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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by utenwuson: 11:27pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Eketem:this is quite simple, and sisi men wouldn't understand, the man has taken a great manly step and has move on, let her move on too, any woman who talks to as man because of his background is bad, that's a nagging wife and no man should tolerate that... I don't know about u 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by cococandy(f): 11:28pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
May we never meet wicked people in our lives amen May all the people supporting this in the name of being hypocritical marriage advocates experience the same type of loss and be denied the fruits of their hard work. I don’t know how people can blatantly root for unfairness and injustice elektra: 29 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sacajawea(m): 11:28pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Wetin be this one All your family problems here, Nigerians |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by vululadilolo: 11:28pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
So you are basically trying to defraud her by emotionally blackmailing her into choosing between "her" house and the marriage/children? Wickedness! 58 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Respect55(m): 11:29pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
elektra: |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sisisioge: 11:30pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Respect55: You've got to learn to argue constructively dude...pls try. Cheers. 17 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by utenwuson: 11:30pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Ziggylady:those ones aren't men any longer, cos the women feeding them surely will be throwing it at their face and thing is since they are lazy sisi men, they can't react. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by zinny377(f): 11:30pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Hmm... Marriage wahala up and down, am scared oh! 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 11:31pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
A wise woman builds her home but wise couples share equally.your problem in this marriage is both of you are still in that my money phase that should have ended when you said your I do. That’s why I appreciate the person I love he taught me it’s not me me me it’s us and if we didn’t do it it’s not done. Who built that house? She did ... who waited to tell you when she had the upper hand in the argument...She did Who opened the thread to tell the world about your ego problem ? I’ll let you answer that question ... there’s nothing loving about secrets...and spreading shame as a woman madam your expression is allowed but his family were in need of his assistance and that doesn’t mean he is not committed to the marraige or that you should complete and lord over him because of dissatisfaction express it with respect for your husband. When you change your perspectives from me me me to us then it becomes our father instead of his father and our mother instead of his mother you will truly understand that the wedding was the two of you but the marraige involves family where he is lacking you step up where you are lacking he steps up don’t let property you will both leave behind cause wahala... In anger I’ve said walk out but to be honest I regretted it seconds later it’s not anything to do with women wanting to lord achievements over you it’s just when someone is annoying you so much and you love them but you don’t know how else to show them your instinct is to ask them to leave it doesn’t make it right or justify it it’s just one of those things our frazzled mind thinks of when we are in confrontation. The day I open a thread is the day my husband to be is free to divorce me 11 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by iamrosheed: 11:32pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Nigerians are really dull
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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Respect55(m): 11:33pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
eyinjuege:Why are u so bitter? Hope u dnt take this tongue wrangling to ur husband's house else u will end up in ur parent's house sooner. 7 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Respect55(m): 11:35pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
sisisioge:I can lecture u for free when u put outside ur emotional bias 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by spongeisback: 11:36pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Your story is exactly what would've been this woman's fate. A lot of Nigerian women go through this. They build with a man sometimes with their own resources and put it in his name at the end of the day they get cheated out of it and the judgement will always favor the man. I always tell my sisters to be wise when it comes to properties, love with your heart and head. metro10: 27 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Platony(m): 11:36pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Trust such women at ur own peril. I said it frm d former story, for a good man according to her dat abandoned u and his kids. It must be a serious issue. Me, am married wit 3 kids, it won't be easy for me to leave my wife n three kids alone to demselves witout smtin rily serious occurring. OP,....allow her to own d house alone. God wil provide urs. Fear women!!,...if u doubt me, ask Sampson wetin him see for Delilah hand. 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 11:37pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Stop telling ur wife to pack her bags n leave the house.Don't say it as a joke n don't claim u said it out of anger. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by dabiton: 11:37pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by utenwuson: 11:37pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
tartarus:what the hell u talking about... the man is simply a man that knows his responsibilities, he's working hard, he's got the love of his parents at heart, the ladies was lucky to be born with a silver spoon, so she should throw tantrums at him reminding him if his poor parents, background and all families and u want him to fold his arms and laugh, ant man who takes such rubbish from a woman is a disgrace to men and a total sisi 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by valdovas(m): 11:37pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
So you are willing to make your children products of a broken home because of your greed and arrogance? Thunder fire your left yansh Your mates are building houses for their wives and buying them cars you are here commanding your wife to dash you the one she built with her money. Why not hustle to build your own? As for dee, if you are reading this, the lord is your strength. I can only imagine what kind of misery this arrogant man shows you on a daily basis. Don't change the documents to his name alone, the day you do that he will heartlessly throw you in the street. Wicked man. 52 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by NoToPile: 11:37pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
There's no difference in the story naah, still same story she came here to narrate. I wonder why you said you didn't mean it when you said she should leave your house. She can as well claim she said all those things to you about your parents out of spite and anger. This is why everyone should be careful what they say. I think the main issue is the matter of background and insulting your parent she never should have used that to spite you at all but then she was angry, besides a woman would say quite a lot if she even feels you are cheating To be honest from this your write up, you seem to have an ego. You guys should sort your issue out,since you have decided to that she shouldn't change the name again. 28 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by SeunMighty(m): 11:39pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
It's possible for man to angrily ask his wife to move out of the house in other to avoid raising hands on her... The husband might not mean it .just out of anger. How can a woman ink her own name on document of a property owns by both..where is the submissiveness ?even if the husband did not contribute penny it is not her right to do so that's disrespectful. Sir most people that commented on your wife early report are not yet married, they don't know what makes a good marriage,If your wife refused to change the document to Mr and Mrs, living in that house would look as if you are a tenant in your wife building. Your state of mind would change towards her and when things are not done properly, you won't be able to stamp your order and sense of belonging will be far from your thinking faculty. You can get an appartment very close to the same area because of your children . She has actually betrayed your trust! Can u be able to trust her again? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by ademoladeji(m): 11:39pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
London bridge is falling down... One of the major actors to a failing marriage is PRIDE. Trust is also an accomplice. To start with, I must say the genesis of the revelation is "Get out of this house!" To be honest, it's a wrong statement from all angles. But then if those words were not let out, the secrecy n deceit in your marriage wouldn't have been exposed. Lemme point out some faults: 1. The husband should have managed anger well because words are as fragile eggs. 2. The wife should have told the husband of her actions either directly or through a mediator. 3. Man and wife are meant to trust each other but that trust was long gone because that i think prompted the wife to take such decision. My cent: A. It's near unrealistic, unfair to ask your wife to change her name to yours. That would definitely add more fuel to the burning fire if you insisted. B. Allow the little you contributed to the structure be your responsibility to assist your spouse in her investment C. Your ego might not allow you to move back to the house but you can get a decent apartment and move your family in it and allow her to take up rent of the house without you interfering D. For the sake of your kids, kindly work things out with her. As you've affirmed, divorce should not be an option. E. The wife should restructure her confidants as well as advisers as most of them might either be singles or single mothers. Same applies to you - assess your companies. To the commentators here, marriage is not just a relationship or courtship, it's a lifetime deal that compromises are its mission n vision. May God in His infinite mercy reset the misalignment. But you guys need put serious efforts before leaving it to God. May the Kids never feel the heat of the situation. I pray. cc ExtraExtra HEseesall 8 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by dabiton: 11:40pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
I think you Oga are very childish for bringing 'your side of the story' to complete strangers on social media just like your wife did. I blame you for announcing your home to strangers, mostly unmarried kids to judge. So what did you hope to get by washing your dirty linen in public? Now go back home, have a re-think, accept where things got wrong on your own path and get to work rebuilding the home YOU destroyed. I am a married man and the only advice I will give you is that "Not even the closest person(friends, parents etc) to you should know about a problem you have in your home. it is a project you initiated and if it fails you can only have an excuse but you have failed all the same", only ever share the good side/strengths of your partner, NEVER their weakness. Now get off Nairaland, and call your wife and have a honest conversation, not settle a case oo, because there is not case to settle! YOU quit using your marriage as a source of entertainment and amusement to complete strangers! Those kids need to have a MAN in their lives not EXCUSES! if you wanna talk fine but I am not going to discuss what happened, just HOW YOU SHOULD NEVER LET THINGS SPIRAL OUT OF YOUR CONTROL! it is not about WHO IS RIGHT OR WRONG. it about YOU doing WHAT IS RIGHT! Now, Get to work!!! ExtraExtra: 12 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by akejujoe(f): 11:40pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Oga,your wife obviously knows the kind of person you are, that is why she did what she had to do. You would have rendered her homeless by now if she wasn't a wise woman. 17 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Platony(m): 11:41pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
PrecisionFx: Are u married??,.. If u're nt, den sharrap!!! Husbands n wives do encounter such mishaps once once,...its part of marriage. Ups & Downs!!...always remember dat!! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by carammel(f): 11:41pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
You said your wife was accusing you of cheating, there is no smoke without fire. If she did not see traces, she wouldn't conclude so, she insulted you and your parents, is that enough to ask her to leave "your" house? In the heat of an argument, many things can be said. If you ever loved your wife, you wouldn't ask her to leave the house in the first place, shior. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Yagazie2016(m): 11:41pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Both of you have erred in this case. Especially on the insults and anger you threw at each other. My advise to you are as follows 1. You are the leader in the house, you are the man. You need to take responsibility of the situation and work towards solving it. Your wife might be feeling some sort of insecurity and you need to identify it and reassure her. If she believes that you are cheating on her, you need to erase that. If she believes that you are spending money on your people without telling her, you also need to diffuse that thought. 2. If you run away from this problem by moving out and getting a new house, it will break your marriage completely and you will regret it for life. What is in a building that you are venting so much about? How old are you and do you believe that you cannot make enough money in life to build many more houses? Sometimes, people fail to see the positive future but wallow in the past as if God does not make every day new. Forget about that house. Call your wife and apologize for your unkind words. I'm sure when you do that, she will also apologise for her actions and for hiding the documents from you. Rebuild your home and close the doors of strife and anger, pray together with your family and ask God to come in and heal you all. Your marriage will be stronger at the end of this exercise. 3. I repeat, forget about your name being in that Title. Live your life and build up your family in love. Pride, anger, strife will get you nowhere in marriage. Make plans for the future with a cool mind. That's what you can never have if you break your home. 11 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by utenwuson: 11:41pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
dabiton:this is exactly what is causing cardiac arrest, when u keep piling up issues and saying you not gonna tell no one, high BP will kill u, he is a real man, the woman has rubbished his family costume she's from a well to do background, the only to rebuild his sanity and life is to start all over, go rent a new house, while building his, and stay there, if the wife us still interested in the Ed marriage, she knows what to do... meet him in his house not in her house. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Ziggylady(f): 11:44pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
utenwuson: I laugh at the thought-process of some of you who may not know what life can throw in your faces..So if you are married and lose your job along the line meanwhile your wife is working and making money..you will stop eating because she is the one buying the food??.. Unfortunately your bragaddio ends here because in real life and in this buhari recession and hardship,millions of homes are being sustained by the women...and no one knows except you are told or stay with them 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by folly22(f): 11:44pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
4601CE:Remember they have been living happily till he decided to send her out. I wonder what his aim of being the sole ownership of the house is if not to wipe her out of this earth after it has been changed. 12 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Respect55(m): 11:45pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Saff:Just two questions for u if u dnt mind : 1.What's the biggest downfall of a woman 2.How is the man blocking his way. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by bezimo(m): 11:45pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
I hate all these sneaky snitchy women that think they are wise..the way she presented the matter in the other thread..you will think she is innocent not knowing she is evil.. That kind woman can kill her husband because property having put her only name on the house why not both names since the husband also contributed to the completion of the house.. At this level she has done a serious breach of trust and should face the consequences..If you don't feel you can trust her anymore..separating from her is in order.Let her marry the property..you see how stupid women ruin their homes with foolishness and greed yet blaming the devil. 1 Like 3 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Claireshan1(f): 11:46pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Just wondering how this nigga will be feeling right now He will be like wetin carry me come nairaland sef 18 Likes 1 Share |
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