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HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Shitface(m): 7:11am On Jan 20, 2019 |
I and my girlfriend have been dating for over four years now, I am now very comfortable and want to settle down with the treasure of my life. However her parents because of hatred for Imo state people especially Mbaise refused giving their daughters hand over to me. What's the unnecessary hate to Mbaise people and Imo people in general from Anambra people? And please what should I do to win their heart? I really love her so very much and can't afford losing her in any capacity. N:B: I have spent 10 years of my life in Anambra and my family loves her alot. |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by YOUNGELDER1(m): 7:14am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Things like things makes me dislike Igbo. Trabalism now this 3 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Abascoh: 7:18am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that 18 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Abascoh: 7:19am On Jan 20, 2019 |
YOUNGELDER1:Shut up and stop talking like an ignoramus about things you know nothing about 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by DanDeeBoss(m): 7:22am On Jan 20, 2019 |
WTF?? Are both of you not still igbo?? Some parents sef |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Nobody: 7:22am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Shitface: Sad to see we still have primitive people and customs around |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by AGNESikpuNNU(f): 7:23am On Jan 20, 2019 |
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Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by IkpuMmadu: 7:24am On Jan 20, 2019 |
YOUNGELDER1: It's in Yoruba ...the egba man rarely Marie's ijebu That's the fact ...some folks are petty 5 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by shadeze: 7:34am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Op go siddon abeg, my elder sister is married to an imo man and one of my auntys too. Nothing like that problem you are talking about unless it is your wife's family that have that problem. Don't make it a general problem between Anambra and imo. Go and solve your problem with your wife's family 5 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Rednaxelot: 7:47am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Abascoh:You could be right. But the next question to you now is, the Imo state indigenes you mentioned that your people got married to, are they from Mbaise? To my understanding as an ex corps member in Abia state, I could discern that many other Igbo tribes don't like having things to do with Mbaise and Ngwa people. 4 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by dingbang(m): 7:55am On Jan 20, 2019 |
What fuckery is this? |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by zagorakis(m): 7:56am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Yes i understand perfectly well what the op is saying.. Many Anambrarians dont like marrying from imo... I think because many imolites are deceptive. 2.some of their men are very lazy,3.their women can go diabolical to tie a man down, 4.some of their women have this inherent jealousy and greed that can destroy families, 5.most are infidels.. Lastly.. There is an old saying that" when a snake and an mbaise person enters your house, get rid of the mbaise person and leave the snake" .. I think this old saying by our forefathers is very deep. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Nobody: 7:57am On Jan 20, 2019 |
hmnn |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Nobody: 7:57am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Get an Anambra citizenship for you and fan. Then tell her family you've swapped state of origin cos of love and you're good to go. 2 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Oldiesgoodies(f): 8:12am On Jan 20, 2019 |
It’s true tho the rubbish is reducing Most Anambra men in my hood can date you but will not marry you ![]() But what is your fiancée’s opinion on this ![]() Just start looking elsewhere if you can’t convince the family after a while because some parents can be very very much adamant about this Sad but you can find love again ![]() Hope for the best anyway and pray on it that God’s will be done ![]() |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Efewestern: 8:26am On Jan 20, 2019 |
YOUNGELDER1: This has nothing to do with Igbo, we humans are generally tribalistic, if we are not hating because of Tribe, we will be hating because of state, if we are not hating because of state, we will be hating because of Community/LGA, if we are not hating because of community, we will be hating because of family, we can go on and on, simply put, we just find any silly reasons to hate. Tribe, religion , skin color, etc doesn't really matter, what matters most is the altitude of the person you are dealing with, I have met several people from Imo state who are wonderful and I have also met people from my State who are demons, let's do away with tribalism, it won't take us anywhere. 4 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by shege45: 8:41am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Abascoh:shhhhhhhuuuuu It happens. Because you haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen 1 Like |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by DonHummer(m): 9:14am On Jan 20, 2019 |
you are asking what you should do?
Give am Belle jor. |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Tchalz(m): 9:18am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Abascoh: Not fake man! My ex friend from Anambra said she can only marry from Anambra or Enugu.Imo is a no no for her |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Nobody: 9:26am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Give her belle |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by mejai(m): 9:28am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Each state in the east has something like dat.... ngwa nnewi mbaise nkanu ndi akpa sense and stubborn. ![]() ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by mejai(m): 9:31am On Jan 20, 2019 |
[quote author=zagorakis post=74934182]Yes i understand perfectly well what the op is saying.. Many Anambrarians dont like marrying from imo... I think because many imolites are deceptive. 2.some of their men are very lazy,3.their women can go diabolical to tie a man down, 4.some of their women have this inherent jealousy and greed that can destroy families, 5.most are infidels.. Lastly.. There is an old saying that" when a snake and an mbaise person enters your house, get rid of the mbaise person and leave the snake" .. I think this old saying by our forefathers is very deep. [/quote yes. That snake part... I heard it too. ![]() |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by pointblank247(m): 9:36am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Shitface:STOP SAYING THOSE THINGS BROS. IMO STATE PEOPLE RUN FAR FROM THERE MBAISE BROTHERS SO DONT BLAME ANAMBRA AT ALL. IT WAS NOT AN ANAMBRA MAN THAT SAID AND I QUOTE. 'IF SNAKE ENTER YOUR HOUSE AND AN MBAISE MAN ENTER,....... DONT MAKE MISTAKES ABOUT THE NEEDFULL. FOR ME IF I SEE MY WIFE IN MBAISE I WILL MARRY HER IF THEY HAVE DONE SOMETHING ABOUT THEIR CRAZY BRIDE PRICE |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by pointblank247(m): 9:39am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Abascoh:bros dont mind people wey never ready to marry and are giving nonsense escuses 1 Like |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by ICAMETOWIN(m): 9:59am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Bla bla bla,Africans are an ode to stupidity |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Flattino(m): 10:03am On Jan 20, 2019 |
ICAMETOWIN:Igbos |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by mrblessed(m): 10:03am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Abascoh:Being from Anambra myself, it is obvious you are a little bit dishonest, or you are blissfully ignorant of the decades-long irrational fear majority of Anambra people have for their Imo brethren. The genesis of the phobia is yet to be fully ascertained. But it existence is nonetheless factual. However, this anachronistic, stereotypical profiling has been unable to prevent many marriages as your post clearly explained. It is annoyingly a tradition for most Anambra parents to object their son's wish to marry an Imo lady, but this resistance does not almost always endure if the parties concerned are determined to pull through. I have lots of relations who are married to Imo ladies, after the customary parental disagreement and subtle threat. True, there are many instances where ladies from Imo exhibit unexpected behaviour as a wife, but that does not conduce the acceptance of a faulty generalisation. We also have some Anambra ladies who have not lived up to expectations in their marriages. Why are they not profiled as we easily and commonly do with Imo ladies? Those using this unfortunate drawback as evidence to proof the purported disunity and "tribalism" in Igbo land have successfully led themselves up to a blind alley. What about the celebrated Igbo/Yoruba disagreement in marriage? So, in the end, it is not an Igbo problem, but a human shortcoming framed in the mould of maintaining or having your son or daughter marry from a place not too far in tradition and viewpoint. What the OP is experiencing now is common with many ethnic groups, although not widely reported. Dear Mr OP, I having no misgivings that you will triumph at the end of the day. Let not this minor distraction derail your determination. 2 Likes |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Nobody: 10:14am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Southerners self. The discrimination that exists in the south confuses even the devil himself. Igbos discriminate against eachother, they discriminate against Yoruba, they discriminate against northerners, they discriminate against those from the south south. Discrimination! Discrimination!! Discrimination!!! Yorubas too the same thing. People from Edo, Delta, Kogi and a part of Rivers also have this terrible trait embedded in them. I've never heard of a case where an Aboki family rejected their child's suitor simple because he or she comes from a different aboki state. Except of course if the suitor has a terrible character. Thank God for my culture, we don't discriminate, especially when it comes to issues as big as marriage. That's why I put my culture first before one useless religion. Whether your suitor is a goat provided it's your choice, knock yourself out Southerners, Una no de tire to de discriminate against people? .#spits |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Pearlyakin(m): 10:18am On Jan 20, 2019 |
See the people craving for their own Biafra, shior. 1 Like |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Shitface(m): 10:21am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Abascoh: Human How dare u call my story fake? Man, drop your opinion and don't attack what I said. Thank you |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by Shitface(m): 10:23am On Jan 20, 2019 |
shadeze: Uncle, have u never heard about the segregation against Mbaise people from people in same tribe as them ![]() 1 Like |
Re: HELP! Can't Marry Her Because I Am From Imo And They Are Anambra by YOUNGELDER1(m): 10:39am On Jan 20, 2019 |
Abascoh: You’re an idiooot! I stated my opinion without mention you or trade insults. You could have done so without the insults. Fool |
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