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Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by cococandy(f): 7:03pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Nothing stops him from also having his own kids Bryan12: |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by DUBZ17(m): 7:04pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
onyekabe:lolz !! Too much sense no go kill me o, as a great investigating officer I feel say this story maybe lick to the story I Caught My Husband Sucking My Niece’s Breast, Sleeping With Our Maid -wife by Bilaludeen Mrs Florence Anyasi was already cheating then, the husband sef no dey far from the truth. For her to get someone who wants to marry her so quickly. My tots tho . Lolz make Una think am too, 3kids, 10 years marriage, kids are less than 10 years. Lolz sense 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by cococandy(f): 7:04pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
This is wrong on all levels . Please stop talking. chemberlin: 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Lexusgs430: 7:05pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
onyekabe: Can you afford 3 extra kids + your own financially, physically, emotionally and psychologically? 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by pennyforthought: 7:05pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Is it wise ? No! Can he do it? That depends on him. She has 3 children that are not his, children that are older than 2 or 3. He will face several challenges including getting those kids to listen to him as they will recognize he is not their father. Dealing with his wife, her prioritizing the kids over him, dealing with the insecurity if the ex husband is still in the picture, dealing with jealousy etc. They are all things he has to content with. If he truly believes he can overcome all these and be a good father and husband then sure, let him go for it but he should be absolutely sure. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by SapphirePRINCEX(f): 7:06pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:People like you are reasons women die in abusive marriages ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by DAMILAREY85: 7:07pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
to start with, it is spiritually and physically unhealthy to marry a divorcee let alone having 3kids (responsibilities). SPIRITUALLY: the Bible says any man who marries a DIVORCEE (not a WIDOW) has committed adultery with her. remember the woman who had encounter with Jesus at the well. Jesus emphatically told her you had 7 husbands b4 and the one u r with now is not ur husband. unfortunately I can't search the scriptures rite now as an in a bus typing. PHYSICALLY: 1. what led to the divorce: remember God said in the book of MALACHI that he (GOD) hates divorce. 2. (I) what type of woman is she? no sane man would ever leave his 3 biological kids for a woman to take away even if his not taking care of them, so for a man to have allowed her go with the kids means something is fishy (Find out) except she took them to a place where the man can have no traces or legal backing to claim his children. (ii) u r a young man about to start life (marital journey) and u won to enter carrying 3 responsibilities u r not responsible for, my brother think well or better still ask ur father how easy it is to carry his family responsibilities and then adding another 3 external extended family members. my brother think well this can not be the will of God for u. if she had bin a single and had never married mother with just one child then it is understandable but a DIVORCEE with 3 kids, my brother tell MOTHER to pray for. Thanks and God bless you. 07068458678, daremathew87@gmail.com 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by divinelove(m): 7:08pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
onyekabe: Only a foolish idiot will do dt 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by cococandy(f): 7:08pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Tobycharles:If my brother is entirely sure that he’s up to the responsibility, why not? But I won’t fail to outline in detail the work that comes along with being a father especially with three kids that you acquire suddenly. It’s just a whole different world and not something that should be undertaken lightly. Other than that, there’s absolutely no reason why a divorced woman can’t find love and marry again. |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by baby124: 7:08pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Hmm. 3 kids are a lot of responsibility for a man that has never married to take on. She should be looking for another divorcee or widow so she can have a blended family. He needs to think about this very well and ask the right questions. Are you even sure she is willing to have more kids for you? Who will be responsible for those 3kids? Are you ok raising 3kids who are not yours? Think wel well and don’t be carried away by shallow things. At the end of the day, if you guys have a solid plan it may work. 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by SapphirePRINCEX(f): 7:10pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Skyloloprince:God bless you tremendously well for this piece.. ![]() |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by SheikhMuniru(m): 7:11pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
IT'S OK TO MARRY SUCH A WOMAN |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Opynion: 7:11pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ask @Macron |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Uwaeromosele: 7:12pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
chemberlin:It is not in the gene of Every Man To cheat. Please speak for ur Self. Thanks 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by 2buffagain(m): 7:12pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ah. Eleyi gidi gan O. I'm not that grown sorry. Maybe your brother is already pushing 50 and sees this as the best option for him. Small boys cannot advise elders on what is good for them, so abeg lemme just fem my mouth. But if he is a young man under 40, what is actually wrong with him? I think he suffers from low self-esteem issues or from some hidden disability that makes him feel that a woman at that point in her life is a good and equal yoke in terms of trading pros and cons. Does he feel impotent in some way? If so, there are meds for that. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Lifeinterpreter: 7:12pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Hmmm, something tells me that your brother is the said lover of the woman in this story https://www.nairaland.com/4599325/caught-husband-sucking-nieces-breast Let him advise himself, if he can't then let him go for deliverance |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by theapeman4: 7:16pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
onyekabe:only imbec1le does that! ![]() |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Bryan12(m): 7:16pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
cococandy: If reverse was the case,would you do same? |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Flye: 7:18pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Op, somebody that married his wife brand new tear rubber does not plan to born more than 3 children, this one already had 3 children. how many children do you plan to have with her? How will you cope with the responsibility of your own children with her own? Is she ready to tow the line of giving birth for u or she just want to use you to raise her children without any plan for you? Hope you are prepared for the rivalry and hatred that may likely ensure between you and her other children especially if they are more than 6year b4 you remarry their mother? Their many things that is more than emotion and sexual pleasure. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Viruscod3d: 7:19pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by eyinjuege: 7:20pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
3 children is a lot. Even if she is working and can financially cater for the children, it will still be a stressful job for the man in question, especially if he's young and doesn't have his own children yet. I can't even advice a young girl to do such and marry a man with 3 young kids. Na stress go kill am. Let yoir brother go and look for someone else, unless he has the strenght and mind to look after another person's child as his. Not everyone can do that Love may be blind but marriage is an eye opener. I'm not questioning the integrity of the woman or why she is divorced. I understand completely that marriage is not by force, and its better to be divorced with peace of mind than married with stress and psychological issues where death may even be a better option to you. I'm just concerned for your brother that 3 young children may be too much. What that woman needs is an older gentleman, with relatively grown children of his own, and isn't pressured to have a biological child with her. They need to marry for companionship and not necessarily for procreation. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by theapeman4: 7:21pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
cococandy:when you start shiiiting kids, advise those kids of yours to marry a divorcee who had 3 kids ![]()
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Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by theapeman4: 7:24pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Bryan12:I got some feeling that woman is sick in the head. |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Nobody: 7:25pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:Always wise and mature on issues like this except on politics where I am against the party u support as I dislike all political parties in Nigeria. I may support Ur Markaffi if he comes out as PDP candidate if not, I won't vote at all. I think the man is a Progressive Democrat. I'm not supporting any party sha. |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Viruscod3d: 7:27pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Ur brother don chop am ... d woman don wash her thing put inside food wey she serve ur brother .. bring him to me let me beat the juju outta his brain |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by cococandy(f): 7:33pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Bryan12: Personally I wouldn’t marry a man with 3 kids. If that’s what’s you’re asking. I’m not capable of that type of responsibility. However if someone else feels they can handle it, why not? The thing I’m against is discrimination against single parents as if there’s something wrong with them personally 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Flye: 7:33pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Swint: That is selfish happiness, their is Noway those 3 kids will not be his responsibility directly or indirectly. Mind you he will want to have at least 2kids of his own, how will he cope financially, morally and psychologically? Any children over 5yrs is wise and has emotion, their is no way to prevent clash of interest between himself and the other children. The other children will always see him as the enemy of their dad and their own enemy too. Some people can't just seek for peace, the enjoys looking for trouble. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Niceguy123: 7:36pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
milemimi93: |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by nellyelitz(m): 7:36pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
IF U'VE MARRIED BEFORE AND GOT NO KID(S) PLS DON'T TRY...PLS RUN! I REPEAT RUN!! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by AreaFada2: 7:38pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
milemimi93: Lol. I am yet to see a woman who admits she was a lousy wife or donatus. True that some women get divorced for good reasons. But it's a case of all lizards lie prostrate, no-one knows which has jedi-jedi. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() But it's a massive commitment not to be taken lightly. Being a step-dad is the most thankless duty out there. If their dad was dead, I might even understand. After training the kids their biological dad will suddenly show up forming family man. I know of a case where a step-daughter did not even invite step-dad to her wedding. Wedding was in the house of a paternal uncle who never cared for her one day. Once their mother died and they were grown up and doing well, they never bothered about their step-father. Her biological father had died as a kid. Blood is much thicker than water in Africa. 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Bryan12(m): 7:40pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
cococandy: Well then speak for yourself. |
Re: Is It Wise For A Man To Marry A Divorcee Who Has 3 Little Kids? by Nobody: 7:41pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
Africa will always be Africa .... Macron the president of France was also faced will this kind of choice....what did he do? Love knows no boundaries. 1 Like |
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