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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CrazeMan69(m): 6:14am On Jul 15, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: Your type can not have a successful relationship/Marriage except you are dating/married to a “Horse-band” (permit me to use your words). In marriage the two people work together as one it is not right to own a property individually except you both agree on such; the car should be ‘our’ car, the home should be ‘our’ home. Please change your mentality even the westerners agree on this that’s why on the event of a failed marriage everything that is acquired during the marriage is split into two. Remain Blessed |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by lorenzos1: 6:15am On Jul 15, 2018 |
It's your marriage try and make it work.. But don't change ownership of your property... anything can still happen in the future... But for the sake of your marriage and his ego.. You can get a lawyer and put it in your kids name.... Don't put his name.. Worst it could be in your names.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by wordbank(m): 6:15am On Jul 15, 2018 |
JoannaSedley:In your opinion, marriage is a business for hyenas. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by eyinjuege: 6:16am On Jul 15, 2018 |
adubiay: Why would a reasonable man send his wife packing in a house they both contributed to? She may even have had a lion's share in the contribution. She used her money to buy the land, while he spent his on his parents health and building a house for his parents (not a bad thing) He sent them packing before he even knew about the house, so he already had his own plans. She didn't send him packing, she was quite happy to share her house with him. He on the other hand is the one exhibiting the trait of my money is my money Are we sure he wasn't really trying to bring in another woman into the house after sending wife and children packing? Are we sure the cause of their major misunderstanding wasn't another woman? I don't believe he was joking when he asked her to move out. He meant business- "out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh"- bible Let us try to be objective and fair in our dealings with others. That is what the bible would want- love your neighbor as yourself Would the man in question have agreed his wife used her share of the money to look after her family? (Probably not), why does he feel its right that his name should be solely on the land? If it's right for his name to be solely on the land, then it's equally alright for hers to be solely on it. How would he have felt if his wife decided to send him packing during their argument? Why then did he decide to do that to his wife? 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by JoannaSedley(f): 6:16am On Jul 15, 2018 |
CrazeMan69:Unless we are reading different threads here, where they are advising the woman to change the property to only HIS name. Who does that? Unless you are a nonentity as I am not which makes it unlikely for things like that to happen to me. I earn money, I buy things for myself. If you want me to buy for you I buy it in your name. I dont want someone sticking to me because of some property. Take your blessings sir. This right here is pissing me off 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Sterope(f): 6:17am On Jul 15, 2018 |
What? you don't think with your manhood ![]() Oklander: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Orgym(m): 6:17am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: You have only heard one side of the story and start vomiting all that you never swallowed. Don't use you predicament to judge this guy. Do you think it is possible for a woman to build house without the financial contribution of her husband! I don't think so. Women will always look for a point of negotiation when issue arise in the family. I believe this man felt very bad that her wife could name a document after her name even when he is the head of the family. He moved out of the house because his wife betrayed his trust and not because of the house issue in particular. What belong to a man also belong to a woman in a Family. All properties are supposed to me named after the name of the couple. The ideal name should be Mr and Mrs ABCD. Its an issue that can be resolve within the family. Humble yourself before your husband and stop playing to be smart. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 6:17am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:tell him you will sell the house to him at cost price and remind him it is your part of the money used to build the house. in issues like this the best thing is to never act desperate if not you lose. You must always think of you and your children first. your huaband is merely throwing a tantrum because whether he likes it or not he will still come back to you. Even if he drives himself to another woman, remeber he is doing it cos he is homeless, she will one day kick him out 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by olalat(m): 6:17am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:Madam, if you will listen to pure truth, and you still need keep.your home intact, if not for anything but for your children. No man, I repeat, no real man will take that shiit from any woman. You have the audacity to confront your husband that much cos you know that you have some leverage and advantage over him. Please, keep that family tight because of the children. Growing up, they learn from both of you and it plays a major in their future. Go and meet your man wherever he is, you guys should find a way to adjust the property title maybe to your children name. You snitch on your man big time. You took his trust for granted I guess. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by capitalzero: 6:19am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HRHQueenPhil: in addition to above, never change the house to his name. He might even kill you after that. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 6:19am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Shut up, mumu. Please save such rubbish advice for your sisters, sane people don't need it. divinelove: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Marsnizz: 6:19am On Jul 15, 2018 |
As you allege the so called house was built with your own hard earned money through join business instead,he used his same proceed from the join business and settle his family problem and you built the house using your own .please the house belong to you" it is not an acclaimed property" .My advice is;Don't ever in your entire life change that legal document to his name because one day your children, his children and yourself will be render homeless .Ediot husband!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CrazeMan69(m): 6:20am On Jul 15, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: I do not support the changing of the name to his name read my comment on page 14 My point remains she is wrong to claim sole ownership of a property acquired during marriage. She knows this and has tried to add her husband’s name (which I do not advise her to do except with the consel of an experienced marriage lawyer) |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by JoannaSedley(f): 6:21am On Jul 15, 2018 |
wordbank:You can deduce that from my submission you quoted, eei? Nay, marriage have always been a business in Africa where the man needs a glorified maid and the woman needs to escape from either poverty or something. It has always been a business of convenience... Nothing else. No matter the love we tend to profess we always go back to the traditional archaic mindsets of our forefathers who knows nothing about love. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Legacyltd: 6:22am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Tell him to build another one in HIS NAME then volunteer to move in with him in the new HOUSE while your property remain yours and your kids in case he tried to push you outta his then you can kindly move to your house case close signed, sealed and deliver by member ASSOCIATION OF COMMENTS READERS OF NIGERIA. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 6:23am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Shut up your mouth. Where in the Bible did God say a woman should give her property to her husband. Since the man is the head if the home shouldn't he be the one to try to keep his his marriage? Nonsense. divinelove: 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 6:24am On Jul 15, 2018 |
weavesquad:i beg to disagree. What was her crime to prompt him asking her to leave the house. I'm a man... In as much as women are the weaker sex let's learn to respect them. I'm sure he also has his own wrong doings. Every couple has a dark secret. He made a mistake. As for me don't change the name 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 6:25am On Jul 15, 2018 |
weavesquad:i beg to disagree. What was her crime to prompt him asking her to leave the house. I'm a man... In as much as women are the weaker sex let's learn to respect them. I'm sure he also has his own wrong doings. Every couple has a dark secret. He made a mistake. As for me don't change the name yet. Call a meeting and discuss the best approach to solving it. How can he just seek for transfer not even bothered about the kids 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CrazeMan69(m): 6:26am On Jul 15, 2018 |
When the real problem will start is when the OP takes the advice of one of these ‘forever young ladies’ that are here ranting. Most of them are 38 and still single and searching or are married to useless and abusive husbands. OP hold your husband tight, although it seems he already slipped away ![]() |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 6:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
I wonder wear such men are bred, God help us. No wonder boacken have the worst IQ in all of humanity. Someone asked his wife and kids to move out and they could've been out if not for the smartness of the woman and you're here saying thrash. Pls receive sense because at the moment you have none. CSTR1005: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Temi17: 6:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Will that house to your children name and let us see his reaction 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by BestDude: 6:28am On Jul 15, 2018 |
dingbang:Oga she did right Abeg. Na God save her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Oklander: 6:29am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LexngtonSteele: 6:29am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Acidosis: Excellent points here...i usually don't comment on articles already on Page 14. Nigerians as usual rush to side with the teller of a story. It's a very common flaw, LOL. If this story is true, obviously the teller of the story left out all the juicy bits where she did wrong. That said, if this story is true, the woman should push for : Option 1 - joint ownership, OR Option 2 - ownership by the kids (kids will be their landlords...my fave option) OR Option 3 - hand over ownership to Husband. I won't advise Option 3 at all 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by keeenee: 6:29am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Madam you haven't told us the full story. No man asks his wife&kids to leave after just one fight. Has their been serial fights, misunderstandings,trust issues and an unhappy home. Who's the cause of so. It's not just the house I guess, I believe the problem is deeper than what you ve painted. So get proper counselling and sure not from nairaland only o. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CrazeMan69(m): 6:31am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Amberon11: Shut your mouth �, Did he throw her bags outside? Did he beat her? Do you know what really went down? You heard a sob story and you are condemning the man ![]() Your type will be jumping from one church to another because of broken homes when you are the cause of your misfortune ![]() |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 6:31am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Excuse you...read the Bible first before drawing conclusions. People can interpret anything to suit their already twisted views on any topic. Nowhere in the Bible does it say to concede any property to your husband. Daeylar: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by 2buffagain(m): 6:32am On Jul 15, 2018 |
oloyede252: You should be answering this your question for yourself. Go and read the opening post again and stop making a complete fool of yourself. A Primary school dropout can read better than you sadly... 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by emelda86(f): 6:32am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Imagine otoro gbabuo ya... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by BestDude: 6:34am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: You married a selfish and wicked man. If this will lead to the end of your marriage, let it be. For the sake of your kids, keep that house. Until Nigerian men decide to learn that their wives Te humans too and being draconian will not favour them, they are living in fools paradise. The man is an idiot and think you are one too. Stop begging him. What nonsense? Rubbish 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by eyinjuege: 6:34am On Jul 15, 2018 |
CrazeMan69: I also stand to tell you that the cause.of the argument was deliberate- an attempt by her husband to send his family out and bring another woman in. He probably has another woman anyway, which may have caused their quarrel in the first place. It was his grand plan all along which backfired 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 6:35am On Jul 15, 2018 |
It is a win win situation for the woman. The kids will see her as their everything. They will despise their father after all he threw them out. She can get married again if she chooses to. Better still she can remain single. Life does not start and end with a egoistic Nigerian man. Oh....she can also sell the house, if it's a very good house and depending on the location too she can pocket up to N50m, rent a property, employ a nanny to babysit the kids while she continues her job. The man is a sore loser. CSTR1005: 2 Likes |
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