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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by OsuMustGo: 11:41pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
MartinCorridon:Woe betide those bastards |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:42pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
weyreypey: Thanks. Yes, everyone does. Feeling secured is very important . 1 Like |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by ipobarecriminals: 11:42pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
smileing: smileing:u dnt cut ur head cos u have headache. Suicide isn't the solution. Dnt allow "Village pipu" to laugh u to scorn.Delete dat suicidal tot outta ur beautiful heart..Free urself, I knw it wont be easy but just do it.And pls, u dnt need to share this with ur future husband, he might use it against u.Free urself, eat, read, play, watch movies and forget that lunatic bastard. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Abikedollar: 11:43pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
My own fear for you is the area of health just hope his status is negative to HIV |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by weyreypey: 11:43pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
victorian:I am NOT Am. Great. But these rape cases should be carefully observed.... When a lady allows you to play around the point without going inside are you doubting she's setting herself up for rape? |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Tadeus(m): 11:43pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
smileing: Therapist too want taste.... eleyi gidi gan oooo I pictured a very beautiful and sexy church geh that her parents denied sex education. You just have to move one. If truly you don’t love the guy, forgive and forget about him. Virginity is not a criteria now. Its painful dou buh Move on sis |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by luwabrooklyn(m): 11:44pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
vululadilolo:I dont agree with you one bit. Hey sis u love him right how long have you been dating what made him take ur virginity now and why not b4 did he know about ur findings that he is not your husband to be or what prompted him to take that decision knowing fully well he could lose u and that could destroy hid marriage plans or after ur findings did u change in ur attitude towards him... This guy wants marriage with u and he felt taking ur virginity will guarantee that maybe he noticed something that made him do that I don't support his actions but I think u need to hear him out |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by naijaking1: 11:44pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
smileing: Cry baby! ..... is when you give it up, and then develop a second thought about it, because you found a better option, or you didn't get what you were expecting. Move on. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by weyreypey: 11:46pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
victorian:You need to sympathize with a lot of Nigerian men... An unbelievable lot of we men were defiled by big aunties and robbed of our innocence tey tey even before we knew how to watch football game. Most went untreated and never healed. 2 Likes |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by NoLotty7(m): 11:46pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
Hmm,it is well |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 11:48pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
victorian:Look, the fact that you encountered those stuffs doesn't give you the right to generalize, even though I wouldn't deny the fact that some men as much as some ladies are rapists. Your recent use of "some", "Not all" is just you being hypocritical, you are fixated by the quality of your mind and which is rather pathetic by the manner of your advice to ladies generally. Security consciousness is the business of all irrespective of gender. That said, Men have had their share of sexual harassments from the female folks but we chose to be a bit more cautious than sow a seed of disgust against women in the hearts of the innocent. I deduced from your post that you're a big campaigner of "All men are potential rapist", unfortunately, your experience isn't enough validation of such sloganeering. Check yourself, you've often fallen into the wrong hands because you have been in the midst of wrong people and most likely, your attitude and carriage is often prone to being exploited. I wish you well in your new search. kiss the truth! |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by nahzyla: 11:48pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
Sorry about ypur experience Op, please dont marry that man he is not a good person. I dont know why you love him. I remember an experience I had with a guy like that, it was God that saved me, the guy held and bruised my hands with so much force but I was determined to not give in. Thank God he didnt succeed. Any females reading this thread out there please be careful around men. 90 percent of them cannot control themselves around women. This isnt male bashing its a fact. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by OLORIPAPA: 11:49pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
Y is rape coming into this?I don't understand but maybe we need to define rape...though he is not justified he is guilty and so are u.he must have been showing u sign of what is about to come but probably u just ignored it or maybe u were not forceful in ur resisting him.U can't be saying No and yet u going visit him alone at odd hours.Believe me u gave him some negative signals... though he is still wrong for what he did. 2 Likes |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MrCGPA(m): 11:49pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
Many Nigerians put themselves in a big dilemma today because of trying to follow what a so called prophet told them. What do you use to qualify a real prophet of God? Do you have the capacity to Discern spirits? If your answer is no then note that it's not everyone claiming to be prophet is a real one. Just follow your mind. You know this man more than any of us. 1 Like |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by insperyadyou: 11:51pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
victorian:when you said 'he is patient'. You know how to use words well |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by abike12(f): 11:52pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
You're asking if you should marry your rapist? The answer is no and if you do it you'll definitely regret it. You also have an unhealthy idea of the significance of virginity. It's not a gift for your husband nor will it guarantee a happier marriage, it's yours to give at a time that's ok for you. You've been robbed of making that decision unfortunately but it doesn't make you any less of a woman that deserves love and respect. Try to work on your self esteem too. 2 Likes |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by elisbabs499(m): 11:53pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
smileing: Be ready to face whatever they may say to you. You must first clear your conscience and your mother or a sister is still the best to start with |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by frankson1(m): 11:53pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
eelipumpin: My BEST write-up on this tread. 1 Like |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:53pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
weyreypey: But what if she doesn't allow you to play around the point? Is her polite and courteous nature means she wants to get laid? Is it bad to be polite and friendly? Why is it when a lady smiles in one on one discussions means she wants sex? Should she always frown ?to get the message across that hey don't touch me, cos I don't even know u that well? |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by XaintJoel20: 11:53pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
alterswerve: I am in a dilemma. Please what is/are the difference(s)? Thanks. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MartinCorridon: 11:54pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
OsuMustGo: Amen. If one doesn't even have sisters or wives or daughters but we all have mothers.... So why do it to a woman? |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by weyreypey: 11:55pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
victorian:Nah. Sex must be consensual all the way. Check my other post |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:56pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
insperyadyou: Smiles, patient means he didn't pounce on me for sex. Or he didn't force himself on me. He took his time, which I like. I do have panic attacks when a guy tries to be all over me, all at once. It scares the hell out of me. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by okeyfermod(m): 11:58pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
Go see him, or better still ask him to meet you somewhere. Talk about what he did to you and how he has broken your promise to keep your virginity till marriage. Get him to talk about it, but have the whole thing recorded on your phone. Thats iron clad confession. Make copies of the recording, give to your parents to take to the police. No body should rape a woman!! smileing: |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:58pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
weyreypey: Sex must be consensual, I agree. But rapists do not have the patience for it to be consensual from the lady's part. They simple pounce! Which is completely wrong. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by AkpatiOzu1: 11:59pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
MartinCorridon: |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by weyreypey: 11:59pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
victorian:Like I said in my other post those guys are mostly damaged by molestations at very tender age by trusted aunties. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TheLoser: 12:00am On Aug 12, 2018 |
smileing:Sorry |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Pataricatering(f): 12:00am On Aug 12, 2018 |
Richy4:dudes and stupid advice are like 1 and 2 ! If a girl goes to a guys house it means she must be ready to have sex ? It’s stupidity like this that eventually gets u in trouble - especially when you travel abroad and carry your idiotic African man mentality along ! |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Macon1212: 12:02am On Aug 12, 2018 |
smileing: Stay away from this rapist and monster before you cry for the second time. He may rape your family member when they come to visit. He may rape you again if you don't opt out in time. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Saintkely: 12:03am On Aug 12, 2018 |
Nne, although I never marry yet, so am not in good position to advice you, but base on the advices people are given you Hmm use your brain ooo, you said you love the guy, I don't know how long he did what he did, and I hope if you are still in the pain you cannot considering him for marriage, before you started consulting churches there means you have already agreed within yourself, handling him to authority now both of you are planning or considering to marry is not advisable on my own opinion, since you didn't do it at the rightful time, remember you are in Nigeria a lawless Country, the most painful part of it is that these people that are advised you to expose yourself by involving authority are the same people that will still mock at you tomorrow that you were once raped , I am not supporting rape either supporting you for exposing yourself to danger, if you asked me to advice you, I will tell you to wear away the image of rape if you want to marry him, if you don't want to marry him do same and walk away, let it be your secret. No insult please. |
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 12:22am On Aug 12, 2018 |
weyreypey: Such aunties are to be arrested.. That's very terrible! Children both male and female should voice out when raped! Men raped by women should also arrest such mentally unstable women Women too should arrest such men who rapes. It's completely bad. Parents should be close to their kids, so when such things happen, the children will easily tell their parents. When I was very little, I should be 7years old then, my cousin who was way older tried raping me, he started with fingering me. I was like what's the uncle doing? He said I shouldn't tell my parents and he will buy chocolate for me tomorrow. In my mind I was like this is wrong, why is he touching me this way? And this guy came for the weekend. Omo! Immediately my parents came back from work, late in the night I ran to my mum and told her what happened. She was very angry, she told my dad and the cousin was really spoken harshly that night and sent off very early the next day. So parents be close to your kids, and they will tell u virtually anything or threats from extended family or strangers. Such boys should voice out to their mums or dad. Cut off such evil quickly! 1 Like |
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