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Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 12:06pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
ipobarecriminals:Sir, I have no intent of doing that. It’d be petty of me. I will flee as you have advised. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by ipobarecriminals: 12:08pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
icamello:God bless U.. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 12:16pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
omogidi234:He has siblings and parents. His elder sister, brother and others had always try to intervene but he is always rude to them. The insult has become unbearable for them that they fear intervening further. I’ll cut all ties with him but I’m sure he wouldn’t still take that well. He’s the kind of person that wants things to go bad for you so you will realize your mistakes and come and beg him and he will go to any length to achieve that. But I will only be lying to say God hasn’t been faithful in disappointing him with our successes. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 12:22pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Orchid45:Thank you so much. An elderly man like a grandpa to us had called me to see him some days after that ugly event. Fortunately, I met my dad there, peddling all forms of lies and rumors as usual. He was shocked to see me. After the long talks, the man ordered me to apologise and I had no choice but to obey. Ever since, we haven’t talked nor have anything together. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 12:27pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Achieverbb:Wow! Your words are quite touching, I must say. May God continue to increase you in his wisdom. Thank you! |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 12:34pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Chubhie:I am really amazed at how much I’m learning here. It doesn’t take an Eisten to digest your words of wisdom. I’ll stay far and out of range as you suggested. He’s really destroying himself and some of his “alfas” have told him these but he just wouldn’t change. Very egoistic. God bless you sir! 1 Like |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 12:48pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Thank you, Nairaland family. I am so moved that I just shed a tear. My God will continue to bless you. To all those who contributed, God will meet you all at the points of your needs. May you never lack any good thing you desire. I feel good being able to share this with people after so many years, without the fear of being judged or stigmatised. Thank God it’s a faceless forum. Best I ever did was to write all my experiences on paper, a lot of them. Blame it on depression. It feels like you all lifted a heavy burden off my chest. God bless you all. I will be suspending all revenge plans I highlighted in my first post. I will flee, focus on my life and mum, get closer to God, push further on her getting a transfer out of that town. That should wrap it up! Nonetheless, I still hope he isn’t given the party ticket again at the coming elections. He never hesitates to brag about how he will deal with us (myself, mum and sister) when he “gets to Abuja”. Lol! |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by ImaIma1(f): 1:22pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Many men will neglect their families when the going is good and then become humble when things crumble. Let your dad be. Do not waste precious time and money that you could use to achieve much to fight him. Focus on your mum. She needs to be break free from your dad's hold or else she will continue to remain his vomit that he keeps going back to. 2 Likes |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Seahawk: 2:47pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
icamello: Wow. Just wow. You all together have the patience of saints. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Orchid45: 2:48pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
icamello:That's good to know. Since you've apologised keep your mum, sister and yourself far away from him. He can talk all he wants it won't affect you. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Mznaett: 3:25pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
There's bound to be pandemonium if you take any drastic action against him. So, the best thing to do is just to ignore him. Glad mum is out already. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Evacroft: 5:50pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
The man did not play any role raising u ,so take him just like ur biological father and not a daddy cos u dont have one. He will not change till he gets close to God or get humbled by poverty or old age. Dont seek for revenge cos being a bad father will hunt him one day,just pray he lives long to see u become a wealthy,good son,husband,father and over all be close to God ,U owe urself that. Leave him be and take good care of ur mother and sis.goodluck. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by greatcrown: 6:18pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
A wise person will choose his fight. This one is not your fight. Get a good job and make your mum comfortable. Move as far away as possible from your dad. If you can get a good man of your mum age, let her remarry and forget about your dad for ever. God bless you. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Toeyean1507(f): 7:47pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Salam brother. I don't usually do this but going tru your story and people's contributions will make me wanna enlighten u on d little I know about parents. See ehn, no matter d kinda xters your dad has, u don't have ANY RIGHT WHATSOEVER to insult, beat or disgrace him. Remember he sired u. The Qur'an taught us dat. Before u try to justify your reactions, I will tell u dat I've once been there. My mum though. Imagine my mum telling me ........ *sighs. I don't wanna go down that lane ever again . I became suicidal Well, Alhamdulillah, we are now best of friends. I will just implore u to try to relocate with your mum n sis and seek d advice of well meaning religious leaders n u keep praying for him. U will realize that it's wat I've said so far that u will told too. I did that and it worked for me. 'Ma ti ara aisedeede obi e wo ina' May Allah guide u into making d right decisions. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by KanwuliaExtra: 7:50pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
CHIMAMANDA come ooooooooo! 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 9:20pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Thank you sis, I am grateful. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 9:20pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Seahawk:Abii na |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 9:22pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Mznaett:I will sis. Thanks and God bless. 1 Like |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 9:27pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Evacroft:Well said! I know I don’t have a father and he has told me times without number to go look for my father elsewhere. With all the comments here, I don’t think I want to take up any form of revenge now. I owe everyone that contributed here that. But the way he goes around telling everyone lies about me and my mother really disgusts me. God bless you sister! |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 9:30pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
greatcrown:Thank you sir, I do appreciate your comment. Lol ever since we were young, we’ve always told her to go and remarry but she always says she can’t, because of us. She said if she does, we may suffer and she cannot stand that. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by icamello: 10:36pm On Jun 18, 2018 |
Toeyean1507:Thank you my brother. It’s good to hear from one with a similar experience. I don’t insult him. All I do is to always make it known to him that he wasn’t there for me, which he doesn’t like. And how I criticize him for smoking, drinking and adultery too because I can’t take it. Then there was this time my grandpa asked if I knew my step brothers and I said no. He later woke me up in the middle of the night to say next tome I deny them, he will fight me like is arch enemy. That was exactly how he said it. I did not beat him. Bro, what could I have done when he was hitting my mum right before us? Wait for him to kill her? I had to push him away and I did that lightly. Disgrace? Maybe. After the incident, people around gathered and I told them the kind of person he is and how he threatens me often with jazz and I told them that they should tell him to use the same jazz to heal his failing business and to complete his house that has been there for years and that I wanted a paternity test and so many ones shaa. That’s all. If you say I was wrong with that, then I ask for God’s forgiveness. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by nnamdibig(m): 5:44am On Jun 19, 2018 |
It's quite painful, but life is too short for all these. You are a young man with lots of energy, instead of using the energy against your dad, just leave him alone and focus on your mum. Channel your energy in making money. As a Christian, Christ mostly preached forgiveness, it may be hard for you but that's the only solution. Forgive him, move your mum far away from him and live your life..forget everything about him. Am sure when the chips are down, it will even be your mum that will come and beg you on his behalf and am sure you won't bear to see your mum beg you... so what happens then?? Forgive him and learn from all he is doing and move on happily. You are feeling this way because of your inability to let go of all the things he has done. Use your energy positively on you, your sis and your mum. You will feel better for it. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Sterope(f): 7:09am On Jun 19, 2018 |
icamello The NGO cannot do anything without the support of your mum I doubt if your mum will press charge's. It is not a viable option. Writing to the police will not solve anything either. You don't need to stress yourself. You need to accept that your mum is not going to listen. I qn sure she hs always dreamt of a day he woul come back crawlibg yo her and asking for forgiveness. Don't bother warning her away from him. However, you could threaten to abandon her if she reconciles with him again. You should not stop advising her even though you know that she will not listen, let her know that she should not allow anybody to use as a back-up plan. For those peace makers, find a way to let them know that you disapprove of their mission. You need to let go of all the anger against your dad. He doesn't deserve it. You can do without him in your life. Also, how about getting a man for your mother if she is still interested? That might keep her from wasting her time with your dad. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by sisisioge: 8:04am On Jun 19, 2018 |
Hmmmm...I think you should to leave him alone and move far away from him. I hope your mom have finally learnt her lesson. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Toeyean1507(f): 9:15am On Jun 19, 2018 |
icamello:To start with, I'm female. Keep asking for God's forgiveness on all that u said u ve done so far. As for him hitting your mum, u shud try to get a restraining order or something. Connect to an NGO that focus mainly on women and explain to them. They should be able to help u get something of sort. I repeat, do not engage in either verbal or physical abuse with him. U don't wanna end up like him, do u? Besides, two wrongs can never make a right. Keep praying for him too cos I know a man in his right senses wouldn't lay his hands on d woman he professes love to. Something is definitely amiss. It might not even be physical. |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by breadplanets(f): 9:42am On Jun 19, 2018 |
Op it is well. I feel you die. Wish we can talk privately. it is well |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by olabeetunde: 12:57pm On Jun 19, 2018 |
bruv i read ur post but ll tell u somthings dou might sound absurd but the truth when there are issues btw parents child(ren) have to be careful extra ordinarily so as not to see the WRATH of God through them.bruv u and ur mum and sis should try as much as possible keep arms lenght with him(avoid)mean ur dad dont tink of flexin muscle with him leave him to his CREATOR to judge him den u see wat happens ONLY GOD KNOWS BEST |
Re: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by miib: 3:26pm On Jun 19, 2018 |
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