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Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 7:14am On Sep 18, 2018 |
2buffagain: Right let’s get things in perspective here Emmanuel caused his own downfall He sighned over his assets to his ex-wife for her to manage that is called being stupid. He chose not to seek the advice of solicitors and despite being advised against this he ignored team mates and friends. He is not the only African footballer to end up poor . Most lack the financial discipline to plan ahead. Don’t put this on his wife. He had capacity and he made very bad decisions repeatedly. |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 7:17am On Sep 18, 2018 |
MariaLavina:Actually most women do request one these days. I know of a few. It’s called protecting your hardwork. How many women have been bankrupted by their husbands due to co-signing loans using her assets? 1 Like |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Nobody: 8:50am On Sep 18, 2018 |
pocohantas: Babe this table you are shaking...hmmmm No let this UK to America or married women case on NL issues open again o |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Mujtahida: 9:11am On Sep 18, 2018 |
MariaLavina:That looks like a question but it is not really a question. It's more like you are saying marriage is beneficial and so case closed. For you it is beneficial, for him it is not. Night and day: All part of life. I feel when a person voices an opinion contrary to our own, respect demands that we should endeavour to ask the person the reason for his or her views. I'm married and to a good, beautiful woman but I know marriage is dying. It won't survive the onslaught of the changes that are underway and the reason as far as I see it is that the consciousness of men and women has changed, it's changed from what it was in generations past. 3 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Mujtahida: 9:14am On Sep 18, 2018 |
The patriarchy was the cornerstone of marriage as we know it. It's taken so much of a hit in the last fifty years and since the centre(patriarchy) can no longer hold things (marriage) have and will fall apart. Perhaps over the ruins and the rubble of the war between men and women a new framework for intimate human relations will arise. 1 Like |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Mujtahida: 9:26am On Sep 18, 2018 |
And I hope you guys talking about Pre nup know that it's alien to our laws whether under Islamic law, native law and custom or the marriage Act and Matrimonial Causes Act. It's an American thing. I'm not even sure it's applicable in the UK. |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 10:24am On Sep 18, 2018 |
Mujtahida:It is applicable to all western countries 2 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Gerrard59(m): 10:30am On Sep 18, 2018 |
pocohantas: Really? Thought he got a female Nlder pregnant and that was all? |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by 2buffagain(m): 2:37pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
MissRaine69: That he did. He is a fool. The point I'm making though is that even though he pretty much gave all his assets to his wife, upon divorce, BOTH party's assets should have been considered for the split...gaining him back some of the lost assets.... if there truly is gender equality in the courts. But as we know, there is no such thing. That is a reason why an iron clad prenup is necessary, with a clause specifically stating that the party's assets acquired after marriage are up for consideration. Regardless of whether the man has more money or not. Otherwise, family courts tend to automatically ignore the female's assets. The judge knows he/she could have applied this default, but refused to, because seeing a devastated man pleases them...add to it that he is black and the judge would have double reason to see him reprobate. 4 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Nobody: 3:12pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
does prenuptial agreement applies in nigeria? of what use will it be since a gold digger in a nigerian marriage cant just hijack ur assets just like that 1 Like |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by rs172(m): 3:16pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
So Queen Elizabeth that made Meghan signed pre nuptials b4 getting married to her son Prince Harry know no wetin dey sup abii... 1 Like |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by samysmoothfresh: 3:36pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
My parents celebrated their 45th yr marriage anniversary last week my cousin on the other hand (29) is getting divorced from a 3 one quater year marrige wonder why my cousin's marrige is crumbling (or has already crumbled as they'll be finalising the divorce next month) while my parent are still married even after 45yrs?.................i'll tell you why because of 'em "senseless 3rd generation feminists and/or ignorant alpha males" these two sets of bastards have made practically everything a case of "man vs woman" or simply put "gender war" a marriage where one or both spouses is a feminist or alpha male, that marriage will never last...........i repeat, that marriage will never last!! My cousin was unfortunate to marry one of this 3rd generation feminist and aside from the first 4months, the marriage has been hell for him men, marry these local "feminists" who are not "Feminists" at your own peril women, marry these "self acclaimed alpha males" at your own peril and to all the idiots especially the ones on nl, life or the earth is not undergoing a worldwide war between the opposite sexes where you must always have to fight for your gender wake up from your delusion!!!! EOD 2 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Mujtahida: 4:01pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
MissRaine69:They are not automatically legally binding in England and Wales. |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by 2buffagain(m): 4:37pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
samysmoothfresh: And what does all this story have to do with the importance of protecting oneself with a prenup? There are age mates of yours right now whose parents are divorced, so you are not making any logical point. A person does not have to be an "alpha male" or "feminist" to be exposed to a divorce. Apply logic. 2 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by samysmoothfresh: 8:04pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
2buffagain: i dont care about the prenup y'all talking about i only made an input based on what caps.locked said and the arguement on marriage and divorce that ensued and i stand by what i said cos i've heard about and seen alot of divorce cases and marriages experiencing difficulties. The major reasons is what i mentioned earlier viz: 1) the wife is one of 'em naive 3rd generation feminists who know not what true feminism mean and deem it fit to disrespect their husband all in the name of "equal rights" and/or 2) the ignorant self acclaimed alpha males who think because they are men, their wives should practically worship them and most times deem it fit to beat them up if they do otherwise. |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by 2buffagain(m): 9:58pm On Sep 18, 2018 |
samysmoothfresh: Yeah True. Thing is, You do not know who your spouse truly is until you marry them. People change. All major life long term decisions must be made with that cold hard fact of life in mind. Which is why self-protection is crucial. Hence the main topic of the thread. You don't get a prenup to protect yourself from your wife. You do it to protect yourself from your ex. 1 Like |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 12:13am On Sep 19, 2018 |
Mujtahida:That’s why good divorce lawyers exist. 1 Like |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 12:16am On Sep 19, 2018 |
2buffagain:You know what it’s like here .....it’s who you know not the content of the thread! |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 12:18am On Sep 19, 2018 |
rs172:Point of correction Harry is Queen Elizabeth’s grandson his father is the Queen’s son. But carry on. |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 12:26am On Sep 19, 2018 |
2buffagain: The problem with men like him is when they are flying high they forget at some point they will have to land. There was nothing stopping him getting property in Africa very excellent real estate at that. He could have been divorced in France but he chose not to . All I am saying is that some of these so called sweet and God fearing wives won’t be so sweet when money is in the frame. 2 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 12:30am On Sep 19, 2018 |
lefulefu:Depends on how much you are worth, just like everything else here. If you can’t safeguard your assets and ensure your children don’t suffer just because their mother is being vindictive. Then you are fundamentally flawed. 1 Like |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Nobody: 1:07am On Sep 19, 2018 |
Only a deluded man will go for registry marriage without signing a pre-nupital agreement because the future is pregnant. I can remember I once said on this platform that if at all you must do registry marriage with a woman make sure she has her own properties. If a woman refuses to sign prenup with you, just forget about the marriage because she doesn't mean well for you and if she comes to her senses later, make sure that all your assets before marriage aren't shared in a case of divorce and after divorce you'll only go out with what you contributed to the acquiring. For those of you saying "of what use is prenup in Nigeria, are properties shared in Nigeria.. Etc" you people are just ignorant. The world is changing and only God knows how the family system will be in 10-15years time therefore don't allow present patriarchal privileges to cover your senses. BTW, @missraine thanks for this thread. ..very educative . 5 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 1:58am On Sep 19, 2018 |
Elder001: Thank you very much |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Shugavee(f): 3:42am On Sep 19, 2018 |
MariaLavina:i feel it’s not just right, for LOVERS to do that. Marriage is a risk for everyone.... if u scared of it , then forget abt it. Doing that means u don’t trust me, so there is no need for marriage. |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Shugavee(f): 4:02am On Sep 19, 2018 |
How can someone get married , already getting ready to divorce , that marriage won’t last!! That’s just the truth. If marriage ain’t built by trust, it will surely crumble . There no love in that.. is like a contracted marriage , u can break up when u want, When marriage is meant to be for better for worse, till death do us part... if u feel u don’t benefit anything from marriage as a single guy , that’s more than enough reason to die single... when u r ready u won’t ask stupid questions. |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Shugavee(f): 4:07am On Sep 19, 2018 |
Marriage ain for kids!! U can be a babypapa n move on with ur life, marriage is a covenant! U n who so ever u wanna marry becomes one ☝�, only matured minds really ready for it should go into it... not because u just wanna marry, especially guys here... MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT U MUST NOT MARRY |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by 2buffagain(m): 4:57am On Sep 19, 2018 |
@shugavee, idealistically, you are right. Realistically? You are being willfully ignorant. There are women who have said the same good goodly wife things you are saying right now that became monsters years down the line. Out here , women trigger 70% of divorces. You want to know why they can do so so casually? Because they have no consequences. At any point they can keep all the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibilities...at the expense of her Human beings are inherently selfish. It is a human flaw no matter how goodly the spouse. So love with structure and guidelines. You can still love each other till death do you part ...having signed a prenup. It is like car insurance. Something you buy now to cover all bases but hope to NEVER have to use in the future Prenup is not for protection against a wife. It is for protection against a vindictive ex who, for whatever emotional change or reason, might choose to destroy your life because he/she realizes they have the power to do so. If you still don't get that, scroll up to my earlier post of the three types of women who won't sign a prenup and pick the one you are. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Shugavee(f): 6:50am On Sep 19, 2018 |
2buffagain:car insurance !!! Marriage!! MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT Just stay single it’s not by force |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by rs172(m): 7:35am On Sep 19, 2018 |
MissRaine69: So far people get my message.. it cool |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by 2buffagain(m): 8:05am On Sep 19, 2018 |
Shugavee: ... But marriage IS a contract. You both sign on some dotted line prior to becoming man and wife don't you? 3 Likes |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by Shugavee(f): 10:06am On Sep 19, 2018 |
2buffagain:the paper isn’t what makes the marriage. It’s just proff u both r married. MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT |
Re: Prenups Would You Still Get by MissRaine69(f): 11:51am On Sep 19, 2018 |
Shugavee:@Shugavee that’s the common misconception A prenup can include any detail that you feel pertinent children, their provision, your provision etc What happens should either party stray? If people are pragmatic instead of having “the happily ever after” mindset then what is the issue? Can you guarantee what will happen in a marriage 10 years from now? What if he develops gambling debts and starts selling everything? He becomes mentally unwell and nearly kills you? 3 Likes |
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