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Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Twizzy30(m): 3:49pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
which step
The step we take to help people in yo shoes.
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Auladimeji1: 3:50pm On Nov 07, 2018
shegzy0514:

You said here is not the best place to come for advice and you still gave her advice on the same forum
Don't mind the silly creature

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Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 3:58pm On Nov 07, 2018
Twizzy30:
The step we take to help people in yo shoes.
you can tell me without seeing my picture
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 3:59pm On Nov 07, 2018
Factfinder1:


Send me a mail or call 07054880241 the pm ain't going through
are you a psychologist
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Twizzy30(m): 4:02pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
you can tell me without seeing my picture
lol.. i hope you're a fine girl. btw where's your school?
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Factfinder1(m): 4:03pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
are you a psychologist

Nope...but I can atleast help or ask you out finally for real
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Tamarapetty(f): 4:08pm On Nov 07, 2018
I don't know much they're selling bag of cement, but i have 3 and half blocks to spare, na u know how u wan take get sand sha. . . Ehen don't forget bamboo, incase na two storey building u wan do.

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Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by ninetiethcrown7(m): 4:10pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
Good morning nairalanders, I am new here and I want you to advise me. I am 19 years and I haven't being asked out before even though some said they love me. This has reduce my self-esteem when it comes to guys issue that I normally do crazy things to get their attention but at the end they don't even notice me; some of them do take advantage of me. I have a guy who was my childhood friend; he asked me out on fb and we do chat on whatsapp too. I think I am just plan B to him because he has only called me once and even when my phone got spoilt and I wasn't online for sometimes he still didn't call me. I am in 2nd year, I haven't been asked by guys to be friends with them except my coursemates. How can I stop having these thoughts that 'I am not destined for any guy' and build my self esteem so that I will concentrate fully for my studies. Thanks

See that's the thing, concentrate fully on your studies and you wouldn't be having thoughts about your self esteem.

In the alternative.

If you still want to know why no guy has asked you out, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself are you hot enough in comparison with the other girls in your school who are being chased by guys. If not, then put a plan in motion to become someone who would be chased around. But it ain't gonna be easy.
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Nobody: 4:29pm On Nov 07, 2018
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by CJAYseven: 4:35pm On Nov 07, 2018
My dear don't search to much, allow your self to be found doing what you love. Trust me a guy is out there watching you and when he finally asks you out he is gonna meet the real you doing what you love, and love you for that.

And remember the Holy book Says
"none shall lack their mate"

Hope this helps
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Ranchhoddas: 4:55pm On Nov 07, 2018
CJAYseven:
My dear don't search to much, allow your self to be found doing what you love. Trust me a guy is out there watching you and when he finally asks you out he is gonna meet the real you doing what you love, and love you for that.

And remember the Holy book Says
"none shall lack their mate"

Hope this helps
Which holy book talk this one?
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by kollinzgee(m): 5:04pm On Nov 07, 2018
Tamarapetty:
I don't know much they're selling bag of cement, but i have 3 and half blocks to spare, na u know how u wan take get sand sha. . . Ehen don't forget bamboo, incase na two storey building u wan do.

you see! this is the reason why I said nairaland is not the best place to receive advise they will just confuse you they offer you more criticism than help .you can imagine the comment by the fool above I know what am talking about when I had low self esteem I rearly found help here I went to foriengn websites where there are more civilized people and it waste really helpful.
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Rawmalik: 5:29pm On Nov 07, 2018
Headlesschicken:
undecided So yuh only problem at 19 x bout guys getting to notice u? U better snap out of that stupid thought n focus on more important things like hw to develop yuhself to face what's ahead...
your nose is as broad as the gate of hell grin
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Tamarapetty(f): 6:09pm On Nov 07, 2018
kollinzgee:


you see! this is the reason why I said nairaland is not the best place to receive advise they will just confuse you they offer you more criticism than help .you can imagine the comment by the fool above I know what am talking about when I had low self esteem I rearly found help here I went to foriengn websites where there are more civilized people and it waste really helpful.
Why pained?? Drink sniper if u cant take a joke dear.
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:10pm On Nov 07, 2018
Tamarapetty:
Why pained?? Drink sniper if u cant take a joke dear.
cheesycheesy
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 6:10pm On Nov 07, 2018
ninetiethcrown7:


See that's the thing, concentrate fully on your studies and you wouldn't be having thoughts about your self esteem.

In the alternative.

If you still want to know why no guy has asked you out, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself are you hot enough in comparison with the other girls in your school who are being chased by guys. If not, then put a plan in motion to become someone who would be chased around. But it ain't gonna be easy.
thanks
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Tamarapetty(f): 6:13pm On Nov 07, 2018
DanDeeBoss:
cheesycheesy
Lol, he should goan open SERIOUSNESS FORUM
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:14pm On Nov 07, 2018
Tamarapetty:
Lol, he should goan open SERIOUSNESS FORUM
He should have known you were joking....
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 6:15pm On Nov 07, 2018
CJAYseven:
My dear don't search to much, allow your self to be found doing what you love. Trust me a guy is out there watching you and when he finally asks you out he is gonna meet the real you doing what you love, and love you for that.

And remember the Holy book Says
"none shall lack their mate"

Hope this helps
thanks, I really appreciate
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 6:16pm On Nov 07, 2018
Tamarapetty:
Lol, he should goan open SERIOUSNESS FORUM
i need your advise too
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 6:17pm On Nov 07, 2018
Factfinder1:


Nope...but I can atleast help or ask you out finally for real
you don't need to ask me out, thanks
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 6:18pm On Nov 07, 2018
Twizzy30:
lol.. i hope you're a fine girl. btw where's your school?
why do you want to know my school
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Tamarapetty(f): 6:49pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
i need your advise too
Should i pm you?? Important
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Factfinder1(m): 6:57pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
you don't need to ask me out, thanks
Ring me anyways... Something new,beautiful and different might jst spring forth
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by peacezy555: 6:58pm On Nov 07, 2018
don't worry sisi, when you start getting the attention you will just see that u had low self esteem over nothing. sometimes I wish no one notice me when I go out. sometimes I dress in a way to avoid being noticed. I thought it was low self-esteem on my part but I just realized its my kind of person. I hate walking in d street and guys will be asking me for number
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by sparkle6(m): 7:02pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
Good morning nairalanders, I am new here and I want you to advise me. I am 19 years and I haven't being asked out before even though some said they love me. This has reduce my self-esteem when it comes to guys issue that I normally do crazy things to get their attention but at the end they don't even notice me; some of them do take advantage of me. I have a guy who was my childhood friend; he asked me out on fb and we do chat on whatsapp too. I think I am just plan B to him because he has only called me once and even when my phone got spoilt and I wasn't online for sometimes he still didn't call me. I am in 2nd year, I haven't been asked by guys to be friends with them except my coursemates. How can I stop having these thoughts that 'I am not destined for any guy' and build my self esteem so that I will concentrate fully for my studies. Thanks
I think you need to calm down a little. Read wikihow articles a lot, i tell you that website has helped me build ma self esteem, my courage and talents.
See you got to appreciate and take care of yourself as you are. It is not others job to like you. Its your job to like yourself.
Every one has his/her own beauty point. I might not be beautiful facially but i am beautiful intellectually or oratorily. Or maybe talent beauty is what you have.
Find your beauty point and exploit it to the fullest.
I am also a 200l student and i got much self esteem. How did i do it?
1. Joined the departmental football team. I met alot of guys and socialised.
Whenever it comes to sports even a 60year old man will look like your agegrade and a friend. I just had fun myself.
2. Got some cartels who watch my back. Going out with good friends boosts ego and esteem.
3. Now i do practice good communication skills and eye contact maintenance infront of the mirrow. This always gives me confidence. Talking to your reflection in the mirrow why you are the best girl in the world.
I usually blow my trumpet to a reasonable extent on the other me in the mirrow.
It makes me feel good.
4. Being good academically.
Your self esteem will boost if you are a high pointer <4.0 and above>
it gives a kind of superiority and esteem. With guys dragging who will be my roomie and who sits near me in the exam hall is quite intriguing to watch.
5. Have fun. Do what you like best. Just a little dose of singing Bruno mars "just the way you are" can have a good effect on you.
When things get bored i start writing a song. It keeps me occupied instead of comparing myself to one cute guy in the lecture hall.
6. Take care of yourself. Buy skin toning lotions and cream. Wear a moderate makeup, keep a clean set of teeth so that you can give a guy that catching smile.
Fix a good hair that fits your physique not what is trending.
I just cut a neat round cut hairstyle, wear my glasses, a long sleeved body hug manually folded to the elbow, a pair of skintight trousers and a neat black sandals. Its my signature clothe style, and some of ma coursemates are imitating already.
No eyelash fixing.
Wear something good. You dont need to dress like Kim khadarshian tho. grin Just something smart.
I personally love smart dressing ladies.
There you go.
I do tell myself this
"No matter how ugly i am i know there is someone who is dieing for me and thinks am the most handsome guy out there."
grin grin grin

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Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 7:20pm On Nov 07, 2018
Factfinder1:

Ring me anyways... Something new,beautiful and different might jst spring forth
thanks

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Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 7:20pm On Nov 07, 2018
Tamarapetty:
Should i pm you?? Important
yes
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 7:21pm On Nov 07, 2018
peacezy555:
don't worry sisi, when you start getting the attention you will just see that u had low self esteem over nothing. sometimes I wish no one notice me when I go out. sometimes I dress in a way to avoid being noticed. I thought it was low self-esteem on my part but I just realized its my kind of person. I hate walking in d street and guys will be asking me for number
same here too, thanks
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by Bunmijanet25: 7:24pm On Nov 07, 2018
sparkle6:

I think you need to calm down a little. Read wikihow articles a lot, i tell you that website has helped me build ma self esteem, my courage and talents.
See you got to appreciate and take care of yourself as you are. It is not others job to like you. Its your job to like yourself.
Every one has his/her own beauty point. I might not be beautiful facially but i am beautiful intellectually or oratorily. Or maybe talent beauty is what you have.
Find your beauty point and exploit it to the fullest.
I am also a 200l student and i got much self esteem. How did i do it?
1. Joined the departmental football team. I met alot of guys and socialised.
Whenever it comes to sports even a 60year old man will look like your agegrade and a friend. I just had fun myself.
2. Got some cartels who watch my back. Going out with good friends boosts ego and esteem.
3. Now i do practice good communication skills and eye contact maintenance infront of the mirrow. This always gives me confidence. Talking to your reflection in the mirrow why you are the best girl in the world.
I usually blow my trumpet to a reasonable extent on the other me in the mirrow.
It makes me feel good.
4. Being good academically.
Your self esteem will boost if you are a high pointer <4.0 and above>
it gives a kind of superiority and esteem. With guys dragging who will be my roomie and who sits near me in the exam hall is quite intriguing to watch.
5. Have fun. Do what you like best. Just a little dose of singing Bruno mars "just the way you are" can have a good effect on you.
When things get bored i start writing a song. It keeps me occupied instead of comparing myself to one cute guy in the lecture hall.
6. Take care of yourself. Buy skin toning lotions and cream. Wear a moderate makeup, keep a clean set of teeth so that you can give a guy that catching smile.
Fix a good hair that fits your physique not what is trending.
I just cut a neat round cut hairstyle, wear my glasses, a long sleeved body hug manually folded to the elbow, a pair of skintight trousers and a neat black sandals. Its my signature clothe style, and some of ma coursemates are imitating already.
No eyelash fixing.
Wear something good. You dont need to dress like Kim khadarshian tho. grin Just something smart.
I personally love smart dressing ladies.
There you go.
I do tell myself this
"No matter how ugly i am i know there is someone who is dieing for me and thinks am the most handsome guy out there."
grin grin grin
thanks,i really appreciate
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by CJAYseven: 8:14pm On Nov 07, 2018
Ranchhoddas:
Which holy book talk this one?
the Bible ISAIAH 34:16
Re: How Can I Build My Self Esteem by CDCEO001: 9:09pm On Nov 07, 2018
Bunmijanet25:
we are on holiday and I am the only one at home
Are they no people in your neighborhood you can mingle with?

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