Hmmmm

its good to listen to you parents point of view and decide if its good for you..in the end you would reap the consequence either good or bad and they may no longer be around so be wise and chop liver so that whatever betides you would still sail through.

What’s my parents concern with who I’m marrying? Na dem dey Wife am?

In a way I would marry someone who my parents don't agree with. And it also depends on the reason why they said no nothing is ever one-sided

my popsy wey marry 4 wives wan tell me who to marry? He doesn’t have the moral standard to do so. I think my pops opinion would be trashed! My mum? Well, I’ll pay attention to details .

Never, I wish I knew will be the regret last last

Yes why not
Is she going to live with them for the rest of her life...
Besides my parents allows everyone to make their choices they can only advice you and let you make your choice.

Michellekabod2:
my parents have always insisted we marry our fellow Igbos yet only Yoruba guys come for me

dee there
Marry someone who will forever love and appreciate u regardless where they come
However must be responsible
I don tuk my own

MrBrownJay1:


... you forgot the most important question:
- are you gonna live your married life with your parents or you spouse?
- whats more important in such issue, whats best for YOU or whats best for your parents?
- why would your parent have a say in who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
- how old are you that you cant even choose your future wife by yourself?
- would you rather be happy in life while others are upset with your choices OR miserable in life while others are happy with your choices?

Very brilliant thoughts you have there.

StrikeBack:
See them with their nonsense underbearing attitude

Later you'll start complaining of Racism

I will never support Yoruba-Igbo marriage, Yoruba don't value family like the Igbo's.abeg abeg, you guys should keep marrying ur women biko

my parents have always insisted we marry our fellow Igbos yet only Yoruba guys come for me[center][the Igbo ladys are meant for yoruba boy like us,]we love you ...ewatago!

If there reason is not cogent enough, yes I will.

spiritmasquerad:
In a way I would marry someone who my parents don't agree with. And it also depends on the reason why they said no nothing is ever one-sided

One day, you'll be alone.. All alone with your wife. Not your parents.

MadeINchenzen2:
perhaps it could be reasons honed from love... perhaps it could be reasons that has to do with his or her money.

what will you do if your parents refuses to give you their consent or permission to go on and marry that guy or lady?

Yes if I’m 90/100 % sure I know what I’m doing. Parents are only advisory they won’t live with u bt u need to understand if their concerns are valid ones or frivolous.

I surely would. they're too conventional, tribalistic, and sentimental

Viicfuntop:

Mama’s boy is all I see here, justifying it by this post.

You say that like it's a disgusting.

Lol...

Yes but that's my father only and late.would only listen to my dad .my mother makes poor decisions...though for the ladies right but I am not omo mummy so I have never heard or does what she says..

Go in yourself and go hard. Face the consequences of your decision..sit Dow. Middle of the night and think about it...no going back or withdrawso not be decieved by beauty though...that's one thing that can lead one astray..your church mind can never deceive you so make your decisions and stick by it...die with your pride and decisions as a man.

Omo mummy die well ooo

Most times parents are wrong, what if they are dead so u won't marry? Or u will take the girl to their grave to tell them to help u decide?

MOST MARRIAGES WITHOUT PARENTAL SUPPORT, AGREEMENTS AND BLESSINGS, ALMOST ALWAYS END IN REGRETS AND UNMITIGATED DISASTER. IF THE INEVITABLE HAPPENS, YOU HAVE NO PLACE TO RUN TO AND YOUR PARENTS WILL SAY: " DID I NOT WARN YOU"? SO GET YOUR PARENTAL BLESSINGS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE. YOU HEAR ME SO. THE WORDS OF OUR ELDERS ARE WORDS OF WISDOM. WHATEVER AN OLD PERSON SEES WHILE LYING DOWN, A CHILD WILL NEVER SEE EVEN WHEN HE OR SHE CLIMBS THE TALLEST IROKO.

Again another Yoruba guy here

Michellekabod2:
my parents have always insisted we marry our fellow Igbos yet only Yoruba guys come for me

tomdon:



Wow five whopping kids and she still looked young and without kids. Are you kidding me??
How did having 5 kids wreck him. Your point is not valid

The five kids didn't wreck him. In fact the woman only came with one to live with him. The woman wrecked him. She had three kids for my uncle of which one was boy whom got shot to dead by cultist. He was a cultist tho. Her waywardness which got her kicked out of that first husband's house, wrecked my uncle.

tundeloveday:
Again another Yoruba guy here

this one does not know his or her gender..

MadeINchenzen2:
perhaps it could be reasons honed from love... perhaps it could be reasons that has to do with his or her money.

what will you do if your parents refuses to give you their consent or permission to go on and marry that guy or lady?

This question is for those whose parents are still alive, unlike me.

BUT YOU HAVE UNCLES AND AUNTIES, DO'NT YOU? THESE ARE YOUR PARENTS NOW. THOSE WHO WILL FOLLOW YOU TO "IGBANKU", ARE YOUR PARENTS NOW IF YOUR BIOLOGICAL PARENTS ARE NO MORE.

umykal:

This question is for those whose parents are still alive, unlike me.

u pple r still far from the recent truth in nowadays parents,some parents are just not serious walahi,ur daughter/Son av bin dating sm1 all dis years nd ready to settle dwn wit him/her,den u will hear thngs lik av gone to our pastor,mallam,chief priests, dey say if u marry her/him,u pple will b poor,ur husband/wife families will b fighting you,u will nt gv birth,or anoda guy/lady dash dem moni dey will b preferring d moni dash inlaws.nd bf u knw d mumu him/she will fall for all dia tricks nd yeye tuk.all I knw a parent shld do is pray for his or her child wen ready for marriage.

I can't marry a person against my parents wish, because what they sit-down seeing, I may not see even when I'm standing...
If I truly love the person,I will only convince them to see reasons with me to marry such a person.... Though it may take time.... I have to wait

Omar09:
I will listen to my parents especially my mom if she has a valid reason that has nothing to do with Tribalism.


My uncle when he wanted to get married brought home a woman who was very beautiful, but his mom refused saying she's a single mom with kids tho his mom was just seeing the woman for the first time. Long story short, my uncle went ahead with the marriage and today....! He is wrecked! By the same woman his mom warned him about. He's mom's late (rest her soul). Now my uncle just found out this year that his wife had five kids for the first husband.

Now tell me why I shouldn't listen to my parents?

the truth is, when your parents kick against your spouse.dont be quick to say they do not know what they are saying..
Except they are just being tribalistic, greedy or just bossy and picky.your parents advice shoudnt be ignored oh..

jaxxy:



Yes if I’m 90/100 % sure I know what I’m doing. Parents are only advisory they won’t live with u bt u need to understand if their concerns are valid ones or frivolous.

lol. pesin wey dem knack jazz go still think say im know wetin im dey do !

umykal:

This question is for those whose parents are still alive, unlike me.

so sorry !

Omar09:
I will listen to my parents especially my mom if she has a valid reason that has nothing to do with Tribalism.


My uncle when he wanted to get married brought home a woman who was very beautiful, but his mom refused saying she's a single mom with kids tho his mom was just seeing the woman for the first time. Long story short, my uncle went ahead with the marriage and today....! He is wrecked! By the same woman his mom warned him about. He's mom's late (rest her soul). Now my uncle just found out this year that his wife had five kids for the first husband.

Now tell me why I shouldn't listen to my parents?

so because it happens to your uncle, it's automatically will happen to you right? Shit happens my brother. Your mom can advice you will always know better only if you ignore the signs. God help with your choices..