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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by 9gerian: 11:46pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Social media validation and inconsiderate pursuit of wealth / materialism. The bane of this generation!!! A well bonded family is just as much wealth / resource as a house. And you can have both- with some application of wisdom!!! ExtraExtra: 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 11:46pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
JoannaSedley: Hi,,, Your signature... do you have a PDF version of the book? |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Respect55(m): 11:48pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Ziggylady:U go about throwing tantrums around on social media and telling a man who can house u to grow up. Continue. Stop abusing people here, I tells bad on ur family where u come from 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Caris77: 11:48pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
ExtraExtra: My humble submission. 1) marriages pass thru phases and the phase you and your wife is determines the future of the marriage. Pls talk things out with ur wife. 2)probably you acted like most men does when it comes to msrriage, which is ; "i can can spend money more on my family than yours ". Am not disputing the fact that ur half went on ur dad 's mefication but be honest if it were her would you had allowed use her half for her parents mefication. You probably would have told to give some certain amt. And if this is the case , she must have queried herdelf on what the future holds and did what she did . 3)that she used her name didnt mean she stopped loving you but its a future security should incase what you did or said by asking her to leave ur house comes up. 4)oga , women are moved by what they hear and you stopped telling her how much you appreciate her effort ,started having harmless friends like you said . Some whom you sometimes compliment and of cos she felt threatened of her position and ur Love. So stop all you did or do which made her to question your integrity . 5) you sound like one who doesnt apologise when he is wrong but maybe buys gifts to makeup, and she wil forgive and you wil still do same thing again. Oga things like this can make even the softest, most forgiving woman to harbour resentments ,and the day she will explode, you will marvel at the depth of bitterness from her mouth and i guess this is why you where shocked she insulted you and family members together . You really pushed her by telling her to leave the house and her full bitterness came up. Show ur wife love and make her fill important again. 6)finally quarel brings out the worst in ppl ,so you showed her what she feared most by telling her to leave ur house and belives putting ur family ,s need most is the reason she did what she did. Pks you guys should make up, dont allow urself think you cant beg her .if this marriage is important to you then put pride aside , call your wife and thrash things out . Let her unburden her years accumulated resentment out and make her know that there is no other her if you claim you dont have another . Ogwula mu na onu. 13 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by ademoladeji(m): 11:49pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
dabiton: Make I no pour out wetin dey my mind but just be careful in order not to aggravate an already tensed situation. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by folly22(f): 11:49pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Marvel1206:They made the mistake from the beginning, why should they split the money into equal half, they should have sat down and the man only took part of it for his dad's treatment while they start the building with the remaining. The way the money was shared shows they are free to do anything with their money and it's their personal stuff. That is my view anyway 21 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by centoke30(m): 11:50pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Eketem:you said it all, but God has a way of revealing things, if he didn't make that statement, he might not have found out about her secret and the last time I remember, my dad bought everything he has in my mom's name at least he (my dad) is the one that put the name there and not she doing it secretly. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Realhommie(m): 11:51pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
tartarus:The lady wasn't wise at all for putting only her name on the document initially.. The onus is on the woman to build her home (Proverbs 14:1), she should've known that doing such and moreso without the husband having the slightest inkling is all shades of wrong, reason i say she's not wise.. She seems stubborn as well. That said, i see the man has a huge ego, lacks understanding as well.. Whatever they were on about was normal as couples usually have issues eventhough I believe they should be very mindful what they say to each other coz spoken words can never be retracted, the man should have handled the situation with diplomacy upon the wife's revelation.. He failed, the woman also.. But i believe their union isn't past redemption.. The lady offered to add his name to the docs, that's fair enough if you ask me.. He should bottle up his pride and go back to his family. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Platony(m): 11:52pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
One thing i cn sincerely argue wit my knowledge is majority of d commenters here sayin he wouldn't av told her to move out of d house "ARE NOT MARRIED". ....If u're married n av bn in marriage,...u'll knw such statements holds no water becos it is once in a while said wen ders heated arguments. Yet, dey stil grow stronger in love. Wat i see here in der issue is "PRIDE" being incharge bt believe me u, dey'll reconcile & reunite. By d tym dem stay 2 months without each other, der brain go reset to factory settings. Especially as children don involve. Dem die there!! Culled frm an experienced married man o. ME 14yrs no be beans!! 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by ojabel(m): 11:52pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Hmmm! Mr husband, you are not wise. You ask me why? You left a house you claimed belong to you and your wife simply because she abused you. Can you see yourself now? Because of your pride and ego you are about destroying what you have laboured for over the years. The way I see you, you are not wise at all. The problem with your marriage didn't start now but long time ago. Think about this, you and your wife did business together and you are sharing the money, shouldn't the money be for the family in the first place and you decide on what to do with it as the head of the family? Now, you are forming 'I don't believe in divorce ,' but you are tilting toward separation. Haba! There is no wisdom in your decision. It's only a weakling of a man that runs away from problems. Problems are meant to be solved and not to run away from. Go back home and fix your marriage before it is too late. You have a good wife. Only you need to be man enough to lead and assure her that with you the future is alright for both of you and your children. 27 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Caris77: 11:52pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
ExtraExtra: My humble submission. 1) marriages pass thru phases and the phase you and your wife is determines the future of the marriage. Pls talk things out with ur wife. 2)probably you acted like most men does when it comes to marriage, which is ; "i can spend money more on my family than yours ". Am not disputing the fact that ur half went on ur dad 's medication but be honest if it were hers would you had allowed her to use her half for her parents medication. You probably would have told her to give some certain amt. And if this were the case , she must have queried herself on what the future holds and did what she did . 3)that she used her name dosent mean she stopped loving you but its for future security should incase what you did or said by asking her to leave ur house comes up. 4)oga , women are moved by what they hear and you stopped telling her how much you appreciate her effort ,started having harmless friends like you said . Some whom you sometimes compliment and of cos she felt threatened of her position and ur Love. So stop all you did or do which made her to question your integrity . 5) you sound like one who doesnt apologise when he is wrong but maybe buys gifts to makeup, and she wil forgive and you wil still do same thing again. Oga things like this can make even the softest, most forgiving woman to harbour resentments ,and the day she will explode, you will marvel at the depth of bitterness from her mouth and i guess this is why you where shocked she insulted you and family members together . You really pushed her by telling her to leave the house and her full bitterness came up. Show ur wife love and make her fill important again. 6)finally quarel brings out the worst in ppl ,so you showed her what she feared most by telling her to leave ur house and belives putting ur family ,s need most is the reason she did what she did. Pks you guys should make up, dont allow urself think you cant beg her .if this marriage is important to you then put pride aside , call your wife and thrash things out . Let her unburden her years accumulated resentment out and make her know that there is no other her if you claim you dont have another . Ogwula mu na onu. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by dabiton: 11:53pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Well my beloved brother, I hope you are married! I said he should speak to his wife, the most important party in the marriage. I guarantee you he won't have any heart ache if he works it out with her! I see all your points though but believe me NEVER BRING IN THIRD PARTIES TO YOUR HOME UNLESS YOU HAVE ARE COMFORTABLE HAVING "ménage à trois" when times are good... utenwuson: 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Respect55(m): 11:53pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
cococandy:Seems you hold the destiny of nairalanders in ur palm,lol.So who do I think is wrong here? Take ur bitterness somewhere else abeg 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by declaro(m): 11:54pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
My advise to you as your follow family man. I will be very honest with you here. You have been living with her for years and I believe that this is not the first time both of you encountered problem. It normal to feel the way you did and it is normal for a wife to misunderstand you. She must be regretting what she have done and everything that she have ever said by now. Please go back home and live your normal life with your loving family and bring back the happiness. No need for unnecessary expenses. Every family man is carrying a very big cross and we can not run away from it. NO ONE MISUNDERSTANDS A MAN BETTER THAN HIS WIFE. She loves you go back home, with a little time everything will fall in place. Don't listen to people that will encourage you to run out of your home. Please, please, please go back home. 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 11:54pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Lots of kids won't understand what is playing out here. I've seen too many aunties and mothers who have mostly taken their husband from nothing to something, building a family fortune only for them to get kicked out with their kids because of one misunderstanding or the other. Some get kicked out of empires they built when the man dies because oga was the alpha and omega with his name alone on all documents. This woman could have done that job alone or with an outsider and pocketed the millions of money or used it to buy properties all over the place but she wanted to build her husband up. After all, she's from a richer background so she brings the deal home to make it look like Oga is a money making Boss. It is absurd that she didn't hide the whole cake but at a point, decides to keep a portion for herself...trust me, she started seeing the handwriting from Oga. Then one day, he decides to embarrass the woman in front of his cousin by kicking her out but the script flips and oga is embarrassed before his cousin. All hell is let loose. Oga, what is your job? Can't you channel this your anger into taking a loan or mortgage facility to build another house for the family? Why not put the house in your children's trust, why your name alone? 41 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by utenwuson: 11:54pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Ziggylady:this man isn't hungry, he's smart and working couple with businesses he is into, yet the woman throw it at his face, he bruises hi ego, the thing call man in him dies if he had stayed back, he will be a toothless bulldog, nothing pisses a man off like hearing your wife insult your parents cos there are poor, I love and pray he stand by the decision. now to what u said, yes, the economy may have turn the pendulum of spending for the home towards the woman in the house that doesn't mean the man will just fold arms, cos eventually the woman will tell him to his face to man up no matter how lovely she is. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by niphemey: 11:55pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
sisisioge:so helping out his dad who was very sick was squandering right ? What kinda human being are you ? 7 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by NoToPile: 11:56pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
metro10: 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by cococandy(f): 11:56pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Respect55: You only receive what you give. Ain’t no one holding your destiny but you. If you support evil it will be your portion BTW you Sound like a fvcking retarrd every time you call someone bitter because they don’t agree with you lopsided views of life. 19 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Caris77: 11:56pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
[quote author=ExtraExtra post=69558270]Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte". My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved.... My humble submission. 1) marriages pass thru phases and the phase you and your wife is determines the future of the marriage. Pls talk things out with ur wife. 2)probably you acted like most men does when it comes to marriage, which is ; "i can spend money more on my family than yours ". Am not disputing the fact that ur half went on ur dad 's medication but be honest if it were hers would you had allowed her to use her half for her parents medication. You probably would have told her to give some certain amt. And if this were the case , she must have queried herself on what the future holds and did what she did . 3)that she used her name dosent mean she stopped loving you but its for future security should incase what you did or said by asking her to leave ur house comes up. 4)oga , women are moved by what they hear and you stopped telling her how much you appreciate her effort ,started having harmless friends like you said . Some whom you sometimes compliment and of cos she felt threatened of her position and ur Love. So stop all you did or do which made her to question your integrity . 5) you sound like one who doesnt apologise when he is wrong but maybe buys gifts to makeup, and she wil forgive and you wil still do same thing again. Oga things like this can make even the softest, most forgiving woman to harbour resentments ,and the day she will explode, you will marvel at the depth of bitterness from her mouth and i guess this is why you where shocked she insulted you and family members together . You really pushed her by telling her to leave the house and her full bitterness came up. Show ur wife love and make her fill important again. 6)finally quarel brings out the worst in ppl ,so you showed her what she feared most by telling her to leave ur house and belives putting ur family ,s need most is the reason she did what she did. Pks you guys should make up, dont allow urself think you cant beg her .if this marriage is important to you then put pride aside , call your wife and thrash things out . Let her unburden her years accumulated resentment out and make her know that there is no other her if you claim you dont have another . Ogwula mu na onu. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by kushercain: 11:57pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Processor01: You are the wisest man on this thread! 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by dabiton: 11:57pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
Be blessed my dear and may all the right pieces fall in the right places for you! Such depth is not common!!! 9gerian: 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 11:58pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
TooNoisy:If u actually read what he wrote, u would have seen that ur option 2 was his stand. Most people talking about divorce above didn't read or couldn't comprehend what he wrote. He said he wasn't thinking of divorce. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Caris77: 11:59pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
NoToPile:Gbam, you have said it all. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by ashjay001(m): 11:59pm On Jul 20, 2018 |
sisisioge: With what he said, do u think he would stay in that house, if he knew she built it? He has walked away, even dashed her, his portion of d building! What else do u haterz want! Just that, he's spoiling for a fight, over d kids n d way he writes, he's gonna get those kids! |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 12:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Women and secrets! I was told how a man and his family lived in a flat, unknowing to the man, his wife owned the place. He usually paid the rent through a lawyer and the "landlord" was said to be abroad. His wife (who built the place secretly few years into the marriage) convinced him to pay for the place. When the bubble burst, the centre couldn't hold anymore. To the story, I read "heseesall's" post but I refused to comment because I know that there are two sides of a story. My inputs are: 1: The foundation of the relationship "get K-leg". The lady being rich makes the man relax on his responsibility etc. 2. If I am the man, I won't stay in that house. I will go and rent another house, move my family and the woman can rent out the one in her name. Even if she got it before marriage, I wont live there. Yes, men have ego and don't bruise it for any reason. 3. Oga, marriage is a partnership but you run yours like a business. So, you shared your spoils and you use yours to care for your parents (which is not bad but a HUSBAND AND WIFE SHOULD LEAVE THEIR PARENTS AND CLEAVE TO EACH OTHER), without keeping some for the future. I am a first child too so I also understanding you. Get it, always strive to provide for your family, even if your wife is richer. 4. Your wife may not be cheating but the worst position you can get a woman's venom is if she is richer than you and you aren't making any contributions, however little. Women like a committed man. 5. The only reason you can divorce your wife is infidelity. Even at that, very few men still let go. 6. It is not even our place to judge both of you. Third parties are rarely invited in marriage (BTW I am married). Think your decisions through and BE A MAN and a LOVING HUSBAND! 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Ikpongiton: 12:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
it is the case of a good man,that is married to a delilah.but since no case of adultery has béen established against her,which i believe she is guilty of,keep your marriage for the sake of your kids. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Lhimeet(m): 12:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Firstly,i don't think I can advice you enough but let me say my little You guys have to read both write up well He said he used his own part of the share to take care of his father's health which involves flying out of the country.. Which of course we all know will require a lot of money in this present day & time..(His wife didn't elaborate on this) Which portray a scenario in her write up that the husband only spent the money on his parent's out of freewill .. Though I don't support outrightly changing the name to only the husband's name.. Cause once she does that, she is giving him 100% right to something he contributed less amount in actualizing..(Not with standing what I wrote in the first paragraph) Again, the house can't not outrightly belong to the woman.. She only bought the land.. Both of them contributed the finances in building a structure(The woman wrote this in her post) Which means the man's sweat is also part of the whole house(that's where the anger came in). You also knew the situation on ground that warranted your husband to use his own fund for something different to what you actually planned on doing.. You should have played your part & considered the happenings as at that particular time.. Buying the property only in your name will cause an uproar.. All in all.. Divorce is never an option if you guys truly loves yourselves like you claim.. Think about your children future. Do you as a woman want another woman treating your children's unjustly? And you as man knowing fully well if you marry another woman.. She can never treat your children the way their mother will treat them take it? Iron things out & return to being the happy family you were once living.. CC : ExtraExtra HEseesall 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by kenex4ever(m): 12:03am On Jul 21, 2018 |
spongeisback:calm down, He is wrong to tell his wife to leave his house even if he owns d house, just because of a quarrel. His wife is not a good person too for not using Mr/ Mrs. She has ulterior motive n dat could be d reason she was bold enough to disrespect him. If d man owned d house, the world will take to be dat it belongs to both of them. My brother owns a lot of lands n houses all in d name Mr/mrs. Mind you d wife is a housewife. The problem with most "opinionated" women is dat they are very stingy with anything dat belongs to them but they feel they are entitled to whatever belongs to d husband. Where I blame d man is the fact day he tried or dared to send her out whether jokingly or not. Another area I blame him is that he refused to allow her make amends by using Mr/mrs even when she agreed to. 5 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 12:04am On Jul 21, 2018 |
JoannaSedley:The marriage was alive without his name on the documents. Chai. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by NoToPile: 12:04am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Platony: @bolded really!!! It's like 'Get out of my house' is a common phrase among nairaland married men the way I keep reading 'he didn't mean it' he didn't mean it' and it's so annoying. That statement is wrong simple Which kind of joke is that. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 12:04am On Jul 21, 2018 |
sisisioge: Naaaa, how can you even think like this. He wanted to defraud her? How? Are they not supposed to be couples? I'm not saying he did wrong by asking her to leave the house which is the typical African mentality Man would do, but to say he wanted to defraud her is far fetched please. Also note that the Man is from a less richer home & also the First born, the responsibilities are a lot. Both made a lot mistakes, Instead of you to focus on that, you mainly focused on the Man defrauding her. This is beginning to sound like an Acrimony kinda argument where Ladies just support blindly without reasoning. 3 Likes |
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