aren't hearing them talk about 'village people' and other malevolent forces being behind the child's behavior.

Well written sis..

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

From everything you have written and judging from both experience,studies and observation, that boy is 101% normal. At the risk of sounding spiteful, don't worry about your child being Autistic (though toucan get a therapist to check him up but you shouldn't bother about that). He's just growing up in a home he loves and exploring like every normal child. Just adhere to your level of discipline, reduce the amount of sugar hebtajes in food like Soda (Mineral drinks), candy, normal foods and other beverages, that will give him a surge in his blood glucose level always. But just love and allow the sweet boy to thrive. Its a lovely world to live in for 4years and counting.

@OP, you've just described my 5 yrs old daughter. Her teachers are always happy whenever she is absent from school. Last Saturday, she was supposed to give blood sample in the hospital for a test. As soon as the nurses saw her, they started complaining ( ta lo ma take sample yi bayi? Egungun e ti le ju) and forming busy. When they couldn't pin her down to get the sample after over an hour of trying they let her be.
The investigation cannot be carried out and I have to just give her supplement at home. I am just tired of shouting, begging and spanking. I guess I will reduce her sugar intake according to suggestions her. And to think that she is skinny

Stop giving him coke.

KingAfo:
How’s his speech? Does he tiptoe? Can he make eye contact often?

@OP, answer the questions above. Also, is he a picky eater? Does he only like to eat carbs? e.g bread, rice and won't eat anything else?
Most importantly, how is his speech. Is he able to carry on a conversation and can other people besides you and your wife understand him clearly?

What do you mean by hyperactive? Why do we allow society to dictate to us how we should behave or view our strengths? This is the same thing with the way school measures intelligence by making those who are not academic sound look like they are fools forgetting that intelligence is beyond passing exams.

Look for things that would engage your son instead if beating him. The energy that your son is using up can be channelled to more constructive things. The onus is on you the parent to do research and find out what his natural takents are and guide him to use the 'hyperactivity' towards such endeavours. I'm sure you would not want your child to be docile and withdrawn. Rather than complain seek useful outlets for him because energy can neither be created or destroyed, it can only change form. The question is what form do you want your child's energy to change to. A negative or positive one? Trying to suppress his 'hyperactivity'would lead to mental and spiritual stagnation which would be expressed in dysfunctional ways.

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

How are you two already beating a 4 year old toddler. SMH. Explains his behaviour.

Bro... first off.. ..I'm not a pro...but from what I've learned...your child is normal...just a bit hyperactive. Forget beatings...did it work?..no... forget that one. He can be hyper by nature....same with his brother..... or... more likely because of his diet. Do you feed him cereals?....juices?.....sodas?...cookies?....chocolates? These stuffs are loaded....loaded with sugars. Read the ingredient labels..... sugar you are not likely to see...high frucost corn syrup is a super sugar....mad sweet. When your son is loaded with this kind sugar.... he needs to burn energy. Allow him to run wild free in the park. By nature, young boys need to run to burn that energy. ..free him. You need not see a therapist.... if you do...they may suggest medication to calm him down...most likely...ritalin....it will surely work...but one of the side effects is...he may develop breasts at puberty...are you prepared to buy bras for him?
Next...selfishness. ..that's natural at that age....whatever belongs to him..is not to share. Whatever someone else has...and shows interest in... he will want it. Test:....show interect in a N50 note infront of your child...he will want it...let him have it...try to take it back...that will be hell.....get a piece of scrap paper...show interest in it as you did the 50... he will soon forget the 50 bill and be fighting for the scrap paper. As a parent...I'll advise you to read The Psychological Development of a Child..... can't remember the author. ... ornany such child psychology book....you should be able to manage your children very well minus the drama and high blood pressure.

My son is almost 4. He has all the attributes you described. Whenever i take him out, i had to distract him with games on my phone to keep busy otherwise he will embarrass me with rough plays. He reads a lot and extremely brilliant. He stereotypes what people say and can never stand still to take pictures. People say he will grow out of it but when we didnt see changes, we took him to a child therapist and the result has been wonderful. But like a lot of people said, reduce the sugar intake and PRAY. Prayer changes things

Did you miss out the part where the op said the kid is a very fast learner? Such that he even corrects his parents? Attention Deficit and hyperactivity are two entirely different things. This I how you guys will blow all kinds of sillly grammer and collect mony from the family over a none issue.

Op, unless you want to live a life of regret better let that kid be. Ave you ever bothered to even read about toddlers at all? I have a 4 year old too, she is always sweating because of her high energy levels, I made sure she is allowed to play and expend that energy, we give her healthy food, she doesn't consume too much sugar, and she is a very intelligent girl. To help her we ensure all sharp objects and such are kept safely away, she is always under watch, we only call er back wen we feel she may harm herself, we know that 95% of children' play is actually learning so we support it wit age appropriate toys. If you push this matter further and al these medical people grab a hold of you, they will pump stuff into the kid and you will long for that hyperactivity again.

It's just a phase and they usuallly outgrow it.

oshunloye:
I understand how you feel and these signs are suggestive of Attention deficit and Hyperactivity disorder. You can bring him to our Facility at Concept one Medical Centre. Its a rehabilitation home. It has in house psychiatrist, Clinical Psychologist, Psychiatric Nurse, Occupational Therapist. I believe you will give a different story after visiting. you can call me on 08161171107

Welcome to the world bro. I have two daughters and your description of your son fits my first daughter perfectly, she is also four years old. The younger one who is just two years is already outdoing the elder one in hyperactivity! I believe as they mature they will change. Also remember to pray for them always rather than entertain fear, cos what you fear most times eventually becomes reality.

IamaNigerianGuy:
Children will be children.
The human brain is the fastest growing organ in the body and consumes 20% of its blood supply and 40% of its energy. Young children have to deal with the consequences of a rapidly functioning supercomputer that is not only receiving input but increasing in capacity at the same time.

Many people bandying ADHD here who do not have a clue about the disease.
ADHD is over diagnosed even in the west and one key fact you have mentioned totally rules it out for your kid: he is quiet when watching his favorite cartoons.
Children want to be mentally stimulated. One of the early signs of high intelligence is extraordinary curiosity and energy. The worst thing you can ever do is tie down a curious child to a boring task. If cartoons distract him, give him cartoons for 10 hours a day if need be. Buy him computer games, story books and coloring books. There are hundreds in the market. Teach him to read and write so he can occupy himself. When he is older, offer him treats in exchange for peace and quiet. There needs to be an outlet for his fantastic mental energy and if you do not provide one, it will be channeled into disruption. Fighting with you is an indication that he needs attention and something to preoccupy his mind. An occupied child will not struggle with you for the remote control.

You want to limit sugar on general principles of obesity and not because it causes any kind of mental effects. Give the child what normal children eat.

This is the age at which white people take advantage and begin the process of seeking and nurturing genius in kids. Music lessons, art, chess, maths, drawing, reading etc. Search for his passions. My niece was the same way and I taught her the multiplication table from 2 to 9 before she was 5 years old.
If you suppress their natural curiosity and energy at that age, you will be committing a crime against humanity.

Stop beating the child.

Stop beating the child

Stop beating the child

There is nothing wrong with him.

I love you man. No Homo. I wish all u stated up here was done to me by my parents when I was little, who knows where I'll be by now. But they all prefer hitting u. OP you boy is displaying tendency of being a genius. All you have to do us nurture him to be that. Engage him in a activities that will impro've his brain. Also monitor the school he is attending. If you are complaining his teachers will be complaining to. So make sure he is not being sedated in school. Talking from experience. Buy board games and teach your son. Monopoly, chess, scramble..... etc. If God has given u a dull child u would have come here to complain of how he is sleeping all day....

Stop hitting your child. Both u and your wife.

Am I the only one that doesn't see any issue here?

You and your wife keep beating the boy

How About threaten not letting him.watch his fav cartoon if he misbehaves?

You don't beat a child continuously and expect him not to be adamant

Hian

dominique:
I'm not seeing any issue here, most children that age are naturally defiant. It's just a phase and he will grow out of it. You can consult a child therapist and have him checked for ADHD (Attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder), where are you based please?
May God be with your family

He won't out grow it.She has to instill firmness,consistency,and channel all his energy towards positive things. My son is eleven..i see a wonderful young man evolving but those traces of hyperactivity are still there.At times i wonder what a disaster he would have been if I didn't take the right steps.My son swims,plays football, a wonderful chess player,plays the saxophone, paints and draw...above all involve him in a lot of church activities.

Forget about oyinbo medicine. Go to d nearest Iya Elewe omo around u.Get him Ago Giri .it will b in a bottle and its very bitter. then get him d one u b bathing him with morning and night.
The reason for this is DAT u didn't give him d necessary agbo when he's still a baby.

I think too much beating will make him stronger and won't be afraid of you anymore. They will just beat me and that's it, that's what he will be thinking.
Go see a specialist for pro advice if it gets too much.

Not saying is autism, but I think many parents don't find out on time or never know their child is autistic, the child is seen as just stubborn.

adaksbullet:
Brought him too mine sch on Abeokuta ita oshin


He we used just 3 day on mine sch and his live we never be dsame again


U we be glad u are diddid


We are special on stubborned hyperten childrenses

Adim sorry for whoever sends his wards to your school. Just negodu English bikonu. SMH

There is nothing wrong with your boy man.
I would however advice you to avoid giving him sweets and processed snacks, because coloring and flavors used in sweet manufacturing have been found to cause hyperactivity in kids.
AVOID : SOFT DRINK ANY PROCESSED DRINKS OR SWEET FOOD

Think critically before putting him on any medication, most kids on medication grow to dislike their parent for the long term side effects. Doctors are paid commission by big pharmaceuticals to prescribe these drugs without thorough diagnosis. At the end of the day you are left with a sad, imbalanced child.

SOURCE : My friend was on ADHD medication. SHE CANNOT FUNCTION WITHOUT THESE PILLS AND SHE HATES IT. IT IS ADDICTIVE


My prescribed solutions include

enrolling him in sports activity, not all kids are blessed with that strength for running around
giving him art tools, encourage him to take up drawing and painting, create a space for him
swimming, everything that requires energy and random creativity your boy will excel at it

The main problem is your perspective.

adaksbullet:
Brought him too mine sch on Abeokuta ita oshin


He we used just 3 day on mine sch and his live we never be dsame again


U we be glad u are diddid


We are special on stubborned hyperten childrenses

its better you close that school with this type of English I'm reading

even if you take him to the hospital I will advice you don't give him any prescribed drug oh

Best thread have read in years on Nairaland. Most of us don't comment anymore. We just read and Waka Pass.

I'll suggest you channel his energy into something, like you can get him to start learning programming. Promise him something nice if he can successfully learn and master the skill.

There are lots of programming learning tools for kids these days. Just google.

KingAfo:
How’s his speech? Does he tiptoe? Can he make eye contact often?

Is there any problem when a child tiptoe? Because my eight months old baby girl is showing sign of hyperactive-ness and whenever she stand and hold the edge of my six sitters she will be running from one edge of the sitter on her toes.

Medication for hyperactive kid is absolutely wrong. Among the side effects include slowing of growth in children, seizures, blurred vision, headache, decreased appetite, nervousness, difficulty sleeping, mood swings, and weight loss. The kid needs to be busy with many after school programs such as music, dancing, swimming, soccer, and basic computer skill. Parents should lead by example - no more soft drinks or candies in the house, communicate with him, set time table for tv, don't beat him over everything - let him do some minor house chores and pray together. Also, keep eyes on him both at home and at your place of worship.
May the Good Lord Bless him with Knowledge, Understanding, listening heart and remove all the delays in his life in Jesus Mighty Name.

OmoAlata1:
He is not autistic. There is nothing in that writeup that screams autism. He has ADHD and needs to be formally diagnosed so he can get on medication.

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

These gimmick actually work

1. Change his diet, reduce sugar content in his diet

2. Wear him out, give him tasks to perform from time to time

Oga, Moderate beating go comot this act from him body with time. By the time you beat Pakurumo comot for him body, him go Jo Dada....