EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Love is simply not enough.
Hope you can forgive yourself when your kids starts going home to be with The Lord one after the other?

charliboy654:

Have heard of checking the genotype of a fetus before its born, if it's ss, you about it, otherwise u leave the baby, cost between 350 to 400k, and this procedure could be done more than once b4 getting the desired genotype.

Once u abort foetus, u are a Muderer....
seek Medical and Godly Counselling b4 u tie the knot

If you don't quit this your nonsense relationship now, calamity, problems and tragedy will teach you a lesson of your life. ss vs ss YOU ARE IN DEAD BEFORE ARRIVAL RELATIONSHIP.

Whew! Bet why are you being lazy with your thought like this? It is well o...very well.

if u have the cash then good ahead...blood transfusion (am not sure the name) cost around 6-8million in Nigeria.. the fetus test can only be done when u pregnancy is at 3month or so... I know all this simply because am in the same situation. but break up isn't an option too. best of luck to us all

The man's family won't let them marry. He's going to marry another and the op will face the harsh reality.

Wanna birth kids that will suffer? Very selfish. Only love ain't enough in marriage.

Personally I would advise you run away from the relationship especially if you are not a Dangote's daughter or your boyfriend isn't Dangote's son.

Although I have seen couples who are both AS but got lucky not to have a single SS but I know 3 couples with SS children and see the stress they go through every month. From excruciating pain to blood transfusion etc

You also need to consider this: Peradventure you go ahead and later had an SS as a child, would you be bold enough to look at his or her face when problems arise and tell him or her the truth that you knew the implications of this before you got married? Would you allow your love for a man to blind you into bringing a child into the world just to be suffered?

I just want you to know that it takes more than love to sustain a marriage in the long run. You need to visit a couple with SS and hear from them what they go through each month after this you can decide whether you are prepare to pass through same ordeal or not

beta now or neva before ur children will blame u why u bore dem to this world

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

but what exactly do you mean by brake up?

Break up o the earlier the better i was once in shoes but i ended it am glad i ended the relationship am married now with beautiful kids with no hospital drama what you call love will turn to bitterness when you start giving birth to children with SS .please break up

I understand your feelings and share in your pains. However, I want to share a testimony with you. If you have a little faith, you will as well share this someday. Pastor and Pastor(Mrs) Jerry Nnaji, pastors in Dominion City had this same issue but God changed it for them. The wife prayed and God changed her genotype from AS to AA. Both of them are alive to corroborate this testimony in case you are in doubt. One of my advice to you is that you can take your matter to God. But most importantly, understand His will for both of you. I wish you the very best

charliboy654:

Have heard of checking the genotype of a fetus before its born, if it's ss, you about it, otherwise u leave the baby, cost between 350 to 400k, and this procedure could be done more than once b4 getting the desired genotype.

The problem with this is that at the time you can determine the genotype Of The foetus the pregnancy would have been like 4 to 5 months gone and at that time aborting is usually very dicey

DeRay98:


"Madam faith", pe le o. You have only 2 kids yet and non is SS doesn't mean you won't have an SS child if you have up to 4 kids later.
All destinies are not same, not all men have same faith level.
churches now demand genotype testing from intending couples before approving their marriage in their churches, So don't tempt God with the danger you see coming ans refused to avoiding it.

You mean commercial churches abi?

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Go ahead! You know the likely outcome but prepare for it. Love will see you through. So many relationships have be broken cos of this! Love is all that counts

I would say you two are so wicked......
Do you know the pain these sickle cell folks get to pass through And you are debating on taking a chance to bring in another one? All in the name of what? Love . I believe that's selfishness. Please y'all should go your separate ways and save someone some unwarranted pains.

Speaking from first hand experience, its not to worth it. Love alone doesnt even sustain marriages. Moreso why bring a Child into this world to make dem suffer..?

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Suffer head is ahead of you

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

Read Proverbs 27:12

Galatians 6:7 says...

EmpresFIDEL:
it is very difficult.. I have been addicted to him for 5years. so the only thing that want to separate us on this earth is genotype. it's very painfull

My dear am feeling your pain. I Know how you feel, but what you are going to go through will be worst. What you will subject an innocent child to will be unforgivable, remember it's not about you nor your partner but also about that innocent child who will wake up every morning without assurance of tomorrow, that innocent child whom YOU yourself would give a second thought to invest in. Are you ready to sacrifice your tomorrow's happiness on the altar of "addiction"? Am AS, I refused going into any serious relationship without confirmation. It look foolish but yes I don't want to find myself in your state now because I know it would not go well. Nevertheless, dear, tomorrow is better

Nnamdiojukwu:
So you are still here,you this joy killer are you married?
Five years ago I received same advice from people like you,today my first daughter is two years with AA genotype, Christabel is seven months kicking well....what is wrong with you people,you put your trust in doctors more than God yet on Sunday you dress like say na u holy pass without put God first.
Which church do you even attend cos I am suspecting to be all this hail Mary that don't believed in God but Mary,I am very angry with you for given her that kind of advice.



Faith work wonders even today.
Iam a living testimony, I and my wife are As.
100-25=75.

You can't call God in one sentence that He is good and say not so very nice things in another sentence. You can actually pass your message without insults and slandering. Cheers

Its not easy but love is not enough in the case of SS children. You need to see SS kids when they are in pain, you will really pity them. My landlady's daughter (SS), a teenager was crying one night around past 10, the mum had to rush her to hospital, she spent over two weeks in hospital, received blood, drip. Imagine if the mum was not financially strong. Its a pitiable scenario, as love cannot heal the pains of SS kids. The best thing for anyone with AS genotype is to always find out the genotype of those they wish to date or love.

As a health care practitioner who has been involved in the management of sickle cell disease, my advice to you is: quit.
You can't imagine the trauma both psychological and otherwise of having your child in and out of the hospital almost on a daily basis. At that point my dear u will forget love and talk about hate cos your child will hate you for deliberately subjecting him/her to that condition. I can't understand why you waited for that long to know your Hb genotype.
I advise my patients who are As to do this: when a guy wants to ask u out the first question for him should be what is your genotype.

Akemmi:
I understand your feelings and share in your pains. However, I want to share a testimony with you. If you have a little faith, you will as well share this someday. Pastor and Pastor(Mrs) Jerry Nnaji, pastors in Dominion City had this same issue but God changed it for them. The wife prayed and God changed her genotype from AS to AA. Both of them are alive to corroborate this testimony in case you are in doubt. One of my advice to you is that you can take your matter to God. But most importantly, understand His will for both of you. I wish you the very best

OP follow this advice just dont tie the knot until God has answered ypur prayer. Incase you case go be like Daniel wey prince of darkness stop the Gabriel for 21 days battle in heaven delaying the feedback Daniel was expecting from God. Please wait until the angel comes with the exact steps God wants you to take.

Ziggylady:

There is no advise for you here..If you know what is good fo you,better break up now

Painful as it will be.

quite painful.
Have had to let go two beautiful Angels cos of this same issue.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

You love him soooò much. Yes, but I say use your head now. Break up, bear the pain and disappointment, then move on. That way, you save yourself and family including unborn children very difficult life.

But you know, we are not God. He can do all things. The only solution for now will be to pre-determine Genotypes for your foetus. Not sure the tech is yet in place. I have seen a family lose 3 children out of 4 in succession. One was about graduating. Huge trauma it was for them. I won't wish such for my enemies even.

Get a new boyfriend and start afresh. If not ... I imagine.

That is why you should get to know the genotype of your partner before you get emotionally involved to avert situations like this

If you can stay without a child... There are many babies looking for care in the various orphanages across the country.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

EmpresFIDEL:
please friends i really need your advice. I have been dating him for 5yrs now, we love each other so much . but our genotype is giving us serious issue, we are both As and we don't consider brake up as an option. the pressure on my boyfriend from family and friends is making him want to dissolve the relationship when he still love me deep down and I love him too.. we are just too confuse. I don't want to lose him.

I'm in your shoes. I have advised people in similar situation to break up for obvious reasons.
Didn't know I'll be there too. But bro, if your mind says yes and she also is I agreement with you, prayerfully make the decision and go ahead. But please ensure both of you are in agreement and in one mind. Yes there is a risk but it's not a 100% certainty that you will hear an SS. I have witnesses with children and non is SS. We don't have kids yet but our hope and assurances of a happy marriage is solid. It took me 8 years of dating to finally realise this is the woman for me.
People will call your faith callous, they will say you want to bring innocent children to the world to suffer, that is why you need to tell less and less people about your ish.
God help and bless you

charliboy654:

Have heard of checking the genotype of a fetus before its born, if it's ss, you about it, otherwise u leave the baby, cost between 350 to 400k, and this procedure could be done more than once b4 getting the desired genotype.

.The chance of Survival is low..Meet your Consultant Embryologist and Obst.and Gynaecologist... I know it is hard but the truth is dissolved relationship is better than Broken Home..wasap(0803440331--I link u up with a Doctor dear for advice)

The number of ppl viewing this topic marvels me.
France 4: Croatia 2

Op, dissolve that union.

Been there, done that

My Dear,
I was in your shoes 10yrs ago, 4 kids (2AS) & (2AA).
Truth is, it ain’t easy but God saw us through.

Wish you best of luck and God’s guidance

Prevention dey say, is beta dan cure. Goin by d opinion of various pple here, u shud know ur stand by now. If u guys truly love urself as u claim, u just av 2 let go. Notin hapun without reason, but wonderin wat u guys av been thinkin ol along 2 court 4 dis long b4 getin 2 know ur genotype. Ol dsame, it is beta 2 be late dan neva. Breakup is d only nd best remedy here.