vybzkartel:


What kinda demonic advice is this?

what is demonic there?

So she should continue?

Birds of a feather

i didnt say she should continue.
All i am saying is, she should sit her husband down and discuss her sexual needs with him.

Why should a man is with her and her mind is thinking of someone else, what kinda a husband is that?

paxonel:
what is demonic there?
i didnt say she should continue.
All i am saying is, she should sit her husband down and discuss her sexual needs with him.

Why should a man is with her and her mind is thinking of someone else, what kinda a husband is that?

Tell her it is a sin

sherylbakky:
Mayb u can explain den, i just knw its not spiritual

all she is saying is that, the man is tyrant, he is not the listening type, he sees any such discuss as shameful for a married woman to bring up.

But that is bad now

paxonel:
all she is saying is that, the man is tyrant, he is not the listening type, he sees any such discuss as shameful for a married woman to bring up.

But that is bad now

Stop blaming the husband and tell the hore the truth

vybzkartel:



Tell her it is a sin

that thinking of someone else when her husband is not satisfying her is a sin?

Where did you get that one from?

She says she is thinking of someone else, that doesnt mean she has started falling for someone else

paxonel:
all she is saying is that, the man is tyrant, he is not the listening type, he sees any such discuss as shameful for a married woman to bring up.

But that is bad now

Tnx for shedding light on dis, it didnt occur to me u know, but she sud av given us details if she truly needs advice.

chiipink:


I can neva have that thought.. as a married woman... never!!
That's why Its good to marry some1 u love genuinely and not for his wealth, beauty or whatever .

this is d politically correct answer. It looks nd sounds good in public but is usually a lying hypocritical response. So stop it. Saying you can never do xyz is junk. It is by God's grace not human strenght tht some ppl dont do xyz. No matter what xyz is. That's y, Paul or so talked about FRUSTRATING THE GRACE of God. He also talked about labouring more under d grace of God. The human will is very powerful,and is a component used in spiritual training infct the well trained human will can overcome many sins-for life- but by going by human will,you will inevitably fall into another sin-pride and that will open up anoda avenue for satanic deception.
It has nothing to do with marrying who u love etc but in d desires of d flesh. D flesh has it's stockpile of evil desires and every1 has his fleshly calling. Some are in sx,some in greed nd money lusting, some are in pride nd self righteousness, some are in laziness nd procrastination etc. We all hav flesh. That ur fleshly calling is different from others doesnt make u better than them,though in d human eye it's hard to say so. Humanly we rank sin,we just cant no do so. Murder is greater than stealing which is greater than lying but in God's eyes, all sin deserves death. What were adam n eve's sin? Murder,fornication? Certicate forgery? Collecting bribe?

Preciousgirl:
As a married woman , the only man I should lust after is my husband
But truth be told, there are times I think about other men sexually though I try to hide it

Please is that a sin?

And how can I block those thoughts in the first place?

Thank you

first of all, you should saturate yourself with sex with ur hussy. Go to his office nd shag his head off. Do it until sx tire u. Then wen u see other men outside,you'll be less interested. A man that is fed cant b tempted with food?
You think of other men, other married men think of other women. That's how it goes. The grass is always greener outside.

You can overcome this thoughts by admitting tht u are weak in that area and trying all ur best to overcome them instead of just accepting them. It's going to a struggle. E.g some ppl love browsing d internet on their phone(not bad) but every 100 or 200 naira they hav they use it browse-everyday(again not bad spending 2k-4k/month on internet to browse nairaland). If they want to stop will it b easy? It will seem as if they'll die. It will seem same to you. So it will take concerted effort but as u make progress you will bcome more confident.
Also,dont expose urself to unnecessary temptation. Dont kid yourself that u are strong nd can handle it. Eve was hanging around d fruit tree-she had no business being there. It was forbidden,she and her husband should hav marked off that site as a no-go-zone but they didnt? Next she got into talking about it-with a snake. Before you know it ...
If u feel tempted,again,if hubby is around shag his head off, then turn to turn to d devil nd rub his temptation in his face.

Desmondum:
This religion section cud b funny at times, so, because som1 write on religion section means her problem is spiritual to some ppl?

Sherylbakky and fairfora have tried in bringing up a real solution anyway, just that sherylbakky is a bit pure which I can term "raw" for some ppl who may b too religious.

And @fairfora n others criticising chiipink, pls check Op's posts n see for ursef, I guess chiipink did this b4 commenting...chiipink is just a bit frank, she has a point too.

@preciousgirl, ur first question is yes...i think it is a sin.

Second, don't b deceived, u only need some kind of satisfaction from ur husband...which may not even be sexual, it might b sometins u are finding in other men that u can't see in ur husband...try n work on this, u are the only one that can work on this, just tell ursef the truth, work on it n be determined to change.

And if u av ever cheated on ur hubby, ask for God's forgiveness please. Shalom

God bless you.. For this.
Nigerians have become so morally corrupt that they think everyone will be like them.

Funny enough same people will still open mouth and call some1 who said otherwise "olosho"..
Confused lots

chiipink:


No

Then kindly keep off from given marital advise. Sometimes its good to learn quietly from the corner.

Jumping into matters u don't understand will only make u come off as ignorant and an attention seeking wanna be.

Thanks

sherylbakky:
She said shes having lustful desire, frm my own view, d cause cud av bn as a result of not bn sexually satisfied...or wot cud av caused a "married woman" to b having lustful desire?


Ohhh! u expect me to ask her to start praying abt what she suppose to work on because she brings dis to religion section ryt? or u expect me to tell her to go to her husband n explain to him dat shes aving lustful desire?

U are entitled to ur opinion just like i'm entitled to mine, u ar free to drop ur suggestion, for dat wud be beta instead of trying to fight another person on NL.

The truth is dat, the Op is not even opening up ...I wudnt av even advised her if i went tru her profile n posts at first.

Check her posts n see...But u av to note dat dis is a forum n every1 is entitle to his or her opinion, n next time, if u don't av any good cause to mention others, u are free to just PASS.

U are all over the place shouting entitled to opinion upandan, and anyone reading will think I stuffed it mouth with cloth not to talk.

The op said she was having lustful desires and even told u her sex life with her husband is OK. Yet u are advising her on the style to use.

And what do u even mean by talk to her husband about it?

Mr opinion entitlement.... Don't worry about me, just rant on

frank317:


U are all over the place shouting entitled to opinion upandan, and anyone reading will think I stuffed it mouth with cloth not to talk.

The op said she was having lustful desires and even told u her sex life with her husband is OK. Yet u are advising her on the style to use.

And what do u even mean by talk to her husband about it?

Mr opinion entitlement.... Don't worry about me, just rant on

Who's ranting between U n I? Y not just read n understand? I can see what d issue is from ur write-up anyway.

I dont need to keep draging with u, say wateva u like. Just shift, dis is not a battle field.

chiipink:


No

Wait a minute! You are not even married and yet you are condemning a woman who's married for being honest about her being lustful in a marriage and seeking solutions to such a situation that she finds herself?

Wow!

You must apologize to her, otherwise you have justified my initial comments about you being worse off.

frank317:


Then kindly keep off from given marital advise. Sometimes its good to learn quietly from the corner.

Jumping into matters u don't understand will only make u come off as ignorant and an attention seeking wanna be.

Thanks

I don't think that it's about her being married or not, for some of the most observed teachings with respect to marriage, emanated from those who are not married, for instance, Jesus.

And also that someone is married doesn't automatically qualify the person to advise others concerning marriage, for it should do with having the required understanding and wisdom to be able to do so.

Preciousgirl:


Are you saying you haven't for a moment had a lustful thought in your life?

why not just leave her with her holier than thou comment. It's her opinion.

chiipink:


I can neva have that thought.. as a married woman... never!!
That's why Its good to marry some1 u love genuinely and not for his wealth, beauty or whatever .

Lol! this "as a married woman... never!!" comment came from an unmarried woman's mouth.

Also showing signs of someone that has something to hide.

Desmondum:
This religion section cud b funny at times, so, because som1 write on religion section means her problem is spiritual to some ppl?

Sherylbakky and fairfora have tried in bringing up a real solution anyway, just that sherylbakky is a bit pure which I can term "raw" for some ppl who may b too religious.

And @fairfora n others criticising chiipink, pls check Op's posts n see for ursef, I guess chiipink did this b4 commenting...chiipink is just a bit frank, she has a point too.

@preciousgirl, ur first question is yes...i think it is a sin.

Second, don't b deceived, u only need some kind of satisfaction from ur husband...which may not even be sexual, it might b sometins u are finding in other men that u can't see in ur husband...try n work on this, u are the only one that can work on this, just tell ursef the truth, work on it n be determined to change.

And if u av ever cheated on ur hubby, ask for God's forgiveness please. Shalom

thanks but where exactly did I attack somebody here? Somebody had a problem which many would have covered up and eventually led to depression and ended up in suicide and somebody somewhere is saying trash, castigating her for opening up for help. Wetin bring Abuja women to this mata na? If the moniker doesn't have a solution to proffer, why not just keep quiet?

Many of the likes of the OP had committed suicide on matters they couldn't control and people were blaming them on social media for taking their lives. Before her case leads to that, we must render help and thank God she's not hiding her case.

Nobody, I repeat...nobody is a saint. We're only saved by the grace of God and not by our holiness or righteousness or work, because our righteousness is like a filthy rag before God. I believe if the OP could seek God's face fervently she would overcome her problems.

Moses that we refer to in the bible as a leader had done terrible things before having an encounter with God. Some bible scholars even posited that once he appeared in the neighbourgood, everywoman would keep their daughters and female animals away from his reach... you know what that means? which situation could be worse than that? Tell me. Was it not same moses who was used by God to immensely? Those attacking people with problems are even worse off, go find out yourself .

So, I wasn't referring to anyone in particular . Many just don't deserve to make comments because of their reasoning and so, they should be barred.

fairfora:
thanks but where exactly did I attack somebody here? Somebody had a problem which many would have covered up and eventually led to depression and ended up in suicide and somebody somewhere is saying trash, castjgating her for opening up for help. Wetin bring Abuja women to this mata na? If the moniker doesn't have a solution to proffer, why not just keep quiet?

Exactly my point! What brought Abuja women into the matter amongst other things?

I think it would have been better had chiipink reserved her thoughts as such, because her commenting had only exposed her ignorance, hypocrisy, lack of manners and good judgment.

And i'm hoping that she changes her ways asap, because the signs are not looking good for any man that would think of committing to such a person as things stand.

fairfora:
thanks but where exactly did I attack somebody here? Somebody had a problem which many would have covered up and eventually led to depression and ended up in suicide and somebody somewhere is saying trash, castigating her for opening up for help. Wetin bring Abuja women to this mata na? If the moniker doesn't have a solution to proffer, why not just keep quiet?

Many of the likes of the OP had committed suicide on matters they couldn't control and people were blaming them on social media for taking their lives. Before her case leads to that, we must render help and thank God she's not hiding her case.

Nobody, I repeat...nobody is a saint. We're only saved by the grace of God and not by our holiness or righteousness or work, because our righteousness is like a filthy rag before God. I believe if the OP could seek God's face fervently she would overcome her problems.

Moses that we refer to in the bible as a leader had done terrible things before having an encounter with God. Some bible scholars even posited that once he appeared in the neighbourgood, everywoman would keep their daughters and female animals away from his reach... you know what that means? which situation could be worse than that? Tell me. Was it not same moses who was used by God to immensely? Those attacking people with problems are even worse off, go find out yourself .

So, I wasn't referring to anyone in particular . Many just don't deserve to make comments because of their reasoning and so, they should be barred.

The last part though, we see life from different perspective sir...its OK anyway, I'm sure she will be fine

jesusjnr2:
Lol! this "as a married woman... never!!" comment came from an unmarried woman's mouth.

Also showing signs of someone that has something to hide.

Who be this one Biko, I'm just seeing u as a clown and I don't care what u say.
For ur info I'm not married..
update ur cranium

jesusjnr2:
Exactly my point! What brought Abuja women into the matter amongst other things?

I think it would have been better had chiipink reserved her thoughts as such, because her commenting had only exposed her ignorance, hypocrisy, lack of manners and good judgment.

And i'm hoping that she changes her ways asap, because the signs are not looking good for any man that would think of committing to such a person as things stand.

I don't care about any trash u say

chiipink:


I don't care about any trash u say

You must care about any trash I say whether you like it or not, because you need it to be a better person.

jesusjnr2:
You must care about any trash I say whether you like it or not, because you need it to be a better person.

You can't give what u don't have.
Because i'm a better person than u are.

chiipink:


Who be this one Biko, I'm just seeing u as a clown and I don't care what u say.
For ur info I'm not married..
update ur cranium

So why did you say as a married woman despite knowing that you're not married, eh?

Or is it to say that you lust after married or unmarried men as an unmarried woman?

You felt you had the right to cast a first stone at someone and yet you don't like someone else to cast a second stone at you, eh?

"Do you unto others what you want others to do unto you."

jesusjnr2:
So why did you say as a married woman despite knowing that you're not married, eh?

Or is it to say that you lust after married or unmarried men as an unmarried woman?

You felt you had the right to cast a first stone at someone and yet you don't like someone else to cast a second stone at you, eh?

"Do you unto others what you want others to do unto you."

Chai! Who be this one ooh

chiipink:


You can't give what u don't have.
Because i'm a better person than u are.

But your comments there doesn't do your comments here justice, na?

I mean can't you see that you took it too far?

Is that the way you want to be judged yourself?

jesusjnr2:
But your comments there doesn't do your comments here justice, na?

I mean can't you see that you took it too far?

Is that the way you want to be judged yourself?

Oga go. Sleep

chiipink:


Oga go. Sleep

You seem to be telling me that i'm making a good point, but it's too hard for you to accept it.

See you seem to have the potential to do much better by some of your points I earlier acknowledged were good, but you have to stop rushing to make comments, but take your time, so that if you have good in you, your comments would reflect that, and not give the otherwise impression.

Take care chiipink.

jesusjnr2:
You seem to be telling me that i'm making a good point, but it's too hard for you to accept it.

See you seem to have the potential to do much better by some of your points I earlier acknowledged were good, but you have to stop rushing to make comments, but take your time, so that if you have good in you, your comments would reflect that, and not give the otherwise impression.

Take care chiipink.

U are talking total trash

chiipink:

U are talking total trash

Lol!

Thanks all for the advice

You need the fear of God