Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

luminouz:


N my mama dey beg me make I marry upandan... Even if na 2moro she go gree

OP..are u a man or not?? U begged ur gf(even with her disrespect)..begged her mum..begged ur mum..begged n begged....why not beg me...since all u do is beg...

Take charge as a man...u sound weak as fuq!!! N these women know...they be playing u like chess mannn!

Mira200:
You are so soft.

Dogalmighty17:


I and my fiancee are sponsoring it ourselves. My mom is not contributing a kobo.

lawman88:
you mean your mother threatebed to curse you just because she is not comfortable with the wedding date? please go with your woman. A CURSELESS CURSE SHALL NOT STAND....

Omoluabi16:
Your woman hardly submit.
Her mother didn't even mediate or find out if her daughter is overbearing but was indifferent about it ending.
Your mum, I can seduce does not love your wife that much. Why would she curse you over this small thing? I wonder how post wedding will be with these hot tempered mothers.

Just move on. That babe is not for you

andyanders:
I don't think you will have peace with this relationship if you go ahead into it. The signs are there coupled with her mother asking her to get out of the relationship. Since your mother again is against the date, another problem and this goes to show signs of danger ahead. The taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage.

Get off this relationship and allow her to be. You will overcome it and pray for a good woman out there that can be willing to reason with you. Wedding is not even a guarantee for a happy home.There are people who only did traditional wedding without white wedding and they are living happily.

Traditional wedding is the real wedding and not the white wedding.

Princeofnigeria:
your mom she's a witch quote me anywhere if you doubt me I'll review more.


I'll post your pic on this forum your name and address.

tellwisdom:


Bros, where your church dey make i come visit you?

Valerie47:
Why is your mum telling you what to do?

You are the man, you should pick a date and tell them that final, act like a man, stop being a mummy's boy.

Dogalmighty17:


I and my fiancee are sponsoring it ourselves. My mom is not contributing a kobo.

Princeofnigeria:
I'm a MOG my church is in lekki.

As the lord reviews I'll show you all things

Which one be MOG?...Na when make i come visit you? Na Heineken be my brand

tellwisdom:


Which one be MOG?...Na when make i come visit you? Na Heineken be my brand

zabuur:
Read this well.

Firstly, ignore those condemning your fiancee. They don't feel d way u feel about the lady. You own ur feelings. A lot of them have done worse things to keep their relationships.

Secondly, I am sorry for this, a good mother shouldn't be threatening to curse her child or whatever that's related to d child or are u and armed robber?. I believe ur mum should sit u both down and let u guys see reasons she wants April. Or she is amongst those that believe in what their spiritual fathers tell them without giving reasons and telling them it should be secret.

Thirdly, I'm ashamed you can even come on social media to tell d world that ur mother said she'll curse u with her 2 breasts if u go ahead.

I'm not telling u to disrespect ur mum or put d lady above her. Or maybe each of them belong to different fraternities. So they know themselves which u don't know.

Like I said. Please both. Ask ur lady for court wedding in Feb where u can just take few friends. Then party up in April. Even the court wedding might be unknown to ur mum

Dogalmighty17:


I and my fiancee are sponsoring it ourselves. My mom is not contributing a kobo.

chloride6:
Sorry OP but your mom is daft

tola9jaa:


Ur girl is very rude and see the way her family suport her i will advice u to leave her, she will regret leaving you there are many good ladies out there just pray to ur creator to make the right choice

Princeofnigeria:
are you having a issues you can pm me I'll direct you