Kearl:
My wife is having an affair, but she hasnt known that I know that this is going on. Discovered about it not long ago. Still thinking d best course of action.

It was first d feeling of pain, but that phase has passed now. Right now I need to strategize on what next to do.

Still painful though, cos I never knew she could do such.

Just typing this to let off the steam.

CptBule:


If you don't have evidence, it is therefore not advisable to discuss with her over it, because she will turn the table around to acuse you of distrust towards your own wife and end up using emotional blackmail to win her argument.

If you have proofs, pictures or messages already sent to your own phone, sit her down and talk to her over it, let it be made clear that was the last you would tolerate, otherwise the marriage will be dissolved, after that you take her to clinic to test for sexually transmitted diseases, this is so that you know on time if she had contracted any disease while having extra-marital affair, it is important you do this, otherwise you would contract it too.

Kearl:


Thank you, I have proofs though but not hard enough. Will still wait and see how things go.

Olalan:
If you have undeniable evidence it's better you confront her now about it, but how can you be comfortable living with a cheating wife cause ladies who do such are capable of murder.

WhichKindWahala:
do you have kids ?
If yes,you’re in trouble

Kearl:


Thank you, I have proofs though but not hard enough. Will still wait and see how things go.

Olalan:
If you have undeniable evidence it's better you confront her now about it, but how can you be comfortable living with a cheating wife cause ladies who do such are capable of murder.

Kearl:
My wife is having an affair, but she hasnt known that I know that this is going on. Discovered about it not long ago. Still thinking d best course of action.

It was first d feeling of pain, but that phase has passed now. Right now I need to strategize on what next to do.

Still painful though, cos I never knew she could do such.

Just typing this to let off the steam.

CptBule:


It should be a good proof, but there is no point sending her packing when the deed is repeated by her because your in-laws may doubt the truth in the story. it is therefore even wiser to give them a call, to convene a meeting of her relatives, far and near, then you pay a visit, and with your evidence, express your disappointment in their daughter and the trainings she received, it is now left for them to call home their daughter and sleep with her for at least a week, putting into her a new orientation and reminding her of the family's integrity which she is set to destroy if she continues on her fool's path.

Oyindidi:
Talk to her about it

Kearl:


Just 1

CptBule:


It should be a good proof, but there is no point sending her packing when the deed is repeated by her because your in-laws may doubt the truth in the story. it is therefore even wiser to give them a call, to convene a meeting of her relatives, far and near, then you pay a visit, and with your evidence, express your disappointment in their daughter and the trainings she received, it is now left for them to call home their daughter and sleep with her for at least a week, putting into her a new orientation and reminding her of the family's integrity which she is set to destroy if she continues on her fool's path.

Kearl:


Trying to, but don’t want it to be based on emotions or anger.

CptBule:


Don't take him yet for a DNA test to confirm your paternity over the child. Not until you have fully established the fact she is cheating; with a hardware evidence not "i saw you with my eyes" something.

Acting without evidence may destroy your family even worse than adultery. Lay low and obtain a solid evidence. Before you test your child's paternity, your wife freedom from diseases, and invitation of your in-laws while grasping unto your evidence before their presence.

Kearl:


Thank you, but am scared of crashing d marriage. If our families know then d marriage is a goner.

Kearl:


Thank you, but am scared of crashing d marriage. If our families know then d marriage is a goner.

Oyindidi:
Are you a Christian? If yes, tell God to give a large heart. You doing well so far, tell her you know about what she did. And see how she'll react. Hope you're not only suspecting her?

Oyindidi:
Then handle it like a man. Though its painful

Kearl:


I know she did, not just suspecting. She’s smart and I want to gather enough b4 we sit down to talk or throw everything down d drain

CptBule:


LOL

You are scared of crashing a marriage with an adulterous wife?
You never carry disease. Or perhaps you are comfortable sleeping side-by-side with a betrayer.

Oyindidi:
Talk to her now, don't wait till the deed is done. Maybe she is yet to do the main thing

Oyindidi:
Talk to her now, don't wait till the deed is done. Maybe she is yet to do the main thing

Kearl:


Hmm, the maybe part is what I don’t have evidence of. But am sure there’s an emotional relationship going on with evidence.

Kearl:


It’s d love I have for her and the kid that’s affecting my judgment. I know I should just throw her out, but I think my heart is just too soft towards her.

Oyindidi:
Stop it before its too late. My brother, help her out of it. She may not really know what she's doing is wrong. If possible talk her this evening.

austyn0:
I don't know what kinda proof you have of the acclaimed affair your wife is having,, the subjectivity and authenticity of the proof will decide if you should continue with the marriage...

A marriage that has one of the partners having most importantly a sexual affair with an outsider is as good as dead.