Olalan:
If you love someone dearly you won't even think of cheating on her, how do you love a person and want to be with another?

It is obvious you are not married yet, wait until you are married.

LivingFree:
If you don't love and respect yourself, then you can never love and respect someone else. If you sleep around then you have no respect for yourself and your wellbeing. I don't think it's ever about the other person.

Wonderful comment. They don't love themselves not to talk of loving someone else.

greenguy:
Yes, you can truly love and cheat! It's in a man's nature, and it changes nothing with whom you love. You can only fight the nature - your choice!

It's something a lot of immature minds here will NEVER understand.

For the woman on the other hand it's a NO. This is because nature regards them sacred and bestowed them with higher self control and resilience and they have the tendency attaching emotion to sex, while sex to a man is just like passing out urine, it ends after ejaculation. This is why a man can cheat and still love his wife but a cheating woman would find it difficult to see her man the same way again. For those that know, once you hit a girl there's 80% chance of hitting her again and again. Not because she is cheap, but because she got attached.

For those women out there that knows their worth, thumbs up!

You said it all. It is man's nature to cheat and even God understands because he knows we truly love our wives (who are not just sex materials at home) but at the same time we need to satisfy our greed, lusts and fantasies as humans and to make matters worse, there are too many beautiful women lurking raound to just keep pretending not to be interested.

dalaman:
Those sing Tha if you love your wife you can't have Sex with a other womanare just jokers. The aren't real, but just want to create an alternate reality.

Those that love their wives but still go ahead to marry other women because thier culture allows it nko? Or are they saying that polygamous men don't love their wives?

You can love your wife a still have sex with another woman. Most married men I know that cheat on their wives love them. Sex is different from love.

Spot on!!!

It's called wickedness, the man never loved her in the first place. That marriage is doomed. I feel for such women. That is one hell of a marriage.

Rizzoli:
What if a man has a faithful,supportive, homely and God fearing wife and mother of his kids
The man cheats and boldly tells the woman that he can't be having sex with her alone, goes on to deprive her of sex wen he feels like..keeps late nights, never spends time with her and compares her with all the women he sleeps with, above all, never ask about her well being treats her with so much disrespect

OP, what do you call this?

Klinee:
Most men cheats not because they hate their wife, but most girls did not understand that,
A man will love you so dearly but he will still cheat on with respect and regards to you as a wife.
But if a man cheat on you with no respect and regard as a wife then he didn't love you.
With "respect and regard" I mean not spending much money on the side chick, not bring the the side chick to your matrimonial home, always hide the side chick from you as a wife, always apologize to you as a wife when caught, always side you as a wife when matter arises, spend more money and time with you and kids.
Most ladies love this type of men, just cheat but give them their respect and regards as the woman of the house.

but if the wife cheat, na dat time u go dey hear the word 'ADULTERY' and start backing it with religion and nature.

If truly God and Hell Fire exist, na Male go enter am pass, especially marriage men

Well...., it depends on the 'TRANSMISSION' circumstances.

The simple answer is Yes, you can love a woman dearly and still cheat on her, take or leave it.

trapQ:
If you truly were in love you wouldn't cheat and you won't see not cheating as doing her a favor or a Herculean task.

Cheating has nothing to do with love. Cheating just is. By the way many men have LEGITIMATE reasons to cheat on their wives. You guys need to be real.

Klinee:
Most men cheats not because they hate their wife, but most girls did not understand that,
A man will love you so dearly but he will still cheat on with respect and regards to you as a wife.
But if a man cheat on you with no respect and regard as a wife then he didn't love you.
With "respect and regard" I mean not spending much money on the side chick, not bring the the side chick to your matrimonial home, always hide the side chick from you as a wife, always apologize to you as a wife when caught, always side you as a wife when matter arises, spend more money and time with you and kids.
Most ladies love this type of men, just cheat but give them their respect and regards as the woman of the house.

Dumb crap!!

We men can actually have pure physical sex without any emotions naturally while women attach emotions & feelings to sex. I remember back at uni the new girl i was dating then came over & we were about getting down when she mentioned another guy's name like "peter stop" & i realised her friend isn't just a friend after all... I didn't feel bad tho i just made sure i fvcked her at the friend's apartment while he was outside the room ( we used to meet there at times while i was wooing her) & that checked itself.
A man can have multiple sex partners at same time & it would never affect the way he feels for his wife. That's why when a man cheats on his wife the marriage can still be helped but when a woman cheats u better believe she's having feelings for the other guy & that union is bound to drown no matter how hard u try. I know a lot of guys would be saying stuff about loving ur girl & all those lies to look good on NL.

For us sex begins in the body. While women's desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men desire is physical. We have massive amounts of testosterone coursing through our bodies, pushing and driving us toward sexual expression. A wise woman who knows this would know how to keep her man from desiring sex elsewhere. Again i am not encouraging cheating or claiming we have a right to. I am only saying it as it is.
Bottom line is, cheating for a man has nothing to do with how much u love her. If u respect your wife & urself & value what u have,u wouldn't want to hurt her in any way although its not a guaranty we still won't stray. It just the truth..

Therealev:


How do you love Rice so much, but still want dodo untop ?

assuming a wife love rice and still add dodo uptop and still said e love the husband, we the husband agree?

Yes. Men see it as a conquest of sort not cheating. Men that doesn't are the exceptions and they have somehow found a way to "conquer" that gene.

Nobody bargains for accidents in life however it comes once in a while such is the journey of love ..circumstance and unforseen situations do push people to mess up but such a people will detach themselves immediately they won't fall headlong ..but when you see a serial cheater ,he is under a terrible curse

YES

some ladies just wouldn't understand the fact that one who has the money has the power and power corrupts while sex is always at the door step waiting to serve power.

Cheating is a risk and to be honest temptation is the devil because it will never take no for an answer and even foster bitterness between genuine lovers

Honestly I don’t think so because when you love someone you respect them and when you cheat you disrespect when you rub it in their faces some even sleepy with others wives so imagine what you have done to their own vows I hope cheaters get gummed together so we in the world can see who and what to avoid they are the reason the disease rate is high

Thief na Thief

Nofav0rs:
People should understand there's difference between LOVE and LOYALTY.

People can love without being loyal due to reasons best known to them. I personally feel you can love and still cheat.

I'm sure Kevin Hart loves his woman but he cheated. John Terry cheated in 2006 after the birth of his twin but there's no denying he loves his wife.

It takes more than love to keep a relationship/home

My opinion

LivingFree:
If you don't love and respect yourself, then you can never love and respect someone else. If you sleep around then you have no respect for yourself and your wellbeing. I don't think it's ever about the other person.

Thank u for this!

Olalan:
If you love someone dearly you won't even think of cheating on her, how do you love a person and want to be with another?

The idea is not to be with another, it is to quickly get an ice cream from a supermarket , not to live in d supermarket.

You get ma drift

MARX77:
Pardon me to answer this question with yet another question; Have you fallen into temptation before? I bet we all have, it doesn't mean we loved the object of tempt more than anything else, well maybe momentarily we did.
So yes, a man can love a woman dearly and cheat on her. But it ain't good if he keeps up with it.

When u are being tempted to cheat....u can actually decide not to cheat because u love your wife. So cheating is a decision. Or u can say hmmmmm this lady is beautiful let me f*ck her jor my wife won’t know.....that’s a decision too. So pls let’s not get it wrong cheating in anyway is a decision. It’s just like stealing u don’t steal by mistake that’s why there’s a punishment. That’s why the Bible abhors adultery. Cheating in any form can never be a mistake.

Adasun:
The truth is love woun't let u pound dat dat pusssy da way u want.



U can't even hang ur wives leg in north-east direction to pound and murder dat cu.nt.



U can only make love to her.




da side chick brings out dat monster in u.dat zeal to destroy dat pusssy.u neva even love her anyway.



So yes,u can love ur wife and still cheat

That’s not true. Married mates can have crazy sex with each other. They are even in the best position to have it more.

dalaman:
Those saying that if you love your wife you can't have Sex with a other woman are just jokers. The aren't real, but just want to create an alternate reality.

Those that love their wives but still go ahead to marry other women because thier culture allows it nko? Or are they saying that polygamous men don't love their wives?

You can love your wife a still have sex with another woman. Most married men I know that cheat on their wives love them. Sex is different from love.

Don't mind all the children making comment on this thread. If a man has been married long enough, he should tells if the urge to cheat never occurs to him, including religious monogamists.

Angy55:

It's even stated in the Bible, resist the devil and he will flee from you.

There are some sins we commit that the tot of commiting such sins don’t start instantly bug over time. Sins like cheating starts gradually over series of tot which have being nutured in the mind , James 1:14-15.

Peter loved Christ but denied him 3 times . He fell to temptation and Christ did not condemn him for that nor doubt his love for him.
I do not propose that the married should cheat BUT if any falls to the Tempter please do not condemn but find a common ground to help one another.
We all have sinned and fallen short yet he still loves us.

donstan18:


You cannot hurt who you love.

Stop these inconsequential and irrelevant excuses.

Are you a Christian? We hurt God in so many ways,does that mean we don't love him?
A man can love his wife so dearly and still fall a victim of seduction. out of 100 men,I believe 5 men(I'm one of them) can have the strong will to reject the advances of unclad women.
Women are the devil's powerful tool to bring the walls around the heart of a man down. We hurt people we love most. I'm not justifying infidelity but if a man cheat that does not mean he does not love his wife. Regaining his will after falling victim is all that matters,not to think is in his nature to cheat.

congi:

Don't mind all the children making comment on this thread. If a man has been married long enough, he should tells if the urge to cheat never occurs to him, including religious monogamists.

Whether a monogamist or polygamist it’s a decision to stay on either side. Weather to remain faithful to one wife or remain faithful to all he’s wives. Now if he wants to have sex with someone else outside he’s marriage it’s hes decision to do that which will hurt he’s wife or wives. The point here is this. If u genuinely love someone will u deliberately or will u make a decision to hurt them? I’m not saying we are perfect. That’s why it really hurts when u get cheated on especially if it’s someone u love dearly.

I think you cannot love and still cheat! You can only be LOST and cheat on your spouse or wife

Xiadnat:
A man/woman can claim to love another BUT without good character WILL still fall prey to infidelity (or any other scandalous behaviors like lie, kill, steal, destroy....).

That's why you do NOT marry just for love. (or at least the worldly 'romantic eros' concept of love).

You should also marry LOVE + CHARACTER. That is: loyalty, respect, integrity, reliable, discipline, patience, conscientious, humility, caring, trust, enduring, sacrifice, resilience and the like. In fact character comes first, because "love" waxes and wanes. Enduring character traits well....endures.

Character sustains relationships. Character is what you bank on every day in any situation, all around season.

You just know, you can stake or bet your life on this person. When you can say that about any one person, please MARRY them ASAP. (Enduring) Love will follow over time.

Word for the wise: FALL IN LOVE WITH inside package that is CHARACTER NOT outside package that is fleeting- here today, gone tomorrow.

I wish I could like this comment over a 100times....But u forgot to add a touch of God-fearing. This is the foundation, if u ask me....

No way!! If he truly loves you, he won't cheat on you

Olifiz:


There are some sins we commit that the tot of commiting such sins don’t start instantly bug over time. Sins like cheating starts gradually over series of tot which have being nutured in the mind , James 1:14-15.

Thank you for this input.
Men keep defending themselves that they are polygamous in nature, indirectly they mean God's work in creation was not perfect.
If His work was not perfect then how come He condemns adultery?