For that four times, she may be referring to four days. Meanwhile, she can have 10 rounds per day.

She should have thought of the pain she will cause you before fucking like werey beside if you are the girl and you are reading my comment just between the two of us I know you haven't changed, you are just telling him so he can trust you again and you will start fucking again my your kpekus rotten idiot puta

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

I sincerely understand how you feel. But yes, her sin is forgivable and forgettable. Some people did the same and they forgive themselves. I dated my husband for 7 years not 100% fidel , one or two things happened, from him and from me too, we knew something led to it. We made up, understood ourselves because we are attracted to each other, both physically and in character. The 7th year we married, and have been in marriage for 9 years and no issue of extra marital affair has set in since then. We don't even discuss it. So I think if she's the kind of girl to keep as in character, give her another chance, but you need to be careful this time.

solasoulmusic:


Of course because even OP can’t say away from her he has never ever cheated or had flings distance is real and you will fall if the love is not deep and it doesn’t get deep automatically it’s by errors we correct ourselves. Out of sight is out of mind if your not sure of the loyalty but once your sure or are reassured it gets better

Meet a guy from abroad you know there can be stories to touch so you don’t put all eggs in the basket that’s what happened

which message is this thing trying to pass across na?

daddytime:
Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...

brother brother may God bless you for this effort you made to but this together.you did not only advice this guy alone.im almost guilty of this foolish relationship. crocodiles tears always,I'm strong now God bless you

Just leave her before she tie you down with another man’s kids then you start raising bastards with hard-earned money. Lastly, go for matured working class babes, most students wants to explore and enjoy life while in school.

daddytime:
Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...

Bros everytime I hear things like women are plenty everywhere....how come I don't even see girls to talk to talkless of dating

If you want to live long, leave her alone and move on, she likes you because you are based abroad.

A leopard cannot change it spot..... A hoe cannot change it spot..... who gf epp... if not problems upon problems

solasoulmusic:
if you read you will see it happens in long distance relationships quite often especially if there is no form of commitment nowadays guys will introduce you to family knowing fully well your not wifey expect wifey behavior and be mad if your sick of playing pretend I repeat if he is not a serious guy and into me the way I am into him and someone is physically in front of me offering me the same thing temptation will lead you. It depends on their foundation thinking that in love someone will not fall to temptation is wrong but it’s how they act that tells you whether their worth forgiving that’s all I’m saying I’m not advocating for cheating but if someone will love you right why suffer when another is not willing to learn from our faults

Let me be the first one to tell you that I am not ashamed of where I went wrong I’m just ashamed of the men that condemn you for doing the same thing everyday in their life

I said if he is not my guy I.e abandons the relationship disloyal etc only checks in when he’s in town of course you won’t have exclusive goods if your not exclusive you don’t need to date multiple partners it’s just we vibe better where we are valued simple and anything less causes us to search for more

a woman can love you and reserve herself for you but there are enough of your thrill and chase brothers that have ruined that trust that you would be worth the wait

He didn’t say fiancé he said girlfriend please go to the bank and tell them you want to sign as girlfriend long hiss upgrade her title get your crown else rant on Nairaland

This is a case of she wanting to eat her cake and take it back. Why living a double standard Life when obviously she is using the guy as a scapegoat to oil her finances. Be it a guy or lady doing this, it is vehemently wrong.

Stop trying to justify the act of the cheat. Be objective in your reasoning rather than judgemental. If this happens to your brother, what will you advise him?

daddytime:
Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter ...

your daughter.... she is so cute

CorporateJay:


Bros everytime I hear things like women are plenty everywhere....how come I don't even see girls to talk to talkless of dating

Lol...dem dey plenty bro...you dey look for the one wey go waka come meet you say "bros how far"? Nigerian babes never kraze reach that level o, na you go make the move. Anyone wey catch your fancy you waka meet am talk to am...na yes or no e go tell you e no go bite you so no fear...

binary123:
brother brother may God bless you for this effort you made to but this together.you did not only advice this guy alone.im almost guilty of this foolish relationship. crocodiles tears always,I'm strong now God bless you

You are welcome always bro...

fakeprophet:


which message is this thing trying to pass across na?

that every circumstance is different and we as humans can fall to temptation in the very beginning when love hasn’t settled in your relationship

If you want to be forgiven forgive even if they leave you I promise you bro you won’t be out in the cold

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Bros, she will cheat again. Leave her, for your own sanity sake

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Her sin is forgivable, but do not marry her. She will do the same in marriage. She loves you as a marriage material, not as a sex partner, maybe the alleged cousin got more swagger than you. She is just shedding tears because if she loses you, she loses all those goodies you send to her

starring:
Biko don't pass aggression towards me. What will you allow me do? You are obviously one of the bitter souls on nairaland looking for someone to lash on. If you no get better thing to talk about, kindly shut the fvck up.

franchasng:
@ op starring, please take this poster's advice, he said the raw truth.

If you live abroad, forget stories, find a lady abroad and marry, forget all those nonsense that Naija ladies abroad are spoilt, the ones in Nigeria are even more spoilt but are good pretenders sleeping around with highest bidders.

Ladies have sense more than guys. 99.99% of Nigerian ladies living abroad will never go back to Nigeria to go find husband, they prefer to marry guys they meet abroad too unless when the guys abroad refuse to marry them because of their over sabinus lol, but Nigerian guys will keep running back to girls in Nigeria that they feel they can intimidate with the little change they have managed to make abroad while claiming that ladies abroad are all devil, na lie

Even girls in the village now love sex and have more sex than girls in the cities, things have changed. Marry a Lady that live where you live and who is your level and have exposure like you do, don't go for less


Most ladies dating or married to guys living abroad are cheating on them but because dating a guy abroad brings in more money, material things and bragging right amongst their friends, they will form love like say they have not been sleeping around, believe them at your own peril

All Nigerian ladies dating guys abroad cheat, and guess their usual defense line

Is he not cheating over there so why should I tie myself here waiting for him while he is enjoying himself with Oyimbo girls

Even if the lady don't reason this, her friends will remind her and encourage her to get a side boyfriend to be servicing her, our ladies have spoilt that much in the name of feminism and whatever men do,.women must do

You be sabi pikin joor...
This is the truth and nothing but the whole truth.
We see it almost on a daily so no need trying to gloss over reality..

alenwup:
Oga, only you come finish the talk. Haba! You bi village orator?

Hahahaha....

Na old people I dey waka with and na dem train me...

jr101:
Guy you too much ooo

Na wetin eye see mouth take dey yarn...lol

MrOldskoolJP:
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I just reregistered into nairaland to like your post. You said it all and it's as dope as this pix

Hahahahha....thanks mate...

solasoulmusic:
Having read most of the responses and seen that most men are calling for you to break up with her if you have never ever cheated without being caught or disgraced then by all means go ahead but If you have and have been less than honest give her another chance.

The devil you know is better than the one you don’t know people do change and it’s always truly because of love nobody wants to be cheated on but in some very rare cases it’s inevitable especially when your not really getting the attention because you guys feel you can punish but it’s an abomination to be done to you we do get what we give. Even when we are the purest in love we still get screwed but where is your courage if you are going to run after every hitch you will always run but if your able to inspire someone to change because of love you will know deep in your soul if the person can and make your decision you can’t force it but best believe they will know when they have someone good they always shape up

Just continue to do you

@op ignore this written crap

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Thanks brotherly..

wristbangle:


This is a case of she wanting to eat her cake and take it back. Why living a double standard Life when obviously she is using the guy as a scapegoat to oil her finances. Be it a guy or lady doing this, it is vehemently wrong.

Stop trying to justify the act of the cheat. Be objective in your reasoning rather than judgemental. If this happens to your brother, what will you advise him?

I never saw myself as a cheater until in between a relationship where I felt cheated on and so insulted and degraded it made me even look down on my own self worth and as a result I wanted to be noticed so I was everywhere I could be I ventured into a bar and met someone who spoke to me differently as opposed to the rough treatment I was 25 young and naive and I fell

Was it while I was in love with someone no I was rebounding after a disappointment that was public would he have a right to be upset after demanding the breakup that led to the fling ..knowing guys he will be announcing his new status to everyone and she low keys screws someone and your shouting

If he had made some kind of commitment to her I’d understand but he didn’t yes she lied and we all have bent the truth to protect someone before how do you open up to a man when it’s a potential thread nowadays

Just pray nobody makes you yearn for deeper love in their company that’s all we don’t know the background but we do know that from silly mistakes you can discover you really love some

fattprince:

your daughter.... she is so cute

Thanks a ton bro...

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

I would advice you forgive her and move on . Because next time it would happen again and ahe would just be smarter about it .

@post forgive her and still watch her attitudes too,if u quit ad jump into another relationship like many guys advices u how are u sure there will be cheating free.am a woman we do some hmmmmmmmmm before we settle down that does not mean some of us cheat in marriage.igbo proverb says (pursue this woman because she no give birth the next woman u are going to do u CHECK HER WOMB) give her a second chance biko.

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Good day fellow Nairalanders


How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

she will be perfectly fine. This is a normal blackmail line.
It's your decision, if you forgive, you have to learn to let it go.
If you cant let it go, then call the shot

forgive her....... but just get a new girlfriend, if she can cheat (and lie about it) then she can also kill

Wow!... you're a good man...rare ..it's a reversed case with me..if only I could get just one opportunity that lady just threw down the ditch!...�.. it's different strokes for different folks any way...let her go please...A cheat will always remain a cheat...out of sight is out of mind.

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[s]Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?[/s]

Better run for your life OR chop and run for your life . You can't fix a hoe. Once a hoe, always a hoe. Many men have been ruined trying to fix a hoe.

i do feel bad for u and not her.
she made a fool of u.
thank your stars u discovered she was a cheat before u went ahead and married her.
dumb her and move on. whatever she does with herself afterwards is her business.