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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by faith123456(f): 2:53pm On Aug 13, 2018
faith123456:
I dnt think he raped you, he luvs you so much that he couldn't hold himself that fateful day, tho he has been holding himself all this while, and it just happened that day and you never saw it coming neither did he, the bitter truth is that you luv him so much and can't report or get him arrested, you both luv each other,and he is ready for marriage, I would advise you accept his proposal and move on, try to forgive him, cos I know he might have gone on his knees to plead for ur forgiveness, it just happened dear.
nxt tym keep ur distance OK, lesson learnt, I know is not easy...
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by stevkc: 5:48am On Aug 16, 2018
add me on whatsapp 08069487971 ,I can help you. I am a psychological therapist
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 12:49pm On Aug 16, 2018
TimeManager:

Mtcheew!, I can bet you don't have a stable relationship.

Kiss the truth!

Lol what I said and you're saying have no correlation uncle. Go and kiss your brain.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 3:28pm On Aug 16, 2018
MarieSucre:


Lol what I said eland you're saying have no correlation uncle. Go and kiss your brain.
Is this how you talk to someone old enough to give you belle?.. Show some respect young girl.

Kiss the truth!

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 10:24pm On Aug 16, 2018
TimeManager:

Is this how you talk to someone old enough to give you belle?.. Show some respect young girl.

Kiss the truth!

See the rubbish you're bragging with. Ice go and kiss sense.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 10:59am On Aug 17, 2018
MarieSucre:


See the rubbish you're bragging with. Ice go and kiss sense.
Marie, pls stop calling it rubbish. God has given me what I can use to make you a baby mama. What you like to play with. Na God o.
Anyway, be a good girl.

kiss the truth!

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 11:36pm On Aug 17, 2018
TimeManager:
Marie, pls stop calling it rubbish. God has given me what I can use to make you a baby mama. What you like to play with. Na God o.
Anyway, be a good girl.

kiss the truth!

Sharrap jor. Be shouting "God has given me yen yen yen" as if it's yesterday you just discovered you have a pen*s.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 11:46pm On Aug 17, 2018
MarieSucre:


Sharrap jor. Be shouting "God has given me yen yen yen" as if it's yesterday you just discovered you have a pen*s.
Lol.. you neva sleep?
God gave me and I know how to use it. Just imagine what happens when you wake up a beast.
I wonder what you would do if you had one.
kiss the truth!

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Casemiro(m): 9:12pm On Aug 19, 2018
[quote author=Isinweke post=70356997][/quote] who is this girl
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Ginaruby: 10:39pm On Aug 19, 2018
smileing:
Please I need responsible advice

Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.

He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me

I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.

Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)

He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.

Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.

I feel less of myself and sinful too


Please what should I do?


those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset

QUOTE ME YOU ARE EXTREMELY STUPID AND FOOLISH, MAKE SURE TO READ THROUGH YOUR STUPIDITY.

FIRSTLY THE GUY IS A VERY NICE GUY, HAVING STAYED CLOSE TO A YEAR RESPECTING YOUR STUPID WISH. TAKE IT OR YOU LEAVE IT. MOST OF THE ANIMALS TELLING YOU TO ARREST HIM WILL RAPE YOU IN LESS THAN A WEEK, BUT WILL HIDE BEHIND A FAULTY PHONE AND SHAKING QWERTY TELLING YOU TO ARREST HIM. RAPE IS BAD.

YOU DON'T NEED TO FEEL LESS OF YOUR SELF BECAUSE YOU ARE SO FULL OF YOUR SELF, I KNOW YOUR TYPE.

HE DIDN'T TAKE YOUR USELESS VIRGINITY FORCEFULLY, THAT IS IF TRULY YOU ARE ONE. IT WAS CONSENSUAL. IF YOU DISAGREE TAG HIM TO THIS POST LETS HEAR FROM HIM.

IF YOU LIKE FOOLISHLY FOLLOW THE 5 PERSONS THAT TOLD YOU HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND AND END THE ENGAGEMENT. THEY WILL MARRY YOU MUGU.

TO SHOW YOUR LEVEL OF FOOLISHNESS
- FOR A YEAR HE HAS NOT MET YOUR MUM OR DAD AND HE IS READY NOW YOU ARE THINKING FOR YOUR PARENTS WITH YOUR STARCHED BRAIN.

ALREADY ON SOCIAL MEDIA TO ASK FOR OUR OPINION ABI ?
YOU HAVE 14 PAGES ALREADY PRINT IT AND TAKE IT AS EVIDENCE TO THE POLICE, BINGO.

IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE EVENTUALLY DOESN'T WORK, BELIEVE YOU ME YOU ARE THE MAJOR ERROR FACTOR.

IF HE IS MY BROTHER I WILL ADVISE HIM TO END IT WITH YOU BECAUSE YOUR MATURITY LEVEL IS NEGATIVE YOUR PRESENT AGE.

I'M SORRY IF I INSULTED YOU IN ANY WAY BUT YOU REALLY NEED MORE INSULTS AND A MILITARY SLAP TO RESET YOU BACK TO 2.3.1

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 10:21am On Aug 20, 2018
TimeManager:

Lol.. you neva sleep?
God gave me and I know how to use it. Just imagine what happens when you wake up a beast.
I wonder what you would do if you had one.
kiss the truth!

Mtchewww off point.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 11:45am On Aug 20, 2018
MarieSucre:


Mtchewww off point.
I think you are matured enough and will not come opening a thread like the OP after you enjoy my endowment to satisfaction. Hope you can handle it.

Kiss the truth!

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 1:37pm On Aug 20, 2018
TimeManager:

I think you are matured enough and will not come opening a thread like the OP after you enjoy my endowment to satisfaction. Hope you can handle it.

Kiss the truth!

Rubbish
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 12:08pm On Aug 21, 2018
MarieSucre:


Rubbish
ladies can't do without it and yet you call it rubbish. Anyways, happy sallah. we can make it more fun, sallah meat and my natural meat, it will fill you up the way you like it. Daddy's girl.

Kiss the fun!

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 5:51pm On Aug 22, 2018
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TimeManager:

ladies can't do without it and yet you call it rubbish. Anyways, happy sallah. we can make it more fun, sallah meat and then my natural meat, it will fill you up the way you like it. Daddy's girl.

Kiss the fun!
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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 8:15pm On Aug 22, 2018
MarieSucre:
[s][/s].
Trust me, I'm gonna hit it right, hit the right spots, hit it all the way up and if you want to be my baby mama, I'm more than capable of taking care of the baby. Don't be a shy girl, talk to me

Kiss the truth!
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 11:06pm On Aug 26, 2018
MarieSucre:

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Marie, I won't take you seriously until we have sex..

kiss the truth!
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 12:21pm On Aug 28, 2018
TimeManager:

Marie, I won't take you seriously until we have sex..

kiss the truth!

F**k off in the opposite direction.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 5:43pm On Aug 28, 2018
MarieSucre:


.
Gurl, I demand some respect. I'd find you and give you lots of sexual massage you have never had before, feel your warmth and wetness, and hear you moan under my gentle fondlling.

Kiss the truth!

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Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 7:14pm On Sep 11, 2018
TimeManager:

Gurl, I demand some respect. I'd find you and give you lots of sexual massage you have never had before, feel your warmth and wetness, and hear you moan under my gentle fondlling.

Kiss the truth!

Kiss hot iron!
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by MarieSucre(f): 6:17pm On Oct 17, 2018
TimeManager:

Gurl, I demand some respect. I'd find you and give you lots of sexual massage you have never had before, feel your warmth and wetness, and hear you moan under my gentle fondlling.

Kiss the truth!

Rubbish
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by chincuss(m): 6:09am On Oct 18, 2018
[quote author=Richy4 post=70190311]This is a bad scripted movie...

The dude raped u..and u chose to keep it bottled up...

You said u can't leave because u love him... ok

If you don't want to marry him, and the thought of marrying him has not crossed your mind what in God's name where you doing with him for one year?

You can't have all the package at a go dear.. you said he was financially ok,
If u loved him as u claimed, accept him with all his faults.. don't let any one decide for you whom to be with..

If you don't want him, you should have ended it long time ago.end it.. don't marry him because you were no longer a virgin...that will be suicidal..
Please next time don't go to a man's house when you know that you won't play ball even if he is an angel..

Evry1 is here blaimin d guy what of d gal. U messed u. If u are nt ready 4 marriage dont date a guy 4 more dan 6 months without sex na bløod dey im body. U were tempting devil al dis while bcus u luv im. Gals devil is ril oo.
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by smileing: 7:34pm On Nov 18, 2018
[quote author=chincuss post=72187101][/quote]

alright thanks
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by TimeManager(m): 1:31pm On Aug 30, 2020
MarieSucre:


Kiss hot iron!
hey, you owe me a body massage.

kiss the truth!
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 2:08pm On Aug 30, 2020
Ginaruby:


QUOTE ME YOU ARE EXTREMELY STUPID AND FOOLISH, MAKE SURE TO READ THROUGH YOUR STUPIDITY.

FIRSTLY THE GUY IS A VERY NICE GUY, HAVING STAYED CLOSE TO A YEAR RESPECTING YOUR STUPID WISH. TAKE IT OR YOU LEAVE IT. MOST OF THE ANIMALS TELLING YOU TO ARREST HIM WILL RAPE YOU IN LESS THAN A WEEK, BUT WILL HIDE BEHIND A FAULTY PHONE AND SHAKING QWERTY TELLING YOU TO ARREST HIM. RAPE IS BAD.

YOU DON'T NEED TO FEEL LESS OF YOUR SELF BECAUSE YOU ARE SO FULL OF YOUR SELF, I KNOW YOUR TYPE.

HE DIDN'T TAKE YOUR USELESS VIRGINITY FORCEFULLY, THAT IS IF TRULY YOU ARE ONE. IT WAS CONSENSUAL. IF YOU DISAGREE TAG HIM TO THIS POST LETS HEAR FROM HIM.

IF YOU LIKE FOOLISHLY FOLLOW THE 5 PERSONS THAT TOLD YOU HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND AND END THE ENGAGEMENT. THEY WILL MARRY YOU MUGU.

TO SHOW YOUR LEVEL OF FOOLISHNESS
- FOR A YEAR HE HAS NOT MET YOUR MUM OR DAD AND HE IS READY NOW YOU ARE THINKING FOR YOUR PARENTS WITH YOUR STARCHED BRAIN.

ALREADY ON SOCIAL MEDIA TO ASK FOR OUR OPINION ABI ?
YOU HAVE 14 PAGES ALREADY PRINT IT AND TAKE IT AS EVIDENCE TO THE POLICE, BINGO.

IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE EVENTUALLY DOESN'T WORK, BELIEVE YOU ME YOU ARE THE MAJOR ERROR FACTOR.

IF HE IS MY BROTHER I WILL ADVISE HIM TO END IT WITH YOU BECAUSE YOUR MATURITY LEVEL IS NEGATIVE YOUR PRESENT AGE.

I'M SORRY IF I INSULTED YOU IN ANY WAY BUT YOU REALLY NEED MORE INSULTS AND A MILITARY SLAP TO RESET YOU BACK TO 2.3.1



This so harsh to say to your fellow human..
Do you have conscience at all..
She said her own part of the story aba your duty is to advise her according to her own part of the story..
Rape is RAPE...
U sound like a potential rapist sef..
Or you're an encourager of rape .
You have never been raped before so you don't know what it means..
She didn't call the guys name showing she respect the guy..
One-day you will be in her shoes so you will understand what she is going through!!!!
Sadist everywhere
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Aug 30, 2020
smileing:
Please I need responsible advice

Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.

He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me

I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.

Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)

He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.

Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.

I feel less of myself and sinful too


Please what should I do?


those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset

My dear ignore people who are blaming you..I clearly understand your condition..
Only people who have being in similar condition will understand..
Like reasonable people said go and see a counselor or therapist..
Open up to someone that's the first step to healing..
Then never blame yourself for what happened..if you keep blaming yourself it will affect you healing process..
Arresting or reporting the guy may add to your emotional instability because court case takes a long process and you don't have any doctors report as concert evidence..And the process may keep destabilizing you and bringing guilt..but if you have someone who can get you quick justice then talk to that person..
The fastest way to get justice is reporting to welfare in your area (state of Origin)they take quicker action more than the police.

YOUR HEALING IS IN YOUR HANDS FREE YOURSELF FROM GUILT
SPEAK,REPORT,TAKE ACTION..
Virginity is not a guarantee to happy marriage..
Any man that can forcefully sleep with a wiwom don't have emotion..it's either he is psychological unstable,lacks discipline or is completely insane..And generally is a monster..
RAPE IS NOT A GOOD THING...
ANY SEX WITHOUT CONSENT IS RAPE!!
Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by multiple4u: 2:30pm On Aug 30, 2020
Causes of temptation must be removed.

A lot of people are telling him to report him to the authorities. Did all of you read between lines? He likes this guy, can't leave him, wants to be flowered on her wedding night etc. Rape is rape. But this was someone she's dating. The Op knows too well, that dating someone comes with consequences. Why date someone if you can't pay the price?

You did mention how much this dude have spend on you.

You can't marry him or your family will not allow you marry him. His financial stability is what is driving you towards him. If not, why would you be so close to him in a way he would have taken advantage of you?

If you know you don't love him that much, why date him?

You are just looking for sympathy here. Move on with your life, life is not perfect, it doesn't always work the way we planned it.

You made a mistake in the first place by putting yourself in such situation. He didn't kidnap you and rape you.

You can report him if that makes you happy and accuse him of rape. But I Know very well your conscience is killing you.

You lead him on, made him believe he's the right person for you. Now you are trying to do what women do best.

Some of here don't even know the whole story.

I will never support rape, but women think in a certain way.

If reporting him makes you feel better, go ahead!

But I know you will not. From your replies I can see you feel bad about the whole situation.


Richy4:
This sounds to me like a bad scripted movie...

The dude raped u..and u chose to keep it bottled up...

You said u can't leave because u love him... ok

If you don't want to marry him, and the thought of marrying him has not crossed your mind what in God's name where you doing with him for one year?

You can't have all the package at a go dear.. you said he was financially ok, educated, promising.. etc but not God fearing.. I guess you were thinking that you might change him....and he ended up changing u..
If u loved him as u claimed, accept him with all his faults.. don't let any one decide for you whom to be with..

If you don't want him, you should have ended it long time ago.end it.. don't marry him because you were no longer a virgin...that will be suicidal..
A lot of men would still want to be with you not because of your virginity...

Please next time don't go to a man's house when you know that you won't play ball even if he is an angel.. always meet at a public space.. even when you were hugging him, give some room for Jesus between the two of you..

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