nlPoster:
Such things are based on a lot of factors:

Is it the culture where you come from, to marry someone your parents disapprove of

What reasons did your parents give

Why are you marrying someone your parents don't want you to marry

How involved are your parents with you and your decisions as an adult

masterflowx:
Oya OSU people over to you...

Michellekabod2:
my parents have always insisted we marry our fellow Igbos yet only Yoruba guys come for me

Omar09:
I will listen to my parents especially my mom if she has a valid reason that has nothing to do with Tribalism.

My uncle when he wanted to get married brought home a woman who was very beautiful, but his mom refused saying she's a single mom with kids tho his mom was just seeing the woman for the first time. Long story short, my uncle went ahead with the marriage and today....! He is wrecked! By the same woman his mom warned him about. He's mom's late (rest her soul). Now my uncle just found out this year that his wife had five kids for the first husband.

Now tell me why I shouldn't listen to my parents?

Omar09:
I will listen to my parents especially my mom if she has a valid reason that has nothing to do with Tribalism.


My uncle when he wanted to get married brought home a woman who was very beautiful, but his mom refused saying she's a single mom with kids tho his mom was just seeing the woman for the first time.
Long story short, my uncle went ahead with the marriage and today....! He is wrecked! By the same woman his mom warned him about. He's mom's late (rest her soul). Now my uncle just found out this year that his wife had five kids for the first husband.

Now tell me why I shouldn't listen to my parents?

MrBrownJay1:


the important questions would be: do you put that much importance on tribe? and/or what type of guys YOU go after?

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WHAT ABOUT THOSE WHO ARE WRECKED AFTER FOLLOWING THEIR PARENTS ADVICE?

MrBrownJay1:


its called LIFE, and just as much people listen to their parent's choices and FAIL MISERABLY...

MrBrownJay1:


... you forgot the most important question:
- are you gonna live your married life with your parents or you spouse?
- whats more important in such issue, whats best for YOU or whats best for your parents?
- why would your parent have a say in who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
- how old are you that you cant even choose your future wife by yourself?
- would you rather be happy in life while others are upset with your choices OR miserable in life while others are happy with your choices?

Michellekabod2:
No,I don't put importance on that.

Go after guys? You mean my spec or who I go heed over heels for? If you meant the former,they are simple: dark,tall,atheist/theist,any tribe or race,smart,introvert etc

Michellekabod2:
my parents have always insisted we marry our fellow Igbos yet only Yoruba guys come for me

Omar09:
I will listen to my parents especially my mom if she has a valid reason that has nothing to do with Tribalism.


My uncle when he wanted to get married brought home a woman who was very beautiful, but his mom refused saying she's a single mom with kids tho his mom was just seeing the woman for the first time. Long story short, my uncle went ahead with the marriage and today....! He is wrecked! By the same woman his mom warned him about. He's mom's late (rest her soul). Now my uncle just found out this year that his wife had five kids for the first husband.

Now tell me why I shouldn't listen to my parents?

Omar09:
I will listen to my parents especially my mom if she has a valid reason that has nothing to do with Tribalism.


My uncle when he wanted to get married brought home a woman who was very beautiful, but his mom refused saying she's a single mom with kids tho his mom was just seeing the woman for the first time. Long story short, my uncle went ahead with the marriage and today....! He is wrecked! By the same woman his mom warned him about. He's mom's late (rest her soul). Now my uncle just found out this year that his wife had five kids for the first husband.

Now tell me why I shouldn't listen to my parents?

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IT'S LIKE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING. I KNEW WHAT TO EXPECT BEFORE LAUNCHING THIS THREAD.
ABLE BODIED ADULTS EVEN UP TO 50 YEARS OLD ALLOW THEIR PARENTS DECIDE FOR THEM.
IT'S ONLY IN NIGERIA THAT TWO PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR UP TO 15 YEARS, WILL DECIDE NOT TO MARRY THEMSELVES, NOT BECAUSE OF ANY PERSONAL DIFFERENCES, BUT SIMPLY BECAUSE THE MAN'S MOTHER DOESN'T LIKE THE GIRL, OR THE GIRL'S PARENTS WON'T LET HER MARRY FROM OUTSIDE THEIR CHURCH.
YOU CAN NEVER CONVINCE THESE FOOLS THAT THEIR PARENTS ARE FALLIBLE BECAUSE THEY ALREADY SEE THEIR PARENTS AS SECOND IN COMMAND AFTER GOD.
THEIR PARENTS TELL THEM WHO TO MARRY, WHAT TO DO, WHERE TO GO, SOME EVEN WHAT TO WEAR. AND THESE ARE GROWN PEOPLE, MY MAN, IS IT NOT CRAZY?

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IT'S LIKE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING. I KNEW WHAT TO EXPECT BEFORE LAUNCHING THIS THREAD.
ABLE BODIED ADULTS EVEN UP TO 50 YEARS OLD ALLOW THEIR PARENTS DECIDE FOR THEM.
IT'S ONLY IN NIGERIA THAT TWO PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR UP TO 15 YEARS, WILL DECIDE NOT TO MARRY THEMSELVES, NOT BECAUSE OF ANY PERSONAL DIFFERENCES, BUT SIMPLY BECAUSE THE MAN'S MOTHER DOESN'T LIKE THE GIRL, OR THE GIRL'S PARENTS WON'T LET HER MARRY FROM OUTSIDE THEIR CHURCH.
YOU CAN NEVER CONVINCE THESE FOOLS THAT THEIR PARENTS ARE FALLIBLE BECAUSE THEY ALREADY SEE THEIR PARENTS AS SECOND IN COMMAND AFTER GOD.
THEIR PARENTS TELL THEM WHO TO MARRY, WHAT TO DO, WHERE TO GO, SOME EVEN WHAT TO WEAR. AND THESE ARE GROWN PEOPLE, MY MAN, IS IT NOT CRAZY?

CAPSLOCKED:
CHIWETALU AGU'S CHARM CAN RUIN YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY THOUGH.

Michellekabod2:
my parents have always insisted we marry our fellow Igbos yet only Yoruba guys come for me

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IT'S LIKE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING. I KNEW WHAT TO EXPECT BEFORE LAUNCHING THIS THREAD.
ABLE BODIED ADULTS EVEN UP TO 50 YEARS OLD ALLOW THEIR PARENTS DECIDE FOR THEM.
IT'S ONLY IN NIGERIA THAT TWO PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR UP TO 15 YEARS, WILL DECIDE NOT TO MARRY THEMSELVES, NOT BECAUSE OF ANY PERSONAL DIFFERENCES, BUT SIMPLY BECAUSE THE MAN'S MOTHER DOESN'T LIKE THE GIRL, OR THE GIRL'S PARENTS WON'T LET HER MARRY FROM OUTSIDE THEIR CHURCH.
YOU CAN NEVER CONVINCE THESE FOOLS THAT THEIR PARENTS ARE FALLIBLE BECAUSE THEY ALREADY SEE THEIR PARENTS AS SECOND IN COMMAND AFTER GOD.
THEIR PARENTS TELL THEM WHO TO MARRY, WHAT TO DO, WHERE TO GO, SOME EVEN WHAT TO WEAR. AND THESE ARE GROWN PEOPLE, MY MAN, IS IT NOT CRAZY?

masterflowx:
Oya OSU people over to you...

nlPoster:


Is something bothering you?

Especially considering this post of yours:



https://www.nairaland.com/5716960/devil-cant-curse-what-god#87136303

MrBrownJay1:


many dont marry for love and/or the desire to spend the rest of their natural life with their chosen one, they do so to appease family/society/religion. so many have been brainwashed by their parents since childhood about this marriage thingy, since childhood they have been told to find a specific person (tribe/religion/class/gender/complexion etc) to bring home, and sadly, you marrying someone goes deeper than just the two of you.... their parents will use that as a bragging right in the community, so
its very important to them that you marry who they desire so that THEY can be happy. because sadly in their failed mindset, THEIR happiness is much more important than yours.

Michellekabod2:
many soul mates and true lovers have been split because of their parents bigotry and tribalism.

OUR YOUTHS SUBSCRIBE TO THE "WHAT AN ELDER CAN SEE WHILE SITTING, A YOUNG MAN WILL NEVER SEE EVEN WHEN HE CLIMBS A MOUNTAIN" MANTRA. THIS IS INSULTING TO OUR INTELLIGENCE I SWEAR.

HOW CAN AN OLD PALMWINE DRINKING UNCLE FROM THE CAVE IN YOUR VILLAGE KNOW MORE THAN YOU WHO IS ADVANCED IN MANY FIELDS OF STUDY?

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I'M ALRIGHT.



THIS IS QUITE UNFORTUNATE. AND TODAY'S YOUNG MINDS ALLOW THEIR PARENTS GET AWAY WITH THESE THINGS BECAUSE THEY CARE SO MUCH ABOUT THEIR PARENTS EMOTIONS. THIS IS STUPID.




OUR YOUTHS SUBSCRIBE TO THE "WHAT AN ELDER CAN SEE WHILE SITTING, A YOUNG MAN WILL NEVER SEE EVEN WHEN HE CLIMBS A MOUNTAIN" MANTRA. THIS IS INSULTING TO OUR INTELLIGENCE I SWEAR.

HOW CAN AN OLD PALMWINE DRINKING UNCLE FROM THE CAVE IN YOUR VILLAGE KNOW MORE THAN YOU WHO IS ADVANCED IN MANY FIELDS OF STUDY?

masterflowx:
Oya OSU people over to you...