Ishilove:

What's SNHL?

That's short for Sensorineural Hearing Loss. Something that has to do with damage to nerve endings in the auditory canal. It could be due to accident, infection or age. But most times, the cause is unknown.

I can't keep a relationship, i have issues communicating with girls, since i started dating none of my relationships been upto 1 month.
Also, I lose interest in things easily, i lost so my talents due to this.

Ishilove:

Wow... I was 3 years when I started school, and i started at Play Group level (I'm guessing that should kindergaten). I graduated to Nursery 1 at age 4.

when did u start getting bleeped in the ass

pocohantas:


You even mature small na. I don't even know when I started, but I know I finished university at 19. When I started job-hunting after NYSC, recruiters used to look at me "who is this one?"...

Omo that reads like began university at 19. Really young.

LONGPREEK:
when did u start getting bleeped in the ass

About the same time as you.

I feel depressed whenever I'm studying for my CISA certification. The materials are so boring it makes me want to tug angrily at my beards. I don't even know which spirit possessed me to register for the course..

Ishilove:

About the same time as you.

I started fycking ass at the age of 15. First ass I bleeped was my housemaid. I still fck her now. She is one sexy milf now. So is that when u also started getting your ass bleeped?

LONGPREEK:

I started fycking ass at the age of 15. First ass I bleeped was my housemaid. I still fck her now. She is one sexy milf now. So is that when u also started getting your ass bleeped?

So you started receiving deek in your ass as young as 15? No wonder you are damaged

Ishilove:

So you started receiving deek in your ass as young as 15? No wonder you are damaged

olosho answer my question. Yes or no

fucc12:
I can't keep a relationship, i have issues communicating with girls, since i started dating none of my relationships been upto 1 month.
Also, I lose interest in things easily, i lost so my talents due to this.

Might be a case of Attention deficit disorder.
It takes real discipline to overcome.
As for the poor communication, I guess you get nervous and anxious alot?

fucc12:
I can't keep a relationship, i have issues communicating with girls, since i started dating none of my relationships been upto 1 month.
Also, I lose interest in things easily, i lost so my talents due to this.

Might be a case of Attention deficit disorder.
It takes real discipline to overcome.
As for the poor communication, I guess you get nervous and anxious alot?.

Raalsalghul:
Mine is career. I mean something I'd be good at. I'm working but I don't have a career yet.
Not as if I'm not grateful, I am. Just wish...

What do you have a passion for?

Triniti:
I’m very bad with money, I’ll save tons of millions for business, before you know I have blown it all away to frivolities. I’ll then start afresh with a promise to myself to be prudent with my funds, the cycle will repeat itself again. I think they are doing me from village......I’m supposed to get married next year, how can I cope with poor money management when I have not learn how to be resourceful money?

You have to learn financial discipline.
Have an account purely for savings that doesn't have an atm. You can also consult a financial manager.

AceRoyal:

Might be a case of Attention deficit disorder.
It takes real discipline to overcome.
As for the poor communication, I guess you get nervous and anxious alot?

I guess so
Can you help?

fucc12:

I guess so
Can you help?

Learn to be yourself, because if you continue like this low self esteem will creep in.
You can reach me on the number attached to my signature

Raalsalghul:

Currently on it. About to take the second professional course... However, still need a place to practice.

Okay, you are on the right part then. As for a place to practice, I wouldn't know where you live, but if it isn't a town that has lots of opportunities, you may wanna explore relocation.

SkinnyDude:
I think I am hooked to porn.. I have been trying to quit. I keep relapsing... its making mad and sad

Are you in a relationship?
Are you an introvert or extrovert?
Do you find yourself alone most times?
Fighting porn addiction isn't something that's easy or will just happen overnight. Get involved in physical and religious activities. Try to limit the number of times you watch porn gradually in a day/week

My biggest problem now is earning a steady income. I have a plan to sort that out but men . . . it will take time and patience. If I die in the process . . . at least I died trying. I support myself through a property my parents left I and my siblings but I can't bank on it forever.

And don't tell me I'M lucky bla, bla. I've heard it too many times from people who don't know 'big man problem'.

LONGPREEK:
olosho answer my question. Yes or no

Your mother Olosho. Your grandmother Olosho Queen. Your sisters Allen Avenue ashawos

YourCoffin:
I feel depressed whenever I'm studying for my CISA certification. The materials are so boring it makes me want to tug angrily at my beards. I don't even know which spirit possessed me to register for the course..

Start what you finished. That is how people nearly used mouth to push me into registering for a PHD.

Thank God I didn't listen.

sacx:


That's short for Sensorineural Hearing Loss. Something that has to do with damage to nerve endings in the auditory canal. It could be due to accident, infection or age. But most times, the cause is unknown.

Can a hearing aid help?

UyiIredia:
My biggest problem now is earning a steady income. I have a plan to sort that out but men . . . it will take time and patience. If I die in the process . . . at least I died trying. I support myself through a property my parents left I and my siblings but I can't bank on it forever.

And don't tell me I'M lucky bla, bla. I've heard it too many times from people who don't know 'big man problem'.

You?

All your philosophizing you never turn am to money

I am shocked!

Complaining is a bad thing. This is why I never do it and stop myself in my tracks when I catch myself doing it unconsciously.

It reinforces the problem. So the sages teach.

UyiIredia:
My biggest problem now is earning a steady income. I have a plan to sort that out but men . . . it will take time and patience. If I die in the process . . . at least I died trying. I support myself through a property my parents left I and my siblings but I can't bank on it forever.

And don't tell me I'M lucky bla, bla. I've heard it too many times from people who don't know 'big man problem'.

If the property can generate bulk income at a go, Why not go into trading. U will still have time to do other things if u know your onions.

As long as you are the patience type.
Just suggesting anyway.

AceRoyal:

What do you have a passion for?

I can't make a career out of my passion in Naija.

sassysure:

If the property can generate bulk income at a go, Why not go into trading. U will still have time to do other things if u know your onions.

As long as you are the patience type.
Just suggesting anyway.

Thanks. That has been considered. Noted.

Raalsalghul:
I can't make a career out of my passion in Naija.

What's your passion?

Ishilove:

Can a hearing aid help?

Yes, but not the conventional type. The best ones are those tailored to match the degree of the loss suffered.

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Ishilove:

Start what you finished. That is how people nearly used mouth to push me into registering for a PHD.

Thank God I didn't listen.

I don't have an option o. PHD is for inventors. Any PHD holder that didn't invent something is a joker to me... Stubbornness pays atimes.

annex1:


I was a hopeless alcoholic. I depended on it. Early morning before work, I'll hurry a bottle or a satchet (I usually called that "take away" then destroy the evidence with sweets. Spent numerous cross-overs at bars drinking. One period, I'll buy some bottles, drive to old bar beach to just finish them alone by myself. That was a Saturday morning ritual.

It started in the University. I never quit a drinking session till I hit "10 Star general" literally. Or pass out trying. I never womanized or smoked, but alcohol? My weakness.

I aced everything. Every brand my money could afford at the moment - exotic or indigenous, I was there. I'll go drinking at the slightest opportunity. I always had a glass bottle of orijin in my room. I'll finish a minimum of three bottles per pay. Cup by cup. Bottles piling. Same routine next day.

I'll have a cup when I wake up, before I eat, even while I eat, a cup of my buddy is there to step down. At every individual moment, I'll have at least 3 brands of whisky in my closet even during my postgraduate time. Friends knew I was the go to guy. I remember having numerous memory lapses at a time. Like so many hours I couldn't remember or account for.

I'll invite any lady I meet to heavy drinking no matter how soon we met. I literally inducted people to drinking. Days, weekends full of passing out. On solely alcohol. A lady friend of mine lost her Dad. She was distraught, she called me. I felt bad that i introduced her to heavy drinking. That was the only solace I had, the only way I knew to brood. Thank goodness she found her way out. I was indeed a mess.

Most Sunday mornings, I'm at a pub drinking.
After work, I'm at a pub. Drinking. Few days after my appendectomy, I was with my buddy. I've at numerous times had a bottle before an interview. I found it soothing. It relaxed me.

I had a policy to never turn alcohol down. Or not finish a bottle - never dishonor my buddy. I considered it a kind of solemnization to drink with you - to invite you to my table and drink with you.
Believe it or not, I've had very little embarrassing moments. One of such occasions was after a friends wedding, we got back to our hotel, I was so drunk and angry at something I can't remember. I walked out of the hotel say 1 am and kept going till I blanked out. Events between then and dawn are still unaccounted for. I'll say the most embarrassing was the memory loss/skipping, forgetting names or mixing them up.

But then it dawned on me that this wasn't living. I felt empty. It was usually this emptiness that drove me to it initially (2006).

No matter the number of female friends I had around me, I didn't have a relationship, or I couldn't keep one or I wasn't interested in first place. I pushed people away. I was only happy in my buddy's presence. I felt empty. I tried withdrawing but I'll be right back to it. I understood I couldn't get different results using same methods. Most importantly, there is no other way to stop the addiction than cutting it COLD.
Once you realise it is reducing the quality of your life, you are on the way of winning the addiction. I had to cut off some people. Stayed away from pubs. You might not be a Christian and so I hate to include this; but I don't believe I stopped without some higher power/support.

I realised it was inherently a family habit. While there are some other vices that alcoholism fuels and some spiritual attachments to it. I won't talk about that because it isn't in the scope of my answer to your post. Plus I will never impose or suggest my belief on/to you without permission.

Nevertheless, now you understand it's a problem, the scoreline is You 1:1 Alcohol you are almost winning. I believe the next step to make is reduce your dependence on it. Then after, you'll score the winner by leaving it completely.

Gracias.

How far your liver?

Lukewarm:
I am at crossroads in my relationship life right now.

On one hand, I've got this great dude I've been with for some years. Everyone thinks he's perfect for me because he's ready to be responsible and settle down, then he also plans for the future.

But the problem?

We don't seem to have that connection or chemistry. I find it hard just telling him I love him. But everyone keeps ringing it into my ear that he's one of the good guys and there are quite a few out there. So I promised myself to respect him and hope that is enough to keep a marriage going.

Then on to the minor thing:
1. He's a traditional guy. He believes all a woman needs to do is cook, clean, and conceive. He believes a lot of things are frivolities and a wife has got little to no say in the house.

This really badgers me.

But hey! He's one of the few good ones available.....right?

Then I got a shocker.

I met someone 2 months ago and its been a totally crazy and new experience for me.

It's the first time I've seen someone share the same warped sense of humour I've got. First time I'd meet someone that shares a lot of common interest with me. First time someone will creep into my subconscious and make me smile or even lol at something goofy he did or said.

Now, it's got me thinking:

Is respect really enough?

But my family is having none of that second thoughts. It so happens they'd conveniently bring up the story of a really distant aunt that lost her opportunity to marry by saying No to someone and is still a spinster at 45.

And it really isn't helping matters that my new POI is from a different tribe and isn't set for settling now.

So conflicted.


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I don't see the problem here.
It is not a must you have to marry at all.
Marriage is not something everyone must partake in, unless you are a religiousnut.