CaptJeffry:
Oga, let the sleeping dog lie biko. Either way, you'll still get hurt.

If she's your daughter, you'll live with the regrets of not trusting your wife when everything seems to be good with you guys and if she's not your daughter, the once happy family will turn to a soccer field.

Tallesty1:
What would you do if it turns out that she's not your blood? Throw her out? Adopt her? Or turn her to a househelp?

Oga. That girl is your daughter whether she's your blood or not so don't allow DNA to ruin your home.

memories1:
IF I were your wife, I would prefer you talk to me AND also do the DNA test. If the girl is truly yours, then I'd always dangle the guilt over your head.

Either way, communicate your doubts to your wife, do it with tact. The earlier you allay your fears the better. I'm sure she would agree to the test... but if she appears reluctant or begins to emotionally blackmail you....well, check each other's fidelity.

Oyindidi:
Baba T for President

If I'm your wife, the marriage will end after the DNA test.

Tallesty1:
I weak for some people. Let him continue searching for wetin no lost, he will surely find something

TheNaijaMan:
This is something I have been thinking about for some time now and I’m hoping I can get some mature advice here or have someone share their own experience

I have been married for 11 years now and our first daughter is 10. I also have another girl and then a set of twin boys. I have never had any cause to doubt the paternity of my last 3 kids and I have also never doubted my wife’s fidelity since we got married but a few years ago, some doubts crept into my mind about our first daughter as I recalled a few things that happened before she was born, when my wife and I just met essentially- but I would spare you all that.

Because of this doubt, I’m beginning to observe that, although I make every effort to conceal it, I have somewhat less affection for her than I do for her sister and brothers. I feel this is unfair to the little girl and I try to dismiss those thoughts but they come back occasionally and it also affects my peace of mind.

I had considered a secret DNA test as I do not want to upset my wife but the girl is all grown up and smart and I do not know how this can be done without her probably saying something about it to her mom and causing the same rift I want to avoid. I also considered speaking to my wife about it and getting her consent to do it but I have a feeling she might not like it and this might even have unpleasant effects on our marriage in the long run. So do I just leave it and continue to stomach those doubts and for how long? or should I discuss it with my wife and live with all the possible after-effects? This is my dilemma!

I love my wife and I believe she loves me too but I really don’t want to go to bed every time with these doubts or wake up someday when I’m quite old to realize she really isn’t my child.

Appreciate matured advises please. Thanks

chris2face:

Is weired to just wake up one day and ask ur wife for a DNA test on ur girl for me if am the wife not biggie i wil do that but thats the end of that marriage
I will tell the Op the let the sleeping dog lie

Oyindidi:
You just forget me sha.

Social media don destroy many happy homes, this op is next

cyndy1000:
What ever that might have happened in the past bury with the past. she might be your daughter she might not be. For God sake you have been fathering her for the past 10years while then. Show her love as you show her siblings, stop making her start feeling somehow based on your behavior towards her sometimes.
you might not know what that child will be tomorrow. everything thing happens for a reason. so just shut that thought off n live like a family. Telling your wife will break her emotionally

Moneyspeakingz:
Go for the DNA and dnt tell ur wife about it.
Before u
get her blood sample, play with a bit then tell her you want ur doctor to check if she has malaria parasite or u can say u want to knw r genetotype.Buy her sweet or any snacks then Leave the snacks to do the rest work