This is to the girl (since you say she is an active Nlder)

Please let this man go and move on. You made your bed so lie on it. Attempting to vomit suicide because he left you for cheating one him will not only be selfish but actually funny. You would have died for nothing.

If he marries you 'out of pity' you will live a very sad and miserable life. Is that what you want for yourself? The moment you decided to sleep with someone else you must have somehow known that it may eventually come to this. This is the time for you to step up and take responsibility for your action.

Stop crying, stop begging and never ever contemplate taking your life.

You will love again (trust me), and you must have learnt from this. Let him go . . .


To you Mr. Poster. I'm almost certain that if you were the one who cheated she would have forgiven you. And of course no one but yourself truly knowa if you've ever cheated on her. But there's always the double standard in this area and that's fine. Go ahead and leave her and find someone else, who I hope will be true to you.

This kinda girl will be collecting Dickson even under your nose.


... TRASH HER

leofab:
mumu girl.. see your weak reason for cheating.. who even knows if the guy you introduced as brother is not still nailing you...!

Which brother lol I don’t mess with family o but sorry if I am not a follow the crowd person can’t be bothered my dear break up o make e no make you insult person for here

The only thing to make a woman cheat is weak game step up or lose out every woman curves like 10 niggas in her lifetime so if your not getting AirPlay don’t be pained we want substance but sometimes in the beginning we are selfish with no commitment

I am being blunt I will Bleep another nigga I’d my nigga is not my nigga and he just doing me anyhow too the guy should tell us his own side too na

Like you even know my shoes talkless of me

forgive yes
forgetting; not possible
you will continue to live in fear for the rest of your life

remember women get pregnant not men

solasoulmusic:


Which brother lol I don’t mess with family o but sorry if I am not a follow the crowd person can’t be bothered my dear break up o make e no make you insult person for here

The only thing to make a woman cheat is weak game step up or lose out every woman curves like 10 niggas in her lifetime so if your not getting AirPlay don’t be pained we want substance but sometimes in the beginning we are selfish

I am being blunt I will Bleep another nigga I’d my nigga is not my nigga and he just doing me anyhow too the guy should tell us his own side too na

smh..see the kind of woman,someone hopes to marry...it is well... every mallam with his kettle

I just pity the life of this OP

Gently let her be in her lane...

friendl:
still be checking her ,you won't get any better one except you are lucky

so he won't get a better unfaithful woman... are good women that scarce?...is it not better to remain single than marry a lady who alept with her cousin?..how do you people reason self?

A cheat is always a cheat, you shouldn't even be asking this questions. Start distancing yourself from her and you will be amazed how fast she will move on with her "Cousin"

babyfaceafrica:
smh..see the kind of woman,someone hopes to marry...it is well... every mallam with his kettle

if you read you will see it happens in long distance relationships quite often especially if there is no form of commitment nowadays guys will introduce you to family knowing fully well your not wifey expect wifey behavior and be mad if your sick of playing pretend I repeat if he is not a serious guy and into me the way I am into him and someone is physically in front of me offering me the same thing temptation will lead you. It depends on their foundation thinking that in love someone will not fall to temptation is wrong but it’s how they act that tells you whether their worth forgiving that’s all I’m saying I’m not advocating for cheating but if someone will love you right why suffer when another is not willing to learn from our faults

Let me be the first one to tell you that I am not ashamed of where I went wrong I’m just ashamed of the men that condemn you for doing the same thing everyday in their life

I said if he is not my guy I.e abandons the relationship disloyal etc only checks in when he’s in town of course you won’t have exclusive goods if your not exclusive you don’t need to date multiple partners it’s just we vibe better where we are valued simple and anything less causes us to search for more

a woman can love you and reserve herself for you but there are enough of your thrill and chase brothers that have ruined that trust that you would be worth the wait

He didn’t say fiancé he said girlfriend please go to the bank and tell them you want to sign as girlfriend long hiss upgrade her title get your crown else rant on Nairaland

Forget mucus and tears..dump her. She will do it again
I swear she won’t kill herself..it’s called emotional manipulation..Naija girls sef

Maybe you never appreciated the good ones you had ,, if so, just enjoy karma and let us rest....but If you truly love her forgive and forget, that alone will humble her for you.

Honestly, I did not read all the comments above. Be that as it may,you already confirmed she is an active NL and also, you are seeking advice on the best way to leave her. Implying you already made up your mind.

Simple ... she presumably has read your post. If she is not yet dead by now, you can be sure that when you do break up with her, she will not die.

On a second thought, note sha. No girl ... I repeat, no girl that you are not married to will be 100% faithful to you, especially if you have a distant relationship as you indicated.

My suggestion ... if you are serious, propose to her now. Make sure you tie the knots within 6 months time. Within this period ... I mean courtship period, if you hear "phim" about her and her "cousin", you can Usain Bolt off the relationship. A broken relationship is far better than a heart-torn marriage!

let her go.

Guy you too much ooo

daddytime:
Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...

solasoulmusic:



But you guys introduce cousins you guys roll with to us all the time as well. You spent time and energy wooing her once she falls you ghost in and out she will cheat body is not firewood but what did she do after.. we all mess up but what we do after counts was she sober about it. You never know what withdrawal feels like as a woman and sometimes another man just fills that void you are happy to leave if you love her you forgive if you don’t move ahead

She’s a lying hoe but every Friday una dey enter hole o come dey church thanksgiving with family

It hurts but women are not objects they have feelings too she even tried only 4 times the hardest thing is admitting you were unfaithful it’s even harder when it happens because the person you love is simply not there

You guys can watch porn and your done it’s not the same for us women as your physical presence free my sister Biko we call that one electric current discharge when the main supply was stalling if she truly loves him and vice versa they will find common ground

Because she fell doesn’t mean it will happen again sometimes you just need to see what you risk losing to never fall again

She didn’t admit, she is a cheat and a lying bastard!

Shauron1:


Life's not totally black and white and sometimes a story from one angle/view might not be the full picture. From what I deduce you both had a disagreement that lasted for 1month. you need to be honest, was it a disagreement or a breakup. If it was a breakup, and it was during this period the girl cheated. I won't totally blame her, because to be honest she might think you are not coming back. Only you and the lady understands the whole story, because if it was black and white you won't be asking for advice. You need to make a decision yourself based on the facts on ground,and not follow people's advice here.
P.S I wish the lady can tell us her part of the story

sorry I don't understand you...so if you broke up with somebody,within a month,you start sleeping up to 4 times with another person...na so life be?...

Sarang:


She didn’t admit, she is a cheat and a lying bastard!

aunty mi you too

Shauron1:


Life's not totally black and white and sometimes a story from one angle/view might not be the full picture. From what I deduce you both had a disagreement that lasted for 1month. you need to be honest, was it a disagreement or a breakup. If it was a breakup, and it was during this period the girl cheated. I won't totally blame her, because to be honest she might think you are not coming back. Only you and the lady understands the whole story, because if it was black and white you won't be asking for advice. You need to make a decision yourself based on the facts on ground,and not follow people's advice here.
P.S I wish the lady can tell us her part of the story

honestly you are amazing and thank you

babyfaceafrica:
sorry I don't understand you...so if you broke up with somebody,within a month,you start sleeping up to 4 times with another person...na so life be?...

So they even broke up lol and he wants to claim cheating na VAR go settle am my own happened after a very public embarrassment and I fell prey to comfort o and I’m still suffering up to now we had broken off o but there’s some forbidden guy rule we don’t know about lol the one where you do the breaking up and we say ok but we do and ground go shake

my guy run for your life, unless you want your next post to be i caught my fiance having sex with her cousin on our wedding day..

Michelle55:
Any girl that can comfortably cheat on her bf can kill, what if you didn't or never found out? You would have continued living a lie and with a cheat.. Nawa oh.
Anyways, forgive her but let her go. In a relationship, it's either you are truly IN or OUT.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.. They only feel remorseful when caught in the act

is this truely a female writer?


if so, God must surely bless you specially this year for writing his TRUTH!


I have forgiven same girl 4 times...till she went back and did the one that nearly killed me physically (but i died psycologically).


You are so right! "once a cheat, always a cheat"

LordAdam16:


Guy no dey do name drop online.

Screwing someone else's partner while the guy thinks you're just a platonic friend is a rite of passage for guys who aren't suffering from onenitis in 9ja. So if you must, use fictitious names before you inadvertently reopen old wounds. After their hoe phase, they usually calm down and become "virtuous" mothers and grandmothers.

-Lord

Relax its not her real name.

@op, you are not mature for relationship. the girl does not love you. runs for your life.

solasoulmusic:
So they even broke up lol and he wants to claim cheating na VAR go settle am my own happened after a very public embarrassment and I fell prey to comfort o and I’m still suffering up to now we had broken off o but there’s some forbidden guy rule we don’t know about lol the one where you do the breaking up and we say ok but we do and ground go shake

please read carefully.. I assumed that even if it s true they broke up?..I did not say they broke up..because Op never mentioned that

solasoulmusic:
if you read you will see it happens in long distance relationships quite often especially if there is no form of commitment nowadays guys will introduce you to family knowing fully well your not wifey expect wifey behavior and be mad if your sick of playing pretend I repeat if he is not a serious guy and into me the way I am into him and someone is physically in front of me offering me the same thing temptation will lead you. It depends on their foundation thinking that in love someone will not fall to temptation is wrong but it’s how they act that tells you whether their worth forgiving that’s all I’m saying I’m not advocating for cheating but if someone will love you right why suffer when another is not willing to learn from our faults

Let me be the first one to tell you that I am not ashamed of where I went wrong I’m just ashamed of the men that condemn you for doing the same thing everyday in their life

I said if he is not my guy I.e abandons the relationship disloyal etc only checks in when he’s in town of course you won’t have exclusive goods if your not exclusive you don’t need to date multiple partners it’s just we vibe better where we are valued simple and anything less causes us to search for more

a woman can love you and reserve herself for you but there are enough of your thrill and chase brothers that have ruined that trust that you would be worth the wait

He didn’t say fiancé he said girlfriend please go to the bank and tell them you want to sign as girlfriend long hiss upgrade her title get your crown else rant on Nairaland

how can. you love someone and sleep with another..makes no sense!!!

babyfaceafrica:
please read carefully.. I assumed that even if it s true they broke up?..I did not say they broke up..because Op never mentioned that

Ok it’s just easier for a man to say he can’t forgive us for the one time we were selfish when most times he can be too for the mere thought that he can not talk to you for a month or year and you still be loyal to the love it’s only a miracle I’m a testament to it but it’s not always good because they can turn round and say I didn’t ask you to wait one day. This love ehn it doesn’t come from perfect people heaven is diverse so is love but you gotta accept that people mess up to learn in life

Amitez:
Honestly, I did not read all the comments above. Be that as it may,you already confirmed she is an active NL and also, you are seeking advice on the best way to leave her. Implying you already made up your mind.

Simple ... she presumably has read your post. If she is not yet dead by now, you can be sure that when you do break up with her, she will not die.

On a second thought, note sha. No girl ... I repeat, no girl that you are not married to will be 100% faithful to you, especially if you have a distant relationship as you indicated.

My suggestion ... if you are serious, propose to her now. Make sure you tie the knots within 6 months time. Within this period ... I mean courtship period, if you hear "phim" about her and her "cousin", you can Usain Bolt off the relationship. A broken relationship is far better than a heart-torn marriage!

propose to someone that cheated with the "cousin" four times...issorite!!

.

solasoulmusic:


Ok it’s just easier for a man to say he can’t forgive us for the one time we were selfish when most times he can be too for the mere thought that he can not talk to you for a month or year and you still be loyal to the love it’s only a miracle I’m a testament to it but it’s not always good because they can turn round and say I didn’t ask you to wait one day. This love ehn it doesn’t come from perfect people heaven is diverse so is love but you gotta accept that people mess up to learn in life

people who mess up,should stay in the room and smell their fart
..for every action ,there is a reaction ......if I don't cheat,why should I continue with a Lady that does shamelessly?...are faithful ladies scarce?

babyfaceafrica:
how can. you love someone and sleep with another..makes no sense!!!

we don’t arrive in love when we first meet like the first couple of years everyone is just playing safe with insecurities some will tell you let’s not put a title on it yet we are friends your my girlfriend etc you will know it’s love only when it starts to affect you what they do but not in a bitter way but in a way that causes a change in your behavior. The mirror of love that causes you too see your flaws and theirs sadly not every relationship gets past this stage. A man will boldly do it the next day why not a woman who’s been hurt as well he would be the rebound right ... just like a guy is unavailable to some but on speed dial for others