ednut1:
she is a useless girl. Better japa. What if u took loan. When i see broke gal or gal with fam ish. I japa st8 up. Dats how a man i know married dat kind gal. He spons all her bros and step bros abroad neglecting his own fam. Today baba is broke wife don japa

no kee me with laugh what is japa? ode

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Unfortunately every valuable lesson on the story was lost on you.......and what was even of no value is what you picked upon. His makes are spending more than that on their girls............classic senseless talk from women who don't reason. Is he/should he be running his race on the same wavelength as some "God-forsaken-mates"?

It took them over a year to plan for the business and took the guy more than 5months to raise 500k to upfront the girl. Is that a responsible way to spend money given for business? What stops the girl from informing the guy and having his consent before diverting the money to family problems? How can someone shamelessly break a basic element of trust and you see nothing wrong in it?

@OP, you better free this girl and continue your search for a good wife. This one will run you bankrupt. I hazard a guess that this one will divert your future children's school-fees to ....."solve family problems"

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Reasoning of a woman, how about establishing the business and helping her family from the profits, how about using half the money? I don't know what people think this love thing really is, why didn't she take a bank loan to help the family and she was waiting to collect business capital and use.

Two of you are low lives.

highqueen:

You can imagine the little rat.
I blame nairaland shaa

Kastonkastroll:

Liliyann: :
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

welfare of your family at heart indeed!!! you don't have brothers and uncles that will cater for that your family's welfare? Why should he shoulder your family's responsibility simply because of a lame boyfriend tag on his head, not even husband ooh, just boyfriend!!! Why don't you urge your oldman to include your bf's name in his will since he his that important to your family....

Una well so? So if your paths with your current bf didn't cross, who'd you expect to finance your family's needs? Your future boyfriend?

Bros,

cut long story short..... he orientation in relationship is the "welfare of her family"

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

chapiadora!!!!

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

Those family issues will derail your relationship in the future if not settled right now! So its good for both of u, she’s commendable even for being that smart... imagine running a shop, and living yanfu yanfu when thr are so many evil eyes in the family, you’d be lucky if its only her they are tackling and not you join. So relax, take it as the Casar of your lives she took out of the way, however make it clear to her that the money will replace any other request frm her family when its time for marriage (i.e dowry and stuff). My own token

Useless thing, Always talking rubbish, ugly broke ass b***h.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

IamD18:
Another lover-boy scammed.

On no account should you invest on any woman aside your female siblings[Mum, sisters, wife and daughters].

Girfriend are hoes and epitome of problems, they don't worth the stress and investment.

The only thing you should invest on a girlfriend is nothing but your sperm, because that's the only thing that will yield something good. Anything other than that will be a big WASTE.

I'll to advice you flee from that lady if you want to be successful and live long.

animal i cant stand on my feet becos of laughter another lover boy scammed

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

ure obviously poor

Shameless thing,continue fooling yourself.

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Sorry so assumming op did not send money for shop her family would have died? Some people misuse oppunitunty dats what it is

I trust nairaland guys pureety MhizzAJ and liliyAnn no go post or comment on any thread till 2020 we should all think before we talk - - but some people just don't have sense

aceventurx:
Probably she sent it on another guy , one of my GFs gave me 200k out of 250 her guy gave her , don’t trust those girls at all

weldone Agbaa twale...

Your own case is even they worst, you talk too much,are you not ashamed of yourself, your advice is Zero, I pity your boyfriend if you have any, poverty has taken over your Sense, you keep jumping from one topic to the other just to give your useless advice, u better hide your face in shame cos your a disgrace to womanhood.

highqueen:
Mtchew.
You are very stingy.
To even think that you spent months before sending the damn money after she helped you with your business and everything.
She has been supportive yet you still wanna wave that off by quitting.
Na your type deh tell their wives not to help their family members.
Mtchew

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Thunder fire you.

Girls like you should stop giving womanhood a bad name..don't you have an heart?

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

TonyeBarcanista:

Have you empowered your younger sister or mother with 500k before?

God bless you for this Question. Exactly what I wanted to ask. Obvious the girl isn't serious with the business plan.

If she lied about it, then she will lie about cheating on you

You are welcome

AryEmber:
The only problem I see here is that she didn't inform you and hear what you had to say first. So call her first and tell her how hurt you were, if she does not show any remorse and apologise, gerra of the relationship.

This "Only problem" is enough to determine she has the potential to ruin him

Liliyann:

Who do we have here?? Little girl, this isn't kiddies section!!! Run along, go play with your toys!!! State your point and don't ever mention me again!!! I don't have the time for asslickers!!! You are a big shame to womanhood!!!

you are actually the foolish one here, you are a bigger disgrace to womanhood.

She just made it clear to you that once you marry her all your money will be used in settling and solving her own family's problem.

Thanks☺

kaynacy:
ure obviously poor

poverty is a curse

TonyeBarcanista:

Have you empowered your younger sister or mother with 500k before?

Honest, wicked and pragmatic question.

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

all these your cook story Nawa oo,must you come to nairaland and discuss every issue concerning your private life?

What!!! 500k for a girlfriend ?? Guy you get mind sha.

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

So your entire family is worthless to the extent you can not take care of your bills. SMH4 your life.

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Yeye woman without any atom of sense at all. You are worse than the lady in question! Why don't you use your school fees to settle family problems to show that you love your family? Your stupidity knows no bounds! He loves the lady but no longer for marriage. The lady can go and marry any fool who is willing to be the family ATM. There is a reason why the money was given in the first place, idiot. If she truly respected the guy and loved him why did she not call the guy in question and tell him about the family problem before? But the moment she had the money in her hands, she now felt like Dangote and starts spending foolishly. Now that the money is finished, no money, no shop, no business, where will she get another money to give her money hungry family ? Truly, you women has fish brain.

Bro u have done all u needed to do for her when u sponsored her in catering school. U shouldn't have sent her that huge amount when she is yet to start up on her own cause probably she will lack managemental skill to make do with wot she have. U neglected small beginnings.

carter009:
Your own case is even they worst, you talk too much,are you not ashamed of yourself, your advice is Zero, I pity your boyfriend if you have any, poverty has taken over your Sense, you keep jumping from one topic to the other just to give your useless advice, u better hide your face in shame cos your a disgrace to womanhood.

Please just finish her for me.....

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

So everything including your families' self inflicted poverty problems should come first? So your family are so poor they need your boyfriend to shoulder their responsibilities. May Ebola kill your family.