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Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by prestigiouslady: 6:08pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
Unemployment.. Losing my job late last year was a very low low point for me Coping with life as an unemployed single mother..Taking the responsibility of a child alone.. 9/10 out of every man out there just want to mess with your body cos they're of the opinion that you shouldn't have a choice as a single mom...And not all single mothers are promiscious...some are just victims of circumstances It's really depressing. But my child keeps me going. 2019 I strongly believe will be a positive turning point for me.. 43 Likes |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by yemisolar(m): 6:24pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
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Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Powermind: 6:27pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
Simplecore: Believe that guy at your own peril |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by yemisolar(m): 6:28pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
If you were my sister, I would tell you to stay with someone who is stable and has future plans for you. For starters, relationships can create a blind spot with one such that there are some things (good or bad) that it takes outsiders to see. Especially if more than one person is saying the same thing. For me feeling/ chemistry is a dime a dozen that is, it comes and goes but love is a decision. Also, as you grow older, things that excite you about life changes and so is your needs in a man. In the next 15 years, you won't just be looking at someone that is handsome and makes you laugh, you will need a good father to your children and someone your family and friends will respect. As for his 'traditional' side, this is a function of where he is coming from and how he was raised. But all of that can be adjusted with right the attitude and presentation. Generally, when a man knows his wife respect him, he is more favourably disposed to listening to her. Actually, women who understand that wield a lot of subtle power than even they know. As for the new guy, the question is, would you feel the same way about him as you feel now in 10 years time? The answer will tell you which choice to make. This is not about you staying single till your fourties or the difficulty of marrying from another tribe, it is about making a choice you won't regret. My 2 cents Lukewarm: 30 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 6:31pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
AceRoyal: Thanks for telling him that! 1 Like |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Powermind: 6:38pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
yemisolar: Words of a sage 5 Likes |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by janefrancisca(f): 7:34pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
splendid2:Nope, my younger sis. |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by IamPlato(m): 8:10pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Stop Behavin Like An Old Woman, Come On Facebook |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Homeboiy: 9:51pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
I hate everything around me An only child, life is not sweetening me I hate everything around me I TRY TO BE HAPPY BUT IT'S ONLY WHEN AM WITH PEOPLE IF NOT BECAUSE OF MY PARENTS, I WOULD HAVE BE LIVING A LIFE OF I DON'T CARE |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Mizwisdom(f): 10:22pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
AceRoyal: 100 likes 2 Likes |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:56pm On Jan 21, 2019 |
I just had one yesterday. |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by CaptainMitch: 6:58am On Jan 22, 2019 |
What's the problem? UyaiIncomparabl: |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Abcruz(m): 9:32am On Jan 22, 2019 |
IamPlato: Truer words have never been spoken. Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will be stationed in the presence of kings; he will not stand before obscure men.--proverbs 22:29 1 Like |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AceRoyal: 9:34am On Jan 22, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Care to share? |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AceRoyal: 10:16am On Jan 22, 2019 |
Homeboiy:You hate because deep down you're lonely. Try to be more open. Try to build good quality friendships with those around you. If you want I can be your friend. |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AceRoyal: 10:20am On Jan 22, 2019 |
prestigiouslady: You're a very strong woman and a very good role model going by what you wrote! Try to learn a skill or start a business, no matter how small. God will see you through. Keep on been strong and optimistic. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:25am On Jan 22, 2019 |
CaptainMitch: Hmmmmmmm |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Homeboiy: 5:10pm On Jan 22, 2019 |
AceRoyal: I fear sharing ideas with people around me Cos they use it against me in future 3 Likes |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Nobody: 5:38pm On Jan 22, 2019 |
my main cause of drepression is REGRETS.
Yorubas will say 'arokan nii fa ekun asun i dake' my job my marital life everyhing's just screwed up. i just hope all will be well soon 12 Likes |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by sacx: 6:45pm On Jan 22, 2019 |
Living with SNHL not an easy sontin. Wasn't born with it, so can't adapt. No friends, difficulty conversing with people, no job, and people seem to treat me as inferior. Brilliant individual, good grades despite the challenge, still no job. Lots of opportunities staring me at the face but can't take advantage of them. Why? SNHL! Like Bleep Bleep 3 Likes |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by AceRoyal: 9:32pm On Jan 22, 2019 |
Homeboiy: I understand your point of view. I'm experienced it alot. It shouldn't stop you from making friends anyway. We can if you wanna be? |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by graciamore(f): 11:28am On Jan 23, 2019 |
AceRoyal:i have tried learning tailoring after my first child could not finish...now I want to go and finish it but no finances... |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by Vicuzsquare(f): 2:27pm On Jan 23, 2019 |
I need a Christian lady in surulere to squat me for sometime for me to secure a job I went for |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by sconp: 3:58pm On Jan 23, 2019 |
Lukewarm: Hi Lukewarm, I read your first post and this, the way you wrote the first post, I assumed you were already approaching your thirties only to read this and see 23: I was shook Marriage is supposed to be long lasting (which scares me btw) and also supposed to bring you happiness. The pressure from family might be getting to you, you however deserve to be happy. A lot of people would tell you stories of how other ladies turned suitors down and never got married but those are just scare tactics. At 23, you have life ahead of you, network, go out more and who says you can't meet a better person? 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by belcom10(m): 6:11pm On Jan 23, 2019 |
CaptainMitch: Determination. Also ask God to help you. 1 Like |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by spiralwedge(m): 10:54pm On Jan 23, 2019 |
yemisolar: Lukewarm, best advice here. Take it. Reading through your story, both of you are "traditional", the problem is overfamiliarity and curiosity of something/somebody new. 1 Like |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by ifyalways(f): 6:49am On Jan 24, 2019 |
prestigiouslady:Please send me a pm. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by prestigiouslady: 7:57am On Jan 24, 2019 |
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Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by jesmond3945: 7:57am On Jan 24, 2019 |
Lukewarm:he is using emotional blackmail to trap you. 1 Like |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by jesmond3945: 8:11am On Jan 24, 2019 |
I have read all and also I agree with respondents about practical measures. I would give my own antedote Jesus. I would explain. There came a point in time in my life I was very much depressed. In 2009 i was not able to get a job which made me depressed although God came to calm me down and i got the temporary job later. So over the years different life experiences depressed which made me to turn to porn and masturbation addiction. Sometimes to feel good I listened to secular music rather than gospel music. I saw gospel music as boring. And then I liked to have friends to feel happy too and also money. Whenever I had money in my pocket i was very happy and elated. Also I had girlfriends and you know fornication is a sweet experience. So I was happy but most of the times depressed. Whenever my girl missed my call i would become depressed till i heard her voice. So my happiness was on these porn, masturbation, sex, secular music, money, girlfriend, family and friends. So take these away and i would be depressed. I discovered these never gave me permanenet peace and joy. Even when i came to the UK as a big boy I was still depressed because of isolation and loneliness. And my addiction increased. Till I decided to surrender my life to Christ. I deleted all my secular songs and replaced with christian music. I watch only christian and decent videos. I read my bible and prayed regularly. I discover that the peace Jesus gave me was far greater than all the fun I had. Since then I have never been depressed. No porn no masturbation no bad life infact i dont need friends i only need Jesus and His love. So one thing I would encourage you guys is that you need peace and to feel loved first. Dont base this on job, or husband , or money because they would never feel the void. Is only when you have peace within you thats when life start becoming fun. 31 Likes |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by ifyalways(f): 9:26am On Jan 24, 2019 |
prestigiouslady:Seen. Will respond asap 1 Like |
Re: Come Share Your Biggest Problem, Challenge Or Source Of Depression! by minexpo(m): 12:31am On Jan 25, 2019 |
jesmond3945:.hmmmm..I guess I'm struggling with this same issue...it's not easy ...especially the porn aspect |
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