Have you ever tried to live alone?

With no one to see or talk to day-in and day-out?

Have you ever tried to live as an “island” or a “lone-wolf”?

No normal human is a lone being, we thrive better knowing we are not alone, both physically, and in other ramifications.

Being a “loner” is one of the fastest roads to “depression”.

As the popular song says, we all need somebody to lean on!

But what happens when the person you lean on doesn’t turn out to be who you thought they were?

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What happens when the one person you put all your trust in, fails you and back stabs you in the most unimaginable way possible?

Failed relationships are what we see everywhere these days; from a failed friendship, to a failed marriage, or a failed relationship between a boss and his employee.

It’s as common as the air we breathe in. Which makes bouncing back from a toxic and failed relationship very important.


Below are a few steps that will help you move on whilst being a better person:


#1. Accept The Reality.

Humans have a unique ability of creating imaginations. After a breakup, some people cope by living in denial, not accepting that their relationship is over.

The first step to overcome anything in life is by recognizing it’s existence.

Accept the reality that the end of Your Relationship is not the end of Your life, happiness or peace.

When you spend years or decades loving and caring for someone in particular, it’s normal to see your life as incomplete with the other person but once that relationship becomes toxic or a failed one, see it as a rotten egg that would ruin the entire bunch, do away with any thoughts related to it, accept that it is over and you are better off ending that chapter.



#2. Forgive Yourself

From inception, we humans have this innate flaw of “passing the bucket” just as Adam, Eve and the serpent did in the biblical creation story.

This phrase means passing the blame onto others which is something people do in a failed relationship.

Accept that you made the decision to be in the relationship and forgive yourself for it.

Whether the breakup was your fault or not, the fact that you were in that relationship in the first place was your decision and you need to forgive yourself for it and move on.

Take time to consciously do this as you can not forgive the other person whilst battling with Yourself.



#3. Develop Good Habits.

One thing is common with those with broken hearts, we tend to search for something or someone that can fill up the void the other person left behind.

Of course, the root of this common problem is when you don’t follow the steps above.
This leads to a downward spiral as bad habits naturally develop.
People cope with pain of being heartbroken differently.
Some become stalkers on social networks, some turn into drunkards, or drug addicts, some withdraw from everything social, some go on a dating spree, some get outrightly depressed, amongst many other bad habits that stems from being heart broken.

All the aforementioned habits are bad, and they will happen if you don’t consciously build good habits to practice a safe and healthy distraction.

You can learn that guitar you have always admired from afar, pick up that extra class, sign up for more tutorials, learn a daunting but interesting sporting activity, improve on your craftsmanship, learn a new skill, amongst other safe and healthy ideas of distractions which will build you rather than create more problems for you. So, love yourself!



#4. Keep A Safe Distance

The saying ‘Out of sight is Out of mind’ should be applied after a breakup.

Do not “ghost” them or choose to remain their friend, Bad Idea!
If you are in talking terms with your ex, tell them you need space.

Take this time-out to do the steps above.
Be ready to go through a phase of emotional and mental torture if you keep them around, soon you would see their next partners on social networks and this will do more harm to you than good.



#5. Give It Time.

Time they say, is the best healer for a broken heart.

Obviously, it can never be immediately, and in some cases it takes years to completely let go but that all depends on what you have done in that time.

If you put in an effort into moving on and building a better person for a better relationship than your last, you will bounce back really fast but if you wallow in that puddle of pain, holding onto the hurt and regrets, all the time in the world will not help you.

So, follow these steps above so your next relationship doesn’t suffer from your broken heart.



Alibi blog wishes you the best in your relationships.


Source:Alibi Blog http://www.alibiblog.net/?p=2440


Photo Source: Pixabay

Kikkyalibi:

Have you ever tried to live alone?

With no one to see or talk to day-in and day-out?

Have you ever tried to live as an “island” or a “lone-wolf”?

No normal human is a lone being, we thrive better knowing we are not alone, both physically, and in other ramifications.

Being a “loner” is one of the fastest roads to “depression”.

As the popular song says, we all need somebody to lean on!

But what happens when the person you lean on doesn’t turn out to be who you thought they were?

[img][/img]

What happens when the one person you put all your trust in, fails you and back stabs you in the most unimaginable way possible?

Failed relationships are what we see everywhere these days; from a failed friendship, to a failed marriage, or a failed relationship between a boss and his employee.

It’s as common as the air we breathe in. Which makes bouncing back from a toxic and failed relationship very important.


Below are a few steps that will help you move on whilst being a better person:


#1. Accept The Reality.

Humans have a unique ability of creating imaginations. After a breakup, some people cope by living in denial, not accepting that their relationship is over.

The first step to overcome anything in life is by recognizing it’s existence.

Accept the reality that the end of Your Relationship is not the end of Your life, happiness or peace.

When you spend years or decades loving and caring for someone in particular, it’s normal to see your life as incomplete with the other person but once that relationship becomes toxic or a failed one, see it as a rotten egg that would ruin the entire bunch, do away with any thoughts related to it, accept that it is over and you are better off ending that chapter.



#2. Forgive Yourself

From inception, we humans have this innate flaw of “passing the bucket” just as Adam, Eve and the serpent did in the biblical creation story.

This phrase means passing the blame onto others which is something people do in a failed relationship.

Accept that you made the decision to be in the relationship and forgive yourself for it.

Whether the breakup was your fault or not, the fact that you were in that relationship in the first place was your decision and you need to forgive yourself for it and move on.

Take time to consciously do this as you can not forgive the other person whilst battling with Yourself.



#3. Develop Good Habits.

One thing is common with those with broken hearts, we tend to search for something or someone that can fill up the void the other person left behind.

Of course, the root of this common problem is when you don’t follow the steps above.
This leads to a downward spiral as bad habits naturally develop.
People cope with pain of being heartbroken differently.
Some become stalkers on social networks, some turn into drunkards, or drug addicts, some withdraw from everything social, some go on a dating spree, some get outrightly depressed, amongst many other bad habits that stems from being heart broken.

All the aforementioned habits are bad, and they will happen if you don’t consciously build good habits to practice a safe and healthy distraction.

You can learn that guitar you have always admired from afar, pick up that extra class, sign up for more tutorials, learn a daunting but interesting sporting activity, improve on your craftsmanship, learn a new skill, amongst other safe and healthy ideas of distractions which will build you rather than create more problems for you. So, love yourself!



#4. Keep A Safe Distance

The saying ‘Out of sight is Out of mind’ should be applied after a breakup.

Do not “ghost” them or choose to remain their friend, Bad Idea!
If you are in talking terms with your ex, tell them you need space.

Take this time-out to do the steps above.
Be ready to go through a phase of emotional and mental torture if you keep them around, soon you would see their next partners on social networks and this will do more harm to you than good.



#5. Give It Time.

Time they say, is the best healer for a broken heart.

Obviously, it can never be immediately, and in some cases it takes years to completely let go but that all depends on what you have done in that time.

If you put in an effort into moving on and building a better person for a better relationship than your last, you will bounce back really fast but if you wallow in that puddle of pain, holding onto the hurt and regrets, all the time in the world will not help you.

So, follow these steps above so your next relationship doesn’t suffer from your broken heart.



Alibi blog wishes you the best in your relationships.


Source:Alibi Blog http://www.alibiblog.net/?p=2440


Photo Source: Pixabay

singleness doesn't lead to depression
In fact, it actually leads to happiness
Society just wants us to think that not having a mate makes you incomplete
So if you're single, don't rush. Take your time!!