I and my girlfriend have been dating for over four years now, I am now very comfortable and want to settle down with the treasure of my life.
However her parents because of hatred for Imo state people especially Mbaise refused giving their daughters hand over to me.

What's the unnecessary hate to Mbaise people and Imo people in general from Anambra people?

And please what should I do to win their heart? I really love her so very much and can't afford losing her in any capacity.

N:B: I have spent 10 years of my life in Anambra and my family loves her alot.

Things like things makes me dislike Igbo.
Trabalism now this

Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that

YOUNGELDER1:
Things like things makes me dislike Igbo.
Trabalism now this

Shut up and stop talking like an ignoramus about things you know nothing about

Shitface:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for over four years now, I am now very comfortable and want to settle down with the treasure of my life.
However her parents because of hatred for Imo state people especially Mbaise refused giving their daughters hand over to me.

What's the unnecessary hate to Mbaise people and Imo people in general from Anambra people?

And please what should I do to win their heart? I really love her so very much and can't afford losing her in any capacity.

N:B: I have spent 10 years of my life in Anambra and my family loves her alot.

Sad to see we still have primitive people and customs around

YOUNGELDER1:
Things like things makes me dislike Igbo.
Trabalism now this

It's in Yoruba ...the egba man rarely Marie's ijebu

That's the fact ...some folks are petty

Op go siddon abeg, my elder sister is married to an imo man and one of my auntys too. Nothing like that problem you are talking about unless it is your wife's family that have that problem. Don't make it a general problem between Anambra and imo. Go and solve your problem with your wife's family

Abascoh:
Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that

You could be right.

But the next question to you now is, the Imo state indigenes you mentioned that your people got married to, are they from Mbaise?

To my understanding as an ex corps member in Abia state, I could discern that many other Igbo tribes don't like having things to do with Mbaise and Ngwa people.

What fuckery is this?

Yes i understand perfectly well what the op is saying.. Many Anambrarians dont like marrying from imo... I think because many imolites are deceptive. 2.some of their men are very lazy,3.their women can go diabolical to tie a man down, 4.some of their women have this inherent jealousy and greed that can destroy families, 5.most are infidels..
Lastly.. There is an old saying that" when a snake and an mbaise person enters your house, get rid of the mbaise person and leave the snake" ..
I think this old saying by our forefathers is very deep.

hmnn

Get an Anambra citizenship for you and fan. Then tell her family you've swapped state of origin cos of love and you're good to go.

It’s true tho the rubbish is reducing
Most Anambra men in my hood can date you but will not marry you

But what is your fiancée’s opinion on this

Just start looking elsewhere if you can’t convince the family after a while because some parents can be very very much adamant about this

Sad but you can find love again

Hope for the best anyway and pray on it that God’s will be done you’ll be fine.

YOUNGELDER1:
Things like things makes me dislike Igbo.
Trabalism now this

This has nothing to do with Igbo, we humans are generally tribalistic, if we are not hating because of Tribe, we will be hating because of state, if we are not hating because of state, we will be hating because of Community/LGA, if we are not hating because of community, we will be hating because of family, we can go on and on, simply put, we just find any silly reasons to hate.

Tribe, religion , skin color, etc doesn't really matter, what matters most is the altitude of the person you are dealing with, I have met several people from Imo state who are wonderful and I have also met people from my State who are demons, let's do away with tribalism, it won't take us anywhere.

Abascoh:
Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that

shhhhhhhuuuuu
It happens. Because you haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen

you are asking what you should do? Give am Belle jor.

Abascoh:
Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that

Not fake man! My ex friend from Anambra said she can only marry from Anambra or Enugu.Imo is a no no for her

Give her belle

Each state in the east has something like dat....

ngwa
nnewi
mbaise
nkanu


ndi akpa sense and stubborn.

[quote author=zagorakis post=74934182]Yes i understand perfectly well what the op is saying.. Many Anambrarians dont like marrying from imo... I think because many imolites are deceptive. 2.some of their men are very lazy,3.their women can go diabolical to tie a man down, 4.some of their women have this inherent jealousy and greed that can destroy families, 5.most are infidels..
Lastly.. There is an old saying that" when a snake and an mbaise person enters your house, get rid of the mbaise person and leave the snake" ..
I think this old saying by our forefathers is very deep. [/quote
yes. That snake part... I heard it too.

Shitface:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for over four years now, I am now very comfortable and want to settle down with the treasure of my life.
However her parents because of hatred for Imo state people especially Mbaise refused giving their daughters hand over to me.

What's the unnecessary hate to Mbaise people and Imo people in general from Anambra people?

And please what should I do to win their heart? I really love her so very much and can't afford losing her in any capacity.

N:B: I have spent 10 years of my life in Anambra and my family loves her alot.

STOP SAYING THOSE THINGS BROS. IMO STATE PEOPLE RUN FAR FROM THERE MBAISE BROTHERS SO DONT BLAME ANAMBRA AT ALL. IT WAS NOT AN ANAMBRA MAN THAT SAID AND I QUOTE. 'IF SNAKE ENTER YOUR HOUSE AND AN MBAISE MAN ENTER,....... DONT MAKE MISTAKES ABOUT THE NEEDFULL.
FOR ME IF I SEE MY WIFE IN MBAISE I WILL MARRY HER IF THEY HAVE DONE SOMETHING ABOUT THEIR CRAZY BRIDE PRICE

Abascoh:
Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that

bros dont mind people wey never ready to marry and are giving nonsense escuses

Bla bla bla,Africans are an ode to stupidity

ICAMETOWIN:
Bla bla bla,Africans are an ode to stupidity

Igbos

Abascoh:
Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that

Being from Anambra myself, it is obvious you are a little bit dishonest, or you are blissfully ignorant of the decades-long irrational fear majority of Anambra people have for their Imo brethren. The genesis of the phobia is yet to be fully ascertained. But it existence is nonetheless factual.

However, this anachronistic, stereotypical profiling has been unable to prevent many marriages as your post clearly explained. It is annoyingly a tradition for most Anambra parents to object their son's wish to marry an Imo lady, but this resistance does not almost always endure if the parties concerned are determined to pull through. I have lots of relations who are married to Imo ladies, after the customary parental disagreement and subtle threat. True, there are many instances where ladies from Imo exhibit unexpected behaviour as a wife, but that does not conduce the acceptance of a faulty generalisation. We also have some Anambra ladies who have not lived up to expectations in their marriages. Why are they not profiled as we easily and commonly do with Imo ladies?

Those using this unfortunate drawback as evidence to proof the purported disunity and "tribalism" in Igbo land have successfully led themselves up to a blind alley. What about the celebrated Igbo/Yoruba disagreement in marriage? So, in the end, it is not an Igbo problem, but a human shortcoming framed in the mould of maintaining or having your son or daughter marry from a place not too far in tradition and viewpoint. What the OP is experiencing now is common with many ethnic groups, although not widely reported.

Dear Mr OP, I having no misgivings that you will triumph at the end of the day. Let not this minor distraction derail your determination.

Southerners self.

The discrimination that exists in the south confuses even the devil himself.

Igbos discriminate against eachother, they discriminate against Yoruba, they discriminate against northerners, they discriminate against those from the south south. Discrimination! Discrimination!! Discrimination!!!

Yorubas too the same thing.
People from Edo, Delta, Kogi and a part of Rivers also have this terrible trait embedded in them.

I've never heard of a case where an Aboki family rejected their child's suitor simple because he or she comes from a different aboki state. Except of course if the suitor has a terrible character.

Thank God for my culture, we don't discriminate, especially when it comes to issues as big as marriage. That's why I put my culture first before one useless religion.

Whether your suitor is a goat provided it's your choice, knock yourself out

Southerners, Una no de tire to de discriminate against people?
.#spits

See the people craving for their own Biafra, shior.

Abascoh:
Fake story, Anambra people and Imo inter marry regularly. My Dad is from Anambra and My mum is from imo. Two of my cousins are married to Imo men. My uncle (mum's younger brother) being from Imo is married to an Anambra woman and I have never heard anything of these so called hatred you talk about. I only know that there is a cliché that Imo people collect more as bride price than Anambra do but even that is not an issue when you see who you want to marry. I will advise you to go and find out why your woman's people don't want her to marry you, it has nothing to do with any alleged hatred Anambra people have for imo people because there is nothing like that

Human
How dare u call my story fake?
Man, drop your opinion and don't attack what I said.
Thank you

shadeze:
Op go siddon abeg, my elder sister is married to an imo man and one of my auntys too. Nothing like that problem you are talking about unless it is your wife's family that have that problem. Don't make it a general problem between Anambra and imo. Go and solve your problem with your wife's family

Uncle, have u never heard about the segregation against Mbaise people from people in same tribe as them?

Abascoh:

Shut up and stop talking like an ignoramus about things you know nothing about

You’re an idiooot!

I stated my opinion without mention you or trade insults.
You could have done so without the insults. Fool