Bleep d livin light out of her and dump her. Av done it many times

Adexvivacity:
This kind of Bleep happens when the bride's family is richer than the groom to be family.
I purposely said no to the date my wife's family agreed to, so that they would know that am the sailor of my ship.....they grumbled and we ended the meeting without consensus....they called me after a week to tell me they have agreed to my date when they did not see my call. When am very certain that i wont go to them to beg for food and am not too old to find another woman if they refuse to concur.

Madam give this man one bottle of gulder. na man you be jare.

Dogalmighty17:


I and my fiancee are sponsoring it ourselves. My mom is not contributing a kobo.

Bros you have already taken side with your lady and her mom

Mother's curse no be joke o my guy


LEAVE THAT LADY bros.. She and her family don't want you.
They have option(s)

mogbojaiye:



Yes madam I am already married, ,,,,,,but your advice totally stink for real, ,,,if u can give a thumbs up for a lady who isn't submissive then it totally shows a copy of who u are also in your home, ,,,i just shake my head for you, ,,,ur husband try sha

mogbojaiye:


Look at the advice u are advising somebody.., ,, is that how you run to ur parents when ever your hubby did something wrong to u, ,,,not an insult ma, ,,,when ur hubby is awake show him this thread and hear his own conclusion too

guy nor dey argue with that woman, she is not deep

My opinion is that, first you should understand you woman, her fear and feeling, to balance the equation on both side, you guys can go for ur engagement in February and the wedding fix the wedding date to April

babyfaceafrica:
take this advise and I bet you will regret it in the future!

Thank you jare. That's how they will rope that man into eternal problem

Firstly, I am still trying to fathom why your mother has threatened to curse you because of the wedding date. I am led to believe that your mother doesn’t support your marriage, hence she came up with this threat just to discourage you from going ahead. You need to have a deep discussion with your mother, let her feel that you are ready to do her bidding, so she can open up to you and tell you what exactly her reservations are about your marriage. Trust me, once she is relaxed and sees that you are on her side, she will open up. No true mother wants her son walking around with a curse hanging on his neck, worst still, a curse placed by her.

Secondly, marriage is divinely ordained by God btw a man and a woman. So, it’s btw you and your wife before any other person. You have to be sure and fully convinced that your “wife to be” sincerely wants this marriage to happen. If she does, both of you have to work on your families individually, behind the scenes so that there can be love on both sides. She is supposed to be in this together with you and not on the opposing side with her family, unless she is beginning to reconsider the marriage. So in essence, you have to reawaken this thought in her. Whose side is she on? Your side or her family’s side?

Finally, you have to be a man and stand up for yourself. A successful and healthy marriage in the long run won’t be free from family disaggrements such as this. The way and manner in which you handle this situation now, will tell a lot in the future. In essence, strive to build a standard from day one. I pray that the holyspirit gives you wisdom to pull through this one.

Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

Looks like ur mom does not really like her or the fact that you are about to get married
Are you the first or last son? Are you the bread winner of the family? How close are you to ur mum? Do you really love ur woman?

ityP:



your mama is another big problem ooo....

Nooooo, that woman has seen it all. She's probably gaining time for her son's brain will reset to reasoning default

lawman88:
you mean your mother threatebed to curse you just because she is not comfortable with the wedding date? please go with your woman. A CURSELESS CURSE SHALL NOT STAND....

the must "dumbest"advice ever.

Find another woman them plenty .

All these hickups, change of dates, pressure from her family, non submission from her part, disagreement from ur mum, etc. Hmm! If na me I go quit. My marriage shouldn't come with a baggage. Aswearu Gard

mamajaz:

Nooooo, that woman has seen it all. She's probably gaining time for her son's brain will reset to reasoning default

lol... this makes sense.... maybe before d April, sense go enter him head to know say d girl no b am

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

I understand your concerns bro but I need you to take note of these candid opinions:

1. Going with the basic information you reeled out here I perceive your fiancee's love is questionable here because it seems you're the only one afraid of loosing her. If she can threaten breaking a 3years relationship with you I'm afraid she's got another option.

2. Let me put this in capital letters. MEN FEED ON RESPECT WHILE RELATIONSHIP THRIVE ON TRUST. If your fiancee is not showing humility in being considerate about your decision to shift the wedding date, it might as well mean she doesn't trust your judgement/person. Watch this!

3. Ask God for wisdom to navigate this tricky lane. It is a dilemma and a lot is at stake especially your peace and joy moving forward into your future.

4. I won't advice you to turn your back on your mother because of your fiancee. You might decide to MAN up like many ladies advised here but I tell you what, if you choose that lane, your prospective in-laws will gain a big foothold in your about to be established home and you will not have a shade to hide anymore.

5. Personally, if I were to be in your shoes bro, this will be my decision after exhausting all avenues to pacify my prospective in-laws and fiancee...I WILL SIMPLY QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT DELAY BUT WILL NEVER DISCARD MY MUM FOR ALL THE UNBEARABLE SIGNS I'M SEEING IN MY FIANCEE.

Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

Looks like ur mom does not really like her or the fact that you are about to get married
Are you the first or last son? Are you the bread winner of the family? How close are you to ur mum? Do you really love ur woman?..

Tell ur mum to go and talk to them if she still insist Aprill and don't mind ur woman character I guess it's normal, leading to frustration self pls man up quickly and choose a final date for her sake

GraGra247:


You carefully avoided the part where the wife to be is bossy and lacks submission. Also willing to cancel a relationship of 3 years over a wedding date shift from December to February.

I've seen ladies that endured date shifts of 1 year and above. Not that I support this but it happens due situations beyond anyone's control.

You didn't read this part
"I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship."

It's not as if the girl is stubborn, she is type that listen to critique and tries to amend, am not holding brief for her.

February shift is not the issue here, he is proposing another shifting to April-his mom didn't approve the February shift which the girl won't be comfortable with. She may feels the guy is not serious and deliberately delaying the whole thing.

You are pitiful! Leave the damn woman alone if April is not okay for her mtchew

From the whole picture I can decode ur woman is not submissive to you and her parenths still tell her what to do as an adult they will still tell her what to do in your home so put an end to that with ur authority as the man and regarding the date I advise wisdom is used fix a meeting between the two families if dy love u dy will agree on a date .plus its not also too late to turn back if you have doubts.Cheer's

Abi.....I even forget this one sef

You need to think about this carefully.

Befoŕ you say she disrespect You, your family would have seen it from afar.
Can you live without respect for the rest of your Life?

Does she love You?

So if wedding holds a few months later in April, it's enough for her to leave?

Check your relationship again

Poster, first, shifting date is a red flag. Believe me, I can't in good faith make plans and maybe even broadcast to family and friends of a certain date, only for my man to squash my joy. It sends a wrong message and doubts will set in.
The girls parents are trying to protect their daughter, remember they must have told their friends and family that a certain person is coming for their girl on a certain date. Preparation are being made. Which face will they have to announce it didn't hold again. You check it nah. All these people shouting up and down, how they will feel if they sense a man wants to disgrace their daughter. My own father will call the entire thing off that's for sure. And yes if his son does same, he will tell you are not ready and he won't be part of it. Talk to your mom, she has reason, let her open up. If it won't be OK with her, then call the entire thing off.
Pls thread carefully, the parents and the girl are right in being skeptical, and I tell you, if u shift the date again, then its over.
Put your self in their shoes, its not every family that can tolerate such insults, whether the girl is poor or rich. My father will not even let u set foot in my village talk more of his compound. I can't marry without the support of both families.

Relationship Advisers Association Of Nigeria, I salute una. Guy, are you marrying her family or her? Make peace with your Mum first and every other thing will follow

Same stuff is happening with me now.. Make we shift date because guy never hold n she is already been disrespectful... My mom on the other hand dsnt care bout date... As for her, just do n marry n Dts all....



But you on the other hand feels like you not gonna get another girl like her out Dia n u certainly gonna disrespect your mom cz f ur woman... You supposed to consider stuffs like elections in February n if d woman isn't OK with shifting, you jejely withdraw Na... No be by force because tomorrow u will hv to contain with her family again... Show them u d boss

You need to call both your fiance and your mother to order.
Both females are over reaching and misbehaving.
Be sure to address and treat the disrespect from both of them...

Regarding your mom...I can tell you are a weak mama's boy who has never had the gall to call your misbehaving parents to order before and setting boundaries. You need to have become comfortable with this prior to your wedding....or it will not end with the wedding. You are less able to do this though if you are not paying for your own wedding....which you should tbh.

Regarding your girl, If you decide not to marry the girl, she'll see who will lose.
You are the man. Your desires matter too. If she doesn't believe this, tell her to go find another groom for HER wedding.

After you are done treating each person's fuckup and bringing them to reality, sit down like a man and choose how you want to move forward.

Keep begging the lady and her family like they are doing you a favour for marrying their daughter and you think that lady will ever respect you and her parents wouldn't be the ones dictating what happens in your home.

Keep begging your mother o accept the wedding date because she is the one that will pay for the wedding..you are just a woman not a man..if I were you I would have called off the wedding because the girl's family will never accord you any respect when you both marry..you will keep jumping from one advice to another.
I'm not even telling you to call off the wedding because of your mother(she can curse with two of her breast not one)she is trying to control you..if I were you I would have called of the wedding and stay away from everyone.they girl can see you are making a strong move towards marrying her..let her wait till March(that should be your own date now..your mother wants April and the lady February but as the man choose March..no one should tell you what to to do)but if your girl can not wait let her go and marry that man that would date her from this December and marry her February.

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