Then do not consider having kids as an option

EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

It will be painful. Very painful. But if you love him and he loves you, let him go. The pain to your unborn child will be too much.
Forget these people telling you about amniotic Floyd sampling. It is not practical and it’s too expensive. On a different note; why would you kill your unborn child, just so you can have other “normal” kids, when you could have avoided it. Is the one you both will kill (abort) any better than the one that you will carry to term?
Let him go now.

It's better you guys move on than to suffer your unborn kids

Experience is the best Teacher.
Na you go bear the brunt.

My dear sister am speaking from experience.We have been lucky so far in my family.My younger sister who is 34 lives with d condition. She is married with a child.

We have lived the 34yrs in so much fear.Every hospital visit is a nightmare for US.She asks my mum now and again why did you have me after 4kids.You don't wish for a child to confront you with such!

Weda there is a procedure that checks for the genotype of a foetus exists or not...it's Not worth the gamble. Walk away from it now.EXCEPT you are willing to marry and not bear kids.

It's well with you.

EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

My dear read up on google. There are options though expensive. If most people thought like Niggerians we wont have airplanes and other inventions. We will be busy saying its impossible

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

With money no problem, I heard there is stem cell or bone marrow transplant to correct the anomaly.

The doctors in the house knows better, all i know there is solution but its expensive.

If you are not financially buoyant, please break up now to avoid future sorrow.

I know of a couple who lost their three kids within 2yrs and they were BTW age 7 to 13. The wife ran away,the husband almost ran mad.

He later got married again at age 55 to an AA genotype and God blessed them with two lovely kids.

For five years, no one brought up the genotype topic

Did u guys ever engage in an intelligent conversation

Nawa o

I am AS and I married AA to avoid problems.Be wise.

If you guys were the only ones to bear the consequences, I would have told you to go ahead and suffer your thing.

But for the sake of an innocent child, op you better snap out of that love and move on

My candid advice...the same situation happens to me as well...a relationship of 5years and some months put to hold for the sake of our future...thank God it's coming from you as a female..pls...trully..if only we know the genotype of the child we are to bear without huge cost it wud av been so easy..my dear..all available resources I put in place to make it work as a guy, doctors research, prayers but ain't working...accept the fact u guys can't get along..most of the issues will be mostly confronted by a woman...at a stage..a guy can opt for another wife if the problem is getting at peak..I am not saying he can do such...but medically it's probability cant be judged to be positive...just accept the fact and move ur separate ways..I know it's not easy...still hunting me till now after I left my gurl, yet to love again ever since..it's beta than producing a debit future

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

God would punish u for wanting to bring sick kids to this world because of love

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

It's entirely your call..... The possibility of having an SS child or not taking the risk.......

The pressures of having SS kids is financially bearing, in turn add pressure to the marriage, which might lead to a break up of the marriage....

It's your call........

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Go for deliverance and pray that God change your genotype. There is nothing impossible for him to do. People who did that in the past shared testimony not coming here to ask such question. Some response here if u follow it. Hmmmmmm

risky

Just let him go..becos all this love u both think u ve for each other will disappear when d problem start...i just pity ur unborn children

mabelly:


If I were to be in your shoes I will consider this as an option.
I will equally show this advise to him so both of you be on same page.
While you both continue to do research on how to improve your chances.

But on no condition should your and your bf/husband bring a child into this world to suffer.

God's wisdom. EmpresFIDEL

To get pregnant and abort when they spot SS in fetus? You call that a good option? Have you ever been present during scan? Do you know that at a few weeks old tje jeart has started beating and baby is already a formed being? Na so she go dey get bele dey abort up and down ba? Whay if she has a few SS babies before rhe AS one comes along? She will abort them like its nothing ba?

Nnamdiojukwu:
So you are still here,you this joy killer are you married?
Five years ago I received same advice from people like you,today my first daughter is two years with AA genotype, Christabel is seven months kicking well....what is wrong with you people,you put your trust in doctors more than God yet on Sunday you dress like say na u holy pass without put God first.
Which church do you even attend cos I am suspecting to be all this hail Mary that don't believed in God but Mary,I am very angry with you for given her that kind of advice.



Faith work wonders even today.
Iam a living testimony, I and my wife are As.
25-100 =75.

my brother am happy ur first baby is AA, but that shouldn't stop us from giving a medically sound advice, have seen a couple both As given birth to 2 healthy children, I have also seen a couple both As given birth to 3 children all ss

She who has an earlier let her heeeeaaaar!! What MOST NAIRALANDERS on this thread are telling her. Love that cannot sacrifice for the peace of themselves and others both living and unborn Is that one love?

Please please quit the relationship. Am a sickle cell patient. I know what it feels Luke to be a sickler

I hope you can tell that to your kids at their death bed. Better save their lives and find someone else. Self centred couple.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Dont try it eye repeat I have story to tell you. Forget love health of your offspring is very paramount

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Have someone close to me with the same ish. They have two healthy kids both AA. If you are well to do.... Your only way forward is IVF simple. Most couples do it nowadays anyway. Goodluck dear

mabelly:


If I were to be in your shoes I will consider this as an option.
I will equally show this advise to him so both of you be on same page.
While you both continue to do research on how to improve your chances.

But on no condition should your and your bf/husband bring a child into this world to suffer.

God's wisdom. EmpresFIDEL

It is an unnecessary waste of resources.

She should break up with him and be done with it.
Couples break up for far less.

She is just wasting the time she could have used to get someone else.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

I think both of you are just crazy and irrational.

In marriage, love is the last thing to consider


When the cookies get crumbled ...you go no how far

Nnamdiojukwu:
So you are still here,you this joy killer are you married?
Five years ago I received same advice from people like you,today my first daughter is two years with AA genotype, Christabel is seven months kicking well....what is wrong with you people,you put your trust in doctors more than God yet on Sunday you dress like say na u holy pass without put God first.
Which church do you even attend cos I am suspecting to be all this hail Mary that don't believed in God but Mary,I am very angry with you for given her that kind of advice.



Faith work wonders even today.
Iam a living testimony, I and my wife are As.
25-100 =75.

"Madam faith", pe le o. You have only 2 kids yet and non is SS doesn't mean you won't have an SS child if you have up to 4 kids later.
All destinies are not same, not all men have same faith level.
churches now demand genotype testing from intending couples before approving their marriage in their churches, So don't tempt God with the danger you see coming ans refused to avoiding it.

It's none of my problems. It's your personal problems okay!

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

then why are you here?

Amarabae:
my dear, listen to me.
If you marry him, both of you are AS,
That means that every child you bear has a 25% chance of being an SS.
It is a medical fact.
So are you guys ready for the gamble ?
What if you give birth to an SS?
Can you handle the economical, physical ,mental and emotional stress that comes with managing an SS child?
The best advice I will give you is to let the guy go!
Remember his family is now against the relationship, if both of you prove stubborn and get married and have an SS child, you will not get the support of the family.
The blame brigade will come out for you.
Let the guy go.
It's painful to say goodbye, I understand
Just let him go!
Unless you both will marry and adopt children without having any biological child,
I doubt it.
Let him go.
I repeat let him go

Let me come in hear.

Something must be bonding couples to keep their love alive. It might be the strong decision made with careful thoughts, like this case.

NOTE: when you both decide to marry each other, you should specify the number of kids to give birth to, but it must be minimal.

Chances are: YOU WILL HAVE NON-S S AS WELL AS S S KIDS. BUT IF YOU GETS 3 KIDS, TWO MIGHT BE NORMAL, WITH ONE BEING S S.

SO, MAKE YOUR DECISION. THE BULK STOPS AT YOUR DESK.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Leave! I am telling you from experience. It is not worth it! The quality of your life will drop drastically if you have SS children. Then the pain of losing children. Better to walk away now than experience all that pain. I also wish you have money to take good care of any SS children you may have. Also, if both of you are working, i hope one of you have a considerate employer that won't mind if a parent misses works for at least as week while taking care of the child/children

What useless love will justify seeing your child cry every night.
Look, most people giving you consolation advice have never seen a sickler first hand.
If you know the excruciating pain that kid will pass through for the rest of his or her life, you will regret having that union. what d f**k

Wtf?
I think the constitution should be amended and this should be a criminal offence
If you go on with the relationship and have kids ,you should be charged with attempt murder