ADAMIC NATURE

Toks2008:
I have heard many ladies use these words over and over again...'if he loves me he will never cheat on me'

Before you start wondering why i chose this topic let me make it clear that 9 out of every 10 marriages that hit the rocks usually have infidelity as a reason and in most cases it comes from the men yet if you ask these men,they will tell you they love their wives dearly but this usually do not go down well with the women who strongly believe a man can not love them and still cheat on them.


So i want to leave this question open for everyone to give their opinion so i ask...'Can a man love his woman dearly and still cheat on her?'

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A man is capable of love and infidelity simultaneously towards his partner. It doesn't reduce his love at all and loving her dearly doesn't make him immune from cheating. That requires discipline.

People cheat not because they don't love their patners but rather, they don't have the fear of God.

kneehighbootz:


S.h.u.t the f-u-c-k up. You clowns seriously amuse me. Female brain ko, female leg ni.
Have you figured out the workings of your own brain?
When the standards that apply to cheating husbands can also apply to cheating wives, then I'll hear.
Until then, shut the f-up!

Sorry i dnt talk to little kids throwing tantrums n foaming at d mouth..

Shalom..

MrMystrO:


Lol nice one

I dnt advocate for this in marriage tho...I respect d institution too much to violate it..

Me myself tho will neva get married...Bt 4 doz dt decide to marry ,respect ur spouses and dnt go fvckin some oda person..

Shalom

dairykidd:
We men can actually have pure physical sex without any emotions naturally while women attach emotions & feelings to sex. I remember back at uni the new girl i was dating then came over & we were about getting down when she mentioned another guy's name like "peter stop" & i realised her friend isn't just a friend after all... I didn't feel bad tho i just made sure i fvcked her at the friend's apartment while he was outside the room ( we used to meet there at times while i was wooing her) & that checked itself.
A man can have multiple sex partners at same time & it would never affect the way he feels for his wife. That's why when a man cheats on his wife the marriage can still be helped but when a woman cheats u better believe she's having feelings for the other guy & that union is bound to drown no matter how hard u try. I know a lot of guys would be saying stuff about loving ur girl & all those lies to look good on NL.

For us sex begins in the body. While women's desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men desire is physical. We have massive amounts of testosterone coursing through our bodies, pushing and driving us toward sexual expression. A wise woman who knows this would know how to keep her man from desiring sex elsewhere. Again i am not encouraging cheating or claiming we have a right to. I am only saying it as it is.
Bottom line is, cheating for a man has nothing to do with how much u love her. If u respect your wife & urself & value what u have,u wouldn't want to hurt her in any way although its not a guaranty we still won't stray. It just the truth..

lolz...not all women attach emotions to sex ooo

If my husband tells me that cheating on me me doesn't mean he does not love me truly then I better give him his dose as well, then I tell him same line, kini big deal? Nonsense, how can you love someone n deliberately want to hurt dem? Does it make sense? Abeg d answer is no. How can I love someone n cheat?

donstan18:


Can that occurring circumstances warrant you to kill your mum and apologize to your father?

Cheating is a decision sir.

you de mind dem looking for ways to justify their illicit act, can d wife also cheats n den apologize? Do unto others wat u want dem do in return

Klinee:
Most men cheats not because they hate their wife, but most girls did not understand that,
A man will love you so dearly but he will still cheat on with respect and regards to you as a wife.
But if a man cheat on you with no respect and regard as a wife then he didn't love you.
With "respect and regard" I mean not spending much money on the side chick, not bring the the side chick to your matrimonial home, always hide the side chick from you as a wife, always apologize to you as a wife when caught, always side you as a wife when matter arises, spend more money and time with you and kids.
Most ladies love this type of men, just cheat but give them their respect and regards as the woman of the house.

Wooow, i mean extra ordinary woow u have spoken well!

Adasun:
have u ever being in love bfor,genuine love o

Are you born again? I mean really born again. Not just going to church.

Yes and definitely, it's just like you loving God and still go ahead and sin

Am not married, so i can't say, but when i have enter into the union, i don't think on any circumstance my hubby should cheat on me Thank God my village has a wicked culture, as in as much as she's married to you, cheat on her and let her do the same to you and watch yourself die slowly

Pricelessangel0:
Am not married, so i can't say, but when i have enter into the union, i don't think on any circumstance my hubby should cheat on me Thank God my village has a wicked culture, as in as much as she's married to you, cheat on her and let her do the same to you and watch yourself die slowly

Abeg which village be this?

Yes, a man can love his wife and still cheat. Marriage and love is beyond gf/bf love.

Yes of course......It's only "CHRIST" in you that can make u not to cheat on ur wife.

Xiadnat:
A man/woman can claim to love another BUT without good character WILL still fall prey to infidelity (or any other scandalous behaviors like lie, kill, steal, destroy....).

That's why you do NOT marry just for love. (or at least the worldly 'romantic eros' concept of love).

You should also marry LOVE + CHARACTER. That is: loyalty, respect, integrity, reliable, discipline, patience, conscientious, humility, caring, trust, enduring, sacrifice, resilience and the like. In fact character comes first, because "love" waxes and wanes. Enduring character traits well....endures.

Character sustains relationships. Character is what you bank on every day in any situation, all around season.

You just know, you can stake or bet your life on this person. When you can say that about any one person, please MARRY them ASAP. (Enduring) Love will follow over time.

Word for the wise: FALL IN LOVE WITH inside package that is CHARACTER NOT outside package that is fleeting- here today, gone tomorrow.

Best comment here

Rozaytee:
lolz...not all women attach emotions to sex ooo

My sister tell him. This is where they get it wrong.

DonPiiko:
In theories it's practicable but in reality it's a lot of work to be faithful. Yeah some guys go out of their way to keep hunting girls even after putting a ring on someone else. I wonder if females get the urge to cheat as much as the guys

Bros we are human so yes we do. But the society is not as forgiving of married women as it is of married men this is one major deterrent for a lot of women, even if our marriage has gone sour since and we are on just "managing" level.

greiboy:
People cheat for various reasons

It could be to spite a partner i.e. perhaps out of the feeling that your partner is also cheating

To fulfill a certain sexual fantasy i.e. having sex with a bid breast woman that all of a sudden picked an interest in you

Because they never really loved their partners to begin with

It could even be out of the heat of the moment.

It is not necessarily because the partner that cheated wasn't truly in love with the partner cheated upon, but the cheating partner might not be ready for a serious relationship. I.e. not ready for serious commitment

Discipline is what is needed, one has to be truly ready for a serious relationship and even that, there is no guarantee against possible slip-up in the future.

Stop making excuses. You're responsible for your actions. If you no want again then leave!

Adasun:
The truth is love woun't let u pound dat dat pusssy da way u want.



U can't even hang ur wives leg in north-east direction to pound and murder dat cu.nt.



U can only make love to her.




da side chick brings out dat monster in u.dat zeal to destroy dat pusssy.u neva even love her anyway.



So yes,u can love ur wife and still cheat

You cannot love somebody and hurt them. Stop making excuses. You cannot slap your mum and say "but I respect her". That's trash! you The harm has already being done.

Couldn't be said any better

MarieSucre:

Bros we are human so yes we do. But the society is not as forgiving of married women as it is of married men this is one major deterrent for a lot of women, even our marriage has gone sour since and we are just "managing".

MARX77:
Pardon me to answer this question with yet another question; Have you fallen into temptation before? I bet we all have, it doesn't mean we loved the object of tempt more than anything else, well maybe momentarily we did.
So yes, a man can love a woman dearly and cheat on her. But it ain't good if he keeps up with it.

Nope. You do not love someone if you hurt them

MarieSucre:


Stop making excuses. You're responsible for your actions. If you no want again then leave!

OK, but I wasn't necessarily talking about myself.

Nofav0rs:
People should understand there's difference between LOVE and LOYALTY.

People can love without being loyal due to reasons best known to them. I personally feel you can love and still cheat.

I'm sure Kevin Hart loves his woman but he cheated. John Terry cheated in 2006 after the birth of his twin but there's no denying he loves his wife.

It takes more than love to keep a relationship/home

My opinion

The scars will remain forever and she will never trust him again.

Klinee:
You actually has no intention of hurting her but due to circumstances it occur, you have no option than to ask apologize.
But most men don't care, some even bring their side chick to their matrimonial bed at the present of the wife, that's very bad.

So true.

Pricelessangel0:
Am not married, so i can't say, but when i have enter into the union, i don't think on any circumstance my hubby should cheat on me Thank God my village has a wicked culture, as in as much as she's married to you, cheat on her and let her do the same to you and watch yourself die slowly

I guess you are from Isoko(Delta state).
Best revenge ever to a cheating husband, pay him back by cheating on him if he refused to change and watch him die.

Olalan:
If you love someone dearly you won't even think of cheating on her, how do you love a person and want to be with another?

That's not true. Most men that cheats loves their wives very dearly. Why do you think they are most often than not unwilling to quit their marriage?

RadicallyBlunt:
Brother op if a woman who claims to love her husband dearly can still deprive him of sex simply because shes not in mood, then a man who claims to love his wife can get a call girl to relieve the high tension. Emphasis on "call girl" not another lover.

If a woman who claims to love her man can collect money from outside and not tell him or keep his change for personal use or even lie that soup money is not enough. If she can owe her husband saying she will pay it back on bed which is absolutely not right, then a man can cheat in his own way..usually d sex way.

We get a lot of things wrong about true love

What is difference between "call girl" and "another lover". Are both of them not cheating. Na wa o, the lengths you guys would go to just to justify infidelity. I That's like saying I killed my wife with a Berreta pistol not a 9mm like say the woman no die las las.

greiboy:
OK, but I wasn't necessarily talking about myself.

I'm sorry if my comment sounded aggressive. Hope you're having a splendid weekend?

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MarieSucre:

I'm sorry if my comment sounded aggressive. Hope you're having a splendid weekend?

Not really

Yes, my weekend is going as planned, yours?

MarieSucre:


What is difference between "call girl" and "another lover". Are both of them not cheating. Na wa o, the lengths you guys would go to just to justify infidelity. I That's like saying I killed my wife with a Berreta pistol not a 9mm like say the woman no die las las.

Lolz. Some men have conscience...that's why.

Me I can't love another woman o esp cuz of my children but if she put me on high tension, I will settle myself in hotel and come home smiling and cracking jokes and peace will reign.