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. by SaucyBenks(m): 11:29am On Feb 19, 2019 |
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Re: . by LisaAnne(f): 11:36am On Feb 19, 2019 |
Do you like her in return? If yes shoot your shot. If no tell her you have a girlfriend and don't waste her time. 6 Likes |
Re: . by Etsyl: 11:37am On Feb 19, 2019 |
Love emojis |
Re: . by Taniaa(f): 11:39am On Feb 19, 2019 |
Lol .I'm pretty certain if you felt the same way about her you won't be here asking questions. 5 Likes |
Re: . by lilmax(m): 11:41am On Feb 19, 2019 |
don't shoot anything let her toast you, do shakara, today na your day give her attitude, don't reply her chats 7 Likes |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 11:45am On Feb 19, 2019 |
LisaAnne:no I don't... N how I could tell her without sounding rude is a problem |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 11:47am On Feb 19, 2019 |
LisaAnne:I dont like her and I don't wanna sound rude with my response... Or should I just say "aaww, thanks dear, i like you too, likeness is all the world needs, not hate" |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 11:48am On Feb 19, 2019 |
Taniaa:very true. Just wanna avoid hurting her. |
Re: . by Baddiezz(f): 11:54am On Feb 19, 2019 |
Taking others for granted ' could definitely be one of the stumbling blocks of somebody's personality. Turning a blind eye to a girl's feelings who garnered courage and expressed herself is not the characteristics of a gentleman. Moreover, despite of being reasonably sure of incompatibility, one should hold respect towards her sentiments and shouldn't take her for granted. Though it is not mandatory to always accept her 'proposal' but denial should not comprise one's dignity. There are polite ways to do that too. Coming to the question, it is seldom seen that the girl makes the first move. But when she does, one thing is for sure that she must have mustered every ounce of courage to make that move and in my opinion, nothing could produce the sense of being so " special" to someone. The quote attempts to convey that when a girl gives all she has, to make you feel special, her efforts deserve due respect. So if you don't feel the same way put her off nicely.... 4 Likes |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 11:55am On Feb 19, 2019 |
Baddiezz:she deleted it immediately but my WhatsApp settings won't let it be deleted... So it's still there N since she deleted it, I've decided to act like I didn't see it. |
Re: . by Baddiezz(f): 11:56am On Feb 19, 2019 |
SaucyBenks:don't beat around the bush and lead her to believe there is hope where there isn't. "I'm in a relationship", "Due to work/school/whatever, I'm not dating now", or maybe, "You're very nice, but I'm not attracted to you that way" might work, depending on you and circumstances. 2 Likes |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 12:00pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Baddiezz:calm down, no-one is beating around the bush. She deleted the message but my WhatsApp settings still had it... So since she deleted it, I'll act like I didn't see it |
Re: . by LisaAnne(f): 12:02pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
SaucyBenks: “Hey, I am really touched, I am, but **insert name here**, right now, I simply cannot see myself in a relationship. I have too many things to focus on and I would not be a good BF to anyone. Therefore, I cannot give you what you want, ***if you want, you can insert what she wants here***, I am really sorry, but that is the way it has to be and perhaps it might be best for us if we have some space for now. Okay?” Then you shut up. Don’t try to be overly nice, as it can be misconstrued. Don’t try to over explain. Stick to this and keep it short and if she asks questions or explanations, simply repeat this in a different way, so they get that you are honest but you are not going to change your mind. Just don’t be rude, and be kind. After that, leave, and go no contact for as long as you deem necessary. Voila. 2 Likes |
Re: . by LisaAnne(f): 12:04pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
SaucyBenks:She's still gonna repeat it sooner than later so better to be straight with her once and for all...don't cause her more ♥ heartbreak 2 Likes |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 12:10pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
LisaAnne:naturally, I'm that nice kinda guy, she's not the only one in school that feels this way but she's the first to boldly state it... That's why I lack a response. But I'll try n do as you have said. 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 12:23pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
If it is the reverse the girl won't think twice to discharge you. |
Re: . by sommyboi(m): 1:40pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Many years back when I was an undergraduate , one of my classmates sent me a message that she loves me. Me being young and immature, replied "I love you too, but like a sister"... She hates me from that day till now. First thing you have to understand is that it's difficult for a woman to do what she's done. Don't take it for granted, massage her ego, make her feel appreciated and tell her you like her too. Meet her face to face and tell her you could be friends, to start with. You can never tell where good thing will come. She only said she likes you and not that she needs your life. Be a gentleman man jhoor. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Kseafresh: 2:01pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
No fall for am...Na scam 1 Like |
Re: . by Starboytwo(m): 2:03pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Tell her you need money for something, like barb ur hair or your daddy is in the hospital, or your mummy dey for coma, or your brother birthday is coming and you want to get him presents... Make themselves feel am small.... 2 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 2:07pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
A saying once said......date or marry someone dat loves u more and not d person u love more.....am sure u av feelings for d babe ...but ur inner pride dey confuse u...try avoiding d babe for 3 days...if u dont feel anything...den just tell her. face to face dat u dnt feel d same way..at least u are ready emotionally to face d consequences....but if u stalk or miss her...baba dis babe don give u enough green light....go now...before d green light go turn red light...and u will loose twice.. |
Re: . by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:51pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Since she deleted it, pretend like you didn't see it... If it happens again, just tell her "I am not ready for a relationship" or "I have a girlfriend already"....But I think whichever way you put it, she'd still feel heartbroken .. |
Re: . by kollinzgee(m): 8:13pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
op simply say she is not fine shikena .if she is a beauty queen you will grab her with both hands men dont play hard to get.. ; |
Re: . by Biglittlelois(f): 8:22pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
lilmax: Wayray |
Re: . by Nobody: 8:22pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Tell her you saw the message she deleted, you respect her courage but unfortunately you don't have such feelings for her. You like her as a friend. Friend zone her! *insert wicked laugh* |
Re: . by Biglittlelois(f): 8:25pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
I don't understand the advice or comments above, she just said "I like you" so reply her by saying "I like you too" this is no big deal nah had it been she said "I'm into you" or "I have feelings for you" or "I love you" then you can follow advices above. |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 9:04pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Biglittlelois:I know what I go through in school n besides, she deleted the message afterwards... Do you think there wasn't more to it that she had to delete it? |
Re: . by SaucyBenks(m): 9:06pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Well guy's. I just let her be since she deleted the message before I could come online. |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:23pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Did you read the OP? She told him "I really like you". "I really like you" "I'm into you" "I have feelings for you" are all synonymous: same meaning, different words. Biglittlelois: 1 Like |
Re: . by Vibesking(m): 9:53pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
This is a tough situation. But take this from someone who's been in your position and fumbled. If you don't have feelings for her, please tell her. Don't stir up hope or play along, tell her point blank you don't feel the same way. I once agreed to date a girl after she opened up to me about her feelings.. I just couldn't say no cause I didn't want to hurt her. However, we started dating and I broke up with her after 4 days. She was devastated! And I still feel bad till this day. Don't ever date someone out of pity. |
Re: . by SkinnyNigga: 9:59pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
just say thanks.. I like you too..
Na small thing dey worry you.. |
Re: . by Nobody: 10:06pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
SaucyBenks: Tell her " I really like you too. Let's have lunch tomorrow after classes". See? Easy, isn't it? |
Re: . by Biglittlelois(f): 10:23pm On Feb 19, 2019 |
Jirair: I can tell a guy "I really like you" with no feelings whatsoever, it is not the same meaning with "into you" or "have feelings" |
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