My name is Johnson am from Lagos state,Nigeria.I am a business man,I have a friend that I trust so much and I use to move with anywhere am going.he is not buoyant financially and he was abandoned by his ex wife, I always feel concern about him that I even use to give him money to maintain his daily activities I even introduced him to my business,I move him around on the business so he can learn and I also do take him travel with my own expenses,he is older than me by 5 good years.
Suddenly I noticed sometin in him he has spirit of anger if one offends him he find it difficult to forget and sometimes when we have misunderstanding he can keep malice for 3 days this has been pissing me off before I got another shocking revelation.
It happened last week that I secretly check his WhatsApp phone and messages,there is this fine lady I am dating and he knows and to my surprise I see that he has been chatting with my girl without telling me and as I proceed on his chats history with my girl.he was telling my girl he loves her and funny enough I have a very big secret I did not reveal to my girl and he exposed everything to the girl I was shocked ibsaw it on their message conversations and this is the person am squatting sleeping on the same bed with me.
Right now as at this time am chatting he is sleeping and I can't sleep am just thinking about this life how human being can be so devilish and betrayal set in.
Please am confuse what should i do to this kind of friendship? I need a serious advice.. Thank you

What is confusing you there OP. Your friend is an Enemy. Just look for an excuse & leave him, relocate or travel somewhere else.

As for your new fine lady, Just leave her for him & go. This will be hard honestly, but its better to let sleeping dogs lie as you said she already knows your BIG secret (what ever that is). There are girls/guys everywhere, a dime a dozen.

Reason why I dont keep friends. And ppl will think am too quiet or am not friendly enough but I'm just avoiding these kind ppl and dem plenty. Jealousy and envy everywhere. I just have one very close friend from childhood whom am using sense n wisdom sef to relate with. I can't face this kind of drama in my life joor! I no fit shout!

Please cut the friendship and stay on your lane. If he can do this now, expect the worst in future if you fail to leave the friendship.
For the lady chatting with your friend without letting you know from the onset is a time waster", let her go too. So many fishes in the ocean. Take your time, u'd find the Best

The first mistake you made was revealing your "big secret" to your friend.
The deed has been done anyway, just leave the house for him if it is a rented property, look for another place. Inform the police that the guy is a threat to you so he should be under watch because once he finds out you know about his bad behaviour, he may try to hurt you, a stitch in time saves nine. As for the girl, let her go, she is not loyal.

is he related to Ebora of Owu?Cos dat one to dnt forgive/forget.He'll eat ur food/drink ur palmy and still flog u join Ask Audu Ogbeh Come again,U dnt have a friend A friend dat revealed ur secret to Ur GF/share her with u,is dat one a friend or murderer? Leave him b4 God leave u. Leave him b4 he poison ur food and inherit ur property. A friend dat snatch ur GF can snatch ur life/property join May u not see evil/friend wey go send u go journey of no return.May u not trek from Oshodi go Yola . Stop giving space to friend. I dnt have friend. I dnt go visiting pipu.

Dnt stress urself too much.Go buy calabash, put 3 eggs inside it Tie red cloth on ur head and waist.dance and chant incantations in unknown language like gbewiri gbe fopo moyoyo.Ori gbe,ixi jabo.kuru bente kuru bente. Nah run he go run comot ur house

You better discard him now before he does more damage

ipobarecriminals:
Dnt stress urself too much.Go buy calabash, put 3 eggs inside it Tie red cloth on ur head and waist.dance and chant incantations in unknown language like gbewiri gbe fopo moyoyo.Ori gbe,ixi jabo.kuru bente kuru bente. Nah run he go run comot ur house

Hahahahahahahahahahah
Bro you need to see me laughing here.
you dam creative. Can you chant that thing again...
Thank you for putting smile on my face.

So what's the big secret?

The reason I don't have a friend, na my mama be my padi. The only mad girl left in my life sef I showed her the door some days ago. Oga, throw his bags away, show him what you've seen, shut your door and walk away.

Call your girl and the man to dinner.
After feeding them and they are relaxed, show them both copies of the chats.
Ask them both to LEAVE TOGETHER!
Delete both from your phone and life.
Life is complicated enough. No time for losers.

* make sure 2 olopas are outside your gate to escort them out *

some people are actually enemies in disguise, not friends.

Gloriagee:
So what's the big secret?

It won't be a secret if he tells us

Is your lady aware that this is your friend? If she is, then she is a two timing faced individual; GET RID OF HER FASTER THAN SHE CAN SPELL HER NAME.

As for your friend what exactly are you confused about? Someone just revealed a big secret you told them and you are her asking how to deal with the friendship Oh please; no one needs to tell you that it is time to cut ties with him or nah when him carry your money run before your eyes go open abi? LESSON ONE IN LIFE; DON’T KEEP TOXIC PEOPLE AROUND YOU THEY HAVE A WAY OF MESSING YOU UP.
A word is enough for the wise. Enough said.

Moreover, if you don't disassociate yourself with them now, one day, the yeye friend of yours will team up with your gullible girlfriend and poison you and take over your business.

But before you send them packing out of your life, make sure you transfer that their betrayal Whatsapp chats into your phone as evidence. I mean girlfriend might come up oneday to claim that you got her pregnant before kicking her out.

Please cut off from your friend before he does something worse. This is not a friend to keep and be sure to let him know why you are separating from him.

Don't be too angry and forget the lessons. Don't take it personal. They're merely holding a mirror to you.

Find the lessons and make the needed changes to become better not bitter.

Gloriagee:
So what's the big secret?

Gentlemen, this is the reason why you must never trust or divulge your secrets to any woman.

Women are naturally wired to go about talking cho, cho, cho, cho, cho, cho.

OP - With a friend like that your paddy, you do not need an enemy.

I trust you to do the right thing with wisdom. Do not alert him, just do what you gotta do. Leave that house or apartment for him & find another one. If you're in Lekki, relocate to the mainland & vice versa.

As for your big secret, just be expecting to read about it on facebook, twitter or instagram.

It's an anonymous forum, right? Apart from my general nosiness I'm also wondering if he's overreacting by keeping such from his babe.

Ishilove:

It won't be a secret if he tells us

Gloriagee:
It's an anonymous forum, right? Apart from my general nosiness I'm also wondering if he's overreacting by keeping such from his babe.

Also an anonymous forum where the bad friend + new GF can also have an account, so NO. keep your Nose sorry Nosiness to yourself.

Dude back off. You're not the OP so keep your unsolicited opinions to urself.

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cruchenutii:


Also an anonymous forum where the bad friend + new GF can also have an account, so NO. keep your Nose sorry Nosiness to yourself.

Dude back off. You're not the OP so keep your unsolicited opinions to urself or the op. Do not quote or respond to me abeg.

Keep encouraging bloke to keep secrets from his romantic partners n this will def happen again


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cruchenutii:


Also an anonymous forum where the bad friend + new GF can also have an account, so NO. keep your Nose sorry Nosiness to yourself.

Gloriagee:
Dude back off. You're not the OP so keep your unsolicited opinions to urself or the op. Do not quote or respond to me abeg.

Keep encouraging bloke to keep secrets from his romantic partners n this will def happen again


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It pained you sooooo much, you even quoted me twice

I suppose that gave you a high. N I guess you know nothing about connection issues so go and feel good bout being quoted twice. Wat an achievement

How have you helped the op with ur immature painful or perhaps silly remarks?

cruchenutii:


It pained you sooooo much, you even quoted me twice

Was it the woman that spilled the secret? How come she's now the one being accused of spilling some so called secret. If the op never stumbled on the chat, he will be not even aware she knew. But dont fail to blame the babe after all she's only a woman..

Zoharariel:


Gentlemen, this is the reason why you must never trust or divulge your secrets to any woman.

Women are naturally wired to go about talking cho, cho, cho, cho, cho, cho.

OP - With a friend like that your paddy, you do not need an enemy.

I trust you to do the right thing with wisdom. Do not alert him, just do what you gotta do. Leave that house or apartment for him & find another one. If you're in Lekki, relocate to the mainland & vice versa.

As for your big secret, just be expecting to read about it on facebook, twitter or instagram.

Gloriagee:
I suppose that gave you a high. N I guess you know nothing about connection issues so go and feel good bout being quoted twice. Wat an achievement

How have you helped the op with ur immature painful or perhaps silly remarks?

k

But he divulged it to a man and it was the man who went telling wasn’t it? Can you people post one comment without looking for a way to insult all women? Is this a disease afflicting you that you can’t help talk down on women even when unwarranted?

Zoharariel:


Gentlemen, this is the reason why you must never trust or divulge your secrets to any woman.

Women are naturally wired to go about talking cho, cho, cho, cho, cho, cho.

OP - With a friend like that your paddy, you do not need an enemy.

I trust you to do the right thing with wisdom. Do not alert him, just do what you gotta do. Leave that house or apartment for him & find another one. If you're in Lekki, relocate to the mainland & vice versa.

As for your big secret, just be expecting to read about it on facebook, twitter or instagram.

.

Seahawk:


Is that how much your female folks are worth? A dime a dozen? Probably worth less than that if they aren’t up to a dozen in number right? According to your math anyway. Na you talk am.

This disease of always looking for opportunities to derogate women is looking pathetic on you.

Women are dime a dozen doesn't mean that they are worthless. Men are dime a dozen too, maybe you didn't notice that a Country with 200M+ people have so many singles Men/Women out there, you can/will always find someone else.

I apologise that It may sound derogatory, but that was not my intention. The truth is, there are plenty amazing men/women out there & you can't be stuck on someone/crying simply because they are so beautiful or handsome. There are a lot of amazing people you haven't met honestly.

kay0195:
Reason why I dont keep friends. And ppl will think am too quiet or am not friendly enough but I'm just avoiding these kind ppl and dem plenty. Jealousy and envy everywhere. I just have one very close friend from childhood whom am using sense n wisdom sef to relate with. I can't face this kind of drama in my life joor! I no fit shout!

Same here.. I'm just like you..jealousy and envy everywhere and I hate the drama that comes out of it .

Apology accepted

cruchenutii:


Women are dime a dozen doesn't mean that they are worthless. Men are dime a dozen too, maybe you didn't notice that a Country with 200M+ people have so many singles Men/Women out there, you can/will always find someone else.

I apologise that It may sound derogatory, but that was not my intention. The truth is, there are plenty amazing men/women out there & you can't be stuck on someone/crying simply because they are so beautiful or handsome. There are a lot of amazing people you haven't met honestly.