When there's a list for what men should do before getting married, comman call me... It can't be a one sided thing

2buffagain:
@sarahade

Bring yourself here and learn sis

Sir why did you mention me in this thread now.
I will postpone your insult.
Let me tell you I'm a feminist which means I don't take bullshit and I don't give out bullshit.

Im also in love like crazy in love with my partner I cook,clean tell me what I don't do for him. I'm loyal you know Why? Because he deserves it like he is my dream come true.

Being a feminist doesn't teach you to be rude or you should misbehave or have a nasty attitude. it teaches you to have self respect and appreciate your self irrespective of your gender.
Thanks

HARDDON:


Because the mind controls life and living. The intangible controls the tangible and the seen, unseen.

A single lady that really values the institution of marriage should rather work on her mind and almost every other thing shall fall in place.

It is only then also that these your list can stand.


AREAS LADIES NEED MIND MENDING

1. WRONG Mind Set About Guys: " all men are dogs, cheats and unfaithful". You can't go into marriage with this consciousness lurking at the back of your mind. If you do, even if you meet a faithful guy, your thoughts would make a random sampling dog outa him.

The Bible is quite clear about that; " you shall have whatever you say." And " life and death are in the power of the tongue". Wonder how the mind is related to the tongue? well, "out of the abundance of the heart(mind), the mouth speaketh"

A lot of married ladies are actually responsible for their men cheating.
How can your Prince charming, the man you've waited and prayed to God for all your life be reduced to nothing but a dog in your mind? And you expect him not turn out as one?

I'm suprised by the way you are speaking here.I do follow that thread of yours dating drills and I saw where you advise guys to get as many options as possible and not to be with only one girl

Or has a girl finally gotten your balls ?

Elder001:



Misogynistic dug..

Cooking isn't the responsibility of a woman in marriage. Cooking is the responsibility of both spouses.

When you marry,tell that to your husband.

Rukkydelta:


I'm suprised by the way you are speaking here.I do follow that thread of yours dating drills and I saw where you advise guys to get as many options as possible and not to be with only one girl

Or has a girl finally gotten your balls ?

Don't get it twisted.
I stand by every word of mine: the greatest mistake a man can make is Having just one gurl at the centre of his life.

If you follow me aptly, you would have obviously come across the terms ROSE and FLOWERS and their respective purposes.

Hawt Ladies are very balanced around guys and easily swing them because they, never, at a point, narrow in fully to one guy unless he is exceptional.

Besides, there is a difference between being Single and Prepping seriously for Marriage.


Lastly,
follow, follow bumbum. I would have checked you out( see if you are worth my while) but now, my hands are full. Sorry.

2buffagain:


Well, he certainly can feel that way if she has chosen to go the "traditional" route of making him the sole bread winner.
It means him doing house chores is solely then left to his discretion.

That said, I will always want my woman to have an outlet into the world besides Home and children even if it means I do chores too.
It keeps the mind sharp and we can relate with each other better. Children will not always be there. They will soon leave and start their own. What then? Surely popping out babies isn't all you came here to do.

There's nothing I love more than being a power couple.
And if house chores becomes too much we can hire a maid to come deep clean the house couple times a week.


That said, I will always want my woman to have an outlet into the world besides Home and children. Keeps the mind sharp.

No woman can make you a traditional man or sole provider.

Being the sole provider is a choice many Nigerian men make because of their worthless ego not because of any woman.

Your life, your choice.

If you want to share bills, you share.
Don't tell me a woman forced you to foot all the bills.

sarahade:


Sir why did you mention me in this thread now.
I will postpone your insult.
Let me tell you I'm a feminist which means I don't take bullshit and I don't give out bullshit.

Im also in love like crazy in love with my partner I cook,clean tell me what I don't do for him. I'm loyal you know Why? Because he deserves it like he is my dream come true.

Being a feminist doesn't teach you to be rude or you should misbehave or have a nasty attitude. it teaches you to have self respect and appreciate your self irrespective of your gender.
Thanks

Feminist is now the most abused word on social media.

In Nigeria feminist and the word “broke” have turned into national anthem.

Even people that can't fend for themselves without depending on a man will be calling themselves feminist.

Pataricatering:
you men must all be useless animals then ,Since you generally insist on submission from women !

will u shut ur dirty mouth are we mate.did i blog for u

Elder001:



Feminist is now the most abused word on social media.

In Nigeria feminist and the word “broke” have turned into national anthem.

Even people that can't fend for themselves without depending on a man will be calling themselves feminist.

So feminism is how much you have smh

You are not ok

sarahade:


So feminism is how much you have smh

You are not ok

Define feminism.. I can bet your type don't even know the different types of feminism.

If you aren't independent you're not a feminist

Read up the meaning of feminism again and stop disgracing real feminists.

Goodnight.

sarahade:


Sir why did you mention me in this thread now.
I will postpone your insult.
Let me tell you I'm a feminist which means I don't take bullshit and I don't give out bullshit.

Im also in love like crazy in love with my partner I cook,clean tell me what I don't do for him. I'm loyal you know Why? Because he deserves it like he is my dream come true.

Being a feminist doesn't teach you to be rude or you should misbehave or have a nasty attitude. it teaches you to have self respect and appreciate your self irrespective of your gender.
Thanks

LOL I don't think you know what a feminist is.

Pataricatering:
men now want women who earn but they want the woman to be still be submissive ! The two don’t go together ! You can’t eat your cake and still have it !

A dominant lady doesn't necessarily have to be earning much to dominate a man. They're many ladies who dominate their wealthy men yet they ( the ladies themselves) are not rich. A dominant lady being rich is just a bonus.

The fact that some men don't seem to realize, and those who have realized, don't want to accept, is that being dominant is a natural trait.

Dominant women are being constantly forced by our male-dominated society to suppress the dominant urge within them which is constantly seeking expression through them. As a result, they're being forced to live a life that is alien to to their true nature. Now that women have been so pushed to the wall by men to the extent that they are forced to come out of their shells to struggle to liberate themselves, the very men who are forcing them to live unfulfilled life are crying foul.


Of course, liberation always doesn't come without struggle of some sort.

2buffagain:


LOL I don't think you know what a feminist is.

Enlighten me please.

Elder001:


Define feminism.. I can bet your type don't even know the different types of feminism.

If you aren't independent you're not a feminism.

Read up the meaning of feminism again and stop disgracing real feminists.

Goodnight.

Lol I'm not a feminism(Please correct yourself)
So even if I don't know the definition of feminism I cannot Google it abi.

You are not ok and I'm sure I'm more independent than you and your sorry ass ego.

Good morning.
You should know what feminism is all about before attacking it and it's movement like an ignorant fool.

If I'm disgracing real feminist how does it add an inch to your penis. Stop using panadol for someone else's headache.

Both lists from the OP and the other gentlemen were actually pretty good.
The thing is that both can/should be used by both genders.

Elder001:


Is this an excuse? that you've a kid doesn't stop you from working..

Hire a nanny.

housewife in the 21st century and you're not ashamed.

I'M not a housewife.

Im proud of those who raise their children themselves.
I can tell u are not married or have a child...

sarahade:


Lol I'm not a feminism(Please correct yourself)
So even if I don't know the definition of feminism I cannot Google it abi.

You are not ok and I'm sure I'm more independent than you and your sorry ass ego.

Good morning.
You should know what feminism is all about before attacking it and it's movement like an ignorant fool.

If I'm disgracing real feminist how does it add an inch to your penis. Stop using panadol for someone else's headache.

Lol. Insulting like a 13year old kid.

I'm sure you don't even know the meaning of financial independence.

Do you think there's one type of feminism? Feminism has 8 different categories/types.

I'm not surprised that a typical kid will try to argue things that are way higher than her intellectual faculty.

YelloweWest:


I'M not a housewife.

Im proud of those who raise their children themselves.

Stop quoting me.
Go out there make money and contribute to the family.

desiregold:
what does my marital status got to do with my post?

And even if i am single,,is it a crime?

So a pregnant woman dont have to earn money?
so a nursing mother dont have to earn money too?

Does being pregnant or nursing a baby stops you from paying bill? As long you are aldult, hale and hearty, then you owe it to yourself to be making money.

I live by the princple of "He who do not work, shd not eat".

so, please and please, stop making excuses for laziness. Stop making excuses for poverty.

Its not a crime to be single dear, however it's clear you are ignorant.
A pregnant woman who can't work due to the stress of pregnancy is not lazy. You won't know this maybe because you've not experienced it.
A nursing mother also can't work because a new born till 2years usually requires 24/7 care. Again you won't know this maybe because you've not experienced it!
When the baby turns 2, a lot of women are pregnant again so the cycle continues until she is done baring kids.

A woman who is raising her family is not lazy and works 24/7. Don't worry you'll experience it.
She must be take care of by her husband UNTIL she is post delivery and nursing.

Tellemall:


This is a case of Nigerians trying to be more westernized than the West.

Out in the West men try as much as possible to have a house wife, because she will take care of her kids properly. Unless they both agree they need money or that she should pursue her career. Sometimes if she is ambitious the man will become a house husband, and believe me, he cannot work once he's taking care of that child.

But by Nigerian logic he should be able to take care of the child and bring the wife money to show that he is important in the Union, while all she has to do is go to work, have drinks after work before coming back to run a finger along surfaces to know if such a man did his duties as a good house husband.

Nigerians want a robot or dog, not wives. They want her to bring them money and do everything, while they just bring money without doing anything. That is the Nigerian definition of equality between the genders. It means that a woman will fulfill all her responsibilities in addition to bringing money while the man only brings in money. He has no responsibility outside that. If she takes her job seriously he begins to get jealous or accuse her of being incapable of being a good robot.

A very wrong understanding of sustainability in marriage.

The wrong things you see here are reflective of very damaged single men who will eventually look for dogs or robots to marry.

Well said. I'm shocked by some comments from women honestly. If a woman is pregnant and nursing why won't the man step up and be the sole breadwinner of the family?

It's crazy. One even said who does not work should not eat!

So a wife raising her husband's children is not even entitled to food... smh

mypassions:


Nothing wrong but using the word “Submissive” make it sound offensive, it’s better to say “Respect”. The wife should be submissive and why the husband should respect. Simple!

My brother that's exactly the way the word submissive offends me as a woman too!

My husband and I submit to one another. So it's 50/50.

We live by the principle don't do what you wouldn't want to be don to you. Shikena.

Elder001:
Lol. Insulting like a 13year old kid.

I'm sure you don't even know the meaning of financial independence.

Do you think there's one type of feminism? Feminism has 8 different categories/types.

I'm not surprised that a typical kid will try to argue things that are way higher than her intellectual faculty.

At least I'm 13 and I use my head unlike you our great grandfather.

I don't know what financial independence is? I don't know what feminism is what do I know?

Well one thing I know is I should stop arguing with my grandfather about who I am.

You don't define me and what I do. If financial independence makes a person a feminist then I'm done with you.

You know nothing so my children can't be feminist because I feed them or my parents or cousin can't be feminist because I take care of them.

You Are dump sir.

Feminism is equal right for both sexes lame man definition o.
So if I don't have money I should not be treated fairly
You are sick. Please don't quote me again.

And I'm sure I earn more than your hungry ass you think typing grammar makes you rich empty vessel.
Mtcheew

YelloweWest:

Well said. I'm shocked by some comments from women honestly. If a woman is pregnant and nursing why won't the man step up and be the sole breadwinner of the family?

It's crazy. One even said who does not work should not eat!

So a wife raising her husband's children is not even entitled to food... smh

I wont quote you again after this post.

You keep shouting ignorant all over this thread because we have different opinion from you.

there are bizness pregnant and nursing mothers can still be doing even at home.

Cant a pregnant woman or nursing be selling drinks and snacks from her home? Cant she be selling recgarge cards from her home? Cant she work as paga /quickteller agent from home?

My point is a woman who is healthy should not be waiting for her husband for every cent and kobo.

There is dignity in labour.

And what do you mean by a "woman raising her husband's children" Madam, are they not her children too? Raising of children is not a one person thing, both couple are doing it together in their own way.

yet, the husbands is still bringing in money even with him partaking in raising those children. why then should we make excuses for the woman?

desiregold:
I wont quote you again after this post.

You keep shouting ignorant all over this thread because we have different opinion from you.

there are bizness pregnant and nursing mothers can still be doing even at home.

Cant a pregnant woman or nursing be selling drinks and snacks from her home? Cant she be selling recgarge cards from her home? Cant she work as paga /quickteller agent from home?

My point is a woman who is healthy should not be waiting for her husband for every cent and kobo.

There is dignity in labour.

And what do you mean by a "woman raising her husband's children" Madam, are they not her children too? Raising of children is not a one person thing, both couple are doing it together in their own way.

yet, the husbands is still bringing in money even with him partaking in raising those children. why then should we make excuses for the woman?

What of those not internet inclined? It's easier said than done for women who fall sick or is taking care of multiple infants. Yes there is dignity in labour. Nursing and raising infants is full time labour.

desiregold:
what does my marital status got to do with my post?

And even if i am single,,is it a crime?

So a pregnant woman dont have to earn money?
so a nursing mother dont have to earn money too?

Does being pregnant or nursing a baby stops you from paying bill? As long you are aldult, hale and hearty, then you owe it to yourself to be making money.

I live by the princple of "He who do not work, shd not eat".

so, please and please, stop making excuses for laziness. Stop making excuses for poverty.

You be betta human being

sarahade:


At least I'm 13 and I use my head unlike you our great grandfather.

I don't know what financial independence is? I don't know what feminism is what do I know?

Well one thing I know is I should stop arguing with my grandfather about who I am.

You don't define me and what I do. If financial independence makes a person a feminist then I'm done with you.

You know nothing so my children can't be feminist because I feed them or my parents or cousin can't be feminist because I take care of them.

You Are dump sir.

Feminism is equal right for both sexes lame man definition o.
So if I don't have money I should not be treated fairly
You are sick. Please don't quote me again.

And I'm sure I earn more than your hungry ass you think typing grammar makes you rich empty vessel.
Mtcheew

With this kind of grammer I'm sure you're not through with university not to talk of having a job.

These kids though!

YelloweWest:

What of those not internet inclined? It's easier said than done for women who fall sick or is taking care of multiple infants. Yes there is dignity in labour. Nursing and raising infants is full time labour.

Your comments are very ridiculous and primitive!
Thinking like someone living in 1955 smh

That you've a kid doesn't stop you from working, stop giving baseless excuses.

If the man's mom or your mom can't do omougwo then hire a nanny and continue with your job.

Nanny is cheap in Nigeria. You just want to be a lazy stay at home wife not anything else.

Pregnancy doesn't stop you from working .

Lazy woman. C'mon go and work and contribute to the family wellbeing.

Elder001:


With this kind of grammer I'm sure you're not through with university not to talk of having a job.

These kids though!

Sorry o ancientof days. I'm sure I earn more than you. And I have more degree and certification than your hungry self

I'm a terrible writer especially when I'm angry.
But as long as you get the message I'm good.

Don t ever quote me again. Pathetic fool.

sarahade:


Sorry o ancientof days. I'm sure I earn more than you. And I have more degree and certification than your hungry self

I'm a terrible writer especially when I'm angry.
But as long as you get the message I'm good.

Don t ever quote me again. Pathetic fool.

How old are you?

Elder001:


How old are you?

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