The African mentality deeply rooted in our DNA gives a man room to consummate with more than one woman. Because of religion, many have come to publicly disregard this trait even though they practice it in private. Before celebrities made the phenomenon popular as a result of social media, it wasn't strange to hear that a friend, a colleague, a partner has a step sibling his/her parents had outside wedlock or outside their marriage.

In this day and age, because of technology, our inner instincts prevail in a more private environment such as social media. These days, it is the norm for a woman (young girls, even) to have multiple partners online and even in virtual reality. This has grown because of greed and coveteousness. Men, with this knowledge, treat women in general as sexual objects and vessels for procreation. Multiple partners on both sides of the human gender is on the rise. It is only inevitable that at a point in time, an unwanted pregnancy develops even though there isn't any strong emotional attachment between both parties responsible.

African Americans have over time, turned this behavior into a normal practice. It isn't strange to find a woman with four kids from four different men and vice versa. Because technology has bridged the gap between us and our African American brothers, we see nothing wrong with the baby mama, baby daddy lifestyle. As a matter of fact, we pride ourselves in it. Also, women who feel they have crossed the threshold of marriageable age, do not mind being a single parent.

It is vital to know that kids brought forth by this kind of unions, regardless of the financial status of their parents develop emotional and psychological characteristics that ensures the cycle prevails. We should keep our self control in check.

I'm writing from a guilty point of view, although I haven't fathered a child.

op are you for or against this practice

chiommy123:
op are you for or against this practice

If you studied the post well, you'd see that I'm against it.

Earthbound:

If you studied the post well, you'd see that I'm against it.

OK. though some parts are in support

chiommy123:
OK. though some parts are in support

Not exactly. I was creating a basis for understanding the problem.

Earthbound:

Not exactly. I was creating a basis for understanding the problem.

OK. so whats the way forward

chiommy123:
OK. so whats the way forward

Keeping our self control in check but I doubt it will work because most of us are really selfish, hence the topic of the thread.

With the way it's becoming a norm these days, marriage will be termed "old fashion" in the nearest future

Biglittlelois:
With the way it's becoming a norm these days, marriage will be termed "old fashion" in the nearest future

Sis, it already is. Take a look around.

If marriage was perfect for humans, there would be no space for baby papa and mama to thrive.

This baby mama and papa phenomena is a response to the failures and perceived emasculation of the animal instincts of humans in marriage.

This current trend is a phase, a transition in mans attempt to discover the model best suited for them just for the bragging rights to be called higher animals.

It's rather embarrassing that the animals we share God's earth with are at peace with the concept of procreation and companionship while the assumed higher animals suffer.

Chubhie:
If marriage was perfect for humans, there would be no space for baby papa and mama to thrive.

This baby mama and papa phenomena is a response to the failures and perceived emasculation of the animal instincts of humans in marriage.

This current trend is a phase, a transition in mans attempt to discover the model best suited for them just for the bragging rights to be called higher animals.

It's rather embarrassing that the animals we share God's earth with are at peace with the concept of procreation and companionship while the assumed higher animals suffer.

Lalasticlala, check this.

Nice write up op but i'm sure u know the girls of nowadays no dey hear word and because of greed and courteousness as you've rightly said and also poverty mentality and inferiority complex

chiommy123:
OK. so whats the way forward

...what's...

What else do u expect from a generation that lacks discipline and have a wayward life?

Biglittlelois:
With the way it's becoming a norm these days, marriage will be termed "old fashion" in the nearest future

It’s old fashion now mostly on the part of ladies

The more educated and rich a lady is the more defecult to be in marriage

Very soon we will have vagabonds without know parental control

If you are lucky to have a good wife or husband that is faithful please treasure it

Ok

Lol

Ok oo

Earthbound:

Keeping our self control in check but I doubt it will work because most of us are really selfish, hence the topic of the thread.

Loud it!

Chubhie:
If marriage was perfect for humans, there would be no space for baby papa and mama to thrive.

This baby mama and papa phenomena is a response to the failures and perceived emasculation of the animal instincts of humans in marriage.

This current trend is a phase, a transition in mans attempt to discover the model best suited for them just for the bragging rights to be called higher animals.

It's rather embarrassing that the animals we share God's earth with are at peace with the concept of procreation and companionship while the assumed higher animals suffer.

If you watch nageowild you will know is not easy for animal self infidelity in them is high

Love is cursed by monogamy because variety is the spice of life and man shall not live by bread alone.

ghat is the future

I don't mean to annoy anyone, but the Bible calls them bastard or illegitimate children

Noted

I'm here to just argue that there's nothing like "African" mentality. Nothing. First cos Africa is not harmonized in terms of line of thinking. A North African behaves way different from an East African.

I just wish people will stop using that phrase

It has always been in existence ,but they just gave it a trending name.While technology was used to promote and popularize it mainly by victims of the practice and bloggers/paparazy

Human selfish tendencies is on the increase,in marriage ,we seek divorce, now in baby partners, we seek multiple baby partners ,what next?

We want to eat our cake and have it,the norm now is zero tolerance in relationships.You cannot partner or marry somebody and expect you life to be the same,that's when sacrifice comes in.

My advise to people,the world is changing so fast,but don't allow someone else's well packaged failed trending life style to alter yours.
That why we are given brain to identify and separate the shaft from the rice.

Even King Solomon who tasted it all still categorized it under his ' Vanity upon vanity ,all is vanity' conclusion.

Ciao

Chubhie:
If marriage was perfect for humans, there would be no space for baby papa and mama to thrive.

This baby mama and papa phenomena is a response to the failures and perceived emasculation of the animal instincts of humans in marriage.

This current trend is a phase, a transition in mans attempt to discover the model best suited for them just for the bragging rights to be called higher animals.

It's rather embarrassing that the animals we share God's earth with are at peace with the concept of procreation and companionship while the assumed higher animals suffer.

Thought provoking...do you know that there are many species that mate for life?