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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Babybunny(f): 5:09pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
sacramento1212:That man is wicked. Okay let's assume the house was built by him alone and the house is in his name solely, as a couple he should know the house belongs to he and his wife. The fact that a lady is living under your roof doesn't mean you should be chasing her out when there is disagreement, she's not a house help. 28 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Eketem: 5:09pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall: Same way he would have told them if you built the house in his name and he kicked you out as planned Madam I have no more advice if you like go and dash him the house when he kicks you out come and throw a pity party. I don't understand Nigerian women and their desperation. He would have kicked you out without a second thought and you are acting like he is a real husband instead of doing thanksgiving 30 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 5:12pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Babybunny: Calm down Husband and wife ordinarily are supposed to be one, all these are caused by lack of trust and firm believe in oneness. The man married the woman and not the other way round. The husband is head to his wife n DTS not hard to figure out. Any woman who cannot stay under a man should not consider marriage, after all marriage is not a must 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sacramento1212: 5:12pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Babybunny: I agree with you. No matter the disagreement between both parties, he shouldn’t have pronounced that statement(chasing the wife out). There’s no perfect marriage and there’s bound to be disagreement but it shouldn’t have gotten to that point. But again, there’s more to this that we all don’t know. How can one live as husband and wife with this kind of trust issues? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Martinez19(m): 5:14pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:lol. The woman has more solid grounds on this issue. She used HER MONEY to build the house. It's not advisable to force love. It's either he loves her or not. He should recognise what has happened has happened, If he can't stop his wickedness, manipulation and pride and accept 50-50 ownership for the sake of love, then he Bleep off. The op has played her part in trying to mend the relationship by offering a 50-50 ownership of the house. If the husband can't humble himself and change his ways, he should Bleep off. He is meant to apologise for trying to kick his wife out. How callous! 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Babybunny(f): 5:17pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:@bolded smh! 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Martinez19(m): 5:17pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
sacramento1212:How a man be a good husband with such character flaws? 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Babybunny(f): 5:17pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Martinez19:gbam 9 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Martinez19(m): 5:18pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Babybunny:He is living in the stone age. 9 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by JoannaSedley(f): 5:23pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:The man marries the woman and the woman does what in return. ? What sort of archaic definition of marriage is that? This is so stone age mehn!?? 28 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by DKM123: 5:24pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall: What the heck is wrong with you? He used his to build for his parents (which will be his after his father passes on, that is if its not in his name sef) You used yours to build for the family. So what exactly is the issue. Okay, you even suggested using the Mr and Mrs with both your names and he still says mbanu cos he is a greedy Buffon! Then you are here on nairaland of all places to ask for advice. I am beginning to disbelieve this cock and bull story. What advice do you want now. Okay, go and change it to his name, case closed. With post like this, I don't blame men when they call women fishbrains. Ehmm, abeg what kind of business did you two get involved in that fetched so much money. Please introduce a sister, bikonu! 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 5:29pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Martinez19: Alot is at stake here ( except the woman wants a divorce) and we are talking about husband and wife here. In a family the husband is the head and taking a major decision like house owner ship without his knowledge and approval is unacceptable moreso sole ownership as a married woman. The man has moved on already n his wife is the one crying all over the place now even with sole ownership left for her already. My brother it's not DT easy to say bleep him other wise the wife won't be here crying when the man has left everything for her already. It's not like the man is dragging anything he left everything. Whose idea was the biz that brought all d money DT caused this problem? Let them shift grounds, they have alot of juicy joint businesses ahead. Concead 60% ownership to the man and make peace n save the marriage 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 5:32pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: Not really it's biblical standard The man paid bride price n married the woman 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Martinez19(m): 5:34pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:SMH. Keep living in stone age. 11 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by JoannaSedley(f): 5:36pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:Not everybody believes in fairy tales. 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Martinez19(m): 5:36pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Eketem:lol. Don't mind the op. Hopes she listens to our advice. 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 5:36pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Martinez19: My submissions are based on eternal truths as enshrined in the holy Bible which is the factory manual for Godly marriage 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 5:41pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: We are talking about holy Bible and Godly marriage principles not fairy tales 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by JoannaSedley(f): 5:46pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:It can be holy to you but not to me. I do not live my life by the principle of the 'holy bible and godly principles'. So you have to have an open mind devoid of religious principle when you are on an open forum like this. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Martinez19(m): 5:46pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:all religions and other world mysticisms are ridiculous garbages and falsehood. They have no basis in reality. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 5:50pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
The woman is terrible and I understand the husband's point of view. He asked her to pack out like any average Nigerian man threatens when they are very annoyed. He was probably never going to see it through on the long run. Only to have his wife deflect his ego that the property he thought was a family asset belonged to his wife. A massive treachery. I am sure he is never going to stay in that house again. He'd rather rent his own house than live there. If the woman knows what is good for her, she'd better retrace her steps and change the ownership to a family name or in the children's names. If not, That guy would go out there and get a new wife in time and rent a new house, and she would be stuck with three children. 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Eketem: 5:50pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Martinez19: Unfortunately she won't listen from experience with these issues. She will go and tell a pastor who will convince her to submit the papers and her husband will promise to change, in a few months she will be back crying that he has kicked her out. Leave these women they will be praying and disturbing God when God has rescued them from bondage already. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Acidosis(m): 5:52pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Let's get something straight here; 1. You did not buy a house with your own proceeds. What you acquired is the land. 2. Are you saying from the foundation to the furnishing of that building, your husband did not contribute at least 60% of the building funds? 3. If your husband has a very significant contribution to that building, then his grievances are well justified. How can he contribute to a building and not have his name on the property? What's the ratio of cost of land to the actual building? Before you follow the recommendations on this thread, ensure you clarify your post.. Don't go and destroy your home based on the half truth you have here. It is unfortunate that in law, the owner of the land is assumed the overseer and owner of any building, property or items on the land. Buildings don't come with a name, only the land does, so I totally understand your husband's fears. Your acquisition of a land shouldn't give you the absolute authority over the entire property. This is family affairs please, not property law. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 5:54pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Eketem:It seems you have not been listening to the woman. She said she cannot take care of three children alone. This hard ball you are advising her to take is something that she will not cope with the consequences. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 5:56pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Acidosis:I am sure the husband must have contributed in cash,or at least ensured the progress of the project like any property of his. He is right to be aggrieved. The woman is not wise. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by zeb04(f): 6:03pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:don't change it to his name be very very wise.if it were the other way round,you and kids will be homeless by now. Secure your future and the kids. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by eniolorunfe: 6:04pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Whew!!! If I were you, I would be in church first thing tomorrow morning to thank God for His deliverance. This is a real blessing in disguise!!! So, you would have been on the streets with your children begging a man to let you into a home that you used your share of funds to build. What if you also spent your share on your family, what would he have done Abi you sef no get family weh need money? Be Wise Woman!!! God just exposed his heart and delivered you. I doubt if this man ever loved you sef. It's time to wake up and sharp up. Don't put your family in the dark about this happenings, they are probably the only ones that love you geniunely and have your real interest at heart. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Eketem: 6:05pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
CSTR1005: Wetin concern me, she can't take care of 3 kids alone at least she has a house let her join being homeless and taking care of 3 kids. I have no words for weak women who stick to weakness even when God has shown them signs clearly 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Daeylar(f): 6:08pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: There are so many reasons why I hate that book of many ridiculous stories. This is one of them Op, my advice to you is since he has gone, let him go, but...... People don't like divorce sooooo.... No comment. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 6:08pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Eketem:Alright then. At least she has a house to sell or lease to take care of her children and then hope some man somewhere finds her interesting enough to come in and play the role of a father for her children and a companion. By then, the husband would have moved on, rent a new house, find a new woman he trusts to respect him and build a family with him. Win -win. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Daeylar(f): 6:14pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
CSTR1005: Are the children not his anymore? Such disgusting mentality men have, that a child they created is no longer theirs just because they end things with the mother. I still say such men should be put in jail. Then these are the same idiots who will wonder why the children hate him or why the wife cannot refer to him as a father. By the way, as for the part in bold. All these bs scare tactics don't work anymore, of course she will find someone willing to marry her and be a good father to her kids. Why won't she? So many men with different good mindsets in this world. Misogynistic Nigerian men aren't the only men in this world. The man should rather hope he will find a good woman which Frankly, he does not deserve a good woman, he deserves a devil like him, to give him hell. Anyways, she hasn't left her husband, and probably never will, (even though she will be better for it )so we need to stop talking about it as if she has. 32 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by NoToPile: 6:15pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Okay so they both made profit from a business Hubby used his share for his parents, wifey used her share to buy a Land for the family( in her name). Now husband and wife built the house TOGETHER. Hubby threatens wifey to pack out, wifey says the property is in her name. Hubby gets angry, moves out tells his family about what wifey does Hubby wants wifey to change the document in his name Wifey suggests both of their names Hubby wants his name alone for the house that the land was bought with her own proceeds of the business and they contributed to build together. Well that's the summary of the whole story. He will chase you out of that house once you change the documents to his. He might not do it in 5years time but he will surely do it and this one he has informed his relatives too you are now the 'bad wife' may God help you. It's because of men like these some woman contribute nothing to Land issues of their husband's they will just be looking at you from far. Even advice they won't give, supervise they won't do. 29 Likes 2 Shares |
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