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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by 2buffagain(m): 12:52am On Jul 15, 2018 |
tunize: Why are we still using the word "might" in this case? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 12:53am On Jul 15, 2018 |
justjeff:My Dear Sis/bro, U Just Adviced Her Wrongly, Am So Sorry Oo. Its Normal For The Man To Feel That His Ego Has Been Bruised On. She Needs To Make Her Self Submissive Because Of The Kids Future, Though We Didnt Hear Ur Husband Part But Here Are Ur Mistakes. 1. U Shouldnt Have Used Ur Name Without Ur Husband Consent, Its Shows U Also Have Plans Of Treatin Him Like Wife In D Future. 2. During D Heated Argument , Ur Husband May Not Really Meant U Pack Out, It May Be Masculine Authority(when He Doesnt Feel Respect Frm U Again, And Dts Woman Stunt.). You Shouldnt Ve Mentioned Who Owns D Ppty. No Responsible Man Wl Accpt Ur Plea & Continue To Sleep Under Same Roof Afta Such Statement. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Medunah: 12:56am On Jul 15, 2018 |
7Alexander:And so? Is that enough reason to change the docs solely to his name? And I guess that also justify why he wanted to chase her out of the house with which the land was bought solely with her money? OP, pls when you eventually want to change it to you both name which is the ideal thing to do, make sure it's not just Mr and Mrs XYZ. It should be Mr Romeo XYZ and Mrs Juliet XYZ. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by histemple: 12:57am On Jul 15, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista: Your submission is excellent. More so as you perfectly captured the exact picture even from her lopsided submission alone. However, I got to number 5 and I felt the need to draw our attention to something that has destroyed relationships than any other factors. What is that thing? CHOICE OF WORDS IN ANGER. I believe that most people don't understand that negative words stay as long as a person to whom it is directed is alive. After moments of anger, people feel the words uttered more than the actions and it keeps ringing. You believed that the man might not have meant it when he told the wife to pack out. Now this statement has kept the woman alert and curiously suspicious-----who wouldn't be. Again, it's the height of irresponsibility and ignorance for a spouse to ask another to leave the house they jointly own by virtue of being married. We must learn to be mindful of what we say when angry. Nothing destroys relationships more than hurtful words. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 1:01am On Jul 15, 2018 |
No 3 . We Didnt Knw Wht U Did To Him Or Wht Started The Arguement Initially, So Check Ur Self. May Be U Are Rude To Him, Because For U Guys Not To Fight Whn U Did Business Together, Till U Built D House Finish, He Didnt Ask Of D Documents And Still Pack In With U. Save Ur Kids By Checking Urself. I Pray God Should Touch His Heart For U. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by oloyede252(m): 1:02am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Saintmary:can't you read.. where was it stated that the man built a house rather invested it on his father's health.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ladyF(f): 1:03am On Jul 15, 2018 |
You should have used both names on the property. Sly move, very sly! ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by oloyede252(m): 1:05am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Saintmary: madam the husband never chased her out, he just said that in the heat of an argument .. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:08am On Jul 15, 2018 |
histemple:My brother, I am sure the husband is not a mad man to wake up one Morning to utter that statement (asking her to leave the house). Something must have transpired! The OP FAILED to tell us the things she said to him before it got to that stage. Now, sometimes when people are angry they utter words they don't mean. I agree though that we are duty bound to watch our words at the height of anger. My brother, no good wife will act the way the OP did. If I was the husband I will leave the house to rent or build another. I will not bother whether she changes the name or not |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by thayora: 1:08am On Jul 15, 2018 |
op i suppose you are a christian from your moniker and i believe you still love your man but trust and sincererity is very important in any given relationship which is what is missing in your home, find time and pray over the issue. 2. change the property name to that of your children to avoid the story that touches because if you leave it in your name and peradventure your children are still young and the unfortunate or the inevitable happens God forbid you give room for some vultures in form of relatives especially from your side since they know the property belongs to their sister to start acting funny. 3. get a good lawyer and put the property in trust pending when they come of age that is if they are not adults yet. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by histemple: 1:09am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Saintmary: Do you know this family personally or where did you get this information that is never on the post? You read one thing and propagate what you imagined in your mind. You are just impossible. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by oloyede252(m): 1:12am On Jul 15, 2018 |
2buffagain:are you intelligent at all.. he said that during an argument So the man never kicked out the woman from the house... |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 1:12am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Medunah:Honestly, Am Very Sorry For This, I Dont Think U Have Happy Married Home Or U Havent Seen Any Suitor. Coz This Ur Advice Is Solely For Irresponsible Married Woman. What If Her Husband Planned To Squandered Her Profit From D Business They Did Through False Pretence Or Scamming, Would She Be Claiming A Land In Her Name. From What She Said , D Husband Is Loyal To Her , Coz I Knw Some Men , They Wl Rather Use Her Profit To Buy Liability Goods Like Cars, |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by histemple: 1:21am On Jul 15, 2018 |
I have noticed a dangerous trend in the social media, particularly amongst Nigerian women The moment a woman shares her marital challenges, you will find fellow women either encouraging her to leave the marriage or offering advice that is intended to finally collapse the union if implemented. The fact is majority of these women are embittered divorcees or circumstantial baby mamas. They just hate ALL men perhaps because of their bad experiences. If you make a post on how you are enjoying your marriage, they will never comment. Wives please be wise. No marriage is without challenges, the difference is how you handle them. A wise woman buildeth her home. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by swiperthefox: 1:21am On Jul 15, 2018 |
dingbang:Do you know the meaning of a snitch? Rat? You called her a snitch because she built a house in her name. Lol! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Saintmary(f): 1:23am On Jul 15, 2018 |
histemple: Upon re-reading the original post, I observed that the husband's share was used for his parents, not specifically to build a house as I supposed. I am not impossible. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by RealAdewole(m): 1:24am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Madam I feel for you oooo though I'm yet to be married but, my only advice for you is 1. Let your family be aware of the situation 2. Let no body confused you in changing the name on the documents whatsoever even not to Mr & Mrs 3. I don't pray you divorce but if that is your option, you have to take it. I can smell infidelity 4. If possible take a break, leave the town for some moments |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Sarang(f): 1:25am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: That is eeh.. I was confused myself. He should be begging you nah.. is it his money or his house? Ah god! Atire o 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by abimic(m): 1:26am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Olabestonic001:I Just read her addendum now, I like post duly completed and shared once so as to make informed decision, but knowing what the man used his for, Means it wasn't for selfish interest and the woman needs to understand too from the position of the man and been the first son, responsibilities lie on him majorly To Help his dying father and complete their home. It's no doubt that the man must have invested heavily to see the completion of their new home became a success even probably beyond the woman's input which could have warranted him feeling like he needed have his name alone on the documents as the owner, but that the woman birthed the idea for the family, she should not be relegated, it takes nothing in a place where there's love for couples to share joint account, joint companies, joint ownership of properties as it gives both parties better sense of belonging and intimacy. No one knows the major misunderstanding that could have warranted him asking the wife to leave, I know our women can go overboard sometimes, but the man should never have asked her to leave, Infact, he got more angered realizing his name isn't on the document as the owner which I feel, he felt cheated considering his immense input.Funny enough, I didn't blame the woman for that, she knew her hubby and what he could be capable of, he could be a hot tempered man, considering the decision asking the woman to leave, imagine the woman had the man's name as the owner, how do u want her and the kids to fair now having been ejected? I won't blame the woman, she saw the end from the beginning, it might be wrong but the end justifies the mean. The man need to soft pedal and realize he's on a self destruct mission, he needs to think of his kids. If your wife is loyal, respects you, doesn't maltreat you or disregard you, at this point, he should not disagree to having joint names but I feel that huge misunderstanding the woman is not telling us must have really bruised him alot. Fear these our women when they speak, they sometimes do that with both sides of their mouth. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by histemple: 1:26am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Saintmary: Honestly, I am touched by your extremely mature response. Keep this attitude, it will take you places. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by realabraham: 1:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: You are wise for doing that. However if you had known, you would have built a house for your own parents too and both of you live in a rented apartment, so that if he sends you parking, you go cool off in your parents house and when he cools down, you go with elders and beg him. But that mistake has been made. It will be hard for you to have both the house in your name and your husband. It's unfortunate but you will have to choose one except God does a miracle for you. But if he agrees to come back, he will never trust you again. So either way, it's not a win-win situation for you. Such is life, you learn from your mistakes. He is a selfish man. It is well with you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Sarang(f): 1:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Oya nah get ready to tell them that their father sent you guys away.. legodi akuko.. hire somebody nah if you have the money.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Saintmary(f): 1:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
oloyede252:Okay, we'll wait till he sends her packing before safeguarding the lives and future of her kids 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by InvertedHammer: 1:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: / God created the middle fingers for some reasons. One of those reasons comes handy at this time. Use it. This is his problem not yours. He tried to play a game with you and you beat him at his game. No remorse. He can move to Bermuda triangle if he wants. Protect the future of your kids. Wouldn't you and your kids have been homeless now if he had his way? / 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Sarang(f): 1:28am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: So greedy.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Ndipe(m): 1:31am On Jul 15, 2018 |
dingbang: A snitch is one who tells on others. So saying she is a snitch is not an appropriate term. I would rather say she is SMART, otherwise, her husband would have kicked her out of the house if her name was not listed as the owner of the house. Try and work on saving your marriage, but dont cave into his threats at all, neither should you give up ownership of your house. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 1:33am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Marriage is too difficult to survive in jor. Too many technicalites ![]() |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Saintmary(f): 1:36am On Jul 15, 2018 |
oloyede252:If you are half as smart as you make yourself out to be, you'll know spending money on treatment is not an investment, even if it's a sentimental expense. About the building, I've corrected myself. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by histemple: 1:39am On Jul 15, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista: I agree with you on the woman NOT being exactly what a man should pray to have. She even captioned this post "my husband's PRIDE is destroying our home" and she sees nothing wrong in either her actions or at such derogatory remarks. It tells a lot about her character at home. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nationalman: 1:40am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:if you change it .then you are a fool.He has already decided in his heart to let go off you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Tobyarab(m): 1:40am On Jul 15, 2018 |
I see people advising you to get a divorce because of this issue. There are lots of kids in this Nairaland who are bound to give misleading advice cos of their naivety. From all indications, I can tell you are a good woman. Take this issue to someone he respects and let the person settle it for both of you. But I believe in the Mr and Mrs ownership. You guys are a couple and therefore should have oneness. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by RealAdewole(m): 1:46am On Jul 15, 2018 |
divinelove: That's when you read your Bible with one eye closed |
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