CptBule:


If you don't have evidence, it is therefore not advisable to discuss with her over it, because she will turn the table around to acuse you of distrust towards your own wife and end up using emotional blackmail to win her argument.

If you have proofs, pictures or messages already sent to your own phone, sit her down and talk to her over it, let it be made clear that was the last you would tolerate, otherwise the marriage will be dissolved, after that you take her to clinic to test for sexually transmitted diseases, this is so that you know on time if she had contracted any disease while having extra-marital affair, it is important you do this, otherwise you would contract it too.

Oyindidi:
Lol, come beat me as he pain you like this.

kunleweb:



You got me cracking Okay let me gist you, last year a Nigerian man who had a FB group of married men was hinting men on finding out if their wives were faithful or not, he went on to tell alkl men in the group to do a DNA test on all their kids. Geez bro, come and see ladies sending the guy anonymous mails telling him to watch his back that if their husbands found out the kids aren't his, they're done for. It's not joke. Ladies like to be married for societal pressure these days but after marriage, they want to be free, loose and adventurous, it's a journey that ends in the lagoon

Kearl:


I have evidence , but with a good lawyer and emotional blackmail it could be turned around. Still waiting to see if I can get something more concrete. But it’s killing me though .

dairykidd:

Chai... Where are we going to like this sef. Na wah oo

vingeophysicist:
I am sorry oyindidi my Igbo sister i got carried away by my emotion.please forgive me

Oyindidi:
Talk to her about it

Diamond23:
What emotional blackmail dat z making u to die in hurtful silent in d name of not wanting ur marriage to crush.....R u jobless?, z she d breadwinner? Did u equally cheat on her dat made her wnt to revenge?

TonyeBarcanista:
Like seriously?

Will you give your brother or son same advice if they were to be in his shoes? (God forbid though)

Oyindidi:
That's your business. I don't need your sorry. I pray God to give a wife opposite of me

kunleweb:


see you. The other day one married lady told the cyberspace she preferred her husband broke her phone than release her PIN. Welcome to the new age bro. Men pad your hearts well.

Kearl:


I have evidence , but with a good lawyer and emotional blackmail it could be turned around. Still waiting to see if I can get something more concrete. But it’s killing me though .

dairykidd:

Lolzz.. Well... There are still some good ones sha so there's still hope.... We go marry na what to do but hope for the best & prep for the worst... But nothing i dread these days reach naija ladies. They are just rugged, desperate & evil for my liking

kunleweb:



Oyindidi is playing coy on this one.. Before now, she made sense and can be categorized as partially biased but on this one, it's clear to see the lady could be Oyindid's younger sister or friend, she's playing protective counseling like she has a stake in the cheating palaver. May God help people speak without fear of favor or support of gender. Oyindidi don fall hand big time. Men stay clear off her counsels from now plz.

TonyeBarcanista:

I'm surprised that she will give such advice that I can bet she won't give her brother or son.

The OP must let go of the wife if he really want to live a happy life

vingeophysicist:
igbo's we love each other irrespective of our differences. please once more forgive me.

TonyeBarcanista:

I'm surprised that she will give such advice that I can bet she won't give her brother or son.

The OP must let go of the wife if he really want to live a happy life

Kearl:
Still fighting between the love and the pain. Can I forgive after I confront her. Deep in thoughts.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Boredom
Poverty
Unsatisfying sexual experience with hubby
Bad habit
The devil
Just for the fun of it
To feel young again
shift in emotions
Domestic violence...

Causes of Infidelity in Marriages.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Be sincere, would you give a lady the advice to leave her husband cos she suspects he's cheating?

I'm not in support of infidelity but I really wanna understand why the double standard.
You didn't even ask the op to confirm his suspicions

kunleweb:



I agree, he's already giving himself an unfair treatment. This thing can be resolved one way or the other without him subjecting himself to emotional torture. Doesn't make sense.

TonyeBarcanista:

What is there to confirm pls? He is not a mad man that will just wake up to accuse his wife of cheating, there must have been reasons. Irrespective, the burden of proof lies in the accused (wife) not the Husband. The loyalty of a wife to her husband has to be absolute, the day she began to cheat is the day she lost it.

Women don't know how to separate sex from love unlike men. Women are usually emotionally connected to their sex partners unlike men that are less emotionally connected.

The consequences of a cheating husband is not same of a cheating wife.

I will always advice a woman whose husband cheats to consider temporal separation if she could afford it. The permanency of it will depends on some other factors

dairykidd:

There will always be an excuse to cheat but real issue is do u respect ur man enough to try to work things out as one or do u simply jump at the nearest willing outsider looking to take full advantage. Are u still keen on being his wife or another man's slut It all boils down to this : To be or not to be....

Diamond23:
Exactly!, instead of landing himself in d state of depression y not use d little evidence he had to confront his wife xo she becomes aware dat he knew nd retreat her steps since he z afraid of losing his family rather dan be forming FBI nd watch everything spoil

Diamond23:
Exactly!, instead of landing himself in d state of depression y not use d little evidence he had to confront his wife xo she becomes aware dat he knew nd retreat her steps since he z afraid of losing his family rather dan be forming FBI nd watch everything spoil

TonyeBarcanista:

What is there to confirm pls? He is not a mad man that will just wake up to accuse his wife of cheating, there must have been reasons. Irrespective, the burden of proof lies in the accused (wife) not the Husband. The loyalty of a wife to her husband has to be absolute, the day she begins to cheat is the day she lost it.

Women don't know how to separate sex from love unlike men. Women are usually emotionally connected to their sex partners unlike men that are less emotionally connected.

The consequences of a cheating husband is not same as that of a cheating wife.

I will always advice a woman whose husband cheats to consider temporal separation if she could afford it. The permanency of it will depends on some other factors

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
We'll have to ask the op's wife

kunleweb:



He has a fear which i don;t understand, though it's clear to see he loves more. She cares less, He holds the relationship and bears the weight of the burden, which is unequal and unhealthy in their case, so the slightest flinch he feels it. Babe, she's cheating forget it. This dude is the burden bearer of the relationship so when a bolt is missing it's easy for him to feel it, he's been overprotective has caused him to nurture her to spoilage. Hmm, there should be a medical test that tells if a married woman is cheating to save men from this kind of dilemma. This guy is burnt already, i feel for him