Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.

dude to be able to know U were wrong and OWN up to it, mehn... YOU BE REAL MAN. I salute you.

BUT the issue is complex a little.
QUESTIONS that may make her not want to "try again" with u

1) Have you dealt with your insecurites and issues OR you miss her because she had a better way of COPING with you?

2) In the last two months, HAVE U MATURED psychologically? HAVE U stopped reacting childishly to things?

3) IF SHE GIVES YOU A SECOND CHANCE, what would you do differently that will ensure the FIRST break up does not repeat itself again?

4) Are you dating her with plans for the future or just to "KIP KIP" and see how it goes?

5) In what way would you help her HEAL and MOVE ON from the hurt you have caused her?

BRO, if you can critically answer these questions in YOUR HEART... you will get her back quickly.

SECURITY is very important to ladies in relationship o.

BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.

Lalasticlala, I will really be glad if you'd help me out. I don't want to make a mistake or not take this chance and later regret in future.

You never know what you have until you lose it.

go straight to her and talk sense into her brain

BalleyB:
Lalasticlala, I will really be glad if you'd help me out. I don't want to make a mistake or not take this chance and later regret in future.

You have just one opportunity to get this right and it can't be done over the phone.

ariketalks:
You never know what you have until you lose it.

I placed a lot of value on her. I was only being childish with the way I get jealous and create issues where there was none.

sapeleboi:
go straight to her and talk sense into her brain

I'd rather seek a more mature way of handling serious relationships

ElsonMorali:


You have just one opportunity to get this right and it can't be done over the phone.

I can't just call her and except everything to be cool after 8 weeks of no contact. I felt texting was a basic way of getting her attention.

Quiet your mouth . You only miss her sexx game.

You had her and you lost her.. You don't deserve her

mumu

you miss her breast

but as usual, Nigerian guys flop because of sex, it controls them,same with money

remove sex and money now, most of them will be depressed immediately

look at this one now

Davash222:
Quiet your mouth . You only miss her sexx game.

Like I stated, I had someone else after the breakup. This isn't about sex.

ifex370:
You had her and you lost her.. You don't deserve her

We all make mistakes. Our mistakes doesn't define who we are.

lilmax:
mumu

you miss her breast

but as usual, Nigerian guys flop because of sex, it controls them,same with money

remove sex and money now, most of them will be depressed immediately

look at this one now

Why are you acting so uncultured?

You think everything is about sex and money? Smh

BalleyB:


I can't just call her and except everything to be cool after 8 weeks of no contact. I felt texting was a basic way of getting her attention.

Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.

If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.

Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.

Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.

She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck.

This is what I call a by-pass,next time plug your wires into the prepaid meter directly by going to meet her father than by by-passing by dealing with the daughter.OP if it isn't marriage leave our girl alone,stop putting san san for another man future garri.

greatnaija01:
dude to be able to know U were wrong and OWN up to it, mehn... YOU BE REAL MAN. I salute you.

BUT the issue is complex a little.
QUESTIONS that may make her not want to "try again" with u

1) Have you dealt with your insecurites and issues OR you miss her because she had a better way of COPING with you?

I found a way of dealing with my issues. I was overprotective because she is that kind of woman every guy in his right mind will want to build a future with (career woman)

2) In the last two months, HAVE U MATURED psychologically? HAVE U stopped reacting childishly to things?

Not a 100%. Instead I found out a way of communicating maturely without bringing issues. This is me being sincere

3) IF SHE GIVES YOU A SECOND CHANCE, what would you do differently that will ensure the FIRST break up does not repeat itself again?

She feel in love with my personality at first. That kept her focused and attracted. It all faced away with thr frequent fights due to my insecurites (which isn't attractive)

4) Are you dating her with plans for the future or just to "KIP KIP" and see how it goes?

Right from the moment we started dating, it has always been futuristic. It was never a casual relationship.

5) In what way would you help her HEAL and MOVE ON from the hurt you have caused her?

I think I have to be a better version of myself. Someone she once loved as her man.

But to be honest, I am just scared she might have moved on already.

IF SHE HAS MOVED ON then she NEVER LOVED U.

so relax and plan your shot well.

BalleyB:

I found a way of dealing with my issues. I was overprotective because she is that kind of woman every guy in his right mind will want to build a future with (career woman)




Not a 100%. Instead I found out a way of communicating maturely without bringing issues. This is me being sincere



She feel in love with my personality at first. That kept her focused and attracted. It all faced away with thr frequent fights due to my insecurites (which isn't attractive)




Right from the moment we started dating, it has always been futuristic. It was never a casual relationship.




I think I have to be a better version of myself. Someone she once loved as her man.

But to be honest, I am just scared she might have moved on already.

ElsonMorali:


Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.

If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.

Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.

Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.

She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck.

I was hoping to text her tomorrow about a spot we visited sometimes 2018 which I revisited earlier today. Then if she replies, I'll ask her if it is alright to call.

From there I might convince her to unblock me on whatsapp then proceed with the rapport for a week maybe before asking for a date.

I don't want her giving me the red signals yet. Good idea?

Jcole1985:
This is what I call a by-pass,next time plug your wires into the prepaid meter directly by going to meet her father than by by-passing by dealing with the daughter.OP if it isn't marriage leave our girl alone,stop putting san san for another man future garri.

Are you married?

greatnaija01:
IF SHE HAS MOVED ON then she NEVER LOVED U.

so relax and plan your shot well.

Thanks. I will send a text tomorrow.

She is a very busy person do I don't want it to seem like I'm bugging her.

BalleyB:

Are you married?

Yes

Jcole1985:

Yes

You don't have a mature mind. Your previous comment shows that

go chok garri

BalleyB:

You don't have a mature mind. Your previous comment shows that

Neither do you,your attitude towards that girl shows that.

BalleyB:


Like I stated, I had someone else after the breakup. This isn't about sex.



We all make mistakes. Our mistakes doesn't define who we are.

There are some mistakes you can't make if you truly know what you want..

Allow her be with someone else, you've had your chance

Jcole1985:

Neither do you,your attitude towards that girl shows that.

I'm improved. Are you?

ifex370:



There are some mistakes you can't make if you truly know what you want..

Allow her be with someone else, you've had your chance

Is that what you do whenever you make mistakes? Give up?

BalleyB:
I'm improved. Are you?

Yeah,you just got to my past level

ifex370:



There are some mistakes you can't make if you truly know what you want..

Allow her be with someone else, you've had your chance

Op this is the best answer you can get here. Obviously your instincts convinced you that the girl you had high hopes for was slipping away and you turned possessive based on what you observed. So saying you acted out of order just because you feel lonely and miserable now is in effect trying to say your intuition is wrong, which usually is not true in most cases.

For instance, if truly as you said, she is what every man would want to keep, what then makes you think other men are not trying hard to get hold of her and she not stylishly entertaining these men?

But, it would seem that you have managed to convince yourself that neutering your gender alliance is what will eventually get to keep her. Well, not everyone will agree with you on that but its your choice to make.

BalleyB:


I was hoping to text her tomorrow about a spot we visited sometimes 2018 which I revisited earlier today. Then if she replies, I'll ask her if it is alright to call.

From there I might convince her to unblock me on whatsapp then proceed with the rapport for a week maybe before asking for a date.

I don't want her giving me the red signals yet. Good idea?

Well, you know her better than I do. Most often our instincts are always right. So go with your gut feeling. Turn up the TLC or whatever makes her smile. Leave her in no doubt that you miss her and want her back. Now's not the time to be coy. If she expresses doubts, let her know that you know that you've been a jerk and that you are ready to up your game with her.
You know her temperament, and you know what will work with her. Go get your woman.

BalleyB,
Are you in Lagos?.
It sounds like we are in a relationship with the same person?