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. by Omolope7: 9:05pm On May 03, 2018 |
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Re: . by Amirullaha(m): 9:10pm On May 03, 2018 |
Hmmm... Tho I'm not a christian; I'll advice you to talk to some elders in the church(that your parents respect alot) about the whole issue maybe they could talk them to see from your point of view... You can alternatively talk to the other lady maybe if she could help you out by tell them she's not interested in marrying you... Be prayerful and don't run away; You are 36!!! |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:13pm On May 03, 2018 |
I would have given an advice but since the monicker is yoruba, let me just keep quiet. Sorry, since it's not igbonified or christianified(cos it's yorubanified & muslimified), let me just read comments. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by yanabasee(m): 9:15pm On May 03, 2018 |
You're lucky they didn't tell you that God spoke to them about it..... But come to think of it..... Why would a 36yr old dude be giving his parents the opportunity to decide his future for him?? What sort of nonsense is this?? |
Re: . by Evablizin(f): 9:28pm On May 03, 2018 |
Hmm,at 36yrs your parents are still making decisions for you,marry the person you love and "enjoy" marriage or marry your parents'choice and "endure" marriage. Dey no de do try your luck for marriage oh. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:32pm On May 03, 2018 |
Guy or lady I don't understand how you guys allow your parents to choose for you or pressure you when it comes to things like that . Your life, your choice. Your parents can't choose a wife for you. nonsense Sue them if the disturbs gets much 1 Like |
Re: . by Temibabie(f): 9:33pm On May 03, 2018 |
Uncle you're 36 for crying out loud,you're a man,I don't know why they're still dictating for you at this age,maybe you should talk to one of your uncles or aunts,they should leave you alone,it's your life,it's your happiness and if they ain't ready to listen.. RUN AWAY |
Re: . by Temibabie(f): 9:38pm On May 03, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Most nigerian parents are fond of this,they don't care if you are happy with their decisions or not,they just want you to listen to them even though it hurts all in the name of we gave birth to you,I carried you for 9months bla bla bla |
Re: . by Omolope7: 9:38pm On May 03, 2018 |
Amirullaha: Non of the elders are seeing from my point of view. All they saying is that I should submit to the will of God in time. |
Re: . by Acidosis(m): 9:39pm On May 03, 2018 |
Must you get the support of your parents to marry a woman of your choice at 36? Bros, you're almost clocking 40 oo 1 Like |
Re: . by blackpanthar: 9:42pm On May 03, 2018 |
Your PARENTS want what is best for you... they probably see what you do not see... anyway... the ROOT of your problem is basic but deep. MOST PASTOR'S kids are really not spiritually inclined and from your post it is clear you are not a SPIRI-KOKO but wait o.... DO YOU PRAY AT ALL AND GET REAL ANSWERS FROM YOUR GOD? DO you have a working relationship with God or na ANYWHERE BELLE FACE you dey do? Because you can pray and their hearts can change... and if you claim you have been praying and nothing is changing then it means you actually were not serious before you started dating.... at 36- you are not LATE... its a LADY at 36 that can be late but NOT guys. anyway... You should go to the G.O or elders in the HEADQUATER church of your church and confide in one of them as a PAL... and they will see to it that you are not cursed. NOW BACK TO REALITY.... the doctrines of your church must be faulty for you to be threatened like this... and you should have PLANNED YOUR ESCAPE LONG AGO.... LEAVE THE CHURCH... OR RELOCATE TO ANOTHER STATE... or COUNTRY. You can not be 36 and still be controlled by parents.... it is just not right. Because if you marry their choice and she begins to misbehave... THEY WILL QUOTE SCRIPTURES TO HELP YOU MANAGE HER.... and you are left with the stigma for life..... if you want to divorce they will curse u without warning for wanting to DENT the fAMILY name.... then you will regret not choosing from your heart. Get your Spiritual Life together, Be able to defend WHY their choice for u is not the kind of LADY you want... PLAN your exit sharply from the church and LEAVE the city or country... then MARRY YOUR TRUE LOVE. I know these choices are not easy but guess what..... if you OBEY them just to please them... then they will push u to get her pregnant and determine the amount of kids you should have. be wise o Omolope7: 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:42pm On May 03, 2018 |
yanabasee:the reason is that You can never tell..... It's a crazy world... |
Re: . by Omolope7: 9:43pm On May 03, 2018 |
yanabasee:They are saying God told them already. They are not ready to be involved in any marriage ceremony if it is not there church and " God ordained" lady. I wish to pay my wife's dowry and marry her properly. |
Re: . by Amirullaha(m): 9:50pm On May 03, 2018 |
Omolope7:What of the lady in question? What is she saying about it ![]() |
Re: . by yanabasee(m): 9:52pm On May 03, 2018 |
Omolope7: You have to sit them down...and draw the curtains to what you want and let them know that your decisions speaks final...with no insults.... If they refused to buy your decisions.... don't chicken out...just impregnate your girl.... You can always opt for "marriage blessings" |
Re: . by Omolope7: 9:54pm On May 03, 2018 |
blackpanthar:Other senior pastors are seeing me as a prodigal son. |
Re: . by Omolope7: 9:56pm On May 03, 2018 |
Amirullaha:She wants me and going on several fasting and prayers just for me to have a change of heart. |
Re: . by blackpanthar: 9:58pm On May 03, 2018 |
Bro the HYPOCRISY you will discover is that those who are angry with u or labeling u now are the same ones who will LET THEIR KIDS marry For love. Its well sha. BUT u need to get out of there. Omolope7: |
Re: . by Omolope7: 10:00pm On May 03, 2018 |
yanabasee:Have done alot of talking. They are bent on me leaving the one I truly love. They are liking me to Samson. Z My babe don't want to have a child with me out of wedlock. She had a terrible experience in the past that led to her been a single mother. So I u destand her perfectly |
Re: . by Omolope7: 10:00pm On May 03, 2018 |
yanabasee:Have done alot of talking. They are bent on me leaving the one I truly love. They are liking me to Samson. Z My babe don't want to have a child with me out of wedlock. She had a terrible experience in the past that led to her been a single mother. So I understand her perfectly |
Re: . by wolverine1987: 10:00pm On May 03, 2018 |
Hanseel1:my brother it is not always easy o especially as d parents r regional pastors they have a lot of reps to maintain n so on. they r more bothered about what pple will say even if u r 40 years. my advice to him is to thread with caution n go through pple his parents respect well if not it may b a big fall out with his family I've seen it happen before 1 Like |
Re: . by Amirullaha(m): 10:07pm On May 03, 2018 |
Omolope7:That's where the whole issue gets complicating... You should tell the lady you are in love with so that it shouldn't sound as if you are cooking lies... Tell to keep praying as you don't what might happen tomorrow, then keep persuading your parents... It might not be easy tho... |
Re: . by Lonestar124: 10:58pm On May 03, 2018 |
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Re: . by Lonestar124: 10:58pm On May 03, 2018 |
What an elder saw sitting down a child on top mountain can't see....Dear I will advice you to accept your parent presentation. Even our saviour Jesus Christ in the temple doing his father's work was subjective to honour his parent words. Obey your parent so you will live long.........I won't assumptively write on the erotic relationship between pastor son and a single mother member. |
Re: . by Nobody: 11:00pm On May 03, 2018 |
wolverine1987: young man.. his parents can't decide for him his life, his choice. what if he falls out with them? nonsense so because of some religious shít he shouldn't marry the lady he loves . Only uncivilized people allow their parents to choose for them or pressurize them when it comes to marriage . He better Sue them if he can't handle it alone 1 Like |
Re: . by Omolope7: 4:39pm On May 05, 2018 |
Lonestar124:You mean, I should accept my parents presentation at the detriment of my happiness? |
Re: . by Triniti(m): 5:08pm On May 05, 2018 |
Come on bro, you are almost forty for crying out loud. Don’t let no one dictate your happiness, be a man and stand by your words. |
Re: . by obonujoker(m): 8:09pm On May 05, 2018 |
Lonestar124: Liar... if Jesus had listened to Mary wen he became an adult, he might not have fulfilled his ministry... |
Re: . by Ifakiland(m): 11:38pm On May 05, 2018 |
You're 36 and u can't make your own life partner decisions?? I think I pity ur future wife at this point...dat girl Wuld suffer...cos she will always wait for validation from ur parents before she forks you. U think like a teenager by the way. |
Re: . by kalu61(m): 8:45am On May 06, 2018 |
well, you lost your job that's the basis I will see reason why you are keen on their advice cos of their financial support probably. Marriage is a personal thing. if you don't fancy the medical doctor pls run for you life. marriage is a package of its own and has a way if directing the future. If you love the baby mama of a girl then find a way to use you parents close allies to talk to then and if possible talk to the doctor why you guys can stroll. if she accepts that, case buried |
Re: . by AstroG: 11:18am On May 06, 2018 |
Just Give the Woman belle, Then come and thank me Later
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Re: . by Omolope7: 8:53pm On May 06, 2018 |
Ifakiland:Your assumption is wrong bro. I o Lt need there blessing on my marriage. Have be told them on a number of occasions s that they can't find me a wife. They are not ready to be a part of the process of getting me married with the one I love |
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