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Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 9:07am On Sep 01, 2018 |
The only thing to save the situation is for her to get a job shikena!! I don't mean a professional job ,just something to take her out in the morning and bring her back with the kids and some change She can learn hairdressing, tailoring,or become a daycare attendant in a children's school, even catering and decoration, there's a lot for women to do and being a housewife should never be an option |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 9:28am On Sep 01, 2018 |
ImaIma1: You don't also go to work? and what makes you think men can't cook for themselves? If he cook the food he won't die and you'll still eat it. You have the mentality of a typical African. SMH Please don't quote me again, very disgusting individual 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 9:35am On Sep 01, 2018 |
cococandy: You never said that. One thing most black women haven't realize is that money doesn't only give you power in the society, it also gives you voice in marriage. If you're jobless your voice may be heard but that can't be guaranteed but if you aren't over-dependent on your man for everything your voice will be heard, it's guaranteed. When you're dependent nobody complains but when it becomes too much it becomes a problem. Even men whether rich or poor who at one time urged their wives to quit their careers and become housewives,after a few years they always complain inwardly. 2 Likes |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 9:36am On Sep 01, 2018 |
Rizzoli: Truer words have never been spoken. 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by ImaIma1(f): 10:15am On Sep 01, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Tell Seun to ban me from quoting you. I will quote who i so desire and you don't have to answer but you will read. You are obviously a stingy and small minded person who worships money and sees it as a god. I am an African and i am proud. Your mentality is pitiful. It is that of someone that still lives in a village void of any form of civilization. I hope you come out of the stone age and get enlightened and begin to see women as human beings. Please quote me all you want. Small boy 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by cococandy(f): 1:30pm On Sep 01, 2018 |
Yea? So I never told her to put the children in daycare and make him pay for it? Wasn’t that one of the reasons why you quoted me asking if the child isn’t hers too? Okay Again. You’re preaching to the choir. Like I said before, I don’t subscribe to the idea of being a full time housewife. Only that I understand why people may choose it. So this post now? Not necessary. As you’re telling me something I already know. P.S in my neck of the woods, there are 100% more white women who are housewives than black women here or even among women I’ve ever seen in Nigeria. Treating wives who are postponing their careers to raise the kids for the family like crap seems to be predominantly a black male problem. Especially in Nigeria where they can get away with it. Like the woman’s sacrifice for the family is worth less than the chicken change he’s bringing home. Hanseel1: 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by divalishis: 5:21pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
Hanseel1: At the end of the day, they will still spend that money he is hoarding. Won't the mothers/fathers/immediate relations have needs to be taken care of? And at the end of the day, will they take care of the kids like mum? People need to understand what a sacrifice it is staying at home. 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 10:45pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
ImaIma1: How do I supporting a man to purchase stuffs for the house if he wish mean I'm stingy, small minded and I don't recognize women as human beings? My mentality is pitiful, speaks like someone living in a village devoid of civilization so you say. If I may ask, where have you been to other than your husband's house? You guys make it hard for someone to be cool on this forum. You're the uncivilized individual here because civilized individuals don't believe women are the only ones who should purchase food stuffs or do house chores. Well, I choose to let this pass. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 10:47pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
cococandy: You've been seeing my posts on this forum, have I ever said women aren't human beings or do my posts indirectly indicate such? How do I supporting a man to purchase stuffs for the house if he wish mean I'm stingy, small minded and I don't recognize women as human beings? (I know you weren't the one who said so though) |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 10:51pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
divalishis: This isn't an excuse to be a full time housewife. Get a nanny or daycare or tell your parents to look after the kids till they turn four each. If you can't then stop giving excuses like you're taking care of kids that's why you can't work. I can remember a married woman once told me she can't work because she's taking care of kids, I told her to get a nanny and she replied me thus ;so that men like me and her husband will sneak into the Nanny's room and fvck her? imagine. Bottom line is get something doing before thinking about marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by victorian(f): 11:20pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Such women are just lazy. I have a cousin, she's married to a married man whose wife lives in another state. While she lives in Lagos. She has a boutique. She gave birth to three kids for her husband. She also has a nanny. She goes to work every blessed day, drop the first two kids in school, while the last kid, she and her nanny with the kid heads to her shop after completing early morning chores at home. Immediately after school, her nanny takes keke to go pick her two kids and everyone heads back to her shop. Nanny feeds them with lunch, while she attends to her customers. From 6pm, she's done with sales for that day with her nanny. Everyone enters her car and back home.. If she needs to branch market? She either sends the nanny or she goes herself , but at least one adult must be at home with the kids. Sometimes her younger sisters and brothers come around to play with the kids. In fact, she's so industrious Without the husband around. And their wedding pics are displayed everywhere in the sitting room. That's a woman who is not ready to wait for husband to come drop money before she can eat or do anything. The day I came over, she was about to drop two lovely stoned lace with some fabrics for her tailor on the same street, where she lives. She's very comfortable and independent. No wasting time. In fact she inspires me ![]() I love her strength. 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by ImaIma1(f): 11:36pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Where have i been other than my husband's house? Was i born and bred there? And is it my office? There is nothing wrong with a man buying foodstuffs but if he is doing it to avoid dropping money, he is tight fisted and stingy...aka gum. And that is where the problem is. Chores are not reserved for one person but many Nigerian men feel they do their wives a favour when they do chores. We do not have to agree. You shouldn't start lashing out because i disagree with you or because a "Nigerian lady" dares to challenge you. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 11:44pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
ImaIma1: You said I don't see women as human beings.. Was that statement for me or another? Like I said earlier, what if he drops money all the time and still prefer to purchase food stuffs by himself? Instead of answering you said I don't see women as human beings because I said men should purchase stuffs and do house chores, right?. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by ImaIma1(f): 11:46pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
Hanseel1: You do not need to say it. Your comments shout it even without spelling it out. At least two of us have mentioned it on this thread |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 11:49pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
ImaIma1: And what comments have I made? That women shouldn't be full time housewives and jobless? How's that not seeing women as human beings? honestly you must be a saddist. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by ImaIma1(f): 11:53pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Your comments are rather bias and harsh towards women especially "Nigerian women" like we have all been blacklisted for whatever reason. That is why i said what i said. As i said, buying foodstuffs is not the problem. The problem is doing so to avoid giving money to his wife. If she is a housewife, it was probably their joint decision. If he cannot provide, he should let her work. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 11:55pm On Sep 02, 2018 |
ImaIma1: I'm not bias towards anybody. You haven't seen me insult the living hell outta Nigerian men because of their sexist and misogynist views on this forum to the extent that one may wonder whether I'm a truly a man. Whether he's doing it to avoid dropping money or not, there's no where it is written that only women should purchase food stuffs or do house chores. Thanks for your time. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 3:58am On Sep 03, 2018 |
[quote author=eyinjuege post=70728623]Go and get a job, and stop being a fool Employment is scarce. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Eketem: 5:19am On Sep 03, 2018 |
ImaIma1: No where stated that he didn't let her work. Why does she need to be allowed to work? Is she not an adult? Can she not make her own decisions? While I know the economy is not smiling and jobs are hard to come by please women need to stop hiding under '' he won't let me work " 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by ImaIma1(f): 7:12am On Sep 03, 2018 |
Eketem: You should understand that some couples agree that the wife should stay home and bring up the kids. Some men will tell you that they don't want their wives to work but to take care of the kids. I know someone who is on a salary from her husband to stay at home. Each household with their peculiar way of running things. And the man is not supposed to intimidate the woman because she decided to stay home probably against what she would've wanted. I do not subscribe to it though but if that is their agreement, both parties have to perform their end of the deal. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Eketem: 10:04am On Sep 03, 2018 |
ImaIma1: I agree and this is a good thing but it doesn't seem the case here |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by katchycouture(f): 11:49am On Sep 03, 2018 |
Acidosis: Oh God bless you for this 1 Like |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by Nobody: 4:43pm On Sep 03, 2018 |
katchycouture:SMH.. I hope you learnt something from this thread. |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by katchycouture(f): 7:58pm On Sep 03, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Why are you then Shaking your head?? |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by MMotimo: 4:48am On Sep 04, 2018 |
Victims like this give stay at home Moms a bad name. 1 Is it an AFFORDABLE choice? Look at all your bills, all your kaya 2 Have husband and wife BOTH AGREED to it without compulsion from any angle? 3 Is there mutual TRUST when it comes to money? 4 Is there financial PRUDENCE on both sides? 5 Is there a VIABLE plan (insurance, savings, investments, inheritance, etc) to cater for the dependants if the income earner dies? If any answer is "no" please get a job and spare us the sob tales. The choice is not for everyone. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by MMotimo: 11:05pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
Wrong thread |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by MMotimo: 11:35pm On Sep 08, 2018 |
Wrong thread |
Re: Pains Of A House Wife by KanwuliaExtra: 1:35pm On Sep 09, 2018 |
Too much of a feminist to be a full time house wife. I cannot bring myself to ask a man for money to take care of myself. If a man wants to act like a husband fine. If not, fine. I will work and provide for my needs. Just not possible to spend my time nagging a man to do what he needs to do or provide for his family. Some men and women cannot function in a marriage and do not like to make financial plans TOGETHER for the family. Only in a SHYTE-HOLE! Next please. ![]() 3 Likes 1 Share |
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