Hunny, it ain't no argument here because we ain't getting married. Can I ask you though, what assets do YOU have to protect from your wife?
Like I would start blabbing about my assets in some faceless forum. You must think I suffer from the average Nigerian low-self-esteem/show-offy/Do-you-know-who-I-am mentality.
All my assets will be available to my Wife. But you can be darn sure I will protect the heck out of them from an Ex-wife. That is what a prenup is for.
It's like most of you women don't understand that when you become an EX, you have also lost privileges to benefit from certain perks. Those benefits belong to someone else at that point.
An ex-wife can make claims to 1. Pension 2. Inheritence 3. Future earnings 3. Spousal support can be adjusted based on your earnings the more you earn the more she can demand Those arguing this will never happen in Nigeria May I ask is Nigeria going to be an “island” forever? As Nigeria seeks more favourable recognition in the West there will be prerequisites made to accomodate such when it comes to the law especially family law. Nothing stays static this will be more common than most care to realise.
MissRaine69: An ex-wife can make claims to 1. Pension 2. Inheritence 3. Future earnings 3. Spousal support can be adjusted based on your earnings the more you earn the more she can demand Those arguing this will never happen in Nigeria May I ask is Nigeria going to be an “island” forever? As Nigeria seeks more favourable recognition in the West there will be prerequisites made to accomodate such when it comes to the law especially family law. Nothing stays static this will be more common than most care to realise.
All I can say is Thank you for this thread, I didn't see it earlier, I would have contributed more, Marriage is on its dying breaths, and the earlier people realise that, the better for them, if I had known what I know now, I won't have married, I still love my wife and cherish her, but honestly it takes ultimate sacrifice, hardworking, endurance and a lot more, for how long can either of us put in that effort, only time can tell, Marriage is not about love it is about sacrifice.
WizAkzy: I won't even advise men to do anything that would make their relationship official and recogniseable by the law. Once you do, its becomes a legal contract which is always at the detriment of the man. Come on, with all that's happening right in our eyes, would you trust a woman not to one day leave you, take almost all the your assets and properties you have worked all your life to gather, throw you in jail by fabricating any stories her manipulative brain could think of, deny you access to your kids if you choose not to play by her controling rules and most especially continue to pay her spousal support for services she no longer renders, just as a way to milk you dry. The family law is never in the favour of the man, so you as a man has to study the laws in your region and learn to know how to play it and twist it to at least favour you too so at least you won't have to commit suicide due to what the woman you claim to trust did to you.
That’s why you need to know the law. But some men when they get hit by the vagina all sense of reason goes out the window. My brother was due to wed end of this month but that won’t happen anymore because his fiancée made a huge issue when asked to sign a prenup Now if I have made $20 million before I met someone I will most definitely ensure those assets are protected. Money for the children is held in a trust fund so that there are no issues of someone buying Peruvian hair with money meant to feed your children.
This is no brainer ....money always brings the worst in people.
I'm guessing they were already fiance's by that time, well into already planning for a wedding...
That's something you bring up prior to engaging a woman, so there is no cause for a claim of compulsion. He is even lucky she showed herself by not signing. A more strategic devil will just sign and use the situation to claim signing under duress if she needed to play that divorce card in the future.
I would even take it further past that and say bring it up as casual conversation BEFORE you start dating to prepare her mentally, while the both are still friends. That way when it is brought up later for real, she will be more mentally prepared.
If you want to know why some people do not see the benefit of marriage, then maybe you should study more about the direction modern marriage has turn to. Start by reading "men on strike" and "the manipulated man".
I mentioned those books because they were written by women who are honest to admit how the system benefits them and against men.
People change. A woman you marry today may, in ten years time, becomes something else. I think men should cohabitate, have babies and live life like they are married, without actually getting married. It's about adapting and thriving in an environment than is anti men, thanks to third wave feminism.
You are just thinking like a child, not an adult. You have to cover all bases.
What you don't understand is that a prenup also protects women AS WELL AS protecting men....the latter being more neccessary outside of naija given predatory family laws around the whole world.
You might say, "we are in naija, he doesn't need protection"...but what then happens if you guys move to another country? He is then subject to the worst part of you and predatory lawyers who egg you on to twist the dagger ever more angrily in the event of a divorce. And the sad part is that he would be forced to pay those very same lawyers who will be coaching you on how to stab him well.
To be of this opinion, Oh you have Nooo idea the things that have been done to men in these parts of the world by women who just wake up one morning and decide to be bitches. The life of a man cannot be subject to the whims, ebbs and flows of something as turbulent as a female's emotions.
IMO The only woman who is against signing a prenup is one of 3 things: 1- Ignorant: ... i.e "Why would anyone want to buy car insurance?" "Life insurance keh? So you want to kill me?!" blah blah blah other silly talk.
2- Broke - Because if she had some coins, she'd want to protect them too.
3- Evil ... because she knows the default situation already favors her. Now if only she can get this idiot to not protect himself.
MissRaine69: An ex-wife can make claims to 1. Pension 2. Inheritence 3. Future earnings 3. Spousal support can be adjusted based on your earnings the more you earn the more she can demand Those arguing this will never happen in Nigeria May I ask is Nigeria going to be an “island” forever? As Nigeria seeks more favourable recognition in the West there will be prerequisites made to accomodate such when it comes to the law especially family law. Nothing stays static this will be more common than most care to realise.
She gets all those even if she relentlessly cheated on her hubby while still living under the same roof... huh?! The nerve...
Surely this is a classic case of "predators gone wild" in the Western/developed countries.
For anyone dumb enough to believe any manipulative woman about not signing a prenup. See what a so called wife did to Emmanuel Eboue, football player.
All that suffering, all that hussle...lost to a woman who likely told him the same nonsense that some manipulative females on this thread have already tried to push.
<falz> eee wee no work! Dey tink dat we don't watsh televizan</falz>
Without a prenup, the courts hardly consider the woman's own personal assets when doing the split. They just go straight for the jugular of the man in a savage and utterly reprehensible manner. If Eboue at least had that in print, he would have have had a better chance of been able to get some of his money back from her.
Prenups are not for defense against your loving wife, they are for defense against your ex-wife. Remember that.
guy you nailed it, I almost cried when watching that chai! women are evil not all though but still can't trust any
