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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Nobody: 10:39pm On Aug 11, 2018
Pathetic and funny story. That lady is so selfish and wicked. Why go into such union to bring forth sick kids? Sooo so unfair to that kid. Please divorce the barracuda.
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Nobody: 10:40pm On Aug 11, 2018
Mrjo:
for those of you up there op needs your advice not comments, thanks for the understanding.

God bless you
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Fitbillionairep: 10:42pm On Aug 11, 2018
Bleep all these genotype shit. i can marry any girl as long as i love her, weather na AS or even ss. when the money is there sickle sell is shit

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by basmur(m): 10:42pm On Aug 11, 2018
you have the answers to your issue but still waiting for acknowledgement...leave the woman as soon as possible, I feel for the little child.I pray God be his strength trough his life time.
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by swuftz: 10:43pm On Aug 11, 2018
Wow. Too bad things like this happened. But my advice you take heart and and concentrate on how the innocent boy can live a good and fulfilling life. I know medically speaking it's going to be a tough journey for the poor boy..but then I also as a believer believe our life also has a spiritual dimension..if you are a Christian I'll advice you draw closer to God and commit IKs life into His hand. I've heard testimonies of Miracles where genotype was changed from AS to AA. It's real. Miracles still happens. There is nothing impossible with God. As regards your wife I wouldn't advice a divorce if you truly once loved her. She might have been saying her status has changed by faith...it can still change...But refrain from having another child with her for the moment till the status changed. May God help you spiritually and financially to take care of the innocent boy and heal your marriage.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by johnpaschal(m): 10:44pm On Aug 11, 2018
It is a small issue for God Almighty my brother take your son to a bible believing church and watch God do his wonders.......John 9 vs 3 says neither him nor his parents sinned but that the works of God be made manifest In him.......its something that has happened before in my presence this case was a lady who was born with the ss gene from birth and loved up till 26 year of her life now she is free from it...she is now AA enjoying a life without pain
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by donbachi(m): 10:44pm On Aug 11, 2018
You've seen why,some pastors and churches are of the opinion.that same medical tests be carried out and results presented.before they join members as husbands and wives.most of us kicked against that.if you had done in accordance with such opinion,it wouldn't have gotten to this.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by victorian(f): 10:44pm On Aug 11, 2018
You've entered already. You can't leave the poor boy on his own.
Mehn I pity you bank accounts, in fact you and your wife bank accounts. Cause of taking care of a sicker is not a ride in the park. It's damned expensive, especially when crisis starts. I lost my elder through sickle cell. He died age 18. I lost my second brother through hole in the heart, he died age 24. Am the only left but with AA genotype. They both died right in front of me. Terrible past moments cry It wasn't easy . I had to spend on my second brother's health, cos our parents were old and gone, after some years back. I lost the battle three years ago. After spending alot in his treatments. Mehn it wasnt easy. I saw pepper!

And my parents spent fire to take care of my late brothers when they were alive.

Sorry op, you can't run away from your son. It's good uv decided not to have more kids with your wife. But please take care of your son. Some sicklers survive while some don't. May God see both of you through amen.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by AkpatiOzu1: 10:46pm On Aug 11, 2018
Aremolekunowo:
Greetings to my people of nairalanders, I met my wife around 2015 and we dated for almost a year and attended all the necessary church and family teachings.

She told me she was a single mother, and all the men that dated her before I came to her left her because of that,I promise I won't leave her for having a baby outside wedlock.

The relationship keep on growing and I told her about my AS genotype and I made it clear to her that nothing will make me marry AS lady because of sickle cell children palavar. she told me that she is genotype AA. We continue our relationship did introduction and fixed our wedding date, now a month and two weeks to our wedding we went for mandatory test in our church clinic behold she failed the genotype test it was AS, right there I told her I no dey do again, she rejected the result and claimed vehemently that she is AA. second day we did confirmatory test it was still the same thing.

Her parents called me and told me both of them were AA and there is no way their daughter can be AS gene. they later brought some previous test (fake) of her AA stuff. I was bullied by every one around to go ahead since it was just few weeks to the wedding that it was manipulations, though my spirit was not willing again but I was compelled by all to go ahead that the thing has change back to AA she also said so that it has changed back to original AA. We go ahead and marry sha. She took in immediately after nine month she gave birth to a baby boy which I named Ikechukwu though we are both Yoruba's but I love Igbo people so much because I grew up with many of them. After some months after birth, Ikechukwu begin some strange sickness we begin to take the boy in and outside hospitals, spending the little income I was getting I decided to do Genotype test for d boy my wife resist it but I went ahead behold it was SS(sickle cell)

immediately I show her the result she went on her knees begging me, I called her father and informed him about it he invites me to his place and he too was begging me that he was also AS and not AA as he claimed before; now every is begging me again that I should not break my marriage that is based on deception, I have done everything that will make her leave my house except violent she refused to go. Every one is bullying me and begging me again, now non of them have supported me in any way for the boy expensive treatment.

IK is now a year old, am not willing to have another child with her again, please my people what should I do , and what's the best way to make her leave my house for at leat 2 to 3 years? please advice your brother and son, thanks and sorry for the long epistle God bless you all.


this one is serious oo

bro I'll advise you to quit the damn deception marriage since everything about the marriage is fake
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Nobody: 10:46pm On Aug 11, 2018
obi4eze:
Hmm...
This is deep. I really sympathize with you but I think you are to blame. Two different medical laboratories gave her genotype as AS but you still went ahead. Even if you divorce her look at what your poor son would be going through because you weren't a man but bowed to deceptive pressure.
It's your cross. Carry it!

You just said it all. Period!

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Abagworo(m): 10:46pm On Aug 11, 2018
Leave the house for her and move on with your life. She and her family are evil.
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by midastouch: 10:47pm On Aug 11, 2018
You should not be under any illusion that there was a marriage. THERE WAS NO MARRIAGE.

Of all the sacraments of the church, its only the sacrament of marriage that is not conferred by a priest, but it is conferred on each other by the couple.

If there is any form of deception that is material before a marriage AND this is hidden from a party of the marriage, that in itself renders the marriage NULL AND VOID.

If any of the parties is forced into the Union (absence of free will); this also renders the marriage NULL AND VOID.

My friend, walk away, nothing is tying you to the marriage, NOT IN HEAVEN, NOT ON EARTH. They are destiny killers.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by CioAngels(f): 10:47pm On Aug 11, 2018
Aremolekunowo:
Greetings to my people of nairalanders, I met my wife around 2015 and we dated for almost a year and attended all the necessary church and family teachings.

She told me she was a single mother, and all the men that dated her before I came to her left her because of that,I promise I won't leave her for having a baby outside wedlock.

The relationship keep on growing and I told her about my AS genotype and I made it clear to her that nothing will make me marry AS lady because of sickle cell children palavar. she told me that she is genotype AA. We continue our relationship did introduction and fixed our wedding date, now a month and two weeks to our wedding we went for mandatory test in our church clinic behold she failed the genotype test it was AS, right there I told her I no dey do again, she rejected the result and claimed vehemently that she is AA. second day we did confirmatory test it was still the same thing.

Her parents called me and told me both of them were AA and there is no way their daughter can be AS gene. they later brought some previous test (fake) of her AA stuff. I was bullied by every one around to go ahead since it was just few weeks to the wedding that it was manipulations, though my spirit was not willing again but I was compelled by all to go ahead that the thing has change back to AA she also said so that it has changed back to original AA. We go ahead and marry sha. She took in immediately after nine month she gave birth to a baby boy which I named Ikechukwu though we are both Yoruba's but I love Igbo people so much because I grew up with many of them. After some months after birth, Ikechukwu begin some strange sickness we begin to take the boy in and outside hospitals, spending the little income I was getting I decided to do Genotype test for d boy my wife resist it but I went ahead behold it was SS(sickle cell)

immediately I show her the result she went on her knees begging me, I called her father and informed him about it he invites me to his place and he too was begging me that he was also AS and not AA as he claimed before; now every is begging me again that I should not break my marriage that is based on deception, I have done everything that will make her leave my house except violent she refused to go. Every one is bullying me and begging me again, now non of them have supported me in any way for the boy expensive treatment.

IK is now a year old, am not willing to have another child with her again, please my people what should I do , and what's the best way to make her leave my house for at leat 2 to 3 years? please advice your brother and son, thanks and sorry for the long epistle God bless you all.


Get a divorce and get a wife and learn not to allow Church to coerce you into marrying anybody without standing on your feet to do the test, where she refuses you walkaway. What a deception from her parents and the church.
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by ngwababe(f): 10:48pm On Aug 11, 2018
Kleenatics:



This is deep

Very very very deep

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by gonkin(m): 10:50pm On Aug 11, 2018
I really hate secrets. Really uncomfortable with a girl that holds back some things especially the important ones

Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by otherway: 10:51pm On Aug 11, 2018
Aremolekunowo:
Greetings to my people of nairalanders, I met my wife around 2015 and we dated for almost a year and attended all the necessary church and family teachings.

She told me she was a single mother, and all the men that dated her before I came to her left her because of that,I promise I won't leave her for having a baby outside wedlock.

The relationship keep on growing and I told her about my AS genotype and I made it clear to her that nothing will make me marry AS lady because of sickle cell children palavar. she told me that she is genotype AA. We continue our relationship did introduction and fixed our wedding date, now a month and two weeks to our wedding we went for mandatory test in our church clinic behold she failed the genotype test it was AS, right there I told her I no dey do again, she rejected the result and claimed vehemently that she is AA. second day we did confirmatory test it was still the same thing.

Her parents called me and told me both of them were AA and there is no way their daughter can be AS gene. they later brought some previous test (fake) of her AA stuff. I was bullied by every one around to go ahead since it was just few weeks to the wedding that it was manipulations, though my spirit was not willing again but I was compelled by all to go ahead that the thing has change back to AA she also said so that it has changed back to original AA. We go ahead and marry sha. She took in immediately after nine month she gave birth to a baby boy which I named Ikechukwu though we are both Yoruba's but I love Igbo people so much because I grew up with many of them. After some months after birth, Ikechukwu begin some strange sickness we begin to take the boy in and outside hospitals, spending the little income I was getting I decided to do Genotype test for d boy my wife resist it but I went ahead behold it was SS(sickle cell)

immediately I show her the result she went on her knees begging me, I called her father and informed him about it he invites me to his place and he too was begging me that he was also AS and not AA as he claimed before; now every is begging me again that I should not break my marriage that is based on deception, I have done everything that will make her leave my house except violent she refused to go. Every one is bullying me and begging me again, now non of them have supported me in any way for the boy expensive treatment.

IK is now a year old, am not willing to have another child with her again, please my people what should I do , and what's the best way to make her leave my house for at leat 2 to 3 years? please advice your brother and son, thanks and sorry for the long epistle God bless you all.


So sad cos you are just unlucky.It is usually one in four children but it came first.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by othenok(f): 10:51pm On Aug 11, 2018
Aremolekunowo:
Greetings to my people of nairalanders, I met my wife around 2015 and we dated for almost a year and attended all the necessary church and family teachings.

She told me she was a single mother, and all the men that dated her before I came to her left her because of that,I promise I won't leave her for having a baby outside wedlock.

The relationship keep on growing and I told her about my AS genotype and I made it clear to her that nothing will make me marry AS lady because of sickle cell children palavar. she told me that she is genotype AA. We continue our relationship did introduction and fixed our wedding date, now a month and two weeks to our wedding we went for mandatory test in our church clinic behold she failed the genotype test it was AS, right there I told her I no dey do again, she rejected the result and claimed vehemently that she is AA. second day we did confirmatory test it was still the same thing.

Her parents called me and told me both of them were AA and there is no way their daughter can be AS gene. they later brought some previous test (fake) of her AA stuff. I was bullied by every one around to go ahead since it was just few weeks to the wedding that it was manipulations, though my spirit was not willing again but I was compelled by all to go ahead that the thing has change back to AA she also said so that it has changed back to original AA. We go ahead and marry sha. She took in immediately after nine month she gave birth to a baby boy which I named Ikechukwu though we are both Yoruba's but I love Igbo people so much because I grew up with many of them. After some months after birth, Ikechukwu begin some strange sickness we begin to take the boy in and outside hospitals, spending the little income I was getting I decided to do Genotype test for d boy my wife resist it but I went ahead behold it was SS(sickle cell)

immediately I show her the result she went on her knees begging me, I called her father and informed him about it he invites me to his place and he too was begging me that he was also AS and not AA as he claimed before; now every is begging me again that I should not break my marriage that is based on deception, I have done everything that will make her leave my house except violent she refused to go. Every one is bullying me and begging me again, now non of them have supported me in any way for the boy expensive treatment.

IK is now a year old, am not willing to have another child with her again, please my people what should I do , and what's the best way to make her leave my house for at leat 2 to 3 years? please advice your brother and son, thanks and sorry for the long epistle God bless you all.



This is a strong ground for annulment. The marriage is invalid because it was built on lies. You can continue to take care of your son but truth is you aren't married.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by ipobarecriminals: 10:51pm On Aug 11, 2018
undecided undecided undecided embarassed lipsrsealed wink grin lipsrsealed cry poor boy! Why name him IKECHUKWU instead OLUWASEUN, TIJESUFUNMI, TOLU .Dnt u knw dat any associate with dat name nah evil.Change his name to a responsible one like David, Temitope MABAYOMIJE. Shame unto her parents for the scam. Shame unto her.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Nobody: 10:51pm On Aug 11, 2018
OP,

Firstly let me say I am very sorry you are going through this. Sometimes life throws some strange challenges at us. The important thing is how we deal with these challenges. Your wife needs you now more than ever. We are fallible, you, your wife, me and everyone on this forum.

I want to believe that you were in a situation where you wanted the truth to be false(We have all been there) and the so called bullies helped you do that. Such is the trick of the heart. No one is to blame here as this is no time for that. The only innocent person here is the little child whom I believe will grow to make you both proud.

Be the man and make a plan for his care. Fate deals people worse daily.

I tell you what. AA and AA marrying have resulted in the birth of children with learning disabilities, rare genetic disorders and bone marrow cancer, so accept the reality on ground like a man you are and stop the self pity.

Send me a PM so we can talk this through. If I am not mistaken,there are tests available to check the genotype of a foetus so early termination can be considered. Do not break your home over this my man.Stay blessed

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by CioAngels(f): 10:53pm On Aug 11, 2018
extremelygolden:
Unfortunately the deed has been done already and you can't abandon her and your son now. A stitch in time, they say, saves nine, and there's no need crying over split milk.

I think the decision to pause bearing another child with her suffices. I just pray a miracle occurs and Ikechukwu is completely and permanently healed.


Who says he cant abandon her, yes he can, but should be sending upkeep and medical expenses. That is the prize she pays for such huge lies. She should carry her cross. Desperation into marriages does not pay at all.
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by fancy4eve(f): 10:54pm On Aug 11, 2018
Anoda defection of genotype.....another desperado sited, but hw cn she lie over serious issue all bcus of marriage. Who knows, maybe her real dad is LIE MOHAMMED.

I won't blame her actions, cus u guys hv made Baby mama looks bad in d society, no body wants 2 b wit a single mother, everyone needs chases.

Pele dear.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Nobody: 10:55pm On Aug 11, 2018
Op. I like you already even though I have not met you. On your predicament..., you wife built this whole marriage on lies and therefore you are excused to take any decision you wish .

But if you still love her anyway then you guys can work this out and even have healthy kids just that it will cost a lot of money going forward.
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by xcelentattitude(m): 10:56pm On Aug 11, 2018
Just seek God's will about the matter. But be rest assured that there is nothing God cannot do. I have heard several testimonies whereby he changed SS to AA. God will help you.
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Nobody: 10:58pm On Aug 11, 2018
they said d thing has changed back again. ..........ummmn,thank God d rope wey dem
take tie u don dey cut.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by PefHouse: 11:00pm On Aug 11, 2018
Why are many people ignorant about this issue, you had the opportunity even after u married, your lack of research is mind boggling.

I will still advice any AS-AS couple to go ahead with marriage if it will make them happy, just know your options. I know several couples who are both AS and have many children, one couple even has 5 kids, free of SS and they are happier than any AA couple I couple I know. Go ahead with your wife and check the genotype of your child before birth

Here are ur missed opportunities

- You married without a plan even after u knew both of u were AS. I laughed at the part that she failed the test, did u pass the test?
- After marriage you decided to conceived without exploring other conception options like genetic selection and IVF
- You conceived without doing a check on the genotype of the fetus at 10-12 weeks CVS
- You refused to check again at 12-15 weeks ameosynthesis
- You are making another mistake by destroying your home and still not researching how u can avoid the problem next time.

Go and get professional medical advice, speak to a genetist, its not all problems u bring to nairaland, more than half here are ignorant, but will still advice u anyway.

Mend your marriage and do your research, anyone still giving birth to SS children in 2018 shd be prosecuted, you either know your options, come to terms with them and plan. OR u avoid the marriage.

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Tadeus(m): 11:00pm On Aug 11, 2018
extremelygolden:
Unfortunately the deed has been done already and you can't abandon her and your son now. A stitch in time, they say, saves nine, and there's no need crying over split milk.

I think the decision to pause bearing another child with her suffices. I just pray a miracle occurs and Ikechukwu is completely and permanently healed.



Medically, ikechuchwu will remain SS till death. Not negotiable, it’s medically proven.

If you r no longer in love with your wife, you can divorce and move on. Fact

Honestly, it was a very silly mistake buh d deed has been done. Your son wil suffer for your stupidity . Fact

It wil also affect you both emotionally and financially.. fact


If you still love your wife, move on with her. You into it already but it wil cost you more if you ppl want more kids. On each pregnancy, she wil run a test to check d status of d baby b4 you ppl wil decide either to leave it or not. It’s about 350k to 380k per test.


Make up your mind now. Man up bro


All d best

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by fkj950ax(m): 11:01pm On Aug 11, 2018
Op
1. AS doesn't mean the result failed.
2. She lied and deceived you
3. There are options with living with SS. Expensive, but possible to minimize it.
4. If you can't stand your wife, it's better you both go your ways whilw you must be responsible for the child.
5. If you can find it in your heart to forgive her, please do, but be ready to move on with her and face the dangers ahead.
6. Reach out for support group @RedConnectNG on Instagram is one.
7. I'd advise against more children if your finances is not too bouyant, or you adopt. It's guaranteed to make your life bearable in future.
8. Many apologies for being in this pickle, but may God in His infinite mercies comfort you in Jesus name. Amen

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Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by Tomoyayi(m): 11:01pm On Aug 11, 2018
czarina:
That marriage is invalid for the single reason that it was built on lies. Let's wait for for the elders

You're Elder number 3 na cheesy




meanwhile, check my profile if you live in Jos and environs cool
Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by MartinCorridon: 11:03pm On Aug 11, 2018
I have conquered you as my dog. I command you to follow all my posts grin

I roundly humiliated you today, made you open 20 emails cos of me. I never got a single ban.

Nothing like making someone angry while you don't give a shit. I bait you intentionally and you don't know it tongue

AkpatiOzu1:
this one is serious oo

bro I'll advise you to quit the damn deception marriage since everything about the marriage is fake

Re: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by omobaba1759: 11:03pm On Aug 11, 2018
Too bad

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