MrBrownJay1:
it all depends on a lot of issues....BUT, if a man does NOT want to pay the whole bill (and prefer to go Dutch), then let him say it to the babe BEFORE she orders like a mad woman, so she can decide if sshe wants to continue on this date.

as for me, if i invite a babe for dinner, i will pay for it, but if a babe demand that we meet at a restaurant then she certainly should pay for her own share. no big deal!

proud member of the Association Of Stingy Men of NL

MariaLavina:
Whoever initiates the date.

MrBrownJay1:


A) that would be too easy as we all know that most women in Nigeria believe that a man should ask them out FIRST

B) if a man asks a babe on a date at the park, then after a few hours there, shes says she is hungry, why shouldnt she pay for her own hunger?! or should the man pay, even if he is not hungry?!

MariaLavina:
True that! Due to some unfavorable societal rules and norms, it is expected of the Man to ask a Woman out and not the other way around. Women aren't expected to be that expressive ( relationships, sex, emotions ). So you can't blame women who are still confounded by this rules.
But I must bring to your notice that not all Dates are sexually related (Romantic dates). Some can be platonic ( two friends can go on dates) ,some can be for business purpose(s).

B) When you imitate a date, you are indirectly asking for the person's time, space, attention and probably money (transportation if you aren't providing ) . The person might have left some things undone to be with you ,You are taking them away from their comfort zones. It will be sane to make such one comfortable, the person is entitled to security, peaceful atmosphere, entertainment (depending on the type of date) and most importantly refreshments.

Now I, it is the invitees responsibility to conduct his or herself and watch what is ordered. So yes! whoever initiates a date should be ready to bear the risk. To avoid stories, watch who you ask out on dates.

MrBrownJay1:


i have to lay half of the blame on women, because even though they understand the above issue, they STILL expect a man to pay for their hunger (after he asked them out)....while they should instead realise that the reason he asked is because if he didnt, you guys would have NEVER gone on a date.



you are AGAIN half right here...A) we both take time out of our own lives to make this date happen. thinking that men have nothing better to do in their lives (than do go on dates with women), is a joke. when a man and woman go on a date, they are BOTH taking time out of their lives to spend it with one another, thus each should value that date accordingly....and B) water is a very refreshing drink, and peanut are great snacks. sadly, many women forget that when on dates and having food (that they aint paying for)



sadly, unless a man ask you on a date at a restaurant, your hunger issues are solely yours, and if that man decides to settle them, then be greatful to that man (and if he doesnt so be it). the best way to control paying for what you are not willing to pay, is to simply say "NO" when asked to go mingle in a restaurant. how is what a man going tell you gonna sound better in a eatery?! i dont get it.

MariaLavina:
Since you emphasis on the Romantic date, I think I will leave others out and focus on Man and Woman kind of date.

I think I blame Men for some women 's excessive ordering on dates. These Women don't just order,Something gave them the go ahead. The man's approach, and persuasive method.When women want you off their backs , they act this way too. A woman who is into you, or wants something serious with you will be on her best behavior anytime she's with you. Indoors or outdoors. But must Men do not get this simple truth. No sane woman will order like a glutton on a first date.

Yes they are both taking their time to spend together, but one requested. Meaning one wants it most. First dates remember? Just getting to know each other.

If any Man ask me out my well being is solely his responsibility. It is my duty though to protect my image and order not expensive.

MrBrownJay1:


the above is very easy to understand....you see, as we all understand that men in Nigeria MUST ask babes on dates, many broke hungry miserable women would use that as a way to get free food. so they will pretend to be interested in that said man, just to get in the restaurant and order as much as they can, like glutton. men, sadly, blinded by their misplaced ego (and afraid to be called cheap) wont say anything, and instead will foolishly believe that it is a small price to pay in order to have unrestricted access to the babe's cootie cat..... unfortunately, they are fooling themselves, and wont get anywhere close to these bandits panties.



nooooooo....we BOTH want it, but due to social pressures, women have to wait for men to do the 1st move.... and unless a babe goes on dates for free food, she has NO business accepting to go on dates with a man she is NOT interested in. so , yes, we BOTH want it.



sista, wait a minute...so you mean to say that (in your mind) going on a date with a stranger is NOT to get to know one another, spend enjoyable time together etc? and you will put your life's wellbeing in the hands of this stranger? as you both dont know one another, your wellbeing should be YOUR responsibility until you get acquainted with one another, and even at that, is it wrong if a man asks you to have dinner at home before going on date, where he will offer you only chilled water?

MrBrownJay1:
it all depends on a lot of issues....BUT, if a man does NOT want to pay the whole bill (and prefer to go Dutch), then let him say it to the babe BEFORE she orders like a mad woman, so she can decide if sshe wants to continue on this date.

as for me, if i invite a babe for dinner, i will pay for it, but if a babe demand that we meet at a restaurant then she certainly should pay for her own share. no big deal!


proud member of the Association Of Stingy Men of NL

gbenyi:
About three decades ago, after having a swell time on a date with someone of opposite gender, it was customary for the server to place the bill directly in front of the man. Today, times have changed as have customs and traditions. The server places the bill in the middle, making a 50 50 chance or an equal probable split. This, however, may lead to the first disagreement of the evening.

Some argue that it is kind of customary for the man to pick up the bill, but this really should be a personal opinion thing and everyone is entitled to one. From the first perspective, lately women have been trying to establish themselves to be equal to men in all spheres of life; especially in pay, the kitchen and the other room. So why not on this one?

I would like to know specifically the opinion of feminists on this one.

WHO SHOULD PAY THE BILL ON A FIRST DATE?

https://chofam.com/2018/06/who-should-pay-the-bill-on-a-first-date-guy-or-lady/

gbenyi:
About three decades ago, after having a swell time on a date with someone of opposite gender, it was customary for the server to place the bill directly in front of the man. Today, times have changed as have customs and traditions. The server places the bill in the middle, making a 50 50 chance or an equal probable split. This, however, may lead to the first disagreement of the evening.

Some argue that it is kind of customary for the man to pick up the bill, but this really should be a personal opinion thing and everyone is entitled to one. From the first perspective, lately women have been trying to establish themselves to be equal to men in all spheres of life; especially in pay, the kitchen and the other room. So why not on this one?

I would like to know specifically the opinion of feminists on this one.

WHO SHOULD PAY THE BILL ON A FIRST DATE?

https://chofam.com/2018/06/who-should-pay-the-bill-on-a-first-date-guy-or-lady/

Biglittlelois:
A guy that doesnt pay the bill on the first date doesnt want something serious with you, he just wants to "chop" and run

A lady that orders like a glutton who have not seen food before doesnt want something serious with you, she just wants to 'chop" and run.

MrBrownJay1:
it all depends on a lot of issues....BUT, if a man does NOT want to pay the whole bill (and prefer to go Dutch), then let him say it to the babe BEFORE she orders like a mad woman, so she can decide if sshe wants to continue on this date.

as for me, if i invite a babe for dinner, i will pay for it, but if a babe demand that we meet at a restaurant then she certainly should pay for her own share. no big deal!

proud member of the Association Of Stingy Men of NL

MrCork:



...Bro am a plaYa...women do the paying...all ways! (Real kalk )

milemimi93:


According to Association Of Nigerian Women Mentality..

The man should pay the bill.

gbenyi:

A typical nigerian girl would be so richer than her boyfriend, initiate the date, order whatever she likes and yet not even look at the bill. This attitude needs to change.

MissRaine69:
This is hard to gage , I am more than happy to go Dutch as I have an affinity for the finer things in life so I am cautious not to saddle the date with a high bill. But this caused a massive row once so now I would like to know how guys feel about this?

Timewilltell3:





You are either a South African lazy idiot, only them let women pay for everything. Or you are a stupid uncultured igbo boy.

Timewilltell3:




Lazy idiot spotted. Be a man.

MissRaine69:
This is hard to gage , I am more than happy to go Dutch as I have an affinity for the finer things in life so I am cautious not to saddle the date with a high bill. But this caused a massive row once so now I would like to know how guys feel about this?

MariaLavina:
True that! Due to some unfavorable societal rules and norms, it is expected of the Man to ask a Woman out and not the other way around. Women aren't expected to be that expressive ( relationships, sex, emotions ). So you can't blame women who are still confounded by this rules.
But I must bring to your notice that not all Dates are sexually related (Romantic dates). Some can be platonic ( two friends can go on dates) ,some can be for business purpose(s).

B) When you imitate a date, you are indirectly asking for the person's time, space, attention and probably money (transportation if you aren't providing ) . The person might have left some things undone to be with you ,You are taking them away from their comfort zones. It will be sane to make such one comfortable, the person is entitled to security, peaceful atmosphere, entertainment (depending on the type of date) and most importantly refreshments.

Now I, it is the invitees responsibility to conduct his or herself and watch what is ordered. So yes! whoever initiates a date should be ready to bear the risk. To avoid stories, watch who you ask out on dates.