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Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Saylawchar(m): 8:31am On Jul 31, 2018 |
Pls, a friend's wife keeps packing out of her matrimonial home, infact she has packed out 5 good times, yet the husband wants her back. Whenever they have issues, the husband would tell her "leave my house afterwards you are not being supportive and you do things in secrecy"... the next thing would be, the wife would pack her belongings and leave over and over, but once she does, the man would start missing her and wanting her back. The very last time she left, my friend told me she left leaving behind their four year old son for the man to look after, now the man wants her back especially because of the well-being of their son and the love he still has for the wife. What would you advise the man to do ![]() |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by madridguy(m): 8:37am On Jul 31, 2018 |
Tell your friend to grow up and stop behaving like a kid. Shikena 7 Likes |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by jaszplus12(m): 9:51am On Jul 31, 2018 |
sometimes I wonder if people know what it means to toast date and marry! both man and wife should see a trained counseling guru. all this pack out come back like seesaw will impact negatively on the child soon. but first sit your friend down and ask him if he has ever thought about the future. has he ever thought he'd need his wife's support in finance emotion or physical support in future? no one knows tomorrow, he thinks because she depends on him therefore he has the right to torture her ....time will tell. then again tell him that soon the wife will become numb to his threats and move out and never return... possibly fall into the arms of a caring man and never look back. love covers a MULTITUDE of shortcomings he should know that. therefore if he doesn't treat her with love ...chances of his losing her is VERY high!. the wife should attempt to bluff his chasing her out by tactfully sleeping in the parlour sometimes and pretend to "feel" him..once he falla for it its then the time for her to stand up for her position in the home by talking some sweet sense into his head. I'm sure she's well received at her safe house that's why she meekly goes...else with her back against the wall....she will fight to stay. long and short...see a qualified marriage counseling guru....not pastor please. thanks. NB be sure to tell your friend to drop his very selfish attitude and stupid pride...else his family life is gone for good! 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Saylawchar(m): 10:03am On Jul 31, 2018 |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Saylawchar(m): 10:04am On Jul 31, 2018 |
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Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Saylawchar(m): 10:06am On Jul 31, 2018 |
jaszplus12: Many thanks, this is deep! |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by divinelove(m): 10:32am On Jul 31, 2018 |
why tell her to leave when u will still go n bring her back., isn't that childish. They should learn to resolve their issues while still co existing |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by johnbull2017(m): 11:33am On Jul 31, 2018 |
Please advice your friend to get help from a a trained counselor. He is really torturing the wife and son emotionally. This is his wife not a shoe he got from a market. Also, he really needs to grow up. 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Evangkatsoulis: 12:15pm On Jul 31, 2018 |
I recommend divorce. |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by emelda86(f): 12:55pm On Jul 31, 2018 |
This happens when boys decide to marry instead of men... 1 Like |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Saylawchar(m): 7:29pm On Jul 31, 2018 |
divinelove: In addition to this, my friend claimed all the spiritual help he seeked from pastors and the likes were never in her favour, they all adversed him to do away with her that shes got no positive spirit to aid his progress. |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Eketem: 8:38pm On Jul 31, 2018 |
He is silly. If he is not ready to be married he should ask for a divorce, it is stupid to ask your wife to leave back and forth up to 5 times. He is not even ready to be married because he is listening to those claiming to be pastors who tell him what he wants to hear so he can blame her for his misfortune. My only issue with her is why she keeps coming back to a clearly immature man. Unfortunately they went to have a baby when they themselves are babies 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by sisisioge: 11:49pm On Jul 31, 2018 |
Hmmm...bet why is this issue strictly for married people when the couple under discussion are clearly glorified singletons? He said pack out, she pack out. He said come back...she come back. There is a very obedient woman...she's a keeper ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by zimunachimdi: 12:57am On Aug 01, 2018 |
You are the man! Stop acting like a kid. Put your home in order. |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by EponOjuku: 5:59am On Aug 01, 2018 |
Chairman, committee of friends, Special Adviser to married couples, You remember this post? Saylawchar: You then posted this Saylawchar: Now, you're asking this question. Saylawchar: We can't all be fooled. Being a man has to do with taking responsibility for your actions and standing by your words. That's why you have to think properly before talking or doing things. When angry, be very careful about what you say. Anger lasts for a short while but the repercussions of things said or done could last a lifetime. Your wife goes out to wherever and is welcome there because she tells them what you said not what she has done. Apart from the fact that your wife is abjectly irresponsible for leaving your house and your kid with you, Your wife is not supportive and does things in secrecy cos she knows you're erratic and she's not secure with you. She can invest in the marriage union today and you kick her out tomorrow. On the flip side, she could be leaving the kid cos she knows you can't cope and you'll want her back. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by Eketem: 8:08am On Aug 01, 2018 |
EponOjuku: Hehehehehe 80% of the time those claiming a friend told them are writing on behalf of themselves. The poster is not serious, he found out she lied then if he doesn't want let her go, this back and forth for years is annoying, the poor child must be confused now better to have parents seperated and contributing to care than this back and forth. |
Re: Pls Advise...(strictly For Couples) by thorpido(m): 10:55am On Aug 01, 2018 |
Op please grow up.Put your house in order and stop all these childish,'pack out of the house'. |
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