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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Michelle55: 11:51pm On Feb 25, 2019 |
OKOATA:Hmmmm.. This is deep. Was actually telling my aunt this evening that it's someone who knows you that can actually kill you without flinching(this saying depicts what your bf just did to you) I'm glad you've moved on.. There's no need holding unto those that ain't worth it. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by SEGLIZ: 12:43am On Feb 26, 2019 |
Vincent88: no time is good no time is bad. the most important thing is you create the right atmosphere and ambience for this. truth is this is difficult, I will confess but it is the simples and best way out. the most important thing here is the truth and genuineness of heart and make them realize this. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Ishilove: 4:06am On Feb 26, 2019 |
This is deep. May we never find ourselves in terrible situations. 4 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by 6660M0666: 4:55am On Feb 26, 2019 |
You owe it to your brother and your wife to report yourself. Your Brother might kill you, though. 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Modupetemmy1(f): 6:07am On Feb 26, 2019 |
I'll suggest you rather tell non of them. since you claimed you weren't interested in having the child stays with you, it would be better if you keep it a secret. as for your brother ; he might still forgive you been his bro but can never regain your trust. he's been through a lot already and revealing this to him might destabilize and get him depress which is worse. its easy to forgive but not forget. i have a similar issue sometime a go despite how much I love the person he didn't even know that I was already aware of the stuff but for peace to reign and for the family not to scatter I just hold my peace by keeping mute it remains a top secret between both of them non of them knew i was aware i just pretended as if nothing happened though both parties later retrace their steps. if not for the fact that I was able to keep mute and pretend as if nothing happened family go don' scatter it will now be;if I had known I would have kept it a secret later on people would blame you that why did you say it despite knowing his present condition some things are rather left unsaid. that's my precious advice. you want to put him in more pains all because you want to be conscience free. its not as easy as you think. you just have to live with it bro pls try and take care of him don't let him go into depression 29 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by kross01(m): 8:26am On Feb 26, 2019 |
You are in a very tricky situation but my advise to you is this, i believe you have genuinely repented of this evil. If a catholic please go confess to your priest and get spiritual restitution for your wrong. Now once this is spiritually settled, i do not see the need for you to confess to your brother and wife. One, you have already seen how he is unable to handle the break of trust from a once trusted partner, think of what such will do to him from a blood, i assure you he might breakdown and eventually commit suicide but not before telling everyone especially his kids how you betrayed him and you will be shocked even the one u believe is your child might hate you for life and that's how generational seed of discord is sown cos your children will grow to inherit the bitterness for you. As for your wife, this happened way into your past and once she hears this, be rest assured the whole family will hear it and the love and bond will forever be broken. Like someone advised earlier, take ur wife to the hospital when next she is pregnant, most ladies with such history always have similar cause and the solution is always a simple surgical procedure where i think the passage to the uterus is reduced so the baby can comfortably stay and develop. May God help you 14 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Kerosene: 3:27pm On Feb 26, 2019 |
Modupetemmy1: My guy sincerely, listen to what this woman has said above. Reasons: 1. Your relationship with your brother will never remain the same even if he forgives you. You stand the chance of losing your only brother who is around you, the other is in dubai. 2. You do not want your daughter back, so! let sleeping dogs lie 3. With the present state your brother is, he most likely will kill himself 4. You spoke of Conscience; take it as a punishment for what you did and find peace with God. 5. Your wife accepted your daughter as your brother's child, your wife might not be so nice to her knowing she is your daughter. The attitude of an average Nigerian woman. 6. What you did might not be the cause of your wife miscarriage. like someone suggested on the trend, go to the hospital, it could be the issue of Rhesus. Know that the overall decision lies with you, but how will you feel if, all I have listed above happens after confessing to your brother? You chances of been forgiven are very slim, and chances of worsen your brothers condition are high. 22 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 3:52pm On Feb 26, 2019 |
Open up to your wife! As long as that child is yours your wife needs and must to know. Then you both should pray fervently in togetherness that you won't loose another child. That's the first step! The second step is more tasking! Concerning this, you should involve a respected elder who can conveniently talk to your brother on your behalf! You both will go and seek the forgiveness of your brother. There's nothing hidden that won't be shown to light, whether here in this life or hereafter after death, so it's better you let your brother know now so you can gain his forgiveness and God's mercy can shine upon you and your wife and she will conceive and bear you a child safely!!! You've wronged your brother, you need his forgiveness, go and get it! God is giving you a chance to do so, and thats the reason for your wife's predicament, don't hesitate, don't tarry long, may you find God's favor in the face of your brother. Grace!! 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 7:31pm On Feb 26, 2019 |
Tosinex:Thanks for the advice i really appreciate it and i will do as u said |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 7:32pm On Feb 26, 2019 |
Kerosene:Thank you |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 7:33pm On Feb 26, 2019 |
kross01:Thank you so much for the advice i really appreciate it |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by IAMBlesssed(f): 8:33pm On Feb 26, 2019 |
I will advise you use wisdom to handle this issue not emotions. Some things are better left unsaid, some secrets are meant to die with you. Your brothers and wife knowing about this will cause more harm than good. Your brother may not recover from the shock, he's already a shattered man. I advise you seek alternative penance for your sin.Go and meet a mature Catholic Priest and confess for your peace of mind (even though you may not be a Catholic, my reason is that Catholic priests are more balanced in reasoning).Use WISDOM. Shalom.. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 9:09pm On Feb 26, 2019 |
IAMBlesssed:Thank you im not catholic but i will do as you said , there is a catholic church not far from my workplace i will visit it tommorow after work to get more information . 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by nwanneniressure: 4:45am On Feb 27, 2019 |
IAMBlesssed:you made a lot of sense in the first paragraph,but i stopped reading when you started talking about the whole God bullshit 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by peacefull(f): 4:50am On Feb 27, 2019 |
Vincent88: I'm also not English speaker. So If I'm misunderstanding, I'm sorry. Is that not Recurrent Pregnancy losses or Intrauterine Growth Restriction(IUGR) ? That is can get pregnant. But keep a baby is little bit difficult. Need assist from doctor when get pregnant. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by 4ckTOTO: 5:25am On Feb 27, 2019 |
nwanneniressure:nigerians Christians scream God the most but commit the most hideous crimes. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 10:08am On Feb 27, 2019 |
peacefull:We have done all the test to find out the exact cause but all the results came back clear with no causes found which it is strange and worrying. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by peacefull(f): 10:52am On Feb 27, 2019 |
Vincent88: Ok. I'm sorry for If I'm rude to you and made you feel bad asked you about that. I really hope you and your wife will have kids soon in safe. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Vincent88: 11:02am On Feb 27, 2019 |
peacefull:Please dont apologise i did not take your comment as rude , i was just informing you about the tests we have we were expecting for a result so we can find solution to her problem but with everything coming clear it makes things more stressful. Thank you so much hopefully God will remember us this year and blessed us with triplets |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by dododawa1: 12:22am On Feb 28, 2019 |
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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by meobizy(f): 12:23am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Look at this one. In this day and age when I want to have fun with my friend’s baby mama you’re typing rubbish. Na you know. Sort your issue. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by sapeleboi(m): 12:28am On Feb 28, 2019 |
abeg carry your family matter comonth from here 1 Share
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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 12:31am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Dear brother, it was good you had shared your problem, at least any other person who is in your situation can find a solution. First of all, I'll say your elder brother needs prayers and perhaps in worldly terms a rehab, but prayers to God is very very very important. Then when that's done, you tell your wife, she has the right to know. Make her understand, she loves you and you love her. If you do this the burden or perhaps the bondage from the devil would be loosed. Then you guys can pray to God and I assure you, you'll have your child. Then lastly, when your brother is recovered tell him also, he also has the right to know and tell him it's all our children and he can keep them, but you had just wanted confessing to him. Then pray pray to God for forgiveness. When you follow all this. God would tell the devil to GET OUT from your life that his now the boss of your life. God bless you as you begin your new life of glory. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by stanliwise(m): 12:34am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Ehm if I may ask?? how are you sure the child is yours?? 4 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Miketonia: 12:37am On Feb 28, 2019 |
U need Christ |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Olril18(m): 12:38am On Feb 28, 2019 |
SEGLIZ:I pity you...somebody is telling you to talk out,and you thought it's a great idea? you think that your brother will actually forgive you? your life and your family will never be the same again, damaged relationship forever..u don't know the mind of a man is so deep.. apart from that dna has proved he is not the owner of one child and you want to bring another huge heanrtbreak for him? goodluck with that ooo. better keep this a secret for life and accept it as your own cross and burden... 8 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Miketonia: 12:38am On Feb 28, 2019 |
U need Christ 6 Likes 1 Share
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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by oboy81: 12:38am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Oga That's your Problem oh. Nobody Gives a Fvck! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Olril18(m): 12:40am On Feb 28, 2019 |
SEGLIZ:look at this one ooo...what sort of advise is this? easier said than done! 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 12:42am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Marriage is scary single 4 life 1 Like |
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