Guy how Is your marriage involved in this. Your wife no support you, stand by you or she wants to pack out. Any way report to police

oyetunder:
May God help you to settle this satanic debt.

Amen, thanks Sir

Texrec:
Good evening Friends, please I need your urgent advice and on how to manage this complicated situation.

I do supply of diesel and other products to a company here in Port Harcourt. They always paid within one or two weeks.After my mother's burial last year ,I didn't have enough cash to execute the supply they gave me because i sponsored the burial as the first son. So I borrowed some cash from a friend.

That was the beginning of my wahala. The company's manager and some workers defrauded the owner that hardly lives in Nigeria. So my payment was delayed and I explained everything to my friend. That I even invested all my little savings to that supply and that I'm even finding it difficult to feed my family.

Around February this year I went to Cross River state to buy chippings for someone and I spent about two days there because of truck problems. So my phone battery was down and even my wife was not able to reach me. To my greatest surprise, this my friend went to my church and I told my pastor that defrauded him.That I have even packed out of my house and switched off my phone. Meanwhile he knows my place and he didn't even bother to go and ask my wife where I went to since my number wasn't going through. When the pastor told me things he said, I couldn't believe it (infact I was shocked). I called my friend and he initially denied meeting my pastor.

The pastor scheduled a meeting for us to meet and sort things out but the guy refused to show up. I have tried to sell my own share of my inheritance to pay him his money but I have not been able to see a serious buyer due to the location of the property.

The problem is that this guy is calling everybody that I know and even going to Facebook to contact my friends that I defrauded him. I have asked him to give me time but he said I must come to somewhere outside port Harcourt town with my wife before he will negotiate anything with me. I cannot allow anybody to ridicule my marriage because of debt. I told him I won't involve my wife in that kind of arrangement. He calls me every morning and night and sometimes i just feel like ignoring his calls because i know it's same talk everytime.The company is currently not operating but the chairman has agreed to pay me soon. How do I handle this mess because this guy is ruining my reputation and it's tearing my marriage apart. If you have experienced this before, please I need your advice urgently because I'm going insane.

My response will be Christianity based.

1. A lot of things happen at burials, show off of wealth often attract envy and bewitchment.

2. Friends can be diabolical and their wealth can come from an evil source.


Have you taken this issue to God in prayers, have you fasted? Has your pastor joined you in prayers?

I will advice you go for Three-day deliverance session at MFM Rumuola. Note, a three-day dry fasting will be involved.

Furthermore, a warning before you proceed with the deliverance, you should be aware that any slip-up in your Christian life after the deliverance will open up the doors for more evil to return ... Deuteronomy 28.

tizzdi:
Sorry but how is your marriage tested here cus i dont get

He goes around telling my Church people that I defrauded him. This has made my wife to stop going to church for over 2 months now. I came back from Bonny last week and she was crying because even her parents in another city has heard the stories.

Handsomebeing:
That’s a lot to go thru but not sure it’s up to what I went to which I am still recovering from. I went from leaving lagos to start a lucrative business in Delta state. To cut the long story short, I had to run back to lagos due to security challenges I faced with my family living in warri.

It was very tough as I lost almost everything. Sold what was left to rent a house in Lagos, at one point sold my car and started sharing the other car with my wife.

Started struggling financially for the first time since my marriage. The obvious started, wife started giving attitude and misbehaving. Her mom too would bring all sorts of s**t too through her daughter. I ignored for long until it got to a point I couldn’t take it anymore. Before then, I made sure I did everything I could do as a man to take care of my family and pay school fees including using the car as a cab on Saturday and Sunday evening, started playing soccer betting which also helped a great deal as I was lucky enough to win an amount that paid off my debt of over 2m. All these she didn’t know.

I reacted to wives disrespect first my getting myself out of my financial mess.. secondly, I was mad at her that I even walked my mother Inlaw out. Gave her an option to follow her mom which she didn’t take.

My advise, leave your wife alone until you’re out of your mess. Face her when you’re out of it and you’ll earn your respect back when she sees improvements. Women are wired to love comfort. Some just take it too far.

God bless you Sir, I'm really inspired. My wife initially made some statements that really pissed me up like " This is not the kind of life she bargained for". My marriage is less than one year and it's a very bad challenge for me. Imagine people stopping you on the road and start telling you stuffs like " Mr. ABC told me about your business dealings with him". I just tire bro

Lomprico2:


Stop calling the fucker your friend cos he is not!

And don't meet him anywhere out skirt town, d guy fit don plan abduction on u or ur wife.

And lastly get a loan from somewhere else to pay him, even if na to borrow from ur pastor (afterall dem dey get money )

Thank you chief

I do not support your friend's behavior....neither do I totally condemn it cos when people want to borrow, they are like angels but paying back...they are something else. When did you promise to refund the money? How long have you failed to do so? Did you try reaching your friend and having a deep conversation as to what is really going on why you could not pay back at the time agreed? Young man, you don't know what your friend went through to loan you that money, the money might not even be his and maybe you are not handling the whole issue properly. Perhaps you even did more than your capacity during the burial just to show off to the world. I will never support you until I hear the other side of the story.

[quote author=franktolk post=66802429]

Hello sir , you are owing and necessity demands you pay your creditors. I don't like it when people like you start giving frivolous excuses when its time to pay back what you borrowed. Your action has potentially spoilt your relationship with your friend and definitely blocked future opportunities.
Next time don't borrow beyond your capacity. [/quote
]
I have paid him some and I'm not giving any excuses Sir. You don't really understand what's happening.

Texrec:
Good evening Friends, please I need your urgent advice and on how to manage this complicated situation.

I do supply of diesel and other products to a company here in Port Harcourt. They always paid within one or two weeks.After my mother's burial last year ,I didn't have enough cash to execute the supply they gave me because i sponsored the burial as the first son. So I borrowed some cash from a friend.

That was the beginning of my wahala. The company's manager and some workers defrauded the owner that hardly lives in Nigeria. So my payment was delayed and I explained everything to my friend. That I even invested all my little savings to that supply and that I'm even finding it difficult to feed my family.

Around February this year I went to Cross River state to buy chippings for someone and I spent about two days there because of truck problems. So my phone battery was down and even my wife was not able to reach me. To my greatest surprise, this my friend went to my church and I told my pastor that defrauded him.That I have even packed out of my house and switched off my phone. Meanwhile he knows my place and he didn't even bother to go and ask my wife where I went to since my number wasn't going through. When the pastor told me things he said, I couldn't believe it (infact I was shocked). I called my friend and he initially denied meeting my pastor.

The pastor scheduled a meeting for us to meet and sort things out but the guy refused to show up. I have tried to sell my own share of my inheritance to pay him his money but I have not been able to see a serious buyer due to the location of the property.

The problem is that this guy is calling everybody that I know and even going to Facebook to contact my friends that I defrauded him. I have asked him to give me time but he said I must come to somewhere outside port Harcourt town with my wife before he will negotiate anything with me. I cannot allow anybody to ridicule my marriage because of debt. I told him I won't involve my wife in that kind of arrangement. He calls me every morning and night and sometimes i just feel like ignoring his calls because i know it's same talk everytime.The company is currently not operating but the chairman has agreed to pay me soon. How do I handle this mess because this guy is ruining my reputation and it's tearing my marriage apart. If you have experienced this before, please I need your advice urgently because I'm going insane.

Go to the police station and report him of threats to your life am sure police will invite him for amicable settlement.

madridguy:
Get police and your lawyer involved with immediate effect, also tell your wife to be vigilant because your so called friend get plan for her. Make sure you always lock your gate/door, she should be careful of strange number calling and not to go out alone in the night.

My suggestion sir.

Noted Sir. I will do so.

franktolk:


Hello sir , you are owing and necessity demands you pay your creditors. I don't like it when people like you start giving frivolous excuses when its time to pay back what you borrowed. Your action has potentially spoilt your relationship with your friend and definitely blocked future opportunities.
Next time don't borrow beyond your capacity.

Your kind shouldn't live together with humans...You are plainly wicked
If sincerely, you have seen situations why he couldn't pay back according to his write up? why use such harsh words??

homerac7:



DON'T EVER EVER MAKE A MISTAKE OF OBTAINING LOAN TO PAY A DEBT !!!

I saw some people advising you to do that, it's jumping from frying pan into fire.

On the matter, what has happened has happened, you can only hope to get out of the situation with some dignity at end of the day. You can only arrange a physical meeting with your friends in presence of a trusted third party, appeal to him, and show him evidences of your delayed payment, and give him some assurance he will get him money complete. Make sure you tape it on your phone. If need be, draw up some written agreement with copies for everybody (including witnesses) and sign. It is prudent to exclude your wife from such physical meetings.

Afterwards, go on and live your life, and work towards paying him back.

Never let the pressure make you do something stupid. You are owing already, so he must learn to get patient while you get money to pay him. If he can't, he may as well go to police station ( - no fear, it's a civil case and police can't do you shiit), or report to whoever he wants to, only make sure you're making genuine and progressive efforts to get him paid.

Good luck

#IHaveBeenThereBefore

God bless you Sir

saintneo:


My response will be Christianity based.

1. A lot of things happen at burials, show off of wealth often attract envy and bewitchment.

2. Friends can be diabolical and their wealth can come from an evil source.


Have you taken this issue to God in prayers, have you fasted? Has your pastor joined you in prayers?

I will advice you go for Three-day deliverance session at MFM Rumuola. Note, a three-day dry fasting will be involved.

Furthermore, a warning before you proceed with the deliverance, you should be aware that any slip-up in your Christian life after the deliverance will open up the doors for more evil to return ... Deuteronomy 28.

No be only deliverance, You want have a new member by force....If he has committed his issues in Gods hand in his private place, I strongly believe he would be fine by His grace...Where did dry fasting and deliverance come up from

OChimex:
Listen my dear, I have been in such debt bondage, even now, I haven't paid the money. There was a time pressure was so much that I nearly went insane.

The truth is, you have to calm down and know he won't do anything to you. Always pick his calls even if ten times a day, and always plead with him each time, and politely ask him if he can take any of your properties in place of the money since u can't pay it for now. Don't dodge him and don't be rude to him. He did u a great favour, so don't see him as a bad person. All those gragra is just to put pressure on u and nothing else, believe me, he won't do anything. Forget about your ego, let him tarnish it so far as its about a debt, everyone has been in such debt bondage.

The worst he can do is to arrest u, but then, any authority u are taking to will do nothing except asking u when u will pay the money.

Believe me honestly, u will be fine. But never u see him as a bad person, and don't tell I'll of him in his back.

Plead plead plead with him always and ask him to take u and sell u to get his money back......

cheers......

I have tried to beg him to givee some time to sort myself out and pay him his money. But he keeps threatening me with statements like "I have someone in DSs and he's waiting for my call to act". That's why I opened this thread because the guy doesn't want to wait.

Pls, give me your friend's number...let me teach him a way to get his money back from you, all it takes is just for him to enter Army barrack and get two soldiers, after they descend on you, in less than 48hrs, the money will show up, even your pastor will help you pay part of it.The guy didn't go this far but you are complaining. Do you have an idea what he is going through because you didn't keep up to your promise? You even have the gut not to pick his calls. My simple advise, take your pastor to him and plead with him not inviting him to come on top his money! He luvs you that's why he went to your pastor!

Originalsly:
I understand your situation...but did you ever care to ask what your friend is going through because you haven't repaid him? What do you expect him to think when you collected his money and disappeared?.....disappear ...not seen nor can't be contacted?. .. can't be contacted because your phone battery died?..is your phone a Tesla?...cannot be recharged in Cross River? ....couldn't you borrow a phone to call him? I guess you forgot to say how much you paid back so far. ...N50?
You behave like a swindler...so how do you expect to be treated? The guy needs his cash...not excuses. Start paying him back....before it's too late.

It was less than 48 hours trip.He knows where I live and I didn't disappear please.

saintneo:


My response will be Christianity based.

1. A lot of things happen at burials, show off of wealth often attract envy and bewitchment.

2. Friends can be diabolical and their wealth can come from an evil source.


Have you taken this issue to God in prayers, have you fasted? Has your pastor joined you in prayers?

I will advice you go for Three-day deliverance session at MFM Rumuola. Note, a three-day dry fasting will be involved.

Furthermore, a warning before you proceed with the deliverance, you should be aware that any slip-up in your Christian life after the deliverance will open up the doors for more evil to return ... Deuteronomy 28.

The truth is that I can't even focus these days. Even when I try to get on my knees and pray,all I think about is my problem and I will end up just saying our Lords prayer.

To be honest with you, you might be going insane but your friend might be going more insane than you. It is his money! It might be someone's and he just wanted to make quick gain probably because you agreed to return with some interests and the money got trapped.
All he wanted was for both of you to grow financially together. If he had an idea it would be bad he wouldn't give you. Both of you might be sinking together now financially.
Hustle! Hustle!! Hustle!!!

Even call him sometimes before he calls you. He might be humiliating you when you do but don't be deterred.

someone sowed an evil seed in your life during your dad burial. what you're experiencing is a culmination of evil networking and your friend is an accessory in the spiritual realm.

go for deliverancy and have a genuine repentance, give alms no matter how little and in few months time, you'll be able to pay him off.

please do not remain empty thinking that chairman will pay you, ofcourse he'll pay but the evil hand will make sure he split the money to meet ur primary needs but not in full to pay ur creditor unless you pray fervently.

GreatDreams:
Pls, give me your friend's number...let me teach him a way to get his money back from you, all it takes is just for him to enter Army barrack and get two soldiers, after they descend on you, in less than 48hrs, the money will show up, even your pastor will help you pay part of it.The guy didn't go this far but you are complaining. Do you have an idea what he is going through because you didn't keep up to your promise? You even have the gut not to pick his calls. My simple advise, take your pastor to him and plead with him not inviting him to come on top his money! He luvs you that's why he went to your pastor!

Sir, I never told you I don't pick his calls. I said sometimes I just feel like ignoring his calls. I imagine you asked somebody for sometime like yesterday and the person still called you back today to ask you for his money. How possible is it for me to raise that cash within few hours?.

freshvine:
someone sowed an evil seed in your life during your dad burial. what you're experiencing is a culmination of evil networking and your friend is an accessory in the spiritual realm.

go for deliverancy and have a genuine repentance, give alms no matter how little and in few months time, you'll be able to pay him off.

please do not remain empty thinking that chairman will pay you, ofcourse he'll pay but the evil hand will make sure he split the money to meet ur primary needs but not in full to pay ur creditor unless you pray fervently.

Honestly sometimes I want to believe something is wrong somewhere. I have never lacked cash to sort out my problems before but suddenly things just went south since last year after the burial. I have two siblings in higher institutions and another two living with me. They rely totally on me for school fees, feeding and rent. I have never had problem taking care of their bills till now. I have really tried to explain to him what I'm currently going through but instead of understanding with me, he will get more aggressive. I can't even pray anymore because I can't focus.

Texrec:

I have tried to beg him to givee some time to sort myself out and pay him his money. But he keeps threatening me with statements like "I have someone in DSs and he's waiting for my call to act". That's why I opened this thread because the guy doesn't want to wait.

Lol. So DSS be your fear? Nothing dey happen joor..

Go read my advice again. DSS will only ask u when u will pay him.....

[quote author=OChimex post=66806955]

Lol. So DSS be your fear? Nothing dey happen joor..

Go read my advice again. DSS will only ask u when u will pay him.....[/quote
Okay Sir

[quote author=Texrec post=66807054][/quote] it seems you already concluded your friend is a bad friend and you are here looking for people that will advice you how best to cut ties with your friend. IMAGINE YOUR WIFE OF ONE YEAR IS ALREADY COMPLAINING. MEANING SHE REFUSED TO UNDERSTAND. Now you expect your friend to understand. It is not always true that DSS will only ask you when you can pay back. If you friend goes there to accuse you of FRAUDULENTLY DEFRAUDING HIM OF HIS MONEY ..IT IS CRIMINAL. They will charge to court and once prison start starring you in the face, you will pay. Police have a way of doing that if your friend knows people. They wont say you borrowed. They will say you deceived him there was a business you want to do and you fraudulently diverted the money to DO BURIAL. But i know you wont believe me.....

You just keep working hard. Things will improve. God bless you.

Texrec:
Good evening Friends, please I need your urgent advice and on how to manage this complicated situation.

I do supply of diesel and other products to a company here in Port Harcourt. They always paid within one or two weeks.After my mother's burial last year ,I didn't have enough cash to execute the supply they gave me because i sponsored the burial as the first son. So I borrowed some cash from a friend.

That was the beginning of my wahala. The company's manager and some workers defrauded the owner that hardly lives in Nigeria. So my payment was delayed and I explained everything to my friend. That I even invested all my little savings to that supply and that I'm even finding it difficult to feed my family.

Around February this year I went to Cross River state to buy chippings for someone and I spent about two days there because of truck problems. So my phone battery was down and even my wife was not able to reach me. To my greatest surprise, this my friend went to my church and I told my pastor that defrauded him.That I have even packed out of my house and switched off my phone. Meanwhile he knows my place and he didn't even bother to go and ask my wife where I went to since my number wasn't going through. When the pastor told me things he said, I couldn't believe it (infact I was shocked). I called my friend and he initially denied meeting my pastor.

The pastor scheduled a meeting for us to meet and sort things out but the guy refused to show up. I have tried to sell my own share of my inheritance to pay him his money but I have not been able to see a serious buyer due to the location of the property.

The problem is that this guy is calling everybody that I know and even going to Facebook to contact my friends that I defrauded him. I have asked him to give me time but he said I must come to somewhere outside port Harcourt town with my wife before he will negotiate anything with me. I cannot allow anybody to ridicule my marriage because of debt. I told him I won't involve my wife in that kind of arrangement. He calls me every morning and night and sometimes i just feel like ignoring his calls because i know it's same talk everytime.The company is currently not operating but the chairman has agreed to pay me soon. How do I handle this mess because this guy is ruining my reputation and it's tearing my marriage apart. If you have experienced this before, please I need your advice urgently because I'm going insane.

Calm down brother
The guy is doing everything possible to get his money back and u never can tell if someone is at his neck over debt issues.

Dont take ur wife anywhere for any negotiation

tizzdi:
Sorry but how is your marriage tested here cus i dont get

I know, right. Reading the caption, it was a totally different story I anticipated.

Hotguy27:
To be honest with you, you might be going insane but your friend might be going more insane than you. It is his money! It might be someone's and he just wanted to make quick gain probably because you agreed to return with some interests and the money got trapped.
All he wanted was for both of you to grow financially together. If he had an idea it would be bad he wouldn't give you. Both of you might be sinking together now financially.
Hustle! Hustle!! Hustle!!!

Even call him sometimes before he calls you. He might be humiliating you when you do but don't be deterred.

In addendum, you did not tell us the age of this debt neither did you tell us the amount. For instance, if you are with someone's N10m for 2 to 3 years without any sign of pay back... Come ooon!
Dude, hustle to pay that debt. No complain!

Handsomebeing:
That’s a lot to go thru but not sure it’s up to what I went to which I am still recovering from. I went from leaving lagos to start a lucrative business in Delta state. To cut the long story short, I had to run back to lagos due to security challenges I faced with my family living in warri.

It was very tough as I lost almost everything. Sold what was left to rent a house in Lagos, at one point sold my car and started sharing the other car with my wife.

Started struggling financially for the first time since my marriage. The obvious started, wife started giving attitude and misbehaving. Her mom too would bring all sorts of s**t too through her daughter. I ignored for long until it got to a point I couldn’t take it anymore. Before then, I made sure I did everything I could do as a man to take care of my family and pay school fees including using the car as a cab on Saturday and Sunday evening, started playing soccer betting which also helped a great deal as I was lucky enough to win an amount that paid off my debt of over 2m. All these she didn’t know.

I reacted to wives disrespect first my getting myself out of my financial mess.. secondly, I was mad at her that I even walked my mother Inlaw out. Gave her an option to follow her mom which she didn’t take.

My advise, leave your wife alone until you’re out of your mess. Face her when you’re out of it and you’ll earn your respect back when she sees improvements. Women are wired to love comfort. Some just take it too far.

Stories like these are reasons many men want to get financially stable before marriage. The tolerance level of most women is low.

helpee:
it seems you already concluded your friend is a bad friend and you are here looking for people that will advice you how best to cut ties with your friend. IMAGINE YOUR WIFE OF ONE YEAR IS ALREADY COMPLAINING. MEANING SHE REFUSED TO UNDERSTAND. Now you expect your friend to understand. It is not always true that DSS will only ask you when you can pay back. If you friend goes there to accuse you of FRAUDULENTLY DEFRAUDING HIM OF HIS MONEY ..IT IS CRIMINAL. They will charge to court and once prison start starring you in the face, you will pay. Police have a way of doing that if your friend knows people. They wont say you borrowed. They will say you deceived him there was a business you want to do and you fraudulently diverted the money to DO BURIAL. But i know you wont believe me.....

This is exactly my fear. Anything can happen in this country and I'm aware of that.

Hotguy27:


In addendum, you did not tell us the age of this debt neither did you tell us the amount. For instance, if you are with someone's N10m for 2 to 3 years without any sign of pay back... Come ooon!
Dude, hustle to pay that debt. No complain!

It's no way close to such kind of amount abeg. Not even up to a million naira because I have paid him some before now.