| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nnemuka(f): 7:48am On Jun 03, 2018 |
This op is yet to recover from heart break.  You will be in my prayers today... The single mum will still remarry, she already told you to carry your patriarchy and get lost. Involving her family in little misunderstanding speaks volume of your kind of person. Resolve issues with her without involving her people. Ordinary boyfriend, imagine what will happen if she marries your type. Little argument u may involve your community. Now that you brought the issue here nko what did u achieve? Mtcheww 22 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Originalsly: 7:50am On Jun 03, 2018 |
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| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Originalsly: 7:52am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Hector09:
dirty mind Really?Didn't you say you hate women?....that's the only kind of men that hate women. Modify your statement before others read and come to the same conclusion. 2 Likes |
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| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by sacramento1212: 8:00am On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3:
Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.
Not only single mothers but women generally. 10 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 8:02am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Netanyahu1:
Op. I understand the single mother aspect. I have come to realize that 80% of all single mothers have one of two problems. Its either that they are totally dull about everything in life to the extent that no man is interested in managing their intellectual deficiency, or they are outrightly wayward to the extent that no man wants to be a party to their stupid ideology about what a marital union should look like.
In your own case , however, you just dodged a bullet. As far as "Nigeria" is concerned , church is where you find the most useless and heartless con artists, starting from the pastor, therefore , the combination of a single mother you met in church is equal to natural disaster .
Again op. You just dodged a bullet. If I were you I will be dancing like David for this new life god has given you.I mean the real God and not the god of Nigerian pastors. You're very wrong bro  . It's 97.9% not 80% Stop misleading the public Really guys should listen to single mothers when they talk. They sound so empty. Spoke with a friend (also a single mum) some months ago, she's a doctor, and our gist took us to family matters, and relationship talk (I knew she was divorced). I won't type all the trash she spew that day but I remember telling her " No wonder you are wicked and single" The look on her face was epic I was a potential victim of multiple stab injuries that evening. Single mums should be left alone. Last month one dude opened a thread for advice on his intention to marry a single mum. He was kind enough to share enough details on how they met up till present circumstances, but trust mumu boys, with his response on that thread despite countless advice he should have married her by now Whenever I see a new moniker and thread on family section complaining about marriage bla bla bla I dey smh for the guy. May his turn no ever reach. 17 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by KevinDein: 8:20am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Nnemuka:
This op is yet to recover from heart break.
You will be in my prayers today...
The single mum will still remarry, she already told you to carry your patriarchy and get lost. Involving her family in little misunderstanding speaks volume of your kind of person.
Resolve issues with her without involving her people. Ordinary boyfriend, imagine what will happen if she marries your type. Little argument u may involve your community.
Now that you brought the issue here nko what did u achieve? Mtcheww
Yeah, I know this tactics. Trying to manipulate the op into thinking he's the problem...even though this is a woman who clearly stated she wants a man who can take all her bullshhiit but she can't take any bullshhitt from anyone (very clear that she's a hypocrite, selfish and self centered, can't take what she dishes). This is also someone who doesn't even get along with her siblings because as far as she is concerned it's her way or the highway. Good luck to the loser who would be manipulated into marrying her, the op though dodged a bullet. 38 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by highsurge: 8:29am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Your story plenty.... Bad omen... The shorter d story d purer the person 2 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Lexusgs430: 8:32am On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.
First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.
I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).
We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).
Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.
About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.
She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)
She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome  . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.
She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.
Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.
At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.
Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.
You dodged a bullet..... They are not all bad...... It seems very clear loads of skeletons exists in her closet, and she is simply trying to hide her past/present from you.... Did she go meet her sugardaddy in Abuja? |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by isnovic(m): 8:34am On Jun 03, 2018 |
My dear, it was God that simply saved you. |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Benekruku(m): 8:35am On Jun 03, 2018 |
The epistle is long o
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| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Bgorgeous: 8:36am On Jun 03, 2018 |
U have actually said nothing here, just say u cannot deal with the fact that she is a single mother, all these Pastor said this or that is irrelevant. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Liability(m): 8:37am On Jun 03, 2018 |
[quote author=greyham post=68132268] You're very wrong bro . It's 97.9% not 80% Stop misleading the public Really guys should listen to single mothers when they talk. They sound so empty. Spoke with a friend (also a single mum) some months ago, she's a doctor, and our gist took us to family matters, and relationship talk (I knew she was divorced). I won't type all the trash she spew that day but I remember telling her " No wonder you are wicked and single" The look on her face was epic I was a potential victim of multiple stab injuries that evening. Single mums should be left alone. Last month one dude opened a thread for advice on his intention to marry a single mum. He was kind enough to share enough details on how they met up till present circumstances, but trust mumu boys, with his response on that thread despite countless advice he should have married her by now Whenever I see a new moniker and thread on family section complaining about marriage bla bla bla I dey smh for the guy. May his turn no ever reach.[/quotllol |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Luvdmx(m): 8:38am On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3:
Its a sleepless night for me and I'm yet to dilute what unfolded. I just wish she could pretend forever and be nice but this is life where the truth must surely reveal itself at some point.
The person I saw in her recently is too mean and brutal to be under a man. God help anyone that falls into her trap. She probably dodge a bullet too.. I think you're the controlling type especially with your statement" be under a man".. 17 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Mujtahida: 8:40am On Jun 03, 2018 |
YemiHadid:
No beef, but personally i might only marry a single mother if she's single because she's widowed. Any other reason is a No-No. Its the height of cuckoldery having to raise another man's kid while putting up with her 'entitlement mentality'. I'll only 'pump and dump' thatz all. Sound harsh, but thats the way it is. Remember the old adage, "she single for a reason" and that reason is usually bad. She didnt have the patience/good judgement to make it work with her baby daddy (even for the sake of the kid), why should she stick with you. The cons of dating SMs are just more than the pros - not worth it imho. Why settle for used goods when there's plenty of fresh ones about.
Read this too: http://www.returnofkings.com/84026/5-reasons-you-should-never-date-a-single-mother
Brethren be wise! Return of the Kings? Hmmmmm omo if you read roosh you go go haywire 1 Like |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 8:43am On Jun 03, 2018 |
I don't even know which I find more insulting;
Her insisting and traveling without your permission or her damning the consequences of her actions.
Meaning - to her - you're just a toothless bulldog who just barks as usual and won't bite.
That relationship should have ended the minute she hopped on that bus out of town w/o your consent. 14 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by kapelvej: 8:47am On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.
First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.
I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).
We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).
Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.
About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.
She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)
She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.
She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.
Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.
At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.
Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.
Op go and celebrate. Not being IB good terms with her family speaks volume. Meanwhile read this similar story. https://www.nairaland.com/4447411/wife-finally-moved. AND. https://www.nairaland.com/4457718/update-wife-finally-moved |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by spiritedtete: 8:53am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Congratulations OP... i am happy for you  Make sure you keep watching... starting from ladies that excessively cared about "Make up" 2 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Xisnin(m): 8:54am On Jun 03, 2018 |
@1x2x3
You are a control freak who thinks he is doing the woman a favor. Your future wife is in for a rough ride with your dictatorial tendency.
It won't matter if you marry a 15 or 18 year old, mumu doesn't last forever. 18 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Jabioro: 8:59am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Glory be to God..Halelluyah! The AK47 accindetal discharged miss her target..na your left side chest it aim,she go pieces your heart....l beg gv me one bottle of Goldberg make l take am rejoice wt you. 1 Like |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Xisnin(m): 9:01am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Netanyahu1:
I have come to realize that 80% of all single mothers have one of two problems. Its either that they are totally dull about everything in life to the extent that no man is interested in managing their intellectual deficiency, or they are outrightly wayward to the extent that no man wants to be a party to their stupid ideology about what a marital union should look like.
Pulling statistics out of your ass? Dull girls are hardly single because they are usually the "submissive" type which insecure men love to control. So are "wayward" girls who keep several boyfriends, they are never left behind. When you find a single lady with a child, she is the "cool" type who wouldn't get an abortion like the warward ones and they are usually the long time lovers who stay loyal in a relationship while their partner play around freely. 9 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Xisnin(m): 9:03am On Jun 03, 2018 |
KevinDein:
Yeah, I know this tactics. Trying to manipulate the op into thinking he's the problem...even though this is a woman who clearly stated she wants a man who can take all her bullshhiit but she can't take any bullshhitt from anyone (very clear that she's a hypocrite, selfish and self centered, can't take what she dishes). This is also someone who doesn't even get along with her siblings because as far as she is concerned it's her way or the highway.
Good luck to the loser who would be manipulated into marrying her, the op though dodged a bullet. Their is no tactics here, the op is the complainant! He needed validation to show that he is making the right decision. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by 1x2x3: 9:13am On Jun 03, 2018 |
MaziOmenuko:
Is it just me or is the story not just clicking? You had a misunderstanding with your g/f which is normal, so why all the fuss? Theirs no relationship that is perfect so why making a mountain out of a mile hill?
If you have been sceptical about the relationship, fine. But from what I read here, there's no reason to be apprehensive. She travelled as she said and came back like she said. She needed a time off, possibly from you. Have you ever considered the fact that she really needed that time off?
Abeg, make I no cone be joy kill. Make I mind my business It may not be a fuse to you until you find yourself in such situation. I didn't want to mention everything but she got new iPhone x from from her trip which I know she can never buy with her money. There were so many things that demanded explanation but she flared up that I asked questions. 6 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 9:14am On Jun 03, 2018 |
you seem to have lust for left overs.
marry a fresh woman, single mothers are an abomination, except those who are widowed. 6 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by justcallbuki(f): 9:14am On Jun 03, 2018 |
she is hurting and needs help,help her if you so love her.........all what she said was out if annoyance. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by IamaNigerianGuy(m): 9:14am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Netanyahu1:
Op. I understand the single mother aspect. I have come to realize that 80% of all single mothers have one of two problems. Its either that they are totally dull about everything in life to the extent that no man is interested in managing their intellectual deficiency, or they are outrightly wayward to the extent that no man wants to be a party to their stupid ideology about what a marital union should look like.
In your own case , however, you just dodged a bullet. As far as "Nigeria" is concerned , church is where you find the most useless and heartless con artists, starting from the pastor, therefore , the combination of a single mother you met in church is equal to natural disaster .
Again op. You just dodged a bullet. If I were you I will be dancing like David for this new life god has given you.I mean the real God and not the god of Nigerian pastors. Painful but true. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Didi2d(m): 9:15am On Jun 03, 2018 |
To me most single mother or divorced woman are not totally innocent. But when they start dating another man, they hide all their bad attitude and tell you different stories of how the man was bad.
Cos it's not always easy for a woman to walk out of a marriage, so whenever I see single mother, I always believed they were chased out of marriage because of infidelity or something bad.
My thoughts though!! 6 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by openmine(m): 9:15am On Jun 03, 2018 |
OP ,this behaviour is not only exhibited by SOME single mothers....SOME of the single ladies,esp the pretty ones in nigeria, also have such attitude.....
Initially,very nice,welcoming and humble....after some months,they start trying to figure out how to control or dominate you with some little stuffs.....When they don't succeed with that approach maybe due to your stance,they get emotionally defeated and use the weapon of manipulation just to make them look like the victim or that you don't really love them enough....
Once the manipulation doesn't work out,they will say you are too proud and stubborn (part of the emotional blackmail)....Just to psychologically control your actions towards them...and make you soften your stance....
Once these measures are resisted,they start seeking out other guys whom they can manipulate or bring under their control......
Most of them hate taking advise esp when they know that they are doing what is wrong.....They always believe in calling the shots in a relationship or marriage.....
They want you to eat this food,buy what they want,wear what they like and say what they want to hear.....
They never bother to know what you really want or like simply because these set of ladies always have a "sense of entitlement "......always the "Me syndrome"....!
The funny and interesting part is that these same ladies,in spite of all these behaviors,will even love and desire you more due to the fact that you can't be easily disarmed or controlled by them....
Well thank God for your life but just know that this attitude is not only displayed by single mothers.... 18 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by CecyAdrian(f): 9:16am On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.
First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.
I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).
We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).
Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.
About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.
She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)
She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.
She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.
Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.
At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.
Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.
This story just doesn't click. That lady has issues, trust issues especially and you did nothing to assure her of her place with you, reason why she mad those statements and even travelled despite you kicking against it. That trust issue came from the mistakes she has made in the past and has an evidence of one that will forever be in her face. If you make a woman feel she is all you have got, a single mother for that matter, she won't pull the stunt she pulled. You think you broke up with her, but she did with you the moment she started nursing going to Abuja (if it was a guy she went to visit) and started seeing you as a side piece. You had a girl for you to concentrate on and assure her of your love fr her, but you were busy trying to dig up issues in her past through her family members and pastor, and you did! So, why disturb us here na 9 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 9:17am On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3:
Spot on.
It's crazy to think someone could pretend and act a different person for a long time. People should just beware of those mature single ladies they see in churches today. bro her personality description you mentioned is just who she is not because she is a single mother,, that description are peculiar to a saggiatarius woman ... they will alway want independence, donnt like been told what to do but they can control for africa,, very truthful but they only care about themselves,,very selfish & ambitious ... she is not relationship for love or for money ..they try r/ship just to convince themselves that they are normal ... they fucking dare consequences .... i av been with a single mother twice,,the later was even older than me .... but they were committed,caring & easy to love .. 7 Likes |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by 1x2x3: 9:17am On Jun 03, 2018 |
QueenSuccubus:
Well, u cant blame her.. She wants FREEDOM...it's very obvious that she doesn't wanna tie herself down to any man yet.
Marriage is not her priority but if u wanna settledown soon then she is not for u.. Juz let her do her thing and u do yours as well.. Not every relationship works the way we expect it..
Funny enough what is happening is directly opposite of what you said. She wants to marry asap and I've been the one holding back because I felt there are things I needed to know. I managing your partner telling you not to contact any of his siblings or friends..... Something was questionable. 1 Like |
| Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by CecyAdrian(f): 9:19am On Jun 03, 2018 |
Xisnin:
@1x2x3x
You are a controlling jerk who thinks he is doing the woman a favor. Your future wife is in for a rough ride with your dictatorial tendency.
It won't matter if you marry a 15 or 18 year old, mumu doesn't last forever. As in!! 6 Likes |
