Please I'd like to know if it is wrong of me to scold my wife for allowing her siblings to dish food from the same pot I eat from?

Am I wrong in my own house that food is to be made and dished only by my wife and not anyone else accessing our pot without permission?

Relax, dude, relax... Forget so-called cultural things. Apart from taking the food from the same pot, are her siblings disrespectful to you in any way? If not, then relax and enjoy the life. They may want to wait till you take the food first but other than that I see no problem.

Just to be clear...you don't find it disrespectful that your wife younger ones does not even seek permission from your wife before digging into your pot of soup?

DrMuzungu:
Relax, dude, relax... Forget so-called cultural things. Apart from taking the food from the same pot, are her siblings disrespectful to you in any way? If not, then relax and enjoy the life. They may want to wait till you take the food first but other than that I see no problem.

tbanj07:
Just to be clear...you don't find it disrespectful that your wife younger ones does not even seek permission from your wife before digging into your pot of soup?

I do find it, at least, strange. However, it should be between husband and wife. He has to tell her to tame them. Most of the time, if someone is easy-going, people in the house will not know where the boundary is and will cross it without even knowing. So all he has to do is to talk to, in this case, his wife. Only if they are disrespectful towards her, he has to take action.

tbanj07:
Please I'd like to know if it is wrong of me to scold my wife for allowing her siblings to dish food from the same pot I eat from?

Am I wrong in my own house that food is to be made and dished only by my wife and not anyone else accessing our pot without permission?

Assuming it was her sibling that helped prepare the meal won't you allow her dish food for herself?
It's only when it's a continuous thing that it becomes an issue.
You are not suppose to scold your wife, it ought to have been a heart to heart talk.

Food?? Ordinary food that would end in the toilet You're not complaining about delayed timing or no food, you're complaining about who dishes the food. Hagod!!!!

You're just trying to use a dane gun to kill an ordinary cockroach.. Too much energy! Save it, there are loads of what you'd be needing that energy for in your marriage. It doesn't matter who dishes your meal na make belle full abeg! Don't start what you can't finish!

Selah!!

Please be advised the house is mine and not theirs...they need not come to me but should at least seek the permission of their sister before dishing food from our pots.


P.S - I've just noticed recently whenever they visit

Angy55:


Assuming it was her sibling that helped prepare the meal won't you allow her dish food for herself?
It's only when it's a continuous thing that it becomes an issue.
You are not suppose to scold your wife, it ought to have been a heart to heart talk.

yettymuse:
Food?? Ordinary food that would end in the toilet You're not complaining about delayed timing or no food, you're complaining about who dishes the food. Hagod!!!!

You're just trying to use a dane gun to kill an ordinary cockroach.. Too much energy! Save it, there are loads of what you'd be needing that energy for in your marriage. It doesn't matter who dishes your meal na make belle full abeg! Don't start what you can't finish!

Selah!!

Are you married? If yes, please tell me how you'd feel when your inlaw comes around accessing your kitchen anyhow and anytime without permission

And you really have to scold your wife?? Really?? Calm down dude!

You can speak to your wife about it rather than scold her.

tbanj07:



Are you married? If yes, please tell me how you'd feel when your inlaw comes around accessing your kitchen anyhow and anytime without permission

I am married and it the kitchen is the least of my worries in my home. When they all visit, they in turn serve my meal respectfully.

Personally, I don't think this is right. I may find it difficult to tolerate, really.


From the neutrals, however, one could argue that it isn't a biggie, since you all are one family.

In all, OP have a talk with wifey on this, not scolding. Be sure not to make her feel like you are not too comfortable with her sibblings

Adesuwag:
And you really have to scold your wife?? Really?? Calm down dude!

Why are you taking this with huge effects...didn't put a finger on her, she only get scolded knowing well enough how we live at this time and allowing such to continue.

For crying out loud they are in the house of another family and should respect that

Op....transmitionally to me...nuttin z wrong.
I give my guests the opportunity of dishing food themselve.xcept if they strongly insist my serving them.

People like me prolly doesn't giv a damn abt it
So oga relax.people differs sha.

tbanj07:



Are you married? If yes, please tell me how you'd feel when your inlaw comes around accessing your kitchen anyhow and anytime without permission

for my person, I don't care if my inlaw goes the kitchen, I got better things to be worried about.. Take it easy!

tbanj07:
Please be advised the house is mine and not theirs...they need not come to me but should at least seek the permission of their sister before dishing food from our pots.


P.S - I've just noticed recently whenever they visit

Obviously you didn't read the part where i said it's suppose to have been a heart to heart talk with your wife.
You asked if it is wrong to scold your wife.

Have a nice day.

ahnie:
Op....transmitionally to me...nuttin z wrong.
I give my guests the opportunity of dishing food themselve.xcept if they strongly insist my serving them.

People like me prolly doesn't giv a damn abt it
So oga relax.people differs sha.

Please note that we live from paycheck to paycheck...wife does not work at this time. So it's not as if we have alot to throw around and i have kids to feed as well

Angy55:

Obviously you didn't read the part where i said it's suppose to have been a heart to heart talk with your wife.
You asked if it is wrong to scold your wife.

Have a nice day.

Thank you and you as well

tbanj07:



Please note that we live from paycheck to paycheck...wife does not work at this time. So it's not as if we have alot to throw around and i have kids to feed as well

I now get you clearly sir!
Little to go round for ur family...inlaws devouring it.

Wife not working and kids to feed!

Conclusion:I sense paranoia anytime your inlaws come around concerning the situation at hand.please take it easy,wud advice your talking to your wife about it calmly.

You sound pained,more than you put it.You could explain more.
Is it they dished all food out,or they messed the kitchen,while at that?
Or you are angry at them over another issue and this just nailed it for you?
If your family come visiting, are they privy to the kitchen,pots too?
Besides one dishes food from a full pot,were the pots full intentionally at their arrival or?

ahnie:


I now get you clearly sir!
Little to go round for ur family...inlaws devouring it.

Wife not working and kids to feed!

Conclusion:I sense paranoia anytime your inlaws come around concerning the situation at hand.please take it easy,wud advice your talking to your wife about it calmly.

Exactly! I understand too.. E no easy, Pele Op, do take it easy.

ahnie:


I now get you clearly sir!
Little to go round for ur family...inlaws devouring it.

Wife not working and kids to feed!

Conclusion:I sense paranoia anytime your inlaws come around concerning the situation at hand.please take it easy,wud advice your talking to your wife about it calmly.

No such thing as being paranoid whenever they come around....I make them feel comfortable and welcomed at all times...wife knows the present situation we live in which is why she was scolded this time for allowing such to continue

PraisesG:
You sound pained,more than you put it.You could explain more.
Is it they dished all food out,or they messed the kitchen,while at that?
Or you are angry at them over another issue and this just nailed it for you?
If your family come visiting, are they privy to the kitchen,pots too?
Besides one dishes food from a full pot,were the pots full intentionally at their arrival or?

My family knows well enough not to go near our kitchen...im blessed to have a mother who doesn't care if my wife even serves her only water....and if any of my fam visit they enter d kitchen to wash and assist her...not dish food.

As for being agree at wife siblings...no i'm not but we've talked about this before and she still allowed it was why she was scolded this time.

P.S- my inlaws are not hungry folks

yettymuse:
Food?? Ordinary food that would end in the toilet You're not complaining about delayed timing or no food, you're complaining about who dishes the food. Hagod!!!!

You're just trying to use a dane gun to kill an ordinary cockroach.. Too much energy! Save it, there are loads of what you'd be needing that energy for in your marriage. It doesn't matter who dishes your meal na make belle full abeg! Don't start what you can't finish!

Selah!!

.Ataya my sister, I don't even care about those things in my house as long as there's enough food. My younger ones help themselves after I cook and most times they even dish first and go eat while I tidy up the kitchen.
Kini big deal?

Artistree:
.Ataya my sister, I don't even care about those things in my house as long as there's enough food. My younger ones help themselves after I cook and most times they even dish first and go eat while I tidy up the kitchen.
Kini big deal?

Big deal wa nigbati e ba n manage owo

tbanj07:
Please be advised the house is mine and not theirs...they need not come to me but should at least seek the permission of their sister before dishing food from our pots.


P.S - I've just noticed recently whenever they visit

Then kuku tell her you don't like it. It's your house and they must abide by your rules.

I still think it's no big deal. No be ordinary food?

tbanj07:



My family knows well enough not to go near our kitchen...im blessed to have a mother who doesn't care if my wife even serves her only water....and if any of my fam visit they enter d kitchen to wash and assist her...not dish food.

As for being agree at wife siblings...no i'm not but we've talked about this before and she still allowed it was why she was scolded this time.

P.S- my inlaws are not hungry folks

As you don scold am make e end there. Don't create a storm in the teacup

tbanj07:
Please I'd like to know if it is wrong of me to scold my wife for allowing her siblings to dish food from the same pot I eat from?

you are a tin god

this is why women should have their own money

of all the things to get pissed off over, 'dishing food from the same pot you eat from"

i wonder where you work and if that is the attitude you take there

if your wife's siblings were wasteful gluttons, i would understand

i am even shocked that you, a man is gong on like this

the 'this is my kitchen , this is my food' pettiness is the sole domain of women . WTF is wrong with you??

oyb:


you are a tin god

this is why women should have their own money

of all the things to get pissed off over, 'dishing food from the same pot you eat from"

i wonder where you work and if that is the attitude you take there

if your wife's siblings were wasteful gluttons, i would understand

i am even shocked that you, a man is gong on like this

the 'this is my kitchen , this is my food' pettiness is the sole domain of women . WTF is wrong with you??

o ma ya mi lenu ke

Ishilove:

Then kuku tell her you don't like it. It's your house and they must abide by your rules.

I still think it's no big deal. No be ordinary food?

Food aint ordinary when there's little to go around for many

oyb:


you are a tin god

this is why women should have their own money

of all the things to get pissed off over, 'dishing food from the same pot you eat from"

i wonder where you work and if that is the attitude you take there

if your wife's siblings were wasteful gluttons, i would understand

i am even shocked that you, a man is gong on like this

the 'this is my kitchen , this is my food' pettiness is the sole domain of women . WTF is wrong with you??

What is this one saying...did you read the whole comments on here till it gets to where you had to throw yours in?

When you have less to throw around for many, then you can come back to the comment session to redeem yourself

Ordinary food kwa?

You scolded your wife because of ordinary food? Is not like they are living permanently with you?

Your wife isn't working yet so her siblings aren't supposed to enter the accursed kitchen? Or it will be abominable?

But your siblings can?

See how you painted your siblings as the best thing after sliced bread?
Then rubbished hers as some hungry folks who can't do without taking it all? Because you still regard them as strangers

I just pity your wife. Aradite, stingy, gummy and supercluey horseband.

Just tell them to stop coming to your poisonous house so that they won't be finishing your poisonous food that may probably choke them one day.