Op, your perception is shallow, this as being in existence from time immemorial in Africa. its internet that has brought a lot to the open if not the likes of you will till be scratching your back on the wall.

its not about being in support or against. its a situation of circumstances.

Learn to mind ur business na. U no holy pass.

When I was broke and single no woman looked my way. Now that I have money, a nice job and a beautiful physique thunder will fire the people who say I should not impregnate any of the many women who come at me regularly. You idiots weren't with me when I climbed the financial ladder.

Biglittlelois:
With the way it's becoming a norm these days, marriage will be termed "old fashion" in the nearest future

It should be, it's a human mistake and not much else.

lordm:
I don't mean to annoy anyone, but the Bible calls them bastard or illegitimate children

The bible also says that you shouldn't eat shell fish, or wear blended fabrics, or work on the Sabbath (Saturday), or engage in usury (money lending).

Do you also avoid the above?

I don't think it's promiscuity that causes this whole "baby daddy, mama" issues... It's simply a case of convenience most times. For instance we have young men who can have kids without the supposed bondage of "marriage",they are fathers without all the negativity of marriage including hindrance and financial responsibility to her entire family... He just has to be responsible for his child plus the added bonus of still being single... Then you have a young lady who can fufil her maternal role without the labor and commitment of a marriage, no in laws or the issue of being cheated on or beaten to a pulp by her "husband"...she doesn't have to give up her youth plus the added bonus of financial security...its simply a case of eating your cake and having it... Marriage doesn't seem so appealing anymore plus you can now get the perks of it free of responsibility... I disagree that the kids suffer any sort of psych damage to continue the cycle tho, after all the baby mamas and daddies all grew up with married parents...

Chubhie:
If marriage was perfect for humans, there would be no space for baby papa and mama to thrive.

This baby mama and papa phenomena is a response to the failures and perceived emasculation of the animal instincts of humans in marriage.

This current trend is a phase, a transition in mans attempt to discover the model best suited for them just for the bragging rights to be called higher animals.

It's rather embarrassing that the animals we share God's earth with are at peace with the concept of procreation and companionship while the assumed higher animals suffer.

you've said it all dear...... marriage no help anybody,, besides the idea of banging one dick for the rest of my life is frightening enough talk more of marriage wahala like abusive and controlling husband who claim cheating is their right as African men plus family wahala...... Wo! Let’s all live our lives biko

You only live once

mmsen:


The bible also says that you shouldn't eat shell fish, or wear blended fabrics, or work on the Sabbath (Saturday), or engage in usury (money lending).

Do you also avoid the above?

Thank you... If one wants to quote the Bible to support their agenda or argument , they have to be sure they are living to it word for word

If your a lady and you want to

Adalyon:
I don't think it's promiscuity that causes this whole "baby daddy, mama" issues... It's simply a case of convenience most times. For instance we have young men who can have kids without the supposed bondage of "marriage",they are fathers without all the negativity of marriage including hindrance and financial responsibility to her entire family... He just has to be responsible for his child plus the added bonus of still being single... Then you have a young lady who can fufil her maternal role without the labor and commitment of a marriage, no in laws or the issue of being cheated on or beaten to a pulp by her "husband"...she doesn't have to give up her youth plus the added bonus of financial security...its simply a case of eating your cake and having it... Marriage doesn't seem so appealing anymore plus you can now get the perks of it free of responsibility... I disagree that the kids suffer any sort of psych damage to continue the cycle tho, after all the baby mamas and daddies all grew up with married parents...

What hes talking about with regards to the effect on children is that their lives are basically different from those raised in a conventional home.

He used akata for example, those guys are basically useless, their male version lacks good upbringing hence they blame enslavement of their forefathers for the absent of their fathers.

From the comments written above me, u would know that Nigerians have completely lost it without them knowing it. If you support this trend, then something is wrong with you but you just don't know it yet. Marriage is not child's play that's y we need to pray first before we get into it. Marriage is work, it is not for one person alone. At the end of the day, Marriage is for Two Responsible Adults not now that you have irresponsible lots going into it.

chiommy123:
OK. so whats the way forward

way forward is let them be

As a nigga, I prefer baby mama to marriage.

Less stress.

Free to mingle.

Wide variety in sex.

No stupid or greedy in-laws to deal with.

And no fancy wedding.

No controlling, clingy, jealous or spying wife to deal with.

And even much more better still, no issue of cheating wife to deal with.

Man fully focused on his careers and hobbies.

No regrets or depressing thoughts about wifey getting old and unattractive.

No divorce issues at all.

And most importantly...

No need whatsoever for having women (with their unending problems and issues) around.

Baby mama era is the real deal.

Any sensible man who really wants to experience total peace of mind should ditch the whole idea of marriage and go for baby mama.

Marriage has little or nothing to offer men.

He who has ears let him hear what the spirit says...

Earthbound:

Not exactly. I was creating a basis for understanding the problem.

yep op

meobizy:
When I was broke and single no woman looked my way. Now that I have money, a nice job and a beautiful physique thunder will fire the people who say I should not impregnate any of the many women who come at me regularly. You idiots weren't with me when I climbed the financial ladder.

Ok naw! keep plugging your d¡ck into every socket that come your way sha know say high voltage(HIV) dey and e no dey show for face

Biglittlelois:
With the way it's becoming a norm these days, marriage will be termed "old fashion" in the nearest future

My thought exactly...

ManIzHot:
This is a really deep topic...... an issue i am still thinking of subscribing to or not....

but i have come to understand that kids raised by responsible parent are way better than those raised by single parents...

most of those kids do feel inferior among there friends when esp when their friends are gisting them about the Nice time they have with their dads and moms over the holiday....

i know of a close relation whom his son...behaving unusual and he claimed he his missing the absence of his dad in his life

i kinda reason with Netanyahu1....that fact is the only crux making me to get off the mindset of having a babe mama cause i want the best up bringing for my kids....!

and yea twerkjack so riding one d¡ck is boring......? rod na rod na

God bless you, and bless you and bless you so much more!!!

Despite being anti religious, I've identified that you know your God.

You are the first that looked at the topic from the angle of the children!!!


Have we bothered to ask the innocent children born into this arrangement what they think?

A child NEEDS A HAPPY HOME-DADDY AND MUMMY TOGETHER.


We have really become selfish in this generation.

Chubhie:
If marriage was perfect for humans, there would be no space for baby papa and mama to thrive.

This baby mama and papa phenomena is a response to the failures and perceived emasculation of the animal instincts of humans in marriage.

This current trend is a phase, a transition in mans attempt to discover the model best suited for them just for the bragging rights to be called higher animals.

It's rather embarrassing that the animals we share God's earth with are at peace with the concept of procreation and companionship while the assumed higher animals suffer.

Eagles don't harbor multiple partners... They're at peace with this concept and not any phase. If u can't be faithful, take ur stand, and let your partner know your stance, if she's ok with it na una sabi.

itsmeurLady:
From the comments written above me, u would know that Nigerians have completely lost it without them knowing it. If you support this trend, then something is wrong with you but you just don't know it yet. Marriage is not child's play that's y we need to pray first before we get into it. Marriage is work, it is not for one person alone. At the end of the day, Marriage is for Two Responsible Adults not now that you have irresponsible lots going into it.

... Truth my dear.Preach.

Herrmes:
It should be, it's a human mistake and not much else.

Seriously...?!

Pity men spending millions to marry girls that some niggas have been fucking for free.Baby mama is the way forward.Use that money to improve your family and invest in business cos most in-laws have spoilt the fun in marriages these days.Too many worries and trouble for guys hence the high death rate for men.

Adalyon:

Thank you... If one wants to quote the Bible to support their agenda or argument , they have to be sure they are living to it word for word

Are you encouraging him to drop the part of the Bible he follows because he doesn't follow all? The things people do to justify a bad act!

We should constantly remind one another of goodness. When reminded, we should work towards getting better and not condemn the person who reminds.

Ps: I am not a Christian.

Men can have variety- it’s in their dna but women it’s greed and covetousness ? So daft ! Op go and do your research before writing articles above your intelligence level ! It’s not only men that are wired to have multiple partners ! Men have just bullied women into repressing their own sexuality !

ypeace:

Are you encouraging him to drop the part of the Bible he follows because he doesn't follow all? The things people do to justify a bad act!

We should constantly remind one another of goodness. When reminded, we should work towards getting better and not condemn the person who reminds.

Ps: I am not a Christian.

I'm simply saying that he without sin should be the first to cast a stone... If one follows one part and condemns another, in that same vein someone out there follows the part that he doesn't and by that right has the right to condemn him... Do/follow what you want but don't judge someone whose simply sins differently

Op Will i go to hell fire if am a baby daddy?

flinton:

Thought provoking...do you know that there are many species that mate for life?

I noticed same pattern in some of my pigeons.

twerkjack:
you've said it all dear...... marriage no help anybody,, besides the idea of banging one dick for the rest of my life is frightening enough talk more of marriage wahala like abusive and controlling husband who claim cheating is their right as African men plus family wahala...... Wo! Let’s all live our lives biko

You only live once

What! Interesting subjective perspective from a lady..... I learnt something new today!

I would probably do a baby mama if true love don't come

been in love once and lost it

I do think if I ever fall in love again I would wife a lady

Family can be fun; fun activities and stuff

However I f.ucking love my bachelorhood

When I need my peace and absolute solitude I have it

I do whatever the f.cuk I want!

Then when I need sex I have girlfriends for that

Earthbound:


African Americans have over time, turned this behavior into a normal practice. It isn't strange to find a woman with four kids from four different men and vice versa. Because technology has bridged the gap between us and our African American brothers, we see nothing wrong with the baby mama, baby daddy lifestyle. .

OP...don't get it twisted. ...baby mama/ baby daddy is Black American slang for the unwed mother/father the child. Has the mainstream media sooo brainwashed you that you believe Whites don't have baby mama/baby daddy?....or are irresponsible and often get impregnated by men who do not marry them? What you need to know is Black women are wayyy more likely not to terminate the pregnancy than Whites. Baby mama/daddy always been around..... if you're so concerned about this...then you should be up in arms against the faster rise of abortions and gay lifestyle. Just don't mislead others into believing baby mama/daddy is restricted to Black Americans...and they are proud of it.

Adalyon:

I'm simply saying that he without sin should be the first to cast a stone... If one follows one part and condemns another, in that same vein someone out there follows the part that he doesn't and by that right has the right to condemn him... Do/follow what you want but don't judge someone whose simply sins differently

I don't subscribe to this complex logic. What the original guy did is only stating the fact as it is in the Bible. The guy who quoted him is just trying to shift the goal post. The guy never mentioned that he condones other forms of sins.

I don't know, but the similitude of this is a thief saying no one has the right to call him out because we all have other forms of sin.

Truly, we all have our sins. But, it is a pathetic thing trying to justify sinning using the 'goal post shifting' tactics.