TonyeBarcanista:
Feminists? Lol

A group of frustrated and mentally deranged bunch.

How can someone say her kids won't bear her husband's name but that of her father+husband's father...

The funny thing is that the trio of her father, her husband's father and her husband are all MEN. Meaning the kids still bear a MAN'S name not the woman

Even the feminist herself is bearing the name of her father as surname and not her mother

My brother OP, please don't bother your head with those frustrated bunch biko. They are misguided

computergeek:
I'm a lady, not a brother. Please read the post well, okay?

computergeek:
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Ladies, please, God is not a woman. I don't know why Ariana Grande had to pen down such blasphemous lyrics. Yes, the song was meant to promote feminism and make women know they CAN too, but seriously? God is a woman? And a lot of girls typing these words all over social media are practising Christians. Please Ladies, God is not a woman. The gender of God has always been clearly expressed in male terms, dating back to the pre-historic times. Even Jesus, who is the second person in the Trinity, is unarguably male. If God is a woman, then it's safe to say that Jesus is a woman. Please let's cut that crap out.



Ladies, the word ‘King’ is supposed to be used exclusively for males. Calling yourself King Tricia instead of Queen Tricia, makes it seem as if Kings command a higher respect than queens, which in itself contradicts the whole idea of feminism. Remember, the sovereign ruler of England is the Queen, not King Elizabeth. She doesn't call herself King because she doesn't want to come off as stupid or someone with gender-based inferiority complex. She is a queen, and she knows her power.



Ladies, your children are your children, okay? You shouldn't expect an award for birthing them, because they are yours. A mother with unconditional, unequivocal love for her kids does not reiterate all the suffering she passed through to birth them, except when they are uncontrollably rebellious. Being a feminist doesn't mean you can't be a traditionalist. Changing your last name to your husband's doesn't take away any ounce of power from you as a woman. Retaining your last name doesn't make you a stronger feminist, because feminism no be by last name, no be by noise-making. Even if you want to keep your last name, at least append his own to yours. Beyoncé's name is Beyoncé Knowles-Carter. She appended Jay-Z’s name to hers. It doesn't make her any less of a strong woman.



Yes, it's double standards when a guy can brag about his sexual prowess and walk around bare-chested, and women can't do the same. But remember, not all guys brag about the women they've shagged. Some have self-respect and dignity. They choose to keep such information private, as it should be. It’s only a shameless guy that'll publicly recount his sexcapades. Forget that nonsense about being sexually open, sex is sacred, and when you're having it pre-maritally, kuku close mouth and don't try to justify your actions. A woman with dignity and self-respect is superior, and that means not going around discussing your sex life on social media or making noise about it. That is true feminism. Knowing that you have dignity, they you're sacred, and choosing to keep it that way.


Guys can walk around bare-chested because they don't have pronounced brea*sts na. Haba! Being equal to a man should comprise more of working towards your own ambitions too and not expecting freebies just because you're a woman. It shouldn't be about walking around with your brea*sts in full glare of all who choose to look. It can be done if it's okay in your tribe or society. Just like some South African tribes. But when it's not acceptable where you come from, for obvious reasons, please don't be stupid and keep your nipples to yourself. That's how these slay queen feminists keep disgracing the clan. Stand up for yourself as a woman, that makes you a feminist, not exposing scary boo*bs biko.



See the next post:

computergeek:
Continuing:


Again, being a traditionalist doesn't make you any less of a feminist. Kneeling to give your husband the cup during your traditional marriage, doesn't mean you're giving him the power to Lord over you. Actually, it symbolises that you're his subordinate and he is the head of the family. It's just symbolic. A husband and wife relationship should be an equal partnership. That doesn't mean that you can't speak out when you feel wronged in your own home. It doesn't mean you can't have a career or build yourself up as an institution to be remembered. It doesn't mean you won't be partners in your home. Tradition will always be tradition, so why don't you just humor it and start building your lives? A feminist should be one who stands her ground if  her husband's people try to bully his properties out of her possession when he's late, rather than one who refuses to kneel to give him the cup. It's just traditional. It's symbolic, but you shouldn't interprete it to mean that you're filing yourself under his ass for life.



Please ooo, breastfeed your male children. Biko, eji m aha Chineke bi n’eluigwe ayo unu (I beg you in God's name), breastfeed your sons. It's mostly American feminists who do this crap, but anyways, I'll still discuss it. An innocent little baby boy needs his mother's nutrients. Don't subject him to formula when your brea*sts are there. It's not as if she's not breastfeeding so her breasts won't sag (which is stupid by the way), she just won't breastfeed because he's male and will one day Lord over women. Raise your son right, teach him not to be gender-biased, don't deny a little baby nutrients because you're a stupid feminist.

A real feminist is one who challenges anybody that tries to intimidate her without cowering away, not one who uploads pictures of a day-old being bottle-fed, not because her breasts aren't milking, but because he's male.



Addressing yourself as wife, mother, lawyer, in that order, does not mean you're a wife before you're anything else. It doesn't represent an ascending order, it's just as it is. Everybody knows every woman is a daughter first before she is anything else. A feminist is one who hustles with her two hands and her brain, so she can be independent and self-reliant, not someone who addresses herself as doctor before mother, then wife. These things are too trivial to be taken seriously. Modern-day feminists like to bank on simple stuff to cause arguments.



About the career issue, I believe a mother should know her scope. That you have kids doesn't mean you shouldn't work, no, but you should know your kids need you more than they need their dad. This is a very fickle point, but I just believe that a woman can be ambitious, but with certain limitations. As I said before, a mother's love for her offspring should be unequivocal and unconditional, so you should be able to give up some certain things for them, at least while they're still kids. No one said having nannies is bad, but permanently abandoning your kids to the care of nannies is just wrong, because you want to fly all around the world like your husband. You can be ambitious and career-driven, but always put your children first.




You being a breadwinner shouldn't be enough reason for you to turn your husband into a tongolo boy. A feminist is one who stands up and takes the bull by the horns when things start going south for her home, not one who refuses to greet her husband in the morning because he can't provide for the family. If the case is that you earn much more than he does, please try to be a source of motivation for him, not cause him low self esteem. If the case is that he is unemployed but searching, please be patient with him. If he is just plain lazy, na you know wetin you dey find when you go marry am.

In essence, being a breadwinner is not enough reason to not greet your husband in the morning. If he cheats then you'll do what? Kill him?





To wrap this up, I just want to let the ladies out there know that feminism is not by words and doing stupid, meaningless things, but by standing your ground and never allowing yourself to be treated unjustly in any situation. True feminism is being self-reliant, being strong and unafraid to take on life, being a partner in your home and not a “how-high” wife. True feminism, in simple words, means to know your power as a human being, and being bold enough to exercise it. Kisses y'all.



Signed: Computergeek.


(NwaAmaikpe and those anti-feminist guys on NL, thread don open )

funmisticqueen:
subordinate indeed. The same bible says that women are to submit to their husbands. the original greek means co-operate not be a slave to, not be a subordinate. Even though the man is the head
the woman is the body . your post while trying to be objective brought out a lot of flaws colored by flawed Christianity. Remember that the bible was translated by misogynistic men.

Yes i agree that one can be a feminist and traditionalist. But men have taken advantage of feminism to be unmotivated and lazy and to leech off women while keeping their priviledges.

There can never be gender equality. an orange will never be a banana. what we should instead strive for is gender neutrality, where both genders understand their strengths and differences and use that to work together.

Eberechi24:
Let's stop defining Feminism. Let's act it.

we have lots of issues threatening the girl child, What have we contributed to it?
How many girls have you impacted, Financially, emotionally, physically and mentally?
Creating thread up and down is not enough.

let our contribution define feminism.

computergeek:
Hahaha... That's what the thread is about. Some people need to be enlightened on the true idea, and perhaps, if you read the whole article, you'll have seen where I emphasized the fact that feminism is not about noise-making, but by standing up for yourself. Nice points you made there.

And by the way, this is my first thread on the topic.

NwaAmaikpe:




I don't know a lot about Nigerian feminists.
I just know that a few of Nigeria's celebrated feminists have once washed my boxers.

And they yell louder when getting the kondo.

The summary of this is,
Nigerian feminists like you rightly pointed out don't understand the true concept of feminism.

The feminists you have in Nigeria are scorned ladies full of bitterness who out of myopia once let their guards down, spread their legs wide and were ridden harder than a rodeo by some good-for-nothing dude who eventually dumped them.

Deep down, they love what they resent and crave for all they criticize.
But don't we love feminists when you have them on their knees swallowing your pride in their hypocritical mouths?

Ranchhoddas:
The Ishilove that I know and love does not get involved in this kind of foolishness.

Why is this thread dedicated to her?

computergeek:
If only you read the thread, you'll understand. Ishilove is a true feminist, because she doesn't go around announcing herself as a feminist. She's super-intelligent and from her posts, you can tell she is a strong, independent woman too. Someone who can never be intimidated.

I understand your concerns . Aunty Ishi no dey daddle with nonsense girls on stupid ideals, she's just who they should really emulate.

Ishilove:
I blush...
Thank you

Ranchhoddas:
The Ishilove that I know and love does not get involved in this kind of foolishness.

Why is this thread dedicated to her?

Ishilove:

Thanks dear. I don't dabble into the Nigerian brand of feminism which is essentially man-hating rabble rousing, championed by broken individuals with psychological challenges.

computergeek:
If only you read the thread, you'll understand. Ishilove is a true feminist, because she doesn't go around announcing herself as a feminist. She's super-intelligent and from her posts, you can tell she is a strong, independent woman too. Someone who can never be intimidated.

I understand your concerns . Aunty Ishi no dey daddle with nonsense girls on stupid ideals, she's just who they should really emulate. True feminism is in character.

funmisticqueen:
God is not a man either, he has no sex.

TonyeBarcanista:
God is a MALE but not a man (human).
Man was made in the IMAGE and LIKENESSES of God.