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What's with all these sissy niggas I read on nairaland lately. So at this stage of your life you are still foolish, cousin came to stay at your GF house for 5 days, she told you na my cousin and you believed her. Infact may thunder fire that your dull brain. Are you that ugly that you can't find another girl? Too many foolish boys on the loose these days. If she commit suicide make you join am since you be mumu.

Biko don't pass aggression towards me. What will you allow me do? You are obviously one of the bitter souls on nairaland looking for someone to lash on. If you no get better thing to talk about, kindly shut the fvck up.

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Changes - 2pac ft you enimem

Its best you move decisively, no call, no text, cut off all forms of communication that would originate from you. Why?

1) Even if you ever make up with her, there would forever be that 800 pound gorrilla in the room. Trust has been tinted.

2) The energy and time you guys would use to straighten-up the relationship would be better spent on a new babes.

3) If you get pass three, it would seem to her as love based on conditions like she is on probation. She would feel suffocated thus the relationship still heading for the wall.

4) Based on number 1, the lies the deceit; thats just who is she. When people reveal their real selves believe them.

Move on bro, it’s necessary for your peace of mind and overall well-being.

Note: you seem like a good guy-man, a note of advise avoid long distance relationships (LDR are no relationship), never get into a serious relationship with an invisible “friend”

Many thanks Bro.
Appreciate

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly until December, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will get all lovey dovey together inside the room. The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day.

My GF and I had a serious argument during this January time, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. We spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask him about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST closr family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat never beat faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay a longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family members, he branches to her place and spend some time with her. (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before going back so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I approached her and she told me the truth about who the guy is and she swore that they had nothing and did nothing during her so called 'cousin' stay in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that they both had sex more than five different times. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time.

I'm so devastated right now. We over the weekend ago, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school and brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all night to forgive her and that she was truly sorry she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off at her place. She said she's changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her or anybody I date. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

You don't break up with her that way,try put on attitude like avoid calling but keeps on picking her calls all in the name of being busy, in fact, delete her number but always reply her text or miscall . limit your gifts and don't go visit her, space yourself and allow her visit you once a while. Her conscience will start telling her she has Bleep up, little by little you give in space like a randy Bleep boy who is not serious. Till everything faded away, let her keep wasting her time. Always bring topic of that guy because she maybe in for the gains from you like gifts item or wealth but he truly love that guy maybe that guy wasn't serious type or wealthy type or doesn't look like someone she will settle down with. Woman don't just open legs anyhow, you are a provider and the other still struggling, that's the different, she doesn't love you ...once fuckher, will always fuckher. This one not even once, na everyfuckeveryfuck , your mind will never erase even if you put her home as wife..

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Many thanks Bro.
Appreciate

You welcome.

Bro, there are better babes everywhere even here on Nairaland. Your time is precious, spend it on people that matter.

You don’t seem to be ready for marriage but you seem to have a serious case of ONEITIS. Seek out the appropriate prescription for it fast, thank me later

POST THE GIRLS PROFILE HERE LETS READ THROUGH HER POSTS.

SHES PROBABLY THE KIND TO SWEAR BY HEAVEN THAT SHE DOESN'T CHEAT!!!

She has a serious relationship and yet brought a man into her own house to have scx, that's total disloyalty.
She told you before the dude comes and goes, that's disrespect and having no total regard.
She lied that the dude was her cousin, that's a big cheat right there.

A girl who is disloyal, a cheat and lacks respect deserves to be left alone. Forgive her today and be ready to assume the role of God, the all day all time forgiver of sins.
Goodluck with your decision.

Please forgive her, it was the work of the devil. The devil pushed her.

You sound like a good man so you deserve better. Reading your message,u never called her names or cursed.that shows maturity in you.

My advice:Let her go,yes you can forgive her..ignore her..forget all the promises,and good times together.cut her off..for a while..you will then realise its not worth dying for.

There are still good women out there.Act now and save urself pains later.

They have finish this one...

I would slowly withdraw from her, reduce my communications with her. If she complains, I'll blame my tight work schedule. When we hardly talk or see each other, she'll get used to not seeing me. Knowing girls like I do, she'll get somewhere else to fill that void as most of them can't just stay on their own. There must be another guy warming their heart even if nothing sexual is happening

Bros I don't know for you o. But if I am in your shoes I will play along and pretend that we're still dating but my mind will totally be off. I will reduce the calls and show her attitudes that she will understand by herself that this guy is no longer interested.

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

forgive her i mean hold no grudges against her, but move on bro, from your story she will still cheat on you if the opportunity comes up, now tell me why do you think she lied about the guy being her cousin, why did she tell you about the so called cousin, even before the December misunderstanding she has been sexually active with the guy, the lady can't be trusted and even if you try trusting her and dating her again there is a very good chance you will have trust issues which might push you guys to more misunderstanding and you know what comes with that, just let her go
Anytime am convinced a lady am dating cheated or is cheating on me i walk out there is no negotiations on that because cheating is a well calculated choice

tell her you have forgiven her, impregnate her and pamper her till she can no longer abort the pregnancy , disappear ... keep in touch by sending hospital bills and money for child support , then disappear into thin air .. best way to pay her back .. I dont take nonsense from such women, I always pay them back in a wicked manner!! convert her to a single mother!

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Hmmm, women. Women deep down do not care much about money or looks, they care about emotions. It's poverty that makes them follow guys in Nigeria for money. That cousin na person wey go see u dey call u bros, dey shake u with 2 hands, dey carry your bags for you. Truth is she doesn't love you, she loves "the cousin". Any attempt to keep dating her will lead to drastic heartbreak for you. Be warned.

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She's 22 yrs.. I'm faithful, I don't have time hoeing around. If I do the same, I don't have any right to be hurt

You sef na mumu. Who takes a 22 year old serious? She's a child and is experiencing life. Any girl below 27 at the least doesn't understand the concept of relationship.

What's up with girls and 4 times when they are caught? And what is it with telling your boyfriend the man is visiting so that you wont feel guilty after chopping his penis? Women.

Bros, you dont need to break up with her in words. She'd guilt-trip you with her elaborate stories. If you used to call everyday, call three times a week and ensure the calls dont exceed 3 minutes. If you used to see her regularly, stop it. If you used to buy her gifts, stop. A sensitive woman would understand your strategy and take the cue. I knew a girl who was dating a guy for money. She was educated. After chopping his money, she went to marry someone else. And I said if they call women out, this one sef go come out.

Now to the subject matter of cheating, everyone is predisposed to it. Even me. The onus is to be conscious enough to not create an avenue for it to happen. Some sexual encounters are not pre-planned, they are the result of passion fuelled by alcohol, dancing, loneliness and having unnecessary conversations with certain people. A man slept in your house several times, how can you even believe yourself that nothing happened between you and the man? A lieing woman, a cheating woman, a deceitul woman, a disrespectful woman is not someone who should be wifed. You'd just die of misery because you will never have rest of mind.

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Biko don't pass aggression towards me. What will you allow me do? You are obviously one of the bitter souls on nairaland looking for someone to lash on. If you no get better thing to talk about, kindly shut the fvck up.

Obviously u r the fool here.. Haven't u read stories of cheating with cousins and u bliv ur GF again.. Which kin mumu u b na? Her cousin come dey sleep her house and u think notin go happen...

Ur kin man sef na weak man u be... Dump her jare n forgive her. Don't give her a dime... I can't tolerate such and I pray it wunt happen to me chai he go pain me

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Obviously u r the fool here.. Haven't u read stories of cheating with cousins and u bliv ur GF again.. Which kin mumu u b na? Her cousin come dey sleep her house and u think notin go happen...

Ur kin man sef na weak man u be... Dump her jare n forgive her. Don't give her a dime... I can't tolerate such and I pray it wunt happen to me chai he go pain me

Can you respectfully pass your message without being insulting?

Thank you.

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

The period you stayed in overseas doing e- dating, did you ever had an amorous relationship with a girl over there? be it casual or serious? If yes, forgive her and let go because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know, also it may a nature's way of chastising you. BUT if No, leave her, move on and stop being a slave to your emotions.

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Biko don't pass aggression towards me. What will you allow me do? You are obviously one of the bitter souls on nairaland looking for someone to lash on. If you no get better thing to talk about, kindly shut the fvck up.

The best way to advise people like you is to talk harshly.

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

you're asking if you should forgive a dog who LIED to you and bleeped another guy under your nose for the whole times you were absent? Are you okay? Oh mahn I'd have slapped her the first time I found out from the bro that they aren't related in any kind sef before finding out about the numerous sex escapades... If you forgive and continue that harshly bruised relationship with that she-goat, be prepared for another numerous serious forgiving to do in the future... I can guarantee you that she won't do shit to herself. You'd better seek for your happiness first before putting someone else's upfront.


Honestly kill her sef!


You dey sweat dey Hustle, for a better tomorrow for possibly the both of you and yet she wasn't patient but was climbing dick everynight and for her mind, she'll be calling you mumu... Nigerian bitches never start with you if you forgive this girl. Mtseeeeewww!

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Biko don't pass aggression towards me. What will you allow me do? You are obviously one of the bitter souls on nairaland looking for someone to lash on. If you no get better thing to talk about, kindly shut the fvck up.

Actually, you do deserve a kick in the nuts.

Not because you're contemplating forgiving (and *gasp* forgetting) her transgression. But because even at this point, you're focusing on the irrelevant things. Like how many times she went under the sheets with her "cousin," or the number of rounds, or how her crying fazed you, or how she manipulated you into telling her you forgave her.

For heavens sake you're still considering if she'd attempt suicide. Like dude can you be selfish about romance for once in your life and use your prefrontal cortex instead of your amygdala?

You gave this lady several opportunities to come clean, and she gave you c*ck-and-bull BS every time. Why do you think she didn't admit to it only after she realized you weren't going to buy her crap anymore? Why do you think she cheated on you with her "cousin" only? Everything about this, as you narrate it, points to a cold-hearted b*tch move. This is not a drunk fling with a guy at the bar or a coursemate after a party. This was pre-meditated. Everything from the act to how she'd respond if you had questions.

Which implies that you can't guarantee she wouldn't do it again if she knows she can get away with it. People who stay in relationships like this do it for a specific reason--kids, she's a business partner or you need her for optics, you've f*cked up before and you want to hand her a mulligan or something else (whatever rocks their boat). If you stay because you honestly think she'd change because you caught her, then you deserve whatever f*cked up move she pulls next.

I get it. You care for her. She's been taking advantage of it, and trust me she is still taking advantage of it. Stop being a nice guy to this lady. Become a douchebag. If you decide to stay, expect the worst but hope for the best. If you subscribe to the YOLO anthem, get the f*ck out.

And I'd round up with this, yes it was stup*d of you to believe her cousin tripe. If you're that st*pid at work, you wouldn't have a job.

-Lord

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Just Run! Don't look back.

The girl has issues o... So much lies. @Op drop her like a sack of hot potato.

So she can hurt herself cos you dumping her but can cheat brazenly with another? Ohooo

alexmakaay:


The period you stayed in overseas doing e- dating, did you ever had an amorous relationship with a girl over there? be it casual or serious? If yes, forgive her and let go because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know, also it may a nature's way of chastising you. BUT if No, leave her, move on and stop being a slave to your emotions.

Who was the idiot that first used that line "devil u know is better than d angel u don't know"?

islandmoon:
tell her you have forgiven her, impregnate her and pamper her till she can no longer abort the pregnancy , disappear ... keep in touch by sending hospital bills and money for child support , then disappear into thin air .. best way to pay her back .. I dont take nonsense from such women, I always pay them back in a wicked manner!! convert her to a single mother!

Like seriously? This advice advise no make sense at all

fonzie2u:
You sound like a good man so you deserve better. Reading your message,u never called her names or cursed.that shows maturity in you.

My advice:Let her go,yes you can forgive her..ignore her..forget all the promises,and good times together.cut her off..for a while..you will then realise its not worth dying for.

There are still good women out there.Act now and save urself pains later.

The deceit that comes with long Distance relationships eh. Imagine d op was hustling and she was her doing spread eagle.

Michelle55:
Any girl that can comfortably cheat on her bf can kill, what if you didn't or never found out? You would have continued living a lie and with a cheat.. Nawa oh.
Anyways, forgive her but let her go. In a relationship, it's either you are truly IN or OUT.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.. They only feel remorseful when caught in the act

I agree. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

The rationale that allowed her cheat so unabashedly would be there again for her to cheat in future. Cousin my foot!

It disgusts me when people act remorse only after they've been caught.

Op I use God beg you or whatever u believe in, please cut off completely from her. Cut off! Forget those fake tears, she is simply playing a script! She no good at all. At least thank God she has her so called cousin to make her puss warm when ur gone. You deserve better Biko.

Don't allow those fake tears deceive you. I hate, I repeat I hate cheaters and liars with every being of my soul. Please break off completely, she will bounce back and move on as well.

starring:
She's 22 yrs.. I'm faithful, I don't have time hoeing around. If I do the same, I don't have any right to be hurt

Bro anytime a woman tell you how many times she had sex, multiple it by 3. She must have had sex not less than 30/40 times bro. I can testify that nowadays in naija the number of hoes keeps rising daily, almost all the girls I see nowadays are hoes the difference is the price tag and sometimes time and location. Don't try such crap as marrying a girl while you're abroad unless you've made ur peace with another guy or guys lashing her kitten, during service my neighbour Tonia had a fiancee in Spain and we were fucking like crase she later wanted to introduce me to the guy as a friend/neighbour that comes around meeeehn I just couldn't do that the next time she tried to give me phone that the guy wants to talk to me I collected it and cut the call. I was pitying the nigga, he sends money and all to the girl, she tries to share with me but I was raised to not be a Lambert so I decline, I like my own stuff. I told her never to do that again and she never did and the guy called back and she told him that I've left, or should I talk about while her ass is up and I was fucking her she will pick his call and pretend to be asleep and the guy will pet her and say sorry and ask her to go back to sleep and beep him later when she wakes up. Na there I swear say I'll never run any serious thing with any girl that is miles away from me.
Bro all those tears are for one thing, the goodies she gets from you and nothing all, fvck you and ur emotions, she doesn't care and won't. You're just an opportunity for her to get the fvck out of naija, a means to an end, I bet my left balls that if you marry this whorre you will regret it for the rest of your life. then it used to work but nowadays girls have thrown caution to the wind and fvck around for any little reason, too many have becomes coded whorres. A lot of these girls here on nl are whorres too and tend to tell you forgive and accept her, forgive her and maybe have some fun with her or preferably don't waste more time with her and quit the situationship that you have been in. I'm telling you from personal experience, I've fvcked many girls/side chicks/acquaintance and have heard them receive calls from their lover, fiancee and all saying all mushy words I love you and you're my everything and all sort of lies and even their voice sounds so true that I started doubted if the girls were really fvcking me behind their lover's back. Women, girls, ladies? especially with the state of Naija economy bro its not the right time to run these distant relationship. If you want to do it, first make peace with the fact that another bro is drilling her oil well.

OP,
As if the cheating is not bad enough, do you even know what is worse past?

The fact that the so called "cousin" can go and sleep with her when you dey around and the fact that they would have been making fun of you all the while (as per pe you no jasi - treating you like mumu) and your girlfriend too was encouraging it. Choi!!!!!!

O ja mi lara je baje...

It's up to you bro.... but be careful o...

Please, how old is she?